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rl El Paso Times iniifsday Section 2D VamosTV 3D Columns' 1 4D Comics March 14, 1996 Features Editor Melissa A.S. Schapiro, 546-6154 11 II I I I III I I .111 MI.U.. I illl lll.ll I jL BORDERLAND Symphony returns home: The, EJ Paso Symphony Orches tra is returning from its German tqftrtoday. The group arrives on two flights: at 4 p.m. on American Airlines, and 4:40 p.m.

on Delta, at the El Paso Airport. The symphony spent 14 days in Europe and performed in eight concerts to enthusiastic soldotit audiences. "We had a great time," said Gay Brown, executive director. "Everybody worked reallv hard but we had fun doing it. The au diences? Wtfuldn stop clapping." Volunteers In hats: The Amer Bony Duke.

in ii Gomez 1 Hoover Lake Russell I ican Ked Cross will have its Hard Hat Helpers Fund-raiser 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. March 23. Volunteers will be on 20 strtbrjiers throughout the city collecting donations from motorists" Each corner will be sponsored by a business or organization that will then match the funds collected by the money raised will be used by the El Paso branch of the American Red Cross. Information: 592-0208.

Theater contest Seven area schools wiU compete in the El Paso Independent School District University Interscholastic League One-Act Play contest at 2 p.m, March 30 at El Paso High School- Competing in the contest will be Andress, Austin, Bowie, Burges, Coronado, Franklin and Irytt high' schools. Two plays will advance from this event to the area" coinrjetition Anril 2 at fJ I1 jsf! -d 1.iM,mtmtn 4 IS. -il i hi. mm I a- Scarborough Wlrtdle the Chamizal National Park. Information: 545-6950.

Associated Press Paula Houston, left, and Christine Jasper of Seattle nourish a friendship forged by some of life's hard lessons. Ch oosing a pal reveals volumes How can we all get along if we can't even figure out how to get to know one another? Knlght-Rldder News Service Some of your best friends are who? That couple you have over for dinner, or the old school chum you take to a movie are any of them of a different race than you? The people from work you invite over for a backyard barbecue and you all end up laughing and talking about sports and life until well after the sun sets do any of them use a wheelchair? Are any gay? Who befriends whom says a lot about our society, and says even more about each of us. In light of multiple emerging Americas increasingly divi- The following are people who have friends different from themselves. These people are not separate from you. They are your neighbors, your coworkers who knows, they could be your friends.

The friendship of Christine Jasper and Paula Houston was rooted in health: both professional and personal, strong and tragic. They met as members of the Seattle King County Health Department's multicultural health project. Jasper, 44, and Houston, 35, worked in the division of health education. The workplace is where most people meet people different from Please see Friends 3D Star trek fans: The Shuttle Nexua, the area chapter of the International Star Trek fan association called Starfleet, will have a membership rally and quarterly crew meeting 4 to 8 p.m. Saturday at 1737 Avenida de Quintas.

There will be food and fun, trivia and Trek. Information: 593-1283, (505) 526-5123. Western films: The New Mexico Stae University Humanities Consortium is sponsoring a free public lecture on "The Western Film as America" at 7:30 p.m. today in Hardman Hall, room 106. Speaker Greg Metcalf will discuss thejnythical characters of the.Western film genre such as theicowboy, the Indian, the rancher and the loner.

The pre-sentationwill include clips from the westerns of the 1950s through the present. Information: j05) 645-2341. Irish been Restaurant and Brewing 1135 Airway, has brewed an Irish Stout to go with live music in tlie beer garden 6 to 10 p.m. Friday, 7 to 11 p.m SaturHay ana 2 to 8 p.m. Sunday.

Along with the beer, the restaurant also will serve corneo tsef and cabbage and Irklvf tew cooked in the stout. Jaxttt's is the only brewery in El Paso that houses the entire brew process on site, from malted barley all the way to the beer tapsvThe restaurant features a completely, remodeled outdoor beer garden and patio with tastings and" brewery tours. Information: 778-9696. ELSEWHERE Commission on women inducts 8 By Coco Ballew El Paso Times Eight area women will be named to the El Paso Commission for Women's Hall of Fame at a ceremony today at the El Paso Marriott. The U.S.

Commission on Women was established in 1963 by President John KennedyThe El Paso Commission for Women was allied with the national organization in 1984. The El Paso group promotes equality for women of all races and backgrounds and works to place women on city and state boards of directors, said Clara Duncan-Adams, an El Paso board member. This year's eight honorees have been recognized for outstanding service and dedication in several categories including civic leadership, education, professional, the arts and health care. There are also two women who will be recognized with the humanitarian award. Arts award Pianist Lucy Scarborough is the founder and director of the 20-year-old El Paso Community College Arts Festival.

Civic leadership Cleola Lee Berry and the late Grace Lake. Berry was the first black woman to be a cosmetology teacher in El Paso. She is commended for being a role model for youth in her work promoting the welfare of children. Lake was the chairwoman of the Concordia Project for the Women's Department of the Chamber of Commerce and was responsible for getting the rock wall built around Concordia Please see Women 30 sive in recent years friendships are a way of understanding people from backgrounds different from yours. Our society is more accepting of differences, but our views aren't changing as fast or as fundamentally as many of us would like to believe.

On a broader societal scale, attacks on gays, welfare-mother bashing, and the persistence of racial stereotypes underscore a fear even a downright rejection of difference. How can we all get along if we can't even figure out how to get to know one another? give yourself permission to dismiss a whole group of people. "One of the things stereotypes always do is eliminate the individual. If we are not relating to an individual, there is not going to be a friendship," Root said. "People have a really hard time refraining from making judgments across differences." Would you like to have close friends who are physically or socially different from you? It means taking the time to listen and learn.

"Friendship is one of those relationships that we take for granted," said Maria P.P. Root, a clinical psychologist and University of Washington associate professor of American ethnic studies. She has written and edited several books about race, gender and identity. The most recent is the antholo gy "The Multiracial Experience: Racial Borders as the New Frontier." Here are some tips for making diverse friendships last: Take It slow; don't come on too strong. In an episode of the NBC sitcom "Seinfeld" last year, the character George Costanza pushed the issue of making friends across race to an amusingly ridiculous extreme.

George's boss accused him of being racist for telling him he looked like boxer Sugar Ray Leonard. George protested he couldn't be racist because some of his best friends were none. So he attempted to befriend a black family by knocking on their door and trying to force them to sit with him and watch a video. "It might take two to three years for that person to agree that you are friends," Root said. "You don't do a sell job on them.

You just work on consistency." Stereotypes stifle friendship. Stereotypes are a social shortcut By adhering to a stereotype, you Director dies: Krzysztof Kieslowski, the acclaimed Pol More tips: Learn more about maintaining friendship 30 ish director whose enigmatic films about ordinary people facing moral dilemmas reached their pinnacle in his "Three Colors" trilogy, died A PREVIEW OF CIVIC, SOCIAL EVENTS Klestowskl Plan on it Mil Ej ft EE I (F Ken Lockett, potentate of Prince Hall affiliated, Oro Temple No. 9 of the Shriners of El Paso, will preside over the group's annual Potentate's Ball. Wednesday in Warsaw, Poland. He waM.

Hi created the "Blue," "Whiteand "Red" films for which he is best known while Poland was making the transition from Communist rule to democracy. The titles are the colors in the French flag, and refer to the values of the French revolution: liberty, equality and fraternity, "Red," the final film in the series, received a 1994 Academy Award nomination for Best Foreign Film, and the entire $23 million French-Polish-Swiss-produced trilogy won numerous awards" at European film festi THIS WEEKEND Arts meeting: The International Association for the Visual Arts will have its annual meeting and banquet at 6:30 p.m. Friday at the Cliff Inn, 1600 Cliff. InformatJon: 543-6747. Meeting of Westerners: The El Paso Corral of the Westerners will meet at 630 p.m.

Friday in the Student Union Building at UTEP to hear guest speaker Bob Sproull deliver a presentation on Fort McRae in New Mexico. Cost is $12. Information: 755-7329. Card parry: The Desert Sun Chapter 30 of the Society of Military Widows will have a Luck of the Irish Game and Card Party 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Saturday at 1400 N.

Mesa. Tickets $8. Information: 591-6445. Dinner club: Elliot Engel will speak at a meeting of the El Paso Knife and Fork Club at 7 p.m. Saturday at the Airport Holiday Inn.

Engel's topic will be "Our Slippery Mother Tongue: A Humorouse History of English." InformatJon: 778-5181, 592-1855. Enchilada dinner The Ladies Auxiliary to the Veterans of Foreign Wars Post 6388 will serve a St Patrick's Day Enchilada Dinner noon-5 p.m. Sunday at the Madrid-McLaughlin Post 638a 9170 Cananea. Cost is $350 per plate. Information: 859 6924.

St Patrick brunch: The Woman's Club of El Paso will celebrate St Patrick's Day with a brunch at noon Sunday at the clubhouse, 1400 N. Mesa. There will be food, music and a fashion show. Cost is $7.50. Information: 532131.

Mike Torres El Paso Times Guild planning: The International Association for the Visual Arts will have a Mad Hatter's Tea Party at 2 p.m. March 26 at its headquarters, 3100 N. Mesa. The purpose of the party will be to form a guild or auxiliary to the association. Guests should wear unusual hats to compete for the prize of "Maddest Hat." Information: 584-1790, 591-0627.

Women's council: Cecile Richards, founder of the Texas Freedom Network and daughter of former Texas governor Ann Richards, will be guest speaker at a meeting of the National Council of Jewish Women at 11:30 a.m. March 26 at the Coronado Country Club. Tickets are $13. Reservations due by March 21. Information: 584-5060, 581-5659.

Trolley tour: The Twin Plant Women's Association will take a trolley tour to the Socorro and Ysleta missions on April 3. The group will meet at 10 a.m. at Bassett Center, tour the missions, have lunch at Wyngs Restaurant and return to their cars between 2 and 2:30 p.m. Tickets are $22.50 per person. Reservations are limited and the -deadline is April 1.

Information: 598-8766. Kiesiowsiti underwent a heart Fund-raising baii bypass operation Tuesday, and suffered a fatal heart attack Your news is fiood news to readers esc of the El Paso Times. Sen 1 1tems similar to those above to Community The Oro Temple No. 9 of the Shriner's of El Paso, chartered in June 1908, is the oldest Shriners organization in El Paso. The group's annual Potentate's Ball will take place 7 p.m.

to 1 a.m. Saturday at the Quality Inn, 6201 Gateway West. Tickets are $25. Proceeds benefit various charities and scholarship funds for underprivileged children in El Paso. Information: 857-1081.

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