Cumberland Evening Times from Cumberland, Maryland on December 9, 1955 · Page 3
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Dial PA-2-4GUO for a WANT AD Taker EVENING TIMES. CUMBERLAND, Ml)., FRIDAY, DECEMBER 9, 1955 THREE Ulary Haworth's Mail Kditor's Note: Mother asks what would cause xirl, 15, who is senile •nd well liked, to lie and fabricate. DEAR MARY HA WORTH: What would cause a 15-year-old girl lo have an urge to lie or fabricate? My daughter May is a beautiful child and 1 believe is well liked. She is kind and sympathetic. For a Jong time now she has had spells of lying to her father and We punish her for it and then, tries very hard to She appears to be •oelieve, she tell the truth. trying hard right now, and haven't caught her lying for quite e while. However, I was cleaning out her desk drawer and came across several letters she had written to friends in other cities. 1 don't think she ever intended to mail!;' them, as they were dated a month ago. And 1 know you will say 1 shouldn't have read them — but 1 feel I can help her groxv into a finer woman if I know more about her. Uoiv Correct The Failing? These letters were all based on truth, but were full of lies. She told of a gay social life with boys and girls that I know she'hasn't seen for some time: and wrote of going to dances that she didn't attend. I am afraid that she is unhappy and 1 would like lo kno\\\ how to correct the situation. She failed the 9th grade last year and is repeating this year. Could this be the cause? She is shy, but not painfully so. Her home life is happy—at least, other members of the family have happy dispositions. Her father and I try to hit a happy medium in social per- tnissions. Please advise us. —R.S. Botli Immature And Neurotic BEAR'R.S.: You say that May lies and fabricates. In saying she lies, 1 assume you mean that she denies and conceals certain truths. And by fabricating, I take it you mean that she creates "tall tales" out of whole cloth. I make these distinctions for purposes of discussion. | Now, as to why a child lies—it : is an attempt to conceal certain' dismaying facts and truths' (that! the child feels accountable for),! from unsympathetic minds, as aj rule. Lying is motivated by feari of condemnation, humiliation, re-' jeclion, punishment, etc., usually. In very young children, say ofj pre-school age, lying about uncom-j fortable matters is an instinctive! reflex, in self-defense. It isn't a: deliberate attempt to deceive; it! is simply an attempt to smooth outj trouble. Of course some fortunatej « ,ldren may be so sympathetic-1 y and constructively handled] that they aren't fearful of adult! reactions to child behavior; and in! this happy case, perhaps theyj never tell a lie. Lying in older children—and certainly in those past 14 years of age —is a different mailer. It becomes indicative of arrested growth, of psychological immaturity and poor ly organized personality. It reveals parental failure lo give the child enlightened guidance • and steady support in acquiring social competence suited to his years. At this age, lying is related to a general sense of inadequacy on the part of the child—and to an attempt to bluff his way, in trying to gel by, save face, win acceptance, etc., in an .environment that confuses and defeats him. Fabrication — as in claiming a social whirl that doesn't exist—has to do with day dreaming. And while some margin for day dreaming is appropriate to youth—as the blueprint of future achievement- it is symptomatic of serious emotional maladjustment, when it begins to overshadow reality, as in May's make - believe correspondence. ' In this guise, it signifies discouraged retreat into a private realm of fantasy — a drift which, if neglected, may snowball into mental illness. In my opinion, May and her parents are equally in need of specialist leadership, to overcome this problem—which may take a tragic turn if it isn't treated soon. There is a psychiatric clinic at the state university medical center in your city: and I suggest you turn there for further guidance. —M.H. Mary Haworth counsels through her column, not by mail or personal interview. Write her In care of The Evening Times. (King Features Syndicate) I " — _5 m -'A •»"«•—» - -ifNHr.spp s JQW' osenbcwm $ L -*" It's a White Christmas We are pleased to announce the winners of the "Platter Prancer Design Contest The designs were judged by the famous designer, Madeleine Fauth of "Clothes for You" (to be found on Rosenbaum's Second Floor) "WHIMSEY SHOP"-Second Floor for the unusual, in gifts "TRIM-YOUR-TREE" Shop and GIFT CARDS - Street Floor FRESH HEATHER - gift boxed 1.00 - Street Floor "SANTA" on Third Floor "TOYLAND" on Fourth Floor CHRISTMAS CAROLS - at 4 P. 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