The Evening Independent from Massillon, Ohio • Page 10

tft ID Ita Wrt April 3, 1974 Dorothy Bicker's Teenage mail Gossiping about 'shortcomings' seems natural for part of clique Dear Mrs. Ricker: I am a girl of 14 and strangely enough my problem right now is not about boys. It concerns the group of girls I go around with; there are seven of us. I guess you would call us a clique. We are all supposed to be good friends but the trouble is, when just a couple of us get together we talk about the others in fact we tear 'em apart.

I know this is true because I am the one who does it the most. I have a guilty conscience and want to do something about it. I feel there can be no real friendship among us as bng as this continues. I think we should all get together and talk this thing out. Am I right? G.C.

DearG.C.: I really doubt that talking this situation over, in a group, will help 'cement' your friendship. I am more inclined to believe that it will break your clique up. You see, if you all start 'hashing' over the fact that the girls will gossip about each other when they are in two's or three's, some of the girls may forget their own shortcomings and start wondering what the other girls have said about them behind their backs. The first thing you know each girl will become suspicious of the others. Since you say that you are the worst offender, my advice is to start your 'reform' drive with yourself.

When you are with one or two of the girls and something is said about another girl of your group, set a good example refuse to talk about Kathy, Jane or whoever it may be. Explain that you think it is wrong to gossip about friends and you are not going to be guilty of doing this sort of thing again. Dear Mrs. Rciker: I have been reading your column with great interest, especially your advice to those girls who are discouraged by the psuedo popularity of the "not-so-nice" variety. I was a "not-so-nice" girl who wised up too late and perhaps my story will help some of these girls.

Not long ago, when I was a I wanted above everything else to be popular. I was, for a while, and I played it fast and loose. I had a lot of dates and was envied by girls who were less popular. But, when the time came for me to settle down, the decent boys didn't want me for a wife. It took me two years to find a decent man who was willing to overlook my past and marry me.

Girls, don't make the mistake I made. It's so foolish to risk your chances of a happy, lasting marriage for the fleeting, cheap type of popularity. It takes a long time to convince people you have changed for the better I know! MRS. B.C. Dear Mrs.

B.C.: Your frank, 'testimonial' letter should be helpful to those teenagers who may be confused about the vital importance of proper, moral behavior. From your experience they can learn what it takes to recover a lost reputation. To win back the respect of nice people is a long, hard road, with many snubs and heartbreaks on the way. It just isn't worth the price one has to pay for so-called popularity gained by loose, immoral conduct. 'f FACTS ABOUT FOR TEEN-AGERS Dorothy Ricker writes Plance receives master's degree George Plance of 241 Church st, Datton, has received his master of education degree from Kent State University.

He is employed as trade industrial supervisor of the Wayne County Joint Vocational High School at Smithville. A graduate of Walnut Creek High School, be received a bachelor of science degree in education from Kent State University in August 1972. Plance and his wife Sharon are the parents of four children, all attending DfcUon schools. frankly and sympathetically about 'love' problems and moral behavior of young people. Her booklet, "Facts About 'Love' for Teenagers" contains constructive advice for teens 24 pages filled with pertinent information about boy-girl relationships.

Please enclose 25 cents and a stamped, self-addressed envelope with your request for the booklet. Mail to Dorothy Ricker in care of this newspaper. Houmard ends Belize research, returns home Denny Houmard, formerly of Tuscarawas Township, recently returned from Belize (formerly British Honduras) where he conducted research with a team from the Ohio Univeristy Geography Department. Houmard, a graduate teaching assistant at OU, is currently working toward a masters of science degree. During the past three years he has worked as a civilian computer specialist at Wright- Patterson Air Force Base in Dayton.

He is the son of Mr. and Mrs. M. A. Houmard of 1751 Harmony SW, Tuscarawas Township.

Takes cake, carrots for her doggie-bag! DEAR ABBY: Can you explain why a wealthy woman, when eating out, always takes home the leftover dinner rolls, carrot sticks, crackers, and anything else that's served and isn't eaten? This lady is very generous where charity is concerned. We are four women who meet once a week for bridge and lunch, and her conduct puzzles me. I can understand a "doggie bag" for leftover portions of meat, but what about taking food on the table? On occasion we all meet with our husbands, and when this woman asked my husband for his leftover carrot sticks to take home, he thought she was kidding. Yet her husband seemed indifferent. How do you figure this? AMAZED DEAR AMAZED: The lady can't bear to see anything wasted.

(There are many people who, if they had the courage, would collect all the leftovers.) There is nothing home every morsel of wrong with It. If she were poor, be "chintzy." But rich, she's "eccentric." DEAR ABBY: My wife passed away three months ago. She was 52, and a wonderful woman. My children are married and have homes of their own. My mother-in-law is constantly plying me with advice.

Example: "Don't ever marry again. All women are gold diggers. All they want is your money." Abby, my life seems so empty. I don't know anyone I want to date, but my mother-in- law's constant harping on the subject has made me think about it. How long a mourning period should be observed in my case? How soon is "too soon" to seek female companionship? Would my dating before a year be considered disrespectful to the memory of my late wife? Our marriage was a happy one and we had 30 good years, but I think 55 is too young to resign myself to a life alone.

What do you think? LONELY DEAR LONELY: your life, obviously not Hut of your departed wife or certainly not that of your mother-in-law, that counts. If you dislike living alone, do something about it and don't worry about what others, think. Who named them as your judge? DEAR ABBY: My son and his wife have been married for three years. They are both bleeding heart liberals and miss no opportunity to announce that they have no children because they don't want any! I believe their decision to have no children is a very selfish one. The Good Book implores us to "Go forth and multiply." Our son is an only child, and my heart is broken because he is depriving us of the pleasure of being grandparents.

Do you blame us for feeling DEPRIVED DEAR DEPRIVED: 1 don't "blame" you, but I don't agree that your son and his wife should have children because you want to be grandparents. Couples who remain childless by choice shouldn't be made to feel guilty. When the writers of the Good Book implored us to go forth and multiply, the world needed more people. Not so today. Quite the contrary.

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