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PAGE SK THE LOGANSPORT PRESS, 10GANSPORT, INDIANA SUNDAY, JANUARY 1», 1»5». Ttff GOLDEN YEARS What Is Widowhood? A Wife Takes A Look > By THOMAS COLLINS A wife, happily married and moving toward the retirement years, has suddenly taken off her glasses and started asking questions. Her husband has a good job, and is healthy enough. But all around her she has watched her friends unexpectedly turning into widows/ She has seen all the mature- age women eating alone in restaurants. She has been reading with more than passing curiosity the statistics which say her husband will die before she does. "I watch my bereaved friends flounder about trying to map out a new way of living," she says, "and at an age when change is becoming difficult. "I pray I may never face this. But a sensible wife cannot ignore the fact that] she may. If I had to face it,! Give it up and you may become- I would have to decide— i as so many widows do—a wander"Should I remain in my home among friends and good neighbors er, belonging nowhere, wanted nowhere, and growing more unhappy and try to manage the house! each year. Keep your home and maintenance and big yard? (Remain, if there is any possible way to afford it. And you can probably rent out rooms to do this. Your home cam be your most precious possession in widowhood. you can always change your mind. Let it go and you can't. And don't overestimate the maintenance and yard work. By living in your own home you can save enough money to hire it done. Or you can make a All-American Award Goes to Illinois City-Here's Why Editor's Note: The -city ol Galcsburg, 111., has be c n chosen one ol 11 "AH-Amcrica" cities ol 1957 by the National Municipal League and Look magazine. play- Ing a vital part in the community was its daily newspaper, the Galesburg Register-Mail. In this story, the editor 'ol the paper tells "how Galcsburg did it." By CHARLES M. MOKRO W ., Editor The Galcsburg Rcgistcr-MaH Written for United Pres» • GALESBURG, 111. (UP) -'Democracy has a full meaning today for Galesburg residents, who learned this, week that their civic accomplishments have won an All-America city -award for their community. In common with most growing communities, Galesburg had a batch of headaches. It had outgrown its schools, airport, water supply, parking facilities and hospitals. The people were impatient with their' aldermanic form of government. But in a city of 31,000 which hadn't passed a general obligation bond issue since 1926, the outlook was bleak. School bond issues had failed repeatedly, and a move to install council manager government was soundly defeated. Grassroots Citizen Action Then something happened. In a little more than year, the corn- first council-manager government last April. What brought about the new attitude? 'It was grassroots citizen action. Sufficient numbers of people were sufficiently fed up with done when they're left to one else. Galesburg must have established vmething of a record in the past months for citizen committees, public meetings and house - to - house canvasses. Not since they broke the prairie 120 years ago to found the college town have Galesburg residents worked so hard to improve their community. Th e y're Professional Citizens Leadership, of course, is deal for your-tenant to do it.) MOVE SOUTH "Should I move South, as my husband and I have planned to do- alone? (No. Keep your house. But go see the South. Spend the winters there in an apartment or residential hotel. But maintain the ties at home.) "Should I rent an apartment near my sons who'live in a severe climate in the North? (You probably would not see them once a week if you did, and then it might be to baby-sit. Your children have a busy, life of their own. With a husband, perhaps. Alone, I wouldn't. It is good to be near your children, but if you maintain the old home where they can come to visit you free you may be closer to them. And certainly more in command of the situation since your children will not live in apprehension that you'll become a burden to them. Wouldn't your neighbors or your tenant look in on you if you were ill?) "Do I have a moral obligation to conserve the estate the children's father built? Or could I console myself with travel? (You, have no financial obligation to your children, once you have reared them and taught them to fly. You have every right to live your life, as best you can with the money your husbanc made. Travel. Live. But don't try to console yourself with money, You can't.) CRUISES AND RESORTS "How does- an older woman : alone, fare on cruises and ai resorts? (Very badly.) "What about homes for elderly ladies? (There are splendid homes across the country for older people—some of the best ones oper ated by churches and fraterna A from among the vast part of the public which heretofore considered their duty to democracy done when they occasionally turned out to vote. Today in Galesburg there are perhaps more experts on every aspect of community improvement than anywhere in, Illinois, Almost anyone in town can give you pros and cons on school buildings costs, the technique of laying a 30-mile water pipeline to the she grows old and helpless. There are too many things she can do 'Hit Parade' Pals Rush to Aid Gisele HOLLYWOOD (UP) — To cure Gisele Mackenzie's show of .the rating miseries her buddies from the old "Hit Parade" program' are paying a call this Saturday night to boost the songbird's sagging Trendex. Snooky Lanson and R u s s e 11 Arms will appear with Gisele in their first reunion since the trio was pole-axed last June 8. Fourth member of the old musical gang, Dorothy Collins, is off on a> personal appearance tour and unavailable. Like the U.S. Cavalry in a "B" Western, Arms and Lanson aim to save Gisele from a sponsor stampede. But inasmuch as they are baritones instead of saddle soldiers, Snooky (his real name is Roy) flew in from New York while Russell ambled across town from his new Bel-Air home. Four Of A Kind They met at the Brown Derby •to hash over old times -before joining Gisele at rehearsal. "Sure miss having a regular show to count on," said Snooky. "Not. me," Rusr, put in. "That regular paycheck was nice, but I like the freedom." "Wish Dorothy was going to be with us?' Snooky continued. "The four of us sure had good times when we were on the 'Parade.' Guess I miss those poker games more than anything else." Since getting fired from the show both Lanson and Arms have played state and county fairs, nightclubs, a few TV guest shots and hotel dates. Snooky-had been with the show seven years, and Russell Jive, when the axe fell. While ,-their careers haven't exactly boomed since they left the program, "Your" Hit Parade" hasn't prospered either. Its rating is falling faster than a yoyo with a broken string. Rock 'N' Roll Leaves 'Em Cold The boys have theories for the show's troubles. "Rock aad roll music is ruin_.- - ..„ „„ „., -„„. ing the program," Russell ven- without resigning herself to secur- j tured. "It comes on late at night, ity.) land adult audiences don't dig the "What can a wife suddenly left: ]ikes of''Jailiiouse Rock.' And I 'can't blame 'em. They also -cut FORMER LOGANSPORTERS: alone do to fill the void that has come in her life?" (Every wife by age 55—statistics being what'they are—should start an activity. Maybe a job behind a counter in a store. Maybe a school course, a four-hour-a-day job with O. tJV 1IH4.C VY«tCl ^7»(/011iH- I.W bltb -If • J • 1 > Mississippi River, the functions bf some welufar « organization, a busi- .. _; ' t _:».. ness at hnmp huh SOMKTHTN'f}. council manager government, city planning or off-street "parking. Their enthusiasm has gone beyond municipal -projects. They're helping build new churches, a li- ness at home, but SOMETHING. Even over the protests of'her husband she should insist. More important even than an insurance policy, a husband should leave his munity came up with solutions to: brary addition to Knox College, most of its major problems. More \ and improved YMCA and a long than 12 million dollars in public!list of other undertakings, works projects are completed or| In Galesburg, they're known as under way. The "city installed its professional citizens. building estimates too high? »f M *fcow yov how to tvf bi/fldmg •atfc at mu«J> « 50% wWi tow-corf, po/c-tyjM aonriruction Durable penta-treated' poles serve as foundation, roof fupport and studding—save you money from the ground up. Pole buildings go up fast, are wind resistant and long-lasting. The penta preservative resists decay and termites, yet leaves poles clean and easy to handle. Pole plan buildings can be constructed at less •ost during January and February. Ask us why FARM BUREAU CO-OPERATIVE 108 E. Ottawa St. the' budget." Gisele, Snooky and Russ will spoof their old show on their NBC-TV clambake, singing a few songs individually and combining forces for Auld Lang Syne. Where Are They Now? MRS. CARL BILLMAN, 2109 High street, is probably the only local grandmother who must get a foreign language teacher to translate letters from her seven-year-old granddaughter, written in Spanish. The child, Kathy; and her brother, Christopher, are children of the former ELAINE BILLMAN, now Mrs. Peter Hun* ington. The family lives in Ajijic, Old Mexico. Elaine, a graduate of the local high school in 1943, attended Purdue, and worked in the personnel office of the RBM before her marriage. Interested in art, she now designs pinafores for little girls, which are hand- sewn by Mexican women. Students at Mary Mount, convent school at Tarrytown-on-the : Hudson, New York, are learning to speak French under the guidance of Mother Marie, Robert. The nun is the former KITA ANN ARTHUR, daughter of Attorney and Mrs. Robert Arthur, whose former home here was on East Broadway. After graduation from high school, Rita Ann did university work in France before entering the Convent of Mother of the Sacred Heart.-She remained in France several years before being assigned to her duties in this country. Her sister, Mrs. Leonard Koontz, lives east of the city. The former LAURA ANN BETHKE. whose home is Irving- on-tbe-Hudson, New York, wrote her mother, Mrs. John C. Bethke, 2114 High, that she was startled in a train station there as a group of nuns approached her and one shouted, "Hi, Bethke." The nun was the former Rita Ann Arthur of here. Miss Bethke, graduate of the local high school, attended Purdue.University, before her marriage to William Edson, a railway executive in New York. The couple has two sons. LOHEN McC^Y, former teacher in the local high school here, started selling encyclopedias on the side while in this city. Now a resident of Minneapolis, Minn., he is district salesman for a. publishing company. Three o£ their four children are now married, and one is a senior in college. JOHN AND JANE GARTY, former local residents, now of El Paso Texas, stopped here briefly with their two sons last summer. John wanted another look at the Murdock hotel and the youths, both in high school, were planning a glance at St. Joseph's 'school, which they had attended. Both buildings were then razed. John was manager of the Murdock hotel for a number of years. His wife, the former Jane Shill o£ Winamac, a registered nurse, worked at both local hospitals at various times. They left for.a diferent climate because of health reasons seven years ago. There's still a Hoosier flavor to the adults' talk,' but the boys have the Texas .twang. FRED-A. "BUD" O'Neill, son of Fred O'Neill, local railroader, of 111 Eel River, is now in San Bernardino, Calif. After graduation from high school he waorked at Logan Machine until World War 2. Following his discharge from the service, he .went to. Omaha to work and married a Nebraska girl. The .couple has one son, Michael Steven. The youngster has his private swimming pool which his father constructed. "Bud" is employed by Otis Elevator. KAY WARFELT MARTINI, niece of Miss Mildred Warfelt, 1910 North, is another California resident. She and her husband, Marty, once a local radio announcer, now live in Orange, Calif., with their sons, Jamie and Paul. Mrs. Martini was graduated from the local high school, attended Indiana University, and was employed at the Logansport Press prior to her marriage in 1952. MILDRED ELLIOTT FELIX, daughter of the late Mr. and Mrs. Cecil Elliott, resides at Highland, Indiana, with her husband and nine-year-old son, Tommy. The Elliott family lived here on West Miami, later on Cliff Drive, and she was one o£ four children. wife a job to do. Or else learn how to live as Jong as she does and keep her company.) (COPYRIGHT 1958, GENERAL FEATURES CORP.) Retirement Is People, Not Just Statistics BL BEULAH STOWE These are the people who are part of the story of retirement. The man who bought a 200-acre ranch in California three years before he was retired. When retirement came, he had a place to go and a business to manage. The wife who thought she retired years ago when her children grew up and left home, and finds to her dismay that she has only now begun to work. Now, with her husband retired from his job, she has more housework, more cooking and less freedom than ever jefore. (And more criticism, some wives claim.) The unmarried woman who retired from her bank job and took over the care ,o£ the three school-age children of a career woman. \ At night she attends classes in psychology at a university. j The couple who can't understand why other people don't know where to retire. They expect to. retire at home, and keep the house open for their four children to come home and visit. "As long as we live, so will our home," they say. The man who advises others preparing for retirement to move away from their old setting as soon "as they can. He bought a lot and built a house in a new state right after he retired, and >he. attributes the happiness he and his wife have found to their sense of adventure in beginning life anew. > The woman in her 50's who sees many oi her woman friends left as widows, and who begins to plan, with'her husband, what they should do in future years—together or singly. The man who knows before he is retired where he may be-able to get his next job. Fifty per cent of the employes questioned in a recent survey had already planned how to acquire extra income or another job after retirement from their current occupations. Retirement is people, not statistics; courage, not surrender; and spirit, not starvation. Will Not Retire From Congress, Says Ralph Harvey NEW V CASTLE (UP) — Rep. Ralph Harvey has sent word to 10th District Republica. leaders that he has no intention of re^ tiring from Congress. Harvey advised GOP . officials from the precinct level up that "I like my job, find it more challenging than ever, and will stay in harness if the voters approve." Harvey is serving bis sixth two- year term.. In the last, three elections he ' has won by margins ranging from'. W.OOO to 36,000 votes, Harvey's announcement apparently was aimed at spiking a rumor that he might be the Hoosier House member planning not to seek renomination .this year in the May primary.. Q—"I would like to put an ad in the paper to -hire a qualified man to drive our car for us one or two days a week. We can afford to pay a reasonable sum for this service, but my husband, who is 74, prefers to drive himself. He does not see well, and he has had two minor accidents, involving damage but no physical harm." i —A.P. A—Hire the chauffeur, or sell the car and travel by cab.-Not long ago, a 78-year-olcl man who considered himself an excellent driver seriously injured a neighbor's child. Age and automobiles are not Dial 3141 rood companions. A New England Yankee invented the anti-skid chain for automobiles. Safely Pica From Pulpit INDIANAPOLIS (UP) — Minis ters said today they are away ahead of State Police Supt. Harold S. Zeis' plea to. "use the pulpit' in the fight for traffic safely. Several ministers and churc] leaders said that they have been "preaching traffic safely righ along," not only in their Sunday sermons, but in their other activi ties. Just received a large selection of New Custom-Tailored Seat Covers h> Cl»ar Plo.tic - D.lux. Fibr. and Nylon MEHAFFIE'S SERVICE STATION 903 N. 6th 221 - 13th St. True Life Adventures the FOX and- v the EGGS. -J? THE BUUE t=ox >«.>• \Jf A. SHESK A.T THE MURKES WESTS WHICH MOUC" THE HE COVETS NOT SA.V THE ARE SP011JK? Psychiatrist Has a Few Words About Parents CHICAGO (UP) — A University of Illinois psychiatrist says too many parents are like putty in the lands of their children. Dn Harry M. Seigenrich, an authority on child development, said this "over permissiveness" tends to make a child impulse- ridden, undisciplined and inconsiderate." Seigenrich, in a lecture at North Shore Hospital, said the pendulum ias swung too far from the overly trict parent of the Victorian era ;o the overly permissive parent of today. He said many parents now- rationalize their over indulgence with the statement that "I don't want my child to feel inhibited." The psychiatrist said too many parents try to "make Marj stop sucking her thumb" or "Jack stop lying" without inquiring into and rooting out the causes of the behavior. He gave these examples: Disobedience: Usually stems from a lack of parental firmness or consistency. The parent recalls his own childhood and treats the child as he would like to have been treated, even when this might be "most improper." Stealing: Usually results from a child's need for attention and interest. The act calls for parental displeasure and a firm insistence that it will not be tolerated. Running away: The child often is "tesiing" his parents' affection. He feels rejected or unwanted. The parents should act to remove this feeling. School phobia": Or reluctance to g» to school. Often due to a child's anxiety which can only be aggravated by a hostile altitude on (he part of the parents. The child may fear leaving the parents, he may fear that something will happen to them, or he may be jealous of a newborn brother or sister. "It is best to return the child immediately to the school building, with a parent if necessary," Seigenrich said. Nightmares: These are common for youngsters 6 to 8 yean old. They indicate a struggle within and a fear of unconscious "Oedipal" desires to possess the parent of the opposite sex. The child "who suffers a nightmare often will want to climb into bed with his parents, Seigen- rich said. This only adds "oil to the fire." 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