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8 THE HARTFORD COURANT: Thursday. November 23. 1972 men" but it had shown the thought My God! it's true. thing. Women are constantly That book is right!" Things suddenly took on a dif whites of its eyes.

Now She Can Stretch put down intellectually by men, The telephone interrupts her, ferent light for Ms. Tobias. She Sheila Tobias: Encouraging Example Of American Woman as VictimVictor The offer at Wesleyan was hadn't succeeded professionally perfect for Ms. Tobia. "I She smiles apologetically, and when she hangs up she uncanni because she wasn't supposed to had been retarded in succeed: "I was a woman and ly picks up her thought without my career development.

Here I By BARBARA GREENBERG had reached the peak for worn' knew I could stretch, experi good on paper, but no one saw a pause: "It happened to me. I was ac ment, challenge and grow the en in the particular field: wom 11 WMi'rvvmy v- Conrant Women's Reporter en don't trespass beyond this very same things that any job Sheila Tobias has been both a fit to grant me responsibility or challenge. I compared myself to male peers and saw myself point. I had not only been frus normally provides every capa tive politically and always put down. Suddenly, I was in my 30's, a career woman, and still treated that way not only by lative issues.

Another project a referral service for academic women seeking jobs in New Eg-nand, and yet another is helping to write an Encyclopedia of American Women. Sheila Tobias is firmly convinced that women, as well as men, need resocialization. "Society through males, has perpetuated these defeating roles. But they can be changed," she says with a wave of her arm around her campus office. Spray the Tree NEW YORK (UPI) -Here are sprays on the market for fireproofing a Christmas tree.

If you use one, don't let that lead you into a false sense of security, say accident fighters. The old rules still apply: Keep trated by society's roles I ble male." There is no mistak victim and victor in American culture. Two years ago, Ms. Tobias ing the bitterness in her voice. sinking.

had succumbed. I became rather angry." she grins. Ms. Tobias is grateful for he older men but by younger men. "It never dawned on me," she made headlines: "Wesleyan Fires Feminist." A previously too, That was confirmation for While at Cornell, she took a rough times "it gave me in- states, "that I was having troti ble because I was a woman." me.

You either bow to society's daring step and organized an in signt. now I can help other evaluation or you women." Through the Profes terim semester conference on use Ms. Tobias five years Mil -Ofe5 fei females in America. She was sional Women's Caucus (of ago, many bright, young women expecting 90 or 100 people 1 IlSifii-tTl rrr today are floundering. "Cir which she was president 1971-72), seminars on "Women in it." Discovered Feminism The first "good job" she had 2000 attended, "it was an Intel- cling, like a plane," she says.

lectural breakthrough that far America" which she has organ "Uncertain, a bit fearful of where to land." all-male university hired Sheila Tobias as an assistant provost Assistant provost! A high administrative position! That was a victory and she admits the taste was sweet. But maybe not sweet enough. Sheila Tobias has plans for the future she's not sure what but she's dreaming big. That's where her victimization enters. Until five years ago, she "the first reassurance that I out-stepped my authority," Everything contribute! to the could assume responsibility" explains.

It also convinced her conflicts in women, she says in was at Cornell University where ized on several college campuses, and her work in Connecticut, Sjeila Tobias has affected the lives of many women. Alert that she wasn't a failure. Shedding her inferiority com she served as Assistant to the her deep, husky voice. Parents the tree's base moist; don't smoke cigarettes or stand light Vice President for Academic Af plex, Ms. Tobias worked in the academic arena with a new ed candles near the tree; avoid fairs.

It was there that she discovered feminism. Send daughters to college and expect high grades, "until the junior year. Then it suddenly becomes more important for the woman to find a successful Her latest projective Is didn't dare dream: "Until five self-confidence and sense of personal worth. Her conflict had overloading the tree with lights which create heat. Also: Make She was reading Betty Frie- years ago, I was a failure." dan's "Feminine Mystique" ALERT: Women's Legislative Review, a newsletter to educate Connecticut women about legis-1 sure your tree lights bear the Today Sheila Tobias, at 37, is not been totally resolved "I still can't express anger to mate.

In politics, it's the same when, "all of a sudden, I Underwriters Label (UL). considered one of the most sue cessful, young, up-and-coming women in Connecticut, possibly the country, a recognized leader of feminism, a sought-after speaker and lecturer, a successful academic administrator. And here she is stating Si mm Sheila Tobias that she was a failure, often a bundle of nerves, an anxiety ridden, discouraged woman? A classic example of an American Woman As Victim, she affirms. Ms. Tobias who recently married but retains her own name contends in lectures, and erpthing I did.

I'd work so hard ence: Academic success real-world failure. that within three years I'd reach a point beyond which I A Phi Beta Kappa student at articles and interviews, that mr ovKiot. cniilri an na further. I encoun- Xc.13!toi I block to my career If you've never thought of us as a Christmas Gift Center, think again! Right now there's a world of holiday giving at every Singer Sewing Center. Full of surprises and unique gifts you won't find under everybody else's tree.

tween anxiety over failure and like a man getting the promo tion I thought I deserved so I lowered my aspiration and self- 3o assessment and moved into another field. I knew I was a car eer person for life, so I had lower self-esteem upon graduation than she did when she was a freshman. (A phenomenon, she says, which occurs constantly among college women) After getting a master's, she went from one career area to another from working in a poverty program, to free lance writing abroad, to TV work, to lecturing in college. "I couldn't succeed," she says simply. "God knows I tried." she Last Tko Days Vh anxiety over success.

She was in that bind and got out. Academic Success vs. Real World Failure Between phone call after phone call and knocks on her Wesleyan office door all subtle evidence of her success today. Sheila Tobias says her personal history is very typical of what many young women experi- time to experiment." Saw Herself Sinking Eventually she became dis couraged enough to conclude FREE! ne of these beautiful that she didn't possess the in gredients needed for success. "I laughs.

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