Sunday Gazette-Mail from Charleston, West Virginia on July 27, 1975 · Page 70
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Sunday Gazette-Mail from Charleston, West Virginia · Page 70

Charleston, West Virginia
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Sunday, July 27, 1975
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Wedding Protocol Comes From Expert For those who want to Jtoow proper arrangements for weddings and the attendant receptions, Elizabeth L. Post, granddaughter-in-law of famed Emily Post and her chosen successor, gives advice on wedding protocol. Mrs. Post, who has been newly named a contributing editor to Good Housekeeping magazine, writes a monthly column "Etiquette for Everyday" in which she helps women to keep up with modern manners. Among the queries about weddings which she answers in her f irst column are these: How do you handle the sleeping arrangements when the family of the bride's fiance is arriving from out-of-town and who is responsible for paying their bills? "This is the time to call on relatives and close friends. If you can't 'borrow' a few guest rooms then try to find the visitors comfortable rooms in a motel or hotel" advises Mrs. Post. "When there is a choice of accommodations, send the groom's family details on price and facilities and let them decide. The bride's family is not responsible for these lodgings," Mrs. Post says. Where should the divorced parents of the bride be seated during the wedding ceremony? "The bride's mother sits in the front pew, with her husband if she has remarried. If she has not married, she may ask a close relative to sit with her. The bride's father and his present wife should sit in the second pew or in the third, if close relatives on the bride's mother's side are to be seated with her. If the bride is not friends with her father's second wife, she would sit further back in the church, or not attend at all.!' How many attendants is it usual to have at the wedding? "As a general rule, there should be one usher for each 50 guests," Mrs. Post savs. "Thpro m av be more ush- ers than bridesmaids but there should not be more bridesmaids than ushers." Elizabeth L. Post is author of' The New Emily Post's Etiquette." recently published third revision of the noted guide to manners, now in its fourteenth edition. ^ VkE HAVE it C:\DEA lllasters oJuxeao 5016 QUARR1ER ST FnOHE 304-346-0493 BEOTFUli UBODIRGS Are Made Beautiful With __-^ " Flowers from Young's PLANNING A WEDDING ALL IN ONE STOP - Sally Skaggs. left, of Sally's Bridal Shoppe displays a gown for bride-elect Martha Parker, in conference with Virginia Shea of Weddings Beautiful. (Photo by Frank Wilkin.) It's A Consultant's Job To Take Hitches Out Of Getting Hitched By SANDY WELLS Of The Gazette Staff "Some brides and their mothers think it's fun to talk about how busy they are and how frustrating it is planning a wedding. Others don't want all that bother. In that case, we can sit down and arrange every detail in two hours time." I So says Virginia Shea, a bridal consult- $nt whose business is called Weddings Beautiful.. · "For people who are unsure about what's to be done in a large wedding, or (or those who have a limited amount of time,-there's nothing I won't handle for them. I save them trips and heartaches, and in the long run, a lot of money." So says Ann Crites, a bridal consultant whose business is called the I Do Wedding Center. Their function, as evidenced in their respective quotes, is to take the worry out of weddings. The only two professional consultants in Charleston, they will arrange as little or as much of the wedding as the bride wishes. - They are paid for their services, with the fee depending on the size of the wedding, the amount of service rendered, and the budgetary limitations of the bride. " Department stores-handling wedding attire have consultants on hand to advise the bride at no charge, although their services are not as extensive as those offered by the professional consultant. Besides the help given in selecting the attire for the brides, bridesmaids and mothers of the bride and bridegroom, the stores have experts in various other departments to aid in the selection of such things as invitations, linens, crystal, china, silver, appliances and furniture. Both the Diamond and Stone and Thorn-, as stage annual bridal shows involving relevant in-store departments, as well as other bridal related businesses such as florists and bakeries. And, there are innumerable books available on wedding planning which are handy to have with or without the aid of an actual consultant. The point is, weddings needn't be do-it- yourself projects. There is an abundance of help available, in one form or another, whether it's a professional consultant or the price of a paperback book. Virginia Shea and Ann Crites will personally handle every aspect of the wedding from flowers for the church to rice bags at the reception and reservations for the honeymoon. They also are available to direct proceedings at the rehearsal and reception. Although an independent consultant with the Weddings Beautiful franchise, Ms. Shea works with Sally Skaggs at Sally's Bridal and Dress Shoppe, the advantages of which are obvious, she says. "A bride can come into Sally's, discuss her wedding attire with Sally and her wedding plans with me, all in one visit." Ms. Shea's prices range from $40 to $500, but free advice is provided when services are of the nature of merely making suggestions. Ms. Crites. who trained with Wonderful Weddings in Washington. D.C.. has two kinds of customers. The first is the bride who wants suggestions for doing the wedding herself. "For S25,1 give her all the information she needs, then she and her mother can do the work themselves." The other type of customer wants everything arranged for her. from helping with the selection of her gown to changing her name on her Social Security card and driv- er's license. For that, Ms. Crites is paid a percentage of the over-all budget. Her services are different, she says, because she is not beholden to any one firm. "I deal with all bridal shops, all florists, bakers and photographers to get the best service for my brides," she says. She also prides herself on her familiarity with area churches, "I can tell a bride instantly how many flowers it will take to decorate a certain sanctuary." Both Ms. Shea and Ms. Crites prefer to be contacted as early as possible. "It takes at least six months to make good plans," Ms. Shea advises. "Even a year isn't too far ahead." "I want to get hold of them before they do anything," Ms. Crites says. "One of my specialities is budget control, and if I'm contacted before any major decisions have been made, I can save them the most money." Jessie Lay at the Diamond and Martha Nisbet at Stone and Thomas offer free advice on wedding attire, and the same service is available at Sally's and at Glad- Ele. If bridal and bridesmaids gowns are purchased at Stone's, Ms. Nisbet attends the rehearsal and the wedding. Included in the service at the Diamond is pressing the bridal gown for the formal portrait, which can be done in the store. The gown is pressed again for the wedding. Both department stores have a bridal registry so that brides can list their sterling, china and crystal patterns, as well as color schemes for linens and other home items. Liz Brotherton, who handles the registry at Stone's, assists brides in making their selections, from deciding between sterling, stainless or silver plate to picking appropriate colors for the home decor. Similar advice is offered at the Diamond, and in any related department of both stores. A spokeman at Major's Book Store notes an increase in the sale of wedding etiquette books each June and December. Emily Post and Amy Vanderbilt both sell well, as does a small book called "Checklist for a Perfect Wedding." AFTER YOU PROMISE HER THE WORLD ... GIVE HER A DAZZLING DIAMOND Even if you can't keep all the other promises you made... there's one you can. Give her a diamond! One fiery jewel to express the love that is yours. Symbol of love and devotion ... and all that is yet to be... a brilliance to be cherished forever. Begin your Happy-Ever-Aftering at The Diamond, making your selection from our elegant array of bridal g o w n s . . . sophisticated or soft, lacy or satiny . . . a complete collection in which you are certain to discover the treasured gown for that very special day. Shown here, a lovely gown of Qiana Jersey with Brussels lace trim ... high illusion pearl accented neckline and a chapel veil. Available in either White or Ivory. Gown 180.00 Veil ....60.00 BRIDAL SALON--Fashion floor The Diamond offers the Bride-To-Be a complete selection of special services to make the planning of her wedding easier and simpler. Jessie Lay, our Bridal Consultant, will be happy to assist in planning and coordinating your wedding. As you make those ever-so-important selections of silver, china, and crystal. Evelyn Sounders will know- ledgeabiy aid in your decisions and record your choices in our Gift Registry. To capture this most memorable time, formal wedding portraits are made in The Portrait Studio, with your gown pressed for the photography, then re-pressed for your wedding day at no additional charge. Our Fashion Floor, of course, meets all your trousseau needs with the latest fashions in lingerie, shoes, daytime and evening wear ... with an able staff to help you plan your own highly individual wardrobe needs. The Diamond's Fine Jewelry Department is undoubtedly the place to visit to select engagement and wedding rings and for purchasing gifts for Bridal Attendants. Our Street Floor Stationery Department has a complete selection for your paper trousseau ... including invitations, napkins, matches, wedding albums, and appropriate note paper for all the "Thank Yous" that will follow. Our Candy Counter offers beautiful wedding candies, petit fours and other goodies to enhanceyour reception. And don't forget our Beauty Salon experts .. adept in styling oh-so- perfect hair designs ... just right for you and your cap and veil selection. You'll want also to visit our House- wore, Appliance and Home Furnishing Departments, to help you plan for future Homemaking. These are but a few of the innumerable services offered for the Bride-To- Be by The Diamond... we take pride and pleasure in being able to bring to you all the ingredients of a carefree and beautiful beginning. JEWELRY CO. Member American Gem Society 1021 Qwrrier St. Charieston, W. Vo. Lovt is.. 'Our professional f l o r a l designers "and bridal consult- BouQuat ants, Janet Pearce, Phyllis Morris or Maxine rro Connor are available to advise on all your floral needs and decorations. With their assistance, you'll add that special touch you'll want for this memorable event in your life. '215 Penna. Ave. at Randolph St. Phone 346-5384

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