Sunday Gazette-Mail from Charleston, West Virginia on July 23, 1972 · Page 69
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Sunday Gazette-Mail from Charleston, West Virginia · Page 69

Charleston, West Virginia
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Sunday, July 23, 1972
Page 69
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9F--July 23, 1972 Sunday Gazette-Mail -- Chirltiten, W»jt vinlnl* GIFT DISPLAY PART OF TRADITION It Can Be at Reception--If Reception Is Held at Home New Lutheran Service on Trial NEW YORK-Lutheran fathers are no longer able to give their daughters away in marriage, and Lutheran brides and bridegrooms may now write their own wedding vows. The new look in Lutheran weddings was authorized with the publication of a new marriage service by the Inter- Lutheran Commission on Worship. The commission comprises r e p r e s e n t a t i v e s o f t h e Lutheran Church in America, t h e A m e r i c a n L u t h e r a n Church, the Lutheran Church- Missouri Synod and the Evangelical Lutheran church of Canada. According to Lutheran spokesmen, the new service has been published for use on a trial basis. Action to make it normative would be up to each, of the individual denominations. The Rev. Dr. Eugene L. Brand, director of Commission on W o r s h i p of the Lutheran Church in America, explained that in the future the father of the bride need no longer give her away. "THE BRIDE is not the property of her father to be turned over to the husband w h o s e p r o p e r t y s h e becomes," he said. But in order to involve parents in the wedding, the new rite permits them to participate by laying their hands on the heads of their children in parental blessing. On the writing of vows, the following suggestion is made in a section entitled, "Notes on the Service." "The promises are the bride's and the groom's own, and provision should be madp for those who want to write t h e i r o w n f o r m o f t h e promises, provided that they indicate the complete sharing which marriage implies and make clear that the promises are to be a life-long commitment. For it is not a formula that makes a marriage, but the promise of fidelity." A suggested marriage vow follows: "I,--'-. take you,--, to be my wife (husband), And these things I promise you: I will be faithful to you and honest with you; I will respect, trust, help and care for you; I will share my life with you; I will forgive you as we have been forgiven; And I will try with you better to understand Ourselves, the world and God; Through the best and the worst of what is to come As long as we live." The new marriage service according to introductory material, "is deliberately- constructed to provide a wide variety of options" and "by choosing among the options, the pastor and the couple may create a service of worship and praise of God appropriate and fitting for the occasion." FIELDERS BEAUTY SALO 736 Central Av». Specializing In HAIR STYLING, CUTTING, ^SHADING, TINTING, ^FROSTING AND BLEACHING "We Sell and Style Wigs Open 6 Days Per Week Evenings By Appointment LOTS OF FREE PARKING Dlw»«« 9I C C.K Oft LARGE STAFF READY TO Y00116 j4D'i)4ZU SERVE YOU Annette's 208 DICKINSON STREET Right in The Center of Town A Wedding In View, Mother? We have a lovely selection of beautiful Formals ... short and long... in glowing colors and fabrics. Just perfect for your Special Occasion. CHIFFONS .CREPES SILK ORGANZAS · POLYESTERS We Carry The Names That "Say" Stylet · ADELESTMPSON · NAT KAPLAN · JAMISON · OSCAR del* RENT A. Display Says Thank You With all the talk lately about brides who sew their own gowns, write their own services, and marry in the great outdoors, is the traditional wedding doomed? Not in the least, say the bridal gown manufacturers, who point out that sales of formal gowns reached an all- time high last year. And, according to a recent survey made by a bridal magazine, 79 per cent of 1971 brides had a formal wedding. So it's pretty safe to say that most of the 2.2 million girls who marry this year will be walking down the aisles in traditional garb --rather than barefoot down a meadow lane. An important part of the wedding day ritual is the reception which follows the ceremony. Long before the wedding, of course, the bride and her parents will have decided whether to hold the reception at home, or at a club, restaurant or hotel. If, because of b u d g e t c o n - siderations, the bride is unable to invite the number of guests she'd like at a sit-down dinner reception, she may decide on a simpler reception, so that no one need be shut out from the joyousness of the occasion. This is a thoughtful c h o i c e a n d a good solution--for, as one psychiatrist noted recently, the happiest weddings are those at which an effort is made to include everyone who has any reason to care for the couple involved. This same consideration for guests is the motivation as well for the bridal gift display. It should never be considered Home Rite Takes Plans Some brides prefer having their receptions at home surrounded by everything that is familiar, but this does require more planning. Naturally, the guest list will be determined by the size of the rooms used for entertaining. If it's a spring or summer wedding, the lawn or garden is ideal for an overflow of guests. But since the weather is often quixotic, all of the guests may have to fit inside the house. A reception at home also calls for rearranging and r e m o v i n g some o f t h e furniture. a parading of possessions, but indicates rather that the bride wishes to do justice to the kindness of the many people who have given gifts. There is no impropriety at all in showing gifts at the wedding reception--if the reception is given at the bride's home. When the reception is not held at home, relatives and friends are often invited to the bride's house shortly before the wedding day to see the display of presents. The bride and her mother may wish to arrange a tea or evening party at this time. Or there might even be two such parties--one for relatives and friends of the bride's mother, the other for friends of the bride. Any good sized room can be used for the gift display. Card tables or trestle tables can be rented, or borrowed from a church. White damask cloths, or sheeting covered with w h i t e t u l l e o r p l e a t e d cheesecloth, can be used to cover the tables. Pretty ad- ditons are small bowls of flowers placed among the gifts. Gifts are generally arranged by category, with sterling silver, china and c r y s t a l i n o n e a r e a , appliances on a separate table, etc. Because the bride's set of sterling is often made up of individual gifts from relatives and friends, she may wonder whether to show them all. The rule is to show only one complete place setting o.f sterling silver displayed along with china and crystal just as it would look on a dining rooomtable The only exception to this rule is when sterling is given in a chest, in which case the entire chest may be displayed. All individual gifts of sterling flatware serving pieces or special purpose place pieces should be set out, just as are all gifts of silver holloware.. G i f t cards should be removed from all presents, so that comparisons cannot be drawn between elaborate and more modest ones. Unless the gifts have been previously recorded, they should be labeled before removing the card. A numbered tag can be affixed to the item, with a separate record of each gift and its number. Modest presents should not be placed next to extravagant ones, nor should duplicates be shown. Checks can be displayed in either of two ways. The first is to lay them on a flat surface, one above the other, so that the signatures are revealed but the amounts are covered. The amount of the top check can then be covered with a strip of paper, and all checks covered with a square of glass. The other way is to write the amount of the check on a plain white card, without the name of the donor, and to include the card among the gifts. NO SERVICE CHARGE ON PERSONAL CHECKING ACCOUNTS... PERIOD! 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