The Ottawa Journal from Ottawa,  on August 28, 1964 · Page 17
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The Ottawa Journal from Ottawa, · Page 17

Ottawa, Canada
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Friday, August 28, 1964
Page 17
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FRIDAY, AUGUST 28, 1964 COMING OF AGE Later Life Romances Thai weekly catena It dedicate te the alert and livery Ma and weanea hi the ev trie ae bracket, la K Sally Hamllteo, with expert advice offers Hps and guidance ea many sunjecis. it . purery d Umely. By SALLY HAMILTON To be or not to be?--William B.. a Toronto widower ol 73, torn by Indecision, writes: "For 48 years I -wai married to one of the loveliest wc- . men who ever Jived. When I. re tired. fny: only eon took over the hjmnagetnent o( my prosper ous Vetail business and is mak ing a fine Job of It. " "Three years ago, my wife was. killed in a car accident. Now I live alone in our rather large family home. For the past year, I have been going out with a widow some IV years my Junior, and we have enjoyed some happy times together. Her personality Is nothing like that of my late wife. She has no sons aor daughters and is Just as well off financially as I am. "I would marry this woman if it weren't for my son who. ob ject strenuously to the idea n says sne won t make me happy; that she isn't like his mother and why couldn't I Just continue tne way I am? "I Just can't bear to lose out with, him and my grandchildren. yet I am lonely. How can 1 Qpn understand' this?' When an older widow or wi dower considers marrying again, adult children usually object. That nips It in the bud too often! But love doesn't retire. A choice may be wise. or unwise, at 20 or 80. How- ever, a son's prejudice against any remarriage shouldn't be allowed to wash out his father's chance of happiness. THEY OBJECT Crown - up sons and daughters may feel a second marriage Is disrespectful to the parent who is gone. They can't see Dad (or Mother) as an Individual with the right o live his own life. Sometimes they ob ject because they see an es tate taking wings! Maybe they cngriforr ihe possibility of having two old people on .their hands later on. But isn't a parent old enough to know what he i doing? Hasn't he his own right to companion ship? To being part of the world be lives in? If this is your dilemma, I'd say there's too much at stake to let anyone else make the de cision for you. I'm not saying there's a rosy second marriage around t h e corner lor every widowed per son. Some simply could not take another partner with any hope of success. But If you undertake marriage with eyes wide open, there's a good chance of a happy second romance. j Look at yourself. How set are you In your ways? One strong- minded man said of his second marriage that didn't work too well, "My first wife could take my odd ways. The second one couldn't!" CONVERSATION AND COMPROMISE A couple needs to take frank look at bow their per sonalities interest. Do they clash or do - they click? It Is vital that at least one of the partners has remained adjust able. One mature bride was stun ned to discover on her first strip with ber new husband that his idea of diversion was to see through an Industrial plant. To her, holiday fun meant shop ping, theatre going, eating out. When she returned from her honeymoon. Instead of being radiant, she was quiet and subdued. Her friends thought her marriage was a failure. So did she. But this couple wanted to make It work and they did. They talked H out She agreed to go with him when he toured a plant. So he was able to help kv wum urn mw. ane iuok to reading a play aloud to him before they saw It together. Thus the rough spots are being smoothed out. You can't start In on a new marriage where the old one left off. NOTHING LOST BY JVAIT1NG There's no Insurance like, that of taking time to get fully ac quainted and to understand one another's values. At any age (and no matter now mucn or now little . you may have), money is a. touchy MEW 1965 : ABMIRAL THOflSDM 00 0 features: a StMlhnnd wide anela In" 1 U alumlnizMl picture tube with built-in filter. Horiiontal chassis with 20,000 volts e( picture power. :" - - ; i 3 Cocnpactroo tubes including all new Dyna-Beam" Booster lube"' ".' jt Dipol telescopic antenna Top-front mounted channel Indicator ? window. ; I For silent viewlnj; Earphone Jack, I ' Includlnf earphone with 15' cord. I I Special! -Ottawa'$ Slct furnlturt and Appllanc Store" BANK AT LAURIER . nategaTsWJaiM M' O 0 Liberal Terms Arranged : BEAUTIFUL MATCHING 5TAN0 C.D. On Wlteeli ... Only OPEN TONIGHT TILL 9 P.M. . t-v-t- i" J , ii . .'."V 'j : - Park in our own oarkina lot behind the store. t f. i ii m mm 4 7 y g 2367431 subject. Air It and abase It. Discuss resources, budget, wills, children's rights. Relatives count, especially your children and your grand children. Discuss frankly I you feel about them. ' - h Then, tf you both believe you can put your new partner first in everything In sickness and in health I'd say. "Try it!' There are pre aad com ea the casHreversial subject el later second marriage. If yea have decided views ea the subject, yea might help s mesa else expiring these ea paper. Write Sally Hamilton as care ef this newspaper. FEW UNEMPLOYED ' Norway had total unemploy ment of J ,W0 " af " the "end oft June, 1164, or 0.S per cent of all wage-earners. FIRST EXHIBITION More than 140 paintings and etchings by Canaletto will be exhibited at Toronto's art gal lery in uctober the first ever organized for the works of the 18th century Italian painter. HYDRO POWER Quebec generates nearly half of Canada' total hydro-electric power and produces a third of the world' newsprint supplies. DANISH INSULIN In 19(3 Denmark produced more than W per cent of the world's total Insulin production. 1 "THE OTTAWA JOURNAL FRIDAY, AUG. 28 4.30 . SJO p.m. NORAD band. BandshelL 6-9.30 pm. School Chil dren's Demonstrations, McElroy Building. - 7j.m. Horseshoe competition, playground area. 7.15 S.13 p.m. Rockcliffe Pipe Band, RCAF Trampolne Team, Bandshell. . 7.30 p.m. Horse Show, Colseum. 8.30 p.m. -Grandstand show starring Andy Williams. 8 43 10.19 p m. NORAD band. Bands hell. 10 JO p.m. Car Draw, SATURDAY. AUG. 2t 9 a.m. Gates open. 8 a.m. to 6 p.m. Children's Day. Special prices on the Mid way for children under 12 years of age. 11 a.m. All buildings open. 1 - 5.30 p.m. School Chil dren's Demonstrations, McElroy Building. 2 p.m. Horseshoe competi tion, playground area. 4.40 5J0 pm. NORAD band. BandshelL 6 9.30 p.m. School Children's demonstrations, McElroy Building. 7 p.m. Horseshoe -competitions, playground area. 7.1S 8.15 p.m. Rockcliffe Pipe Band. RCAF Trampoline Team, Bandshell. 8.30 p.m. Grandstand show starring Andy Williams. . 8.45 10.13 p.m. NORAD band. 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