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4 THE BOSTON SUNDAY GLOBE MAY 10, 1987 13 PEG BOYLES every Sunday New Hampshire copy Sunday Globe The Boston Globe J-1 0 Care urged in viewing of herons PubM weekly Published in your of The Dare to Mother recover Tongue Editorial Offices Advertising Deadlines: Editoria1 Offices Advertising Deadlines: ManchesterButeau tbiX5) Concord Buieau (603) 244-9022 I I Resents, 10:00 am. Tuesday prior to I 1 Publica6m Materials, 5:00 p.m. Tuesday priori 3 publication Adv. Sales Lawrence J. Reardon (603) 644-3910 Acct.

Mary Latumau (603) 644-3911 Kathy Keette (603) 644-3912 Outside Manchester area within New Hampshire, call toll-free 1-800-852-6555 Circulation For home delivery. 62 where available, call 1-800-225-99 (603) 644-3950 (603) 244-9022 Chc (51011 01011C 1650 Elm Street 1111 Manchester, NH 03104-2905 weekly weekly Great Blue Herons the long-necked, long-legged creatures locally known as "cranes" have returned to New Hampshire with the spring and are starting to produce their 1987 generation of offspring. Because the species is extremely sensitive to human activities. the Audubon Society of New Hampshire is urging people to stay away from nesting herons until June. Although a few solitary nests are known, most Great Blue Herons nest in colonies of up to 10Q pairs, according to Carol Foss, the Audubon Society's director of wildlife programs.

Nesting colonies, often called "rookeries," are found in the dead trees of remote beaver ponds or occasionally in live trees on upland sites. "Nesting herons are highly sensitive to human disturbance early in the breeding cycle, and may abandon a colony if disturbed too often." said Foss. Most colonies are in remote areas where people seldom venture, but some sites are known to any number of human neighbors. The Audubon Society of New Hampshire. which has been maintaining an inventory of Great Blue Heron colonies in the state since 1981.

urges anyone who knows the location of a colony and wishes to observe the herons to delay their visit until after June 1. By that time the danger of abandoment is minimal, and young are visible in active nests throughout the month. 41 VOGUE TILLEY SEPARATES SALE to numb them up or soothe their nerves. and that should they need to be knocked out entirely. instead of feeling cheated.

they should be grateful for a successful consumation. Imagine, as is routinely suggested to nursing mothers. that to facilitate his "return to work." a man ought not to feel guilt or stress over eliminating sex entirely, and that in confidence he can turn the satisfaction of his partner over to a scientifically formulated modern surrogate. Imagine men taking advice of their partner's physicians (as nursing mothers commonly do from the baby's pediatrician) on how often, where and how long they should engage in sexual activity. And that since its main biological function is procreation.

they should engage in sex only for procreative purposes. or risk psychologically damaging themselves and their partners the way nursing mothers are expected to wean a child no longer nutritionally dependent on milk. Imagine a man bold enough to proclaim his intention of staying sexually active as long as it serves his needs and those of his life-partner: that sex adds many sensual, emotional, self-affirming, even transcendent dimensions to his life. This is the frequent plight of women who insist that breast-nurture is much more than Just "feeding;" that it offers both mother and child a host of benefits whose values persist long after the child's need for milk has diminished. When the biological integrity of normal childbirth is interrupted as in routine hospitalizations, medical interventions and Caesarean delivery; when the biological unity of nursing child and mother is ignored in joint custody ings, mother's return to work.

and forced separation during hospitalizations, we too-easily character- ize a mother's an- guish over disrup- 114? 11) tions of these primal 101: experiences as horgar 4 mone-crazed hyste ria. Culturally. we have ignored the primacy and the func- tional complexity of 'AO pregnancy, birth and lactation, reducing them to simple functions of incubation. hatching and infant feeding. There are both personal and social consequences for such ignorance.

Women are not going to redress the imbalance of power simply by gaining better access to institutions created by men. These institutions do not work for us because they do not reflect the plexity of female sexual experience. We will not have equality until we have restructured our insitutions to fully represent that experience. The first requisite is to develop the language for describing the contents of our sexual identities to ourselves. To honor our foremothers, realize ourselves and free our daughters.

we must dare to recover the full, rich idiom of the Mother Tongue. I.W..."P47.11t A112. i 1 (4 4 1 11:11., lir 1 0:1 Elwas prepared for childbirth. I was prepared for the baby, with tiny clothes. diapers.

a crib with a musical mobile. I was prepared for the fact that parenthood would change my life irrevocably. But nothing I had read, discussed. or even imagined prepared me for the reality that I would change, instantly and utterly. Mothering hormones restructured my thinking.

my values. my perceptual framework. The child I had birthed gave new birth to me. Much of my experience of childbirth and mothering was full of contradictions. unexpected and dazzling: that through near-total submission.

I tapped great wellsprings of personal power; that such raw physical experience could be charged with such spiritual insight; that the child at my breast. seemingly passive and helpless, was in fact orchestrating the hormonal responses that would provide her with nourishment. immunity factors, comfort and self-affirmation. But when I picked up my pen to begin recording my observations and experiences, words did not come. The only terms available for describing deep, meaningful sensual experience particularly experience involving womb or breasts came freighted with the connotative baggage of male erotic sexuality.

And though the work of childbirth and child nurture was and is the hardest work I have done, all the words for work and its associated values have been expropriated as the exclusive domain of male-dominated institutions. Work, in any sense that matters, is effort exchanged for cash. It took years to understand why I was unable to express the transforming experience of motherhood, even describe it fully to myself. I live in a culture that has lost its Mother Tongue. In seeking our legitimate share of power, women demanded the right to be held to a single standard, described in a cornmon language.

But we have wrongly assumed gender-neutrality in the single standard and in this common tongue. They are not neutral. They are male, developed, however unwittingly, by and for people without wombs or breasts, and whose institutions and language reflect this. Forced to speak an alien tongue that does not serve us well, we do not speak the whole truth of our experience. Judged by the single standard, we know we will sound silly, inarticulate, even unbalanced.

But imagine male sexual experience being subjected to constraints analogous, to those imposed upon pregnancy, childbirth and lactation. Imagine men conditioned to accept the local hospital as an appropriate setting for most sexual activity, and a physician as the best facilitator of a successful outcome. Imagine men conditioned to believe, as women are about childbirth, that the physical intensity of sex may be so overpowering that they might need something Geometric print blouses and skirts in navy, yellow red. Sizes TOPS: Values to OSA NOW '17" SKIRTS: Values to $36.00 NOW $18" OR BUY THE SET: Values to MOO NOW $34" Now thru Saturday only at the in TOPS SKIM OF BUY 1 1 i i i I 1 I 1 I 1 1 I Great Blue Herons are found throughout New Hampshire, but the majority of known nesting colonies are south of the White Mountains. To find out if your locale is included in the inventory, write to: Heron Inventory, ASNH, PO Box 528-B, Concord, NH 03301.

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