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IP--Son THE TIMES Thuradoy, July 21. 1977 Doing the Right Thing How to Handle Personal Questions Northern California Trip For the Ronald Artales By ELIZABETH POST Judging by the number of questions I receive on the subject, I would say that people are constantly being besieged by others asking all manner of personal questions. Not wanting to appear rude, the victims often divulge information they would rather keep to themselves, and then are furious that they have done Except among closest friends and familyy, pper- sonal questions should be avoided. If you are "put on the spot" by someone who is unaware of this fact or gnores it, you have every right to refuse to answer. However, there are ways of turning aside questions, without being unduly rude.

The answers in today's quiz will give you some idea pf how you mayparry a "snoopy" question without giving more offense than necessary, or more information than you wish. Q. We are parents of nine children. We believe God plans families. My husband and I have been treated as if we i know the time of day.

People ask in a moot critical way, "How many children have you had?" A. Simply reply that you have nine children because you wanted to, and that you are proud and happy about it. Or you may be shorter and simply say, "Nine, thank God," and change the subject. Q. What is the correct way to answer this question: "How come you're not going away on your vacation?" My husband and I each have a hobby and enjoy staying home.

We sure have nosy friends, or are they friends? A. Your friends may be just interested, not really nosy. But you have a right to pass your vacation any way you wish, and to tell them so. Just say, "We're a i home because we're happier here than anywhere else." Q. How can I answer a person who asks the price of something ia my house, when I do not wish him to know the cost? A.

If you wish to play up the value of the article, say, "More than I probably should have paid for it." If you want to play it down, say, "Not as much as you may think." Q. What in your opinion would be an acceptable to a hairdresser who inquires about her customer's lift scars, which are only visi- Whatley-Barker Wedding Rites The patio of the Menlo Park Civic Center was the setting earlier this month for the marriage of Carolyn Diane Whatley, daughter of Mr. and i i a Whatley of Belmont, and Clint Robert Barker of San Mateo. He is the son of Mr. and Mrs.

Clint L. Barker of San Jose. During the unique ceremony the bride and bridegroom walked down the aisle separately escorted by their fathers. Both gave their mothers a red rose and a kiss before approaching the altar. Carolyn said her vows in a long white Empire gown with a satin underlay and lace detailing at the'neck- line and an attached train with a double row of lace.

She added a long veil and a ring crown, and carried a bouquet made by her mother, who also designed the attendants' baskets of flowers and altar arrangements. Honor attendant for her sister was Wllda Sanger- vasi of South San Francisco who wore a long mint green i costume and a green full brimmed hat. The bridesmaids Included Patricia Cavaliere of San Mateo and Mary Ann Williams of Belmont, who were dressed alike in sky blue gowns with royal blue trim and matching hats. Clint asked his brother, Thomas Barker of Mountain View, to be his best man. Ushering duties were shared by Robert Card and Eric Bengtson.

The newlyweds, who were honored at a reception at the same site, honeymooned at Marriot's Great America and plan to take a tour of Yellowstone National Park next month. They are living now hi San Mateo. The bride; a Carlmont i School a a works for the same firm which employs her bus- liund, an alumnus of South San Francisco High School. He also has two sisters, Mrs. Cathy Hitchcock and Nancy Barker of San Jose.

Mrs. Jessie Hunter of San Jose is his grandmother. ble when the hair Is disturbed, when the customer doesn't want the news broadcast that she has had surgery? A. The customer should simply say, "I'd prefer that you i mention my operation to anyone else. And I would be tempted to find a more tactful hairdresser.

Whether it's a family breakfast or a formal dinner party, you should know how to set, seat and serve guests the "right way." Elizabeth Post tells all in the booklet "What Goes Where." For a copy send 90 cents and a self- addressed, stamped, long envelope to "Post-What Goes Where," The Times, P.O. Box 259, Norwood, N.J. 07848. Make checks payable to Newspa- perbooks. Justweds Sojourn A home in San Francisco awaits Mr.

and Mrs. Ronald J. Artale (Christina P. Olivier) who are honeymooning at Benbow on the Eel River after their marriage Saturday at Holy Angels in Daly City. The i a McCormiek performed the 2:30 p.m.

ceremony for the daughter of Mrs. Pauline Olivier of Daly City and the late Richard Olivier, and the son of Mr. and Mrs. John Artale of San Fran- The newlyweds were honored at a reception after the rites at the Santo Christo Hall in South San Francisco. Christina was escorted to the altar by her uncle, Earl Olivier.

She wore a white lace and satin gown accented with a short veil and carried a bouquet of yellow roses, white daisies, baby's breath and fern. Linda Olivier, the maid of honor for her sister, set the style of dress for the bridal party in a full length yellow chiffon gown. She and the other attendants chose bouquets of daisies and baby's breath interspersed with fern. Pamela and Regina Olivier and Alana Lanzarin, the bride's other sisters, shared secondary attendants' duties with Leonora Artale, sister of the bridegroom, and Roxanna Hicks, the bride's cousin. Erica Olivier performed flower duties for her cousin's wedding and Rodney Tostado, another cousin of the bride, carried the rings.

David Arta'e stood with his brother as best man, and a the i godson, seated guests with Bruce Bus- chncr, Joseph Taverna, Cameron Beach and Samuel Lee. The bridegroom, a member of the Big Brothers of America, is the latter's big brother. The new Mrs. Artale is a student at the College of San MatTM, and her husband is a transit security i i i department. He serves as vice chairman of the Steering Committee for Big Brothers.

Zow is him over for advice when you already know the (Photo by Christopher) CLINTON-ABBOTT St. Bartholomew's Catholic Church in San Mateo was the setting for the marriage of Anne Marie Clinton and Ralph Frank Abbott Jr. The bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. George Clinton of Hillsborough who hosted the wedding reception at the Olympic Club at Lakeside.

The bridegroom is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Ralph F. Abbott St. of Arlington, Mass.

The couple will live in Wilbraham, after a wedding trip to Hawaii. In Hawaii Reception Staged at Hotel Site Honeymooning in Hawaii before establishing a home in Burlingame are Donald Hartley Wright and his bride, the former Diana Patricia Arrighi, who were married at St. Matthew's Catholic Church in San Mateo on Saturday. Southland Rites Are Noted Here DAY SCHOOL and LEARNING Has openings for gifted and tal- 'I anted students in the pre-kindergarten program this Fall. (Limited openings at other Levels) 6565 Skyline Boulevard Hillsborough 348-2272 Mr.

and Mrs. Karl von Platen Jr. of San Clemente, former San Marino residents, are announcing the marriage of their daughter, A a Charles A a Kennedy. He is the son of Mr. and Mrs.

Rex W. Kennedy of San Mateo. The couple exchanged vows in a ceremony witnessed by relatives and close i at St. Edmunds Episcopal Chapel in San Marino. A reception followed at the Huntington- Sheraton Hotel in Pasadena.

Kit Walter served as the maid ff honor and bridesmaid duties were shared by Janet McDonald and Sarah MOVING Kennedy, sister of the bridegroom. Best man duties were performed by Peter Held and guests were seated by Joe a Chris Gordon and Eric von Platen, brother of the bride. The newlyweds, who are living and working in Belmont, both graduated in March from the University of California at Berkeley where she majored in sociology and he majored in engineering. Before entering UC, the bride attended San Marino High School and the bridegroom was enrolled at HlUsdale High School. Ann is the granddaughter of Mr.

and Mrs. Karl von Platen Sr. of San Marino and the late Dr. and Mrs. George T.

Burke who lived in San Marino. Mr. and Mrs. Robert C. McCoy of Sparta, are the bridegroom's grandparents.

The 2:30 p.m. rites were followed by a reception at me Villa Hotel. Diana, the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Bertram Pearl of South San Francisco, was given in marriage by her stepfather, Bertram Pearl.

She wore a white Qiana Empire gown with a stand-up collar, fitted sleeves and open work detailing at the sleeves and neckline. She added a Juliet cap with a flowing Qlana train and carried a bouquet of white orchids and peach roses. Raija Perrot, the maid of honor, and Dody Wright, the bridesmaid for her new sister-in-law, were dressed alike in peach gowns with sheer capes of matching color. Donald asked his C. Kenneth Wright, to be his best man.

Edgar Arrighi, brother of the bride, and Kip Herron seated guests. The studied at Skyline College. The bride attended South San Francisco High School and works in San Bruno, and the i a Crestmoor High School graduate, completed his education, at San Francisco State. He is a teacher and wrestling coach at Crestmoor High School. Diana also has another brother, John Arrighi.

Her husband has another sister, Terralyn Graff. Michelle Carter is on vacation. Her column, "On Pins and Needles," i be resumed upon her return. The Villa Hotel in San Mateo was the setting for the reception which followed the a i a of Denise Bava and Joseph Fernekes. The couple exchanged vows earlier this month at All Souls Catholic Church in South San Francisco.

The bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Roy Bava of South San Francisco, and the bridegroom is the son of Mrs. R.R. Fernekes of Walnut Creek.

A South San Francisco graduate, the bride earned her bachelor's degree at California State University, Chico. She and her husbands are both teachers in the South San Francisco School District. The bridegroom, who has been living in South San Francisco, was graduated from Serra High School and the University of San Francisco. Denise asked her cousin, Leann Pozzi of South San Francisco to be her honor attendant. Bridesmaids included Francis Adams and Donna Flanagan.

Captain Robert W. Fernekes. who is stationed at Fort Bliss, stood with his brother as best man. i i were shared by David Pozzi, Carl Johnson, Jerry Stenson and Lee Simpson. (Chris Petersen Photo) LOGAN-HANSON Honeymooning in Hawaii are Mr.

and Mrs. Gregory Kern Hanson, who repeated their vows at the First Presbyterian Church in Burlingame. The bride is the former Christine Logan, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Harry R.

Logan of Burlingame, and Gregory is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Lynn Hanson of Kelseyville. The couple will live in Kelseyville. Ottobonis Mark Golden Wedding More than 150 friends and relatives of Colma councilman Raymond D.

Ottoboni and his wife, Mae, gathered recently at the Brentwood Lodge in South San Francisco to honor the couple on their go'den wedding anniversary. The dinner dance was hosted by the couple's son, Raymond J. Ottoboni, also a former councilman and mayor. The Rev. R.J.

McCor- miek of Holy Angels Catholic Church in Colma was present to give his blessing to the Ottobonis who were a i a Church in San Francisco. A those present were several civic leaders including former Daly City Mayor Frank Pacelli, who The who honeymooned in Hawaii, are a i i i served as master of cere- home in South San Fran- monies, and Assemblyman Cisco. The bride is the granddaughter of Palmiro Pozzi, and the bridegroom is the grandson of Mrs. Mary Hein. Louis J.

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8 at Hillsdale and on Aug. 10 at Colma. Still other guests included Superior Court Judge Frank Biurn, Municipal Court Judge Charles Becker, Daly City Councilman Victor Kyriakis, South San Francisco councilmen Leo Padreddii, William Borba and Terry Mirri, Colma Councilman Fred a i i a i a Mayor Art LePore. Also former supervisor Ged Day, former Daly City Mayor Ed Dennis, former San Mayor i Christal, former Colma councilmen Al Belli and a Colma city clerk Blanche Lagomarsino and present Frances i Colma city engineer Ed Smith and former county board of education member Ron Bates. Rounding out the list were Rose Campana, Mrs.

i i a Norma DeMartini Cresci, who served as the flower girl at the couple's wedding. Among those unable to attend who sent congratulatory notes were the following: Congressman Leo J. Ryan, Sheriff John McDonald, supervisors Fred Lyon, John Ward and James Fitzgerald, County Clerk Marv i i i a Court Judge F.J. deLarios and Daly City Councilman Tony Giammona. A retired florist.

Ottoboni is dean of councilmen in San Mateo County with 28 years of service to the city of Colma. He was a of Pioneer Nursery and Florist which was founded in Colma by his father in 1860. The Ottobonis moved to San Mateo County 40 years ago. AUCTION of Rare Valuable Stock PERSIAN RUGS and Other Oriental Rugs The immediate and urgent removal of a cargo shipmonl consisting of PERSIAN and ORIENTAL RUGS is now being demanjed for inimeo.ale disposal at this auction, to tho highest bidder in single pieces. This direct shipment in our opinion, is tho finest collection in design, craftsmanship find colors of handmade carpets, rugs and runners we htive over seon in all our years selling only tho finosl quality of Persian and Oriental Ruqs and Carpets CABANA HYATT HOUSE 4290 El Camlno Real, Palo Alto July 23 2 P.M.

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