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THE BOSTON GLOBE FRIDAY. JANUARY 27. 1984 17 MIKE BARNICLE Jcp- kp OP In Owner Tom Stenson toasts members of Women's Republican Club on the first anniversary of President Reagan's visit to Eire Pub. globe photo by ted dully It was GOP ladies' day at the Eire Pub About life, about living On any litany of complaints, society places his just below sea level. It Is a "problem" he lives with, a dilemma he shares with a wife and two healthy children.

He has a seven-year-old daughter, severely brain-damaged from birth. That child lives at home. The father is a hurricane of emotions about the girl. He and his wife live in a world where few things are black and white, where nothing is easy. They are offended by all the stories about "Baby Jane angered by court efforts made by right-to-life activists who have imposed themselves on a parent's decision.

They are nothing short of outraged at a President who talks smoothly and glibly about "family" while chopping away at areas of the budget directed toward human needs. He is 39, his wife is 33. The two healthy children are a boy, 10 and a girl, 5.. Together, they live lives of shared love, frustration, resentment and weariness, all of it every minute, every hour, every day -dominated and directed by a seven-year-. old child.

"There are days when I think to myself that things would be better for everyone if I just went into her room and smothered her with a pillow," the father was saying. "That sounds horrible, I know, but I can understand how people commit such acts. "There is nothing 'normal' about her life. There is nothing 'normal' about our' lives. My wife is always tired.

The other kids have been terrific, but they are kids and they don't understand a lot of the time why you just can't go for a ride or go shopping or go to McDonald's like everybody else. "Everybody tells us what a 'wonderful' job we do with her and what 'wonderful' people we are and that 'God is surely looking down on But what would people' say if I killed my daughter? Would they i say, 'h, we can or would I they siv, 'What happened to "People don't understand the stress something like this causes. It's impossible to get a babysitter, so my wife can never go out. "It's impossible to ask my son to watch i her. He's too young.

It's impossible to ask or get my mother or my wife's mother be By Steve Marantz Globe Staff Flag unfurled, the Women's Republican Club of Massachusetts marched into the Eire Pub in Dorchester yesterday afternoon to commemorate President Ronald Reagan's surprise visit there a year before. Led by their president. Augusta (Gusty) Hornblower of Groton, the 12 Republican women took off their fur coats, rolled up their silk sleeves, and merrily embarked on their elbow-rubbing adventure. The all-male, mostly Democratic crowd blinked and pulled on its beers. "The Pub has long been a gathering place of local politicians and we would like the Democrats of Dorchester to know we can have fun, too," said Hornblower.

Reagan had the same idea a year ago, stopping unannounced for a beer and sandwich during his trip to Boston to emphasize minority job-training initiatives and to tout the high-tech industry. Hornblower announced that from 1-2 p.m. the club was buying Ballantine Ale Reagan's choice for the house. One man on a barstool clapped. Proprietor Tom Stenson said, "I told them this a 99 percent male bar and a 98 percent Democratic neigh borhood, so they could come if they wanted but I couldn't guarantee anything." Stenson asked three maintenance men from Carney Hospital to give up their table for the women.

Nine of the women were surprised when their bus pulled up in front of the Eire Pub because Hornblower said she and her two vice presidents had kept the destination a mystery. "They were afraid we were going to the Kennedy Library," said Hornblower. EIRE PUB. Page 19 Bellotti office mum on tape Cola's new lawyer: 'I don't know anything about it9 h. IK FY 85 Gov.

Dukakis outlines budget proposals at State House press conference, globe photo by george rizer A special report on state budget The $8.14 billion state budget presented Wednesday to the Legislature by Gov. Michael S. Dukakais is the largest budget in state history. It would increase state spending by 10 percent, boost local aid by $157.6 million and pump an additional $87.2 million into welfare and social services and an added $29 million into education. For a special Globe report on the major budget areas and what they mean, see Page 18.

By Thomas Palmer Globe Staff A spokesman for the of state Atty. Gen. Francis X. Bellotti refused to say yesterday whether it would act on the statement by former Revenue Department tax counsel Neil R. Cola that Cola taped a meeting between himself and two assistant attorneys general.

"The first thing to do is get the tape," spokesman Frank Falacci said yesterday. Asked whether Bellotti's office would make an attempt to obtain either the tape or transcripts of it, Falacci said, "I can't answer that." The Globe reported yesterday that Cola said he had taped an August 1982 conversation with two assistant attorneys general Stephen R. Delinsky, then chief of the Criminal Division, and Thomas Norton in which Cola provided them with information on wrongdoing in the Revenue Department that Cola says was never investigated. According to Cola and his lawyer at the time. Beryl W.

Cohen, Cola also promised to become a "resource" for the attorney general's investigators in Bellotti's probe of the Revenue Department. That offer was Ignored, Cola and Cohen both say. Thomas R. Kiley, first assistant attorney general, responded by saying that the information provided by Cola was "not new but it was looked into" and proved to be insignificant. Cola said yesterday that he had confirmed from sources within the Revenue Department that the infor-COLA, Page 19 Jf MacTavish pleads innocent in crash Related story.

Page 51 By Betsy A. Lehman and Bob Duffy Globe Staff Boston Bruins player Craig L. MacTavish pleaded Innocent yesterday In Peabody District Court to charges of driving under the Influence of alcohol, driving to endanger and driving without a license In connection with a collision on Rte. 1 in Peabody Wednesday In which a Maine woman was critically injured. 'T.

EC) tot cause sometimes an hour with her can seem like a day. "I come home from work and then my wife gets her first break of the day. She gets to go to the supermarket and the drug store. "If my daughter Is quiet, I can do some of the chores that my wife hasn't been able to do, like the dishes or the laundry. If she's not quiet, I take care of her.

"My son might need help with his homework. My other daughter might want to play. Whether or not I can do that depends on how the seven year old is. "Sometimes my son understands," he was saying. "And sometimes he doesn't.

Sometimes he's very angry about the fact that his mother and his father can't sit there with him and go over his studies. "Or watch TV with them. Think about that: An hour In front of a television set -uninterrupted becomes a luxury. The other kids see those shows about happy families, everybody having fun, and you Just know what they're thinking: They're thinking. 'Why can't we be like "She doesn't sleep for more than an hour at a time.

Some nights my wife or I get up six and seven times to check on her, to see if she's still alive or Is hurting herself. "She doesn't talk. She can't walk, but she gets hurt she'll cry. That's the only emotion she shows. If she got stuck with a pin or If you hit her, she'd cry.

"She has fcellng9. She ha9 a face. She has arms and she has legs. She has nothing else. "We decided to take care of her at home because we didn't know any better.

We thought we were doing the right thing. It was a mistake. "My wife Is a prisoner In the house. In a sense, so are my kids. I make too much money to get help from the state and not enough to hire a fulltlme nurse.

So my wife and I are the fulltlme nurses and because of the enormous strain my wife has never been the same. "Why don't we 'place' her? Good question. Maybe we should, but there Is that little buzzer that goes off In your stomach when you think about it because you know, you Just know, that you'll go and visit her regularly at the beginning and then, pretty soon, not at all. "So we try to take care of her at home. And unless you have a child like this you can never understand the feelings that run through you.

You can never understand how you can go to Mass and pray that your child will die. Because, If she died, then the four of us could live." Kim Radley. 26. of West Newfleld, Maine, was unconscious and in critical condition at Salem Hospital yesterday with severe head Injuries, a spokeswoman said. Police said Radley was driving home after receiving treatment at a Boston hospital when the accident occurred.

According to state police, the right front of MacTavlsh's 1983 Dat-sun struck the roar of Radley's 1976 Pinto at 7:45 p.m.. Both were descending a hill In the right-hand lane of Rte. 1 northbound, police said. The accident occurred less than a mile north of the Rte. 95 cutoff.

Radley's car skidded about 100 feet and i ivy William MacKay supervises Installation of platform at Sullivan Square MDTA station, globe photo by janet KNOTt MBTA revising commuting pattern for passengers from north of Boston Craig MacTavish is arraigned in Peabody District Court. ClOBE PHOTO BY TED DULIY Currently, the Eastern route passengers along with those coming on two other commuter routes are being brought to East Cambridge. A fourth commuter rail line Is now terminating In Maiden with passengers transferring to the Orange Line. Timothy Gens, MBTA director of communication, said officials will decide soon when the new pattern will go Into effect. "We think this will be an Improvement over the current situation," said Gens.

"Considering the entire situation, It will be an Improvement." He said the change MBTA, Page 19 By Chris Chlnlund Globe Staff Congestion on the rapid transit Green Line has prompted MBTA officials to devise a new scheme for fun-ncling some north-of-Boston rail passengers Into the city. In the first major fine-tuning of the alternative commuting pattern, made necessary after a fire last week shut down North Station for months, MBTA officials con1 firmed last night a pljn Is In the works to send tkxston and Maine rail commuters on the so-called Eastern route Into Sullivan Station In Charlcstown. There they will pic up the rapid transit Orange Line Into the city. veered Into the parking lot of the Balcony Lounge, where It struck two parked cars and flipped onto the driver's side. Radley was extricated, unconscious, by Peabody firefighters using Jaws of Life equipment.

MacTavlsh's car stopped about 150 feet away In the left lane of the divided highway. Both he and Radley were traveling alone, according to State Police Trooper Kenneth G. Dunphy, the arresting officer. MacTavish. 25.

was treated at J. B. Thomas Hospital In Peabody and released. He suffered facial cuts and complained of shoulder pain. State police yesterday refused to disclose what led them to believe that MacTavish was Intoxicated or say If MacTAVISH.

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