The Daily Oklahoman from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma • 87

THE SUNDAY OKLAHOMAN Accent July 28, 1996 7 People sun Photo, by Jaconna Aguirr Karon nrnvuno I inria Kins Nanrv Anthonv and KatV DaViS Ruth Harris, Betty Lou Modlin, Dorothy Harris and Ruth Ann Niemeyer at the birthday celebration. Betty Jane Harvey, Helen Harvey and Shari and Lisa were among the hostesses for the party. Buxton at the aloha shower in Betty Jane's honor. Ruth Harris cuts her birthcfijj cake. Bride Greeted With Aloha Shower Large urns of flowers, including fragrant ginger, transformed Karen Browne's home into a tropical garden for the aloha shower honoring Betty Jane Harvey.

Harvey and Braden Helen Ford Sanger Clay Niemeyer; Kirk Niemeyer; Julie Nuens, Denver; and Dorothy Harris, Claremont, Calif. Guests included Sara Jane Bynum, Charlotte and Joe Dodson, Sharlene Branham, Gladys Balyeat, Ruth Boz-alis, Carolyn Hall, Marian Kiker, Bess Clay, Dorothy Elderkin, Eunice Ellis, Dixie Gordon, Jody Kerr, Skip-py Robertson, Margolyn Woods and Linda Walters. Heather Back was ordained as an Episcopal deacon recently in Casady School's St. Edward's Chapel. She was honored with a reception at the school following the ceremonies.

Women of St. Paul Cathedral were hostesses. memories from years past for a memory book. The invitation stated: "We believe the loving memories they have shared with their friends would be the most treasured gift they could receive." Among the guests were Mary Kay and John Bullard, Norval Covington, Marian Opala, Yvonne Kauger and Ned Bastow, Thadda and Sid Groom, Art and Tommy Atchison, Winifred Smith and Gloria Rehrig. Ruth A.

Harris celebrated her 85th birthday with a party given by her daughter and son-in-law, Ruth Ann and John Niemeyer, and son and daughter-in-law, Patty and Curt Harris. Co-hosts were grandchildren to bottles of wine. Guests included Mary Truss, Jo Carol Cameron, Linda Garrett, Barbara Durrett, Joan Gilmore, Betsy Hyde, Dee Dugan, Tina Harvey, Helen Harvey, Sally Lenz, Patsy Hunzicker, Bette MacKellar, Susan Marshall and Berta Faye Rex. Brent Barnes, Ron Barnes and Beth Barnes Hill entertained at a recent 50th anniversary reception for their parents, jean and Don Barnes. About 150 people attended the party in the home of Susan and Bob Barnes.

The reception followed a renewal of the couple's wedding vows in the First Christian Church, Edmond. Guests were asked to write down Garrett are planning a September wedding. The shower theme set the tone for the planned honeymoon to Hawaii. Beautiful orchids, lilies and bird of paradise flowers completed the atmosphere. Hostesses were Browne, Nancy Anthony, Linda Klos, Polly Nichols, Katy Davis and Mary Streich.

Gifts included everything from straw hats Curtis Harris, Patty Harris and Jotlh' Niemeyer are hosts for the birthday party. The Rev. George Back, Heather9? dad, gave the sermon. She will become an ordained priest in December and go to Grace Church in Muskogee. Attending the reception was her fiance, Michael Blewett.

BIG PICTURE. BIG SAVINGS. Del City, and Mr. and Mrs. Don Dreiske, Purcell, are parents of the couple.

Tharp is a graduate of the University of Central Oklahoma. The groom is a graduate of Community Christian School. Tharp-Drieske JENNIFER Diane Tharp, Del City, and Michael Sean Dreiske, Oklahoma City, are engaged to marry Sept. 7 in Sunnylane Southern Baptist Church, Del City. Mr.

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I have several friends who have lost loved ones these past few weeks, and every funeral you attend brings back twinges of the pain you experienced when your loss occurred. I know each person deals with grief a little differently, but I think from talking to other people that we share more of the same experiences than you might think. The bottom line is, there is help and you don't have to go it alone. Here's what has helped me: 1. Finding someone who will listen and pouring out all your fears for the future, your desire to find the strength to go on with your life.

Interestingly, this person may not be your best friend. My best listener was a former Bible study teach- whom I hadn't seen in 15 years. 2. Accepting the fact that grief will turn to anger. I was angry at my mother for dying, my friends for not understanding the way I wanted them to understand and at God for letting it happen.

I talked to a woman the other day who lost her husband in April and she is now angry. She said she thought she should get over it. I told her I thought she was doing real well. I know people Nho are still angry after 10 years. That, )f course, is not healthy.

3. It's OK to laugh. I occasionally find nyself smiling at a memory of my mom ioing something that illustrated her ove of life. Many years ago, when I ived in Topeka and had just moved into i new house, I was startled by someone lonking a car horn about a block away rom my house. The honking got louder md louder, and finally I went to the loor.

There in the driveway was Mom, grin-ling from ear to ear. She was letting sveryone know she had found my house ill by herself, and she was darn proud )f it. By that time, all my new neighbors ilso were well aware 9he had arrived. 4. There are support groups.

This may ie particularly constructive for children vho lose parents. For older adults, there 4. Mrs. Michelle Page-Rivera Mrs. John Krause Mrs.

Bobby Rundle Rivera-Page Michelle Suzanne Page and Mark Damon Rivera were united in marriage on July 27, 1996 in the gardens of the Oklahoma Heritage Center. Dr. Guy Ames officiated. The reception followed in the gardens. Parents of the bride arc Mr.

and Mrs. Ronald Page of Oklahoma City. The groom is the son of Mr. Charles, Rivera, Annandale, Va. and Mrs.

Catherine Nixon Bethesda, MD. Maid of honor was Mary Elbow, Topeka, KS and best' man was Christopher Dowllnc. New Orleans, Mrs. Stephen Grlffis Griffis-Cole Angela Renee Cole and Stephen Craig Griffis, both of Edmond, were united in marriage on July 27, 1996, at Sharp Chapel in Tulsa, OK. Parents of the couple are Dr.

and Mrs. J.C. Colo of Tulsa, OK and Mr, anil Mrs. Robert Griffis, Edmond, OK. Angela is a graduate of the Univ, of Central Oklahoma and Stephen is graduato of Oklahoma City Univ.

School of Law, After a honeymoon to Puerto Valletta, the couple will reside in Edmond, OK. Mrs. Ryan Edwards Edwards-Slovacek LaRee Lynn Slovacek and Ryan Kemp Edwards1 were married on July 27, 1996, at Mayfair Church of Christ in OKC. Parents of the bride are Bob and Cheryl Slovacek, Oklahoma City. The groom is the son of Ron and Linda Edwards, Flower Mound, Texas.

After a honeymoon to St. Thomas, Virgin Islands, the couple will reside in Houston, Texas, where both will bo employed by Arthur Andersen LLP. Bridesmaids were Dr. Lisa Gomez, San Antonio, TXn; Krause-Hornbrook Jane Hornbrook and John Krause were united in marriage on Saturday, July 27. at Central Presbyterian Church In Oklahoma City, OK.

Parents of the bride are K. Roger and Lois Hornbrook of Oklahoma City. The groom is the son of Richard and Carolyn Krause of Mendon, New York. Jane is a graduate of Washington University in St. Louis, and the University of Oklahoma, John is a graduato of Cornell University and the University of Oklahoma.

The couple will make their home in Norman, Oklahoma, Rundle-Taylor Jamie Ruth Taylor and Bobby Dean Rundle were married on July 27, 1996, at Belle Isle Community Church, Oklahoma City. Parents of the couple aro Mr. and Mrs. Mark Taylor of Oklahoma City and Mr. and Mrs.

Larry Rundle of Hooker, OK and the lnte Dehi Dunker-son. The bride is a graduate of Oklahoma Stato University and she just completed her masters program at Southern Nazarene University, The groom is a graduate of Missouri Valley. The reception was held at the Watcrford Hotel. After a honeymoon to Cozumel, the couple will reside in Edmond, OK, and Tracey Guhl, Houston, TX. (iroomsmon vere isn--ward Hibsch, Kenosha, WI and Anthony Page, N.Y.CS.

Kevin Calvey, OKC, Curtis McShane, Alexandria, VAiE Carlos Rivera, Okeechobee, Fl and Christian Riverar-Annandale, VA served as ushers. Kimberly Qulnn and Camille Qulnn, OKC, were guest book attendants. The bride received her B.A. from Trinity University and her master's in Psychology from Do Paul ty. She is completing her doctorate from De Paul.

The groom is graduate of George Mason University and received his masters' and doctorate in from De Paul University. After a honeymoon to islands off the coast of British Columbia, the counle will reside in Atlanta Ga, where Wedding Hot Line: 475-3514 Michelle is an organizational psychologist with IBM- and Mark is an experimental psychologist, Paid Advrtlimn 1.