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Psvr Tirws 1 1 14,1996 lliU Continued from ID Thursday. March U111V11 single white rose will be delivered to the funeral homewith a card stating "We In conjunction with this program, a "White Rose Remembrance Tree" will be established in the Hospice of El Paso office. A silk white rose with a ribbon indicating the name and date of death of the patient will be placed on this large pine tree for year-round remembrance. Information: 532-5699. i magaraiaaai What El Paso Commission for Women's Hall of Fame banquet.

When: 6 p.m. today. Where: El Paso Marriott. How much: $25. Information: 584-1449.

August. A selection committee chose the honorees in January. The El Paso Commission for Women has been honoring women by naming them to its Hall of Fame since 1990. The group is working on a way to publicly display the names of honorees. "We are brainstorming ideas of where a permanent place would be," Duncan-Adams said.

They are still trying to determine whether a centrally located statue of some sort or plaques placed in various parks around town would best serve the Russell. Gomez is a co-founder of Annunciation House, an emergency shelter for refugees seeking political asylum and she has worked on the Border Rights Coalition. Russell is the founder of the Child Crisis Center, the first such crisis nursery in Texas. Professional Janice Woods Windle has led the El Paso Community Foundation for 18 years, establishing it as one of the 50 largest community foundations in the United States. The awards will be presented by commission president Irene Escobar.

The group sent out nomination forms to area organizations in BORDERLAND Acappella performance: The Dapper Dans and the Border Chorders will perform "They Wrote 'Em in the Good Old Days" at 8 p.m. April 20 at the Ysleta Independent School District Administration Building, 9600Simms. This will be an evening of barbershop-style, acappella, harmony singing. Tickets are $10. Information: 751-9617.

Hospice remembrance: Hospice of El Paso has initiated a "White Rose Remembrance" program. Upon the death of a Hospice of El Paso patient, a long-stemmed Continued from ID Cemetery. The wall spurred the Cleanup of the cemetery. Education award Elea-rtor Lyon Duke is being recognized for her work as a professor dif biology at the University of tflxas at El Paso and for the awareness of salary inequities she trought to light in the 1970s. Health care Betty Hoo-vfer is director of the Planned Parenthood Center of El Paso.

Spe is being recognized for her Work in providing health care to underprivileged women in El Your news is good news to readers of the Paso Times. Send items similar to those above to Community News, P.O. Box 20, Paso, Texas 79999 or fax information to 546-6415. You may call 546-6174 to request an form to submit news items to the Times. Paso.

Humanitarian award Delia Gomez and Mary Lorraine 1 fflH33Sil3SB I Some additional tips for sustaining friendship are: Friendship Is not colorblind. When one friend hushes the other friend's attempts to talk about differences, it is usually well-meaning, but it negates a portion of the person's identity. Listen, learn and lighten up. When a topic sparks differing opinions, listen and learn. The discussion may be heated, but don't let it boil over.

If you are at that point, take a break. Good friends respect differences. Karen Maeda Allman is mixed race, Japanese and European, and she is a lesbian. She's had a lesbian friend who was prejudiced toward Asians, and an Asian friend who was critical of gay civil rights. She tries to massage the prejudices out of her friendships.

Learning comes before understanding. Books from a diverse array of authors and topics are a good place to become familiar with groups of people you don't know. Friends Continued from ID tjiemselves; most of them remain professional acquaintances. This relationship was that way at first "Sometimes you meet someone and you think, 'Yeah, she would lie nice to be friends but he opportunity doesn't present (tself," Houston said. 1 But the opportunity did a few fcionths later.

Jasper woke up one ftiorning unable to move her left $ide. She called work to tell them sne be in late, thinking the sensation would pass. Another coworker, alarmed to hear Jasper's Hurred speech, insisted on taking hr to the doctor. Jasper had had 5 stroke. Jasper took an emergency medical leave.

She returned to ork part time in April of last year, her left leg dragging, her feft arm in a sling. The arteries Jh her head were weakened and threatened to pop an aneurysm. with a group of black girls who were raised in the inner city, not on military bases as she was. But she didn't know their games. She realizes her early friendships mostly with white classmates faded because they were based on a mutually unspoken agreement to ignore race.

For Houston, that's no longer enough. "I remember a couple of conversations with white women friends when I started talking about race and I got this blank look," Houston said. "One time I was talking about how I just had to eet my hair cut heonusp was feeling like Angela Davis and the woman said, 'Who is Jasper knows. She cried when she heard Barbara Jordan died. She says white people need to educate themselves about the history and issues relevant to people from other races and backgrounds.

It's not fair for all the responsibility to fall on the friend from the minority group to fill in the blanks missing from the other friend's education. While there are quite a few books exploring social' issues between whites and blacks, there are scant few about relationships between other racial groups, people with disabilities able-bodied people, gay and lesbians and heterosexuals. These friendships have their Obstacles and opportunities. Joanne Lawrence is 'president of Disabled Americans Have Rights Too, or DAHRT. In her generation, children were often taught to avoid people with disabilities, and they in turn were raised to not draw attention to themselvps.

Lawrence, 50, usps braces and a wheelchair because she contracted polio infant. Getting along with people with disabilities is now 'ptfrt of the curriculum in the community-service class she teaches part time at a Seattle high school. "I go at it from the aspect that all of us are the same because we all have something different," Lawrence said. "There are invisible disabilities and visible ones, but everybody has one." She needed to get strong. Houston, a competitive bodybuilder, knew how to build strength.

Along with other coworkers, Houston had been keeping in touch with Jasper. Jasper's struggle was building a bond between them, especially when they started lifting weights together. In January, it was Jasper's turn to help Houston. Houston's mother called to say her father had died. He had had cancer, but nobody expected him to go so soon.

Houston hung up the phone and called Jasper. Houston's life is organized, her wardrobe is tailored, she plans everything. Grieving was one thing she couldn't plan. During her years as a hospice nurse, Jasper developed techniques for dealing with death and its aftermath. Her style is calmly eclectic.

If she wears a blazer, it will be with a colorful, flowing skirt and ethnic jewelry. They've had joyful times as well. Jasper teases Houston that her facial expression is so stern she scares away prospective men. Syracuse University in New York and settling in Seattle, where she earned a master's degree in health services administration at the University of Washington last June. Her friends were mostly white until junior high, mostly black through undergraduate school.

Now she has both, and realizes culture clashes go both ways. After moving to New Jersey, she remembers trying to play Houston says Jasper has a "come hither" look and wants her to teach it to her. Most of all, they are intrigued by their differences. Houston is African American with Cherokee ancestry on her father's side. She calls herself an Air Force brat.

She was born in Maine and lived on a couple of continents before graduating from high school in New Jersey, getting a bachelor's degree at Columns Girls' display of underwear bewilders, disgusts 17-year-old boy Dear Ann Landers: I am a 17 After he died, she found con a man doesn't drive a car, everybody thinks there is something amiss. sound like a man who speaks from experience. Forty years of "Not tonight, dear" can be a 1 Write to Ann Landers, EI Paso rimes, Creator's Syndicate, 5777 W-. Century Suite 700, Los Angeles, Calif. 90045.

NOTICIAS 26 fey Ann Landers Now watch NOTICIAS 26 at 10 p.m. for JT? ytear-old boy. I am not a prude or nerd, but one thing some girls aj-e doing lately really bothers lie. They are wearing low-rise jtans with high-rise underwear sp that the waistband of their jtirjti.es is 1 nave nothing against low-rise jeans, but showing off underwear is gross. If.they are trying to be sexy, they are failing.

I have asked several girls about this, and they all agreed that it's disgusting. I also asked some guys if they were turned on by girl's underwear, and ven the crudest dude I know said it didn't do a thing for him. Not a lot of girls do this, Ann, 'but enough do it to make me wonder if they are trying to make some sort 'of fashion statement. Please 'print this letter, and let the-girlsL know it's not just their parents who are bothered. peers don't want to see thpiir underwear either.

R.M., Long Beach, Calif. doms in his wallet and pornography in his desk drawers. Her husband probably had 50 years of hearing, "Not tonight, honey, I have a headache. The kids might hear. It's too late.

It's too early. It's too dark. It's too light. I just had my hair done. I need to make some phone calls.

I'm too tired. You're too tired. The phone might ring. I haven't talked to my mother today." After 50 years of excuses, Wil-mer probably decided to go elsewhere to satisfy his sexual appetite, and who can blame him? The message you missed, Ann, was for the women in your reading audience. Men who do not get sexual satisfaction at home will find it somewhere else.

Wives who don't want their husbands to stray should not provide them with a good excuse to do so. Forty Years of Excuses In Anchorage, Alaska Dear Alaska: You certainly long time when there no heat in the igloo. You've made a good case for Wilmer. Dear Ann Landers: I have been reading your column for a long time and notice that you keep telling both women and men to do volunteer work. I wonder how much volunteer work YOU did before you became Ann Landers.

I'd like to see this letter in the paper and your answer. A Reader in Sullivan, Mo. Dear Since you asked, I will tell you. My sister, Dear Abby, and I put in more than 5,000 hours as Gray Ladies at Lutheran Hospital in Eau Claire, between 1945 and 1955. And we enjoyed it.

Gem of the day (Credit Art Buchwald): Americans are broad-minded people. They accept a person may be an alcoholic, a dope fiend or a wife-beater, but if Norma Garcia: Dear R.M.: Wow, times have certainly changed! I remember when a girl was embarrassed if her slip showed. You've made the point that it's gross, and I agree. Bag it, girls. headlines in Spanish You Can Save iWhy Pay Full Price When wi i i ii ii Dear Ann Landers: You missed an important part of the message when you advised "Silently Weeping in Kansas" to remember the good things about her 50-year marriage to Save $30 on Black Decker Pastry ShellBaker No effort or fancy ingredients required for gourmet treats just your imagination and the For your personal horoscope: (900) 740-7400 The call costs $1 a minute ShellBaker, now 75 off retail for three days! Nonstick coated cooking pan turns any cookie, cake or bread dough into miniature shells in minutes.

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Tonight: Catch up on shopping. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) This is an unusual day when new beginnings are likely. Not only do you feel empowered, but you can make a difference in your life; you feel great.

Know that your intuition is right on. Reach out to others, and let them hear your words. Tonight: Be your happy self. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb.

18) Consider what is going on quietly. It doesn't serve you to be difficult or cantankerous. Listen carefully to someone's point of view. Pulling back is the right solution. Evaluate what is happening before you leap into action.

Tonight: Pull back a bit to gain perspective. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) Be more direct with a friend or loved one. You work on a much better level as a duo than on your own. Make time for a group event or happening.

Optimism surrounds your work as you deal with a changeable situation. Tonight: Head out with the gang. pattern and perhaps do something quite different. Tonight: Sav yes. LEO (July 23-Aug.

22) Good ideas seem to naturally come from you. Understand all the possibilities that a partner presents during a discussion. You see a possibility very differently because of someone's input. Humor marks the next few days. Tonight: Get some exercise.

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) Your playful side peeks out. Your imagination can grasp what is possible. You want feedback about your potential and direction.

Listen to your inner voice. If you are single, romance is a strong possibility. If attached, make time for your special person. Tonight: Just grin away. LIBRA (Sept.

23-Oct. 22) Be decisive about what you want. Hemming and hawing will not make it happen. Your creative skills work in your favor as your imagination finds solutions. Follow through on a work-related matter.

You can find solutions easily if you set your mind to it. Tonight: Hang out. SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) Communications are strong and decisive today.

Understand what is going on concerning a relative or a creative idea. Be sensitive to what is going on with a child or loved one. Follow your intuition, because you are more on target than you think. Tonight: Relax. SAGITTARIUS (Nov.

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Tonight: Be willing to roam. GEMINI (May 21-June 20) Close relating comes naturally as you grow and develop on a new level. You can understand a financial matter if you stay open and assertive. This is a time of progressive ideas and unique approaches. You deal with immediate problems.

Tonight: Tiptoe through the tulips. CANCER (June 21-July 22) Be playful when dealing with a partner who is able to easily process change and possibilities. Evaluate a dynamic situation carefully. Be willing to seek someone else's input. Make plans to break a Jacqueline Bigar Horoscope FtAPPY BIRTHDAY: Be more in touch with your needs this year, you' can satisfy them.

Your creative energy and vitality mix to make you a sure-fire winner. If you can maintain your focus, you will be a lot happier. Examine possibilities with care because you have muny options from which to choose. If you art)iWKli3, you are the cat's meow. If attached, this is a special year for ypuOelationship.

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CLOSEOUT Bridge (99 $9" hearts, discarding a diamond from hand, then cash the king and queen of spades. If a defender shows out, start on clubs. When both defenders follow, however, get back to hand with a heart ruff (a club to the ace could get draw the last trump, cash the ace of clubs and continue with the jack to force out the king. The ace of diamonds is the entry back to the board to take diamond discards on the long club and ace of hearts. Both vulnerable.

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You can get to the table with the ace of diamonds for the club finesse, but as long as East does not cover either of the first two club leads, you will not be able to return to the table to park a diamond on the long club. Correct is to win the king of UnSkcp S(fi Oorau. 1 I Euudc vyj Slore Only! liHl ami! By Omar Sharif and Tannah Hlrsch Opening lead: queen of hearts. When you have more than one line available, be sure you test them in the right order to give yourself the best chance. Consider this hand.

You reach six spades after an intelligent cue-bidding sequence. North judged well that the queen of spades would be a key card. There are several ways to tackle the hand. One is to discard two clubs on the hearts, hope trumps are 3-2 and then play for West to have specifically in diamonds. That has about as much chance of succeeding as we have of mak SMJJ Gifts.

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