The Oneonta Star from Oneonta, New York • Page 15

Can be good or bad Runs from guilt feeling By Ann DEAR ANN LANDERS: My husband committed suicide several months ago. It is impossible to describe the agony I have suffered. Only the wife of a suicide can fully understand It. For several weeki I felt as if I had killed my husband. I had the notion that everyone who looked at me judged me guilty of murder.

Finally I sold our hone and moved to another part of the country. I see now it wai ttie worst thing I could have done. I feel as if I run away fiom a crime I no part in. I miss my old friends desperately. Although I've told no one here of the circumstances surrounding my husband 1 death I have the feeling that some ot them know.

Last year the known suicide rate in this country exceeded JO.OOO. Surely I am not the only person who made the mistake of running away. Please print my letter and advise people not to do it. Thank you, Ann. -NO PLACE TO HIDE DEAR NO: Moving away from a scene of sorrow can be the best thing in the world for some people and the worst thing for others.

If you feel you've made a mistake, move back. Planes fly both ways, you know. DEAR ANN LANDERS: I went to work for an extremely successful man several weeks ago. Now I know why he is so successful. The first day on the job he called me in to take dictation and I was appalled.

He, dictated a long, angry letter, The Hospital Sidney March 7 ADMISSIONS: Jodl Bowker. Sidney; William Wiinom, Brooklyn; Mri. Hazel Dalrympie, DISCHARGED: Jeffrey Mabie, UnadiUa; Charles Paul Smith, Sidney; Mrs. Florence Bell, Bainbridge; Mrs. Floyd Bunce, Afton; Mri.

Wesley Woodard, Sidney. March ADMISSIONS: Jo-ann Walker, Deposit. DISCHARGED: Warren Doolittle, Balnbridgo; Mrs. Neil Bothman and baby girl, Sidney; Marc Speranzi, Oneonta; Mrs. Frances French, Mount Upton.

March ADMISSIONS: Raymond Williams, Sidney; Fritz Zurbruegg, Otego; Dennis Martin, Sidney; Brian Naab, Afton; Mrs. Minnie Dutcher, Afton; Frank Leonard, Bainbridge; Mrs. Myra Sidney; Mrs. Gordon Jones, Afton; James Morgan, Oxford; Harold Alger, Norwich. DISCHARGED: Ray Sawdy, Masonville; Mrs.

Jean Bergman, Delhi; Mrs. Agnes Gliha, Bainbridge. March 10 BIRTH: Mr. and Mrs. Victor Cower, Harpursville, a daughter.

ADMISSIONS: Mrs. Ernestine Hoffman, Guilford; Mr. Francis-Curtis, Bainbridge; Miss Catherine Halloran, Sidney; Janna Molt, Masonville. DISCHARGED: Mrs. Frank Hubbel and baby son, Mount Upton; James Morgan, Oxford; Harold Alger, Norwich; Arthur Palmer, UnadiUa; Lewis Froth- croe, Sidney Center; Clarence Austin, Tunnel.

March 11 BIRTH: Mr. and Mrs. Richard Sidney, a son. ADMITTED: Loni Tripple, Franklin. DISCHARGED: Mrs.

Lauren Howe, Bainbridge; George Foster, Bainbridge; Brian Naab, Afton; Paul Klenotich, Sidney; Joseph Williams, UnadiUa; Robert Thomson, UnadiUa; Myron Kingsbury, Franklin. Delaware Valley filled with insulting remarks. The following day when I presented the letter for his signature he said, "Oh, that," and tore it up. This same thing has occurred several times and now 1 see the wisdom in his ways. He gets the hostility out of his system without hurting anyone's feelings or regretting his explosiveness.

If you think this is worth sharing, print it. LERNDA LOT DEAR LERNDA: I do and I did. DEAR ANN LANDERS: I am serious about a young woman who is charming, bright and sweet, and I'm sure Irene returns the love I feel for her. But I hesitate to take the step that will finalize our future together because she is so sloppy. My best friend is married to Irene's former college room- mate.

He is disgusted with his wife's sloppiness and makes no bones about it. lie warns me if I marry Irene I should prepare to live with her dirty dormitory habits. I am not 'crazy clean." I toss a tie here and a sock there but when I go to Irene's apartment I am always bothered by the sight of her clothes on chairs, on doorknobs, and even on the floor. I see. bacon grease half an inch thick on the kitchen stove and the bathtub never looks clean.

Why don't girls reaUze that most men are impressed with cleanliness as well as character and personality? for one, would marry a woman sooner if I felt she would be a competent homemaker. -RESIDENT DOCTOR DEAR DOC: You didn't ask for advice so I won't offer any. I'll give you a small hint, however. Your friend gave you an excellent preview of what to expect if you marry Irene and you'd better believe it, Doc. Ann Landers will be to help you with your problems.

Send them to her in cure of The Oneonta Star, enclosing a stamped, self-addressed envelope. Mar. 15, 1967 Oneenra Stor IS A ARD, son of Mr. and Mrs. Lavern Howard of Davenport, has completed his basic and i i a police training and is now stationed at Pleiku, Vietnam.

His address is: PFC. Donald J. Howard EA 1535558, Co. 504th MPBN, APO San Francisco, 9G318. Roxbury John F.

Ballard celebrated his 78th birthday at his home February 28 with his children and grandchildren around him. PVT. RICHARD A INGTON, son of Mr. and Mrs. Stuart W.

Harkington, 32 Vallcyview has completed eight weeks of military police training at Fort Gordon, Ga. Hit 7 em quick BRUSSELS, Belgium (AP) A now system of paying some traffic fines is working well in Belgium and grossed more than $24,000 in January, the Ministry of Interior announced. Started Jan. 1, the system provides for a $6 fine payable at the scene of the violation for a list of 30 traffic offenses. ENSIGN DAVID M.

NOR. R1S, son of Mr. and Mrs. Melville Norris, 6 a has received his commission as an officer after graduating from 0 i cer Candidate School, Newport, R.I. Grand Gorge A Memorial fund for Mrs.

Violet Cook has been started by her friends, proceeds of which will be used towards the purchase of a carpet in the Grand Gorge Methodist Church. Anyone wishing to donate may give it to Mrs. Robert Palmer or Mrs. Victor. March 10 ADMITTED: Mrs.

Pearl Platt, Walton. DISCHARGED: Mrs. Dollie Tompkins, Downsville; Reginald Griffiths, East Branch; Mrs. Ralph Place, Sidney Center; Todd Barnes (child), Deposit. March 11 DISCHARGED: Mrs.

Paul Schreier and infant daughter, Walton; Mrs. Dennis Stephan and infant daughter, Masonville. March 12 ADMITTED: Clarence McCoy, Walton. DISCHARGED: Frank Finch, Sidney Center; Mrs. Elmer Bush and infant son, Deposit; Roger Thompson (child).

Walton; Harold Ycomans, Walton; Mrs. Charles Covey, Walton. Delhi Hospital March 13 BIRTH: Mr. and Mrs. Burton Wilson, Delhi, a daughter.

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