Sunday Gazette-Mail from Charleston, West Virginia on July 23, 1972 · Page 65
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Sunday Gazette-Mail from Charleston, West Virginia · Page 65

Charleston, West Virginia
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Sunday, July 23, 1972
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JF.-July 23, 1972 Sunday Gazette-Mail -Chsrltjten, WM» Vlrfinlt Husband at Home 'Best Arrangement Possible' By Irene Backtlenick New York Times NEW YORK~"How do you stand having your husband home all day?" Louise Warner of Fairfield, Nancy Hoe of Weston and Catherine Kalin of No:.-walk three Connecticut women whose husbands work at home are asked the question frequently. Other women view the .arrangement with a mixture of distaste and bewilderment, sensing problems of too much' togetherness, too little privacy, too many demands. But for the Hoes, Warners, Kahns and scores of suburban families, the arrangement has provided the best of all possible worlds. "I can't understand the sympathy I get from other women," says Catherine Kalin, whose husband, Victor, is a freelance illustrator. "I think I'm the luckiest woman in the world to have him home." Contrary to what might be expected, wives do not rush headlong out of the house into new-found freedom, leaving the husbands to baby-sit with young children. They seek jobs, if at all, when children are older. Catherine Kalin, a technical consultant for national CSS, a computer time-sharing company, took the position when her children reached high-school age. For the most part, wives who were interviewed are traditional homemakers, with husband-wife roles clearly- defined. The husbands-at- home families, to a great degree, present a return to old-fashioned family life. It is a way of life that appeals to many men (not only those in the obvious professions of writer, artist, dentist, doctor) and particularly to suburbanites, where extra house space is available and commuting is arduous. Leon Henry of Scarsdale, N. Y., who publishes "Home Office Report," a monthly newsletter aimed at the home businessman, estimates that there are between 3 to 5 million home. businesses in this country. The advantages are obvious when a man sets up his studio, office or shop in a bedroom, basement or garage. His expenses dwindle, outside pressures disappear, and he Era of 'Peacock' Brings Changes In Groom's Attire Until a few years ago, the groom's attire was certainly seldom mentioned in the press. The bride's gown and veil, her attendants' dresses, even the flowers they all carried would be described in great detail. There was no need to write about what the groom wore. Everyone knew. Then came the "peacock revolution." The groom in his ruffled shirt, trousers and, sometimes, bare feet or, in direct counterpoint--Edwardian splendor--became newsworthy too. That period of individuality was short lived. Today's groom takes his place at the altar once again in traditional garb. The lapels may be wider, the waist suppressed, the dinner jacket in a subdued color and the dress shirt somewhat ruffled, but wild flights of fancy are over. The old rules of formality never really changed. The formality of the bride's wedding gown still determines what the groom and all · the men in the wedding party will wear. IF THE bride's gown is Cave Man Spirit Lives The custom of carrying the bride over the threshold of her new home is a tradition rooted in ancient times of marriage by capture. As the bridegroom picks up the bride to launch her properly into her new home in his arms, he is echoing, in playful suggestion, the masterful cave man who really seized his bride by force and carried her into the new tribal domicile. semi-formal, the men will also be less formal in single- breasted Oxford strojler coats and striped trousers before 6 p.m. After this hour, dinner jackets, perhaps colored, and black formal trousers are the correct attire. For an informal summer wedding before 6 p.m., the men wear either white jackets with Oxford grey trousers, dark blue jackets with white flannel trousers or white suits. Afterwards, white dinner jackets with formal black trousers are worn. Since the majority of men rent their wedding attire, they do not have to be concerned about the correct accessories. The formal rental wear shops they patronize will supply these--along with the proper clothing. acquires a new freedom--at least theoretically he does. In practice, how does it work out? What are the difficulties? What is the impact upon families? To begin, privacy is important, and most families strive to establish psychological, as well as physical, separateness. Robert Warner, whose company sells and services material handling equipment, has converted a wing of his fairfield home into offices. The office area has twc doors, one leading directly'outside and the other to family quarters. There is a clear demarcation between the two worlds of Robert Warner. James Hoe,. an engineer who restores Duesenbergs and other vintage cars, has turned his garage, a separate building, into a workshop. Alvin Moscow of Stamford, author of the books, "Collision . Course" and "Merchants of Heroin," has an office on the top floor of the Moscows' three-story Victorial home, well removed from family activities. Some wives indicate that the only feasible arrangement is to have separate buildings. "If my husband worked right in the house, I couldn't handle that," says one Norwalk wife. Nevertheless, couples at home see a good deal of each other, sharing meals, coffee breaks, and marriages must be good to make it work. Wives indicate that they prefer the company of their husbands to women friends. Wives' complaints are minor. They find that "the boss" no longer exists but has been replaced by "the client," and family dinners arf interrupted by clients' phone calls. They also complain that their tendency to spend time with husbands interferes with their own work schedule. "You also tend to be more dependent on your husband, to look to him to make decisions on small matters, decisions you would otherwise make yourself," says Deirdre Moscow. Resisting the distractions of home and family can be difficult, however, particularly for a writer. Alvin Moscow, a freelance author for 13 years, works mostly at home, but occasionally resorts to an outside office or writers' retreat. He has just rented an office in downtown S t a m f o r d , 10 minutes from home "because being at home is just too pleasant." Husbands-at-home families: feel that the benefits to children are enormous. "I feel the children are much more secure," says Nancy Hoe. "If I have to go out for errands or be away for a few days, then Jim is here." Fathers provide a model, a life style, for children to · emulate. Miggs Burroughs of W e s t p o r t , a 26-year-old graphics designer and son of i l l u s t r a t o r B e r n a r d Burroughs, has followed his father's pattern of combining studio and home. "You couldn't really be wild, because you were always under supervision. Still, when you were hurt, or when you came home from school, there was always someone there." But even with the advantages to the children, Deirdre Moscow views the Brides of all ages you will Fall in love with our store--expensive looking furniture at inexpensive prices- Just the thing all brides arc shopping for. FURNITURE The Sfore For Young People of a!! ogei 226 7th AVE., South Charleston MAKE THE WEDDING EVEN MORE BEAUTIFUL At Fashionaire SALON DE COIFFURE'S In the beautiful wedding the beautiful hair complements the bride. Come in and meet any of our #//· A seven advanced trained styl- /'. ists; they will professionally V - . . , style your hair for the beauti- \\ .' ful wedding. Mr. Mrs. DOY JONES and STAFF BERTIE QUALLS, MANAGER Myrel Strigle Anne Marie O'Connor Virginia Boggess Mary Evans Penny Ann Morgan Sandra Marker Phone 744-1001 202 7th Ave., So. Chas. working-at-home arrange- everyday suburban living, it is away," she says. "Further- ment as a mixed blessing: better to have my husband more, when he doesn't work, "From the point of view of home. From the point of view when the typewriter is not the children, of my own of work, of his own productivi- going. I know it, and that can socializing needs, and ty, it is better to have him be very disturbing." \y Harper Moldings of all styles, raw and finished. Specializing in Needlepoint and Embroideries. Linen and velvet 1 liners and mats. HARPER'S CUSTOM PICTURE FRAMING BRIDE TIME... WHEN EXCITING THINGS HAPPEN AT THE DIAMOND! MINIATURE SHOWS OF WEDDING ATTIRE FRIDAY, JULY 28; 6:00 to 8:00 P.M. SATURDAY, JULY 29; 11:00 A. M. to 2:00 P. M. BRIDAL SALON--fashion floor REGISTER FOR GIFTS: Gifts furnished by: Royal Doulton, Samsonite, Metlox Potteries, Juliet Bridal Veils, Gorham Silver, Fostoria,. Cebtyra* Tableware, Block China, Burlington Towels, Seneca Crystal, Wedgwood, Taylor Wine, Oneida, Grosset Dunlap, Franciscan Dinnerware, Crane Company, Bonnie Bell, A. T. Cross, Waterford, Lunt Sterling, After Six, Lenox China Crystal, International Silver, General Electric, Ekco Housewares, Belgian Linen. FROM THE COVER OF BRIDE'S MAGAZINE Ivory faille taffeta gown with natural waist line, pleating at yoke, sleeves and hemline. Venise lace appliques at neckline, cuffs and skirt, two camellias adorn the taffeta cummerbund ... 200.00 BRIDAL SALON--fashion Floor ,^ -·':' ^ THE PERFECT SETTING "* No one will believe you didn't spend days shopping for linens, napkins, flatwar* and glasses to go with your Block Chromatics china. Your secret? Block did if for you ... glassware, stainless and place mats in just-right colors. Altogether fh« easiest way to get your table all together. .Colors of Gold/Brown, Blue/Green, Beige/Blacfc or Red/Lavender. 20-Piece china service for four... 75.00; Set of four place mats ... 15.00; Stemware ... 4.50 eacfi piece; Tumblers ... 3.50 each piece; Stainless, five piece place setting ... 12.00 CHINA--fifth floor SHOP MCRPIYIH ntlOir S:30-S:00-flTHE» CUTS Til 5:00 (CLOSED SUNDAY) 34«-Ml 1 A

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