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Ann Landers Page 1 Mon. June 2, 1 975 Albert Morch Let boy use men's room Big powwow Sacheen mm, mmsm few kwwii- Biff ii siMmmMm m. 111 PSiS v- 7 I v5 IIS llilllll Jllili 't VM 1 Dear Ann Landers: My seven-year-old son says he is old enough to go to a public restroom alone when we are out shopping without his dad. I have always insisted that he go with me to the ladies' restroom. There are so, many freaks running around loose these days I feel a lot safer taking him in with me.

The boy resents it because he is quite large for his age and some of the women have been giving him funny looks lately. We will go along with your decision. What is it? Concerned Mom Dear Mom: Stand outside the room for a few moments and ask some kindly gentleman on his way in if he will "look after" your son. A seven-year-old boy who doesn't want to be taken to the ladies' room should not be forced to go. I'm sure you'll have no trouble buttonholing a friendly "volunteer." and Cap Jr.

Sacheen Littlefeather, a shapely Apache from Mill Valley, and S.F.'s Cap Weinberger son of the U.S. Secreary of Health. Education and Welfare, are powwowing these days on a creative project. are working on a movie script about Edward S. Curtis, who spent 25 years at the beginning of this century photographing North American Indians with the financial backing oi the Pierpont Morgans, father and son.

"I "got interested in the project after reading the Article Cap wrote about Curtis for the Smithsonian Institute magazine," Sacheen told us. "Walter Landor (he's the industrial designer) introduced us. Walter has a great knack for bringing people together." i Littlefeather, as you may recall, made Academy history two years ago when she appeared on stage and declined Marlon Brando's "Oscar" for him. Brando rejected the award to protest treatment of American Indians. The actress-model said she and Cap.

a Harvard grad, are also working on a recording but did not elaborate, other than that "he plays guitar very well Littlefeather, accompanied by. Delancey Street Foundation exec Joseph Sierra, was among guests at the Coyote informational gathering (wine and cheese included) given by the Gardner Meins Wednesday night at their new Pacific Heights home on Divisadero. The purpose: to get Social Sot support for the ongoing campaign to decriminalize prostitution. Coyote is an anachronism for Call Off Your Old Tired Ethics. It's membership is made up of hookers, ex-hookers, lawyers and other interested parties.

FIRST VISIT to dentist Dr. King Rhodes, A dentist and Examiner photos by Bob, Bryant is an adventure for Chrisantha Ingram, 5. much more Dear Ann Landers: I hope you won't think this letter is too nutty to print. I'd love your opinion. It's my phobia for remembering things.

In a casual a name or a place will slip my mind and it just about drives me crazy. I will phone people (even long-distance) in an effort to chase down the "missing link." If I don't succeed I become so. uptight I can't sleep. It bothers me for days. I have discussed this problem with my doctor and I even went to see a psychiatrist.

The psychiatrist said I would have to find out why it is so important to remember. After a year of trying to figure out the reason, I am no closer to the mystery. Am I the only nut hung up like this? How do others handle the problem? -1 Forgot Dear Friend: Move over, you have plenty of company. Everyone forgets names, places, dates, song titles you name it and it's slipped MY mind at one time or another. Yes, I've even tried to chase down clues via long-distance, but if I fail, it doesn't undo me.

The psychiatrist is right. You must find out why it is so important to remember everything. Such superhuman demands suggest that you are a perfectionist. Like all perfectionists you have little pockets of insecurity and you try to compensate for your inadequacies (real or imagined) by appearing to be perfect. Nobody is, so forget it.

Uh I mean, don't let it bother you. black community, Dr, Rhodes pursues that philosophy with young adults. He is a director of the East Bay's Career Research Association, an organization of business and professional people who supply career counseling and information to minority youth. I 1 1 grown before I saw a dentist." Dr. Rhodes says flatly.

"The parents can't afford dental care. Here, we know a child's first visit is important. "We work to relax a child. We joke. We win confidence.

We let children know they can trust us." Divorced and the father of a daughter and" two sons of my sons says he wants to be a dentist like Dr. Rhodes was one of five black graduates in the class of 1973. In 1972. there had been a single black graduate. "He was the first in more than 20 years." Dr Rhodes says.

"Today, efforts are being made to recruit more black students into dentistry. It was almost closed to biacks for years, because it is such an expensive education." Education is still a strong motivation for the dedicated man who remembers his small boy dreams. He plans to begin studies next fall for a Master of Public Health Degree at UC Berkeley. cate of delivering primary health care in neighborhoods that need it most. "We hope to expand the Berkeley clinic.

I enjoy clinic work. I like community contact. I think it is important for a health professional to keep in touch with the community. "Otherwise, you don't know people, they don't know you." Dr. Rhodes meets parents of every one of his young patients at the Oakland clinic, which provides health care from prenatal period through age 14.

The staff includes not only medical doctors and the dentist. Dr. Rhodes, but social workers, health aides, public health nurses, a health educator, dental nurse and dental hygienist. When the dental office opened, there was a waiting list of 500. Dr.

Rhodes and his staff have gone through that list and now have 300 on a new waiting list. Many of the young patients are seeing a dentist for the first time. "And for the same reason I was lo organize I'm Sacheen Littlefeather i in uverw neimeu, said Margo St. James, former prostitute and Coyote founder. "This is the first time I've ever been in a Pacific Heights home through the front door." Apparently, there is no "other side of the tracks" any longer.

Among the guests: Mr. and Mrs. John Bowes, Dr. and Mrs. Charles Wiles.

Walter Landor, Mrs. Gordon (Ann) Getty, psychiatrist Francis Rigney with fellow psychiatrist, Kathleen Unger, a pretty blonde from Chicago: Matt Kelly, Sheriff Richard Hongisto, John Vie- Women veterans Plans have started to form an organization of women veterans in San Francisco with member-ship open to all women who have served in the U.S. Armed Forces. LIVING By Eloise Dungan It happens regularly. A 7-year-old in faded jeans and T-shirt looks up from his perch in the big dentist's chair and says solemnly to Dr.

King Rhodes: "When I grow up. I'm gonna be a doctor." "When a child tells me that. I listen. I believe, and I encourage." says the young black dentist, two years out of UCSF School of Dentistry and director of Oakland's free Children and Youth Project Clinic. King Rhodes.

D.D.S.. remembers how it was to be poor and black' and to dream of becoming a doctor. "Ever since I was in grade school." he said in his office in the neat brick clinic building on Summit Avenue, "I knew I wanted to be a doctor. Do you know I didn't see a dentist until I was a young adult? "There were seven kids in our family. We were poor.

We couldn't afford a dentist unless it was an emergency. I had a tooth pulled when I was a teenager. That was the first time I was ever in a dentist's office." The next time was as a soldier during his Vietnam Army service. He put in for dental assistant. Once back in civilian life, dreams of being a doctor didn't seem so far-fetched.

"It's never too early to encourage youngsters. Little kids are sharp. Some 5-year-olds can communicate as well as 12-year-olds. Don't ever underestimate a young mind." As a volunteer in the OnlMridMffliiB His little patients dream the same dreams "We have educators, nurses, nutritionists, printers, lawyers, We sponsor job information seminars and collect information on scholarships. We are also raising money for our own scholarships.

"We not only help young adults but we help older people in the community who want to go back to school. Whatever a question is. somebody in our group will have the answer." In addition to his work at the Oakland clinic, which is funded by counfy, state and federal governments. Dr. Rhodes spends two evenings a week at West Berkeley Health and Dental Clinic.

He helped organize the clinic and is a firm advo ROOM-DINING ROOM AND HALL CARPETS CLEANED tor, Susie Hoffman, Mrs. John Ehrlich with daughter Jodi. the William Evers, Maryon Davies Lewis and legal eagles Michael Stepanian and Terry Hallinan We don't know how many were converted to the cause, but if prostitution is decriminalized, can malpractice suits be far behind? Speaking of houses, the new Mein digs is located next door to one of Delancey Street's rehab residences for ex-cons and ex-junkies. The Meins have been in residence for a month and Gardner says his Delancey neighbors are "terrific." A few blocks from the Coyote affair, another sort of event was taking place at the Broadway mansion of Joan Hitchcock, queen of the Jet Set when it was flying high. Joan was presenting a backers' audition of "I l-ove You.

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