THEJ3ALINA JOURNAL PARENTING TUESDAY. MAY 13, 1997 AS* V DAY CARE Old and young mingle at day care BABY Elderly enjoy being around energetic youngsters while kids see that 'aging is not all bad' ByTAHREELANE Toledo Blade TOLEDO, Ohio — Bill and Itura, whose combined ages are 183, pore over the newspaper. They share a table in an airy room decorated with colors selected for their sense of serenity: teal, salmon, and ivory. Down the hall, Dillon McKown and three pals whose ages total 15 are decorating posters on which their names are printed in 10-inch letters. The room they play in is full of brilliant colors and shapes, including a purple, green, and blue mural painted by Mr. Atomic, Toledo's zany artist twins. Together, the old and the young have just played a game of parachute in which they flipped balls on a nylon cloth, scattering them around the room and sending the children scampering after them. Spending their days as neighbors, Dillon, Itur,a, Bill, and friends intersect occasionally, to each other's delight. "I think with the younger people around, it makes you feel better than just sitting around and looking out the window," said Bill Gedeon, 88. He worked for 47 years, 7 months making molds for glassware, he said. The kids call him Grampa. "You wish you could run around that fast," he said. Days spent at Lifespan Intergenerational Day Care, Inc., in Springfield Township, Ohio, are more interesting than those spent alone at home, said Itura Bridgewater, 95. "You meet more people and it's broadening," said Bridgewater, a smartly dressed retired teacher. "This is my first experience at a place like this." Lifespan is the area's first day-care center 'for both older adults needing socialization or supervision, and children aged 5 and under. tDpened recently, it has fewer than 10 clients now but has capacity for 95 children and 50 adults. Two years in the planning, it's the $1.2 million venture and full-time jobs of Vicki and Bill Gedeon Jr., of Toledo. "This is something that I've just always wanted to do," said Gedeon, one of three registered nurses on staff. She knows first-hand that adult day care is an alternative that can help someone continue to live independently. She and her siblings cared for their late mother, who had Alzheimer's disease, through a progression of living situations. Lifespan will also provide for people coming out of extended medical care who aren't ready to 'stay home alone. ."•''At least the family members can carry on their jobs," said Vicki Gedeon, 46. Interaction between older adults and children is optional and is usually scheduled be~fore lunch for about an hour. The building, formerly a Jehovah's Witnesses church, was redesigned to maximize interaction. Everyone enters through a common doorway. The adult wing is on the right, the children's wing to the left. Kids' rooms have large, low windows lining the hallways, allowing passersby to look in. And the adult room, V FRIENDSHIP A daughter. Shyanne Michelle, was horn April 27 to Kris and Rhonda Anderson of McPherson. The mother is a former Salinan. Grandparents are Cheryl Rogers of Salina, J.K. Rogers of Lyons and Mr. and Mrs. John L. Anderson of McPherson. Great-grandparents are Ina E. Anderson and Mr. and Mrs. Byron Morrow of McPherson. Georgina Rosproy of Belleville and the late Robert Rosproy. THEATRES For MOVIE Selections and SHOWtlMES Call: 825-91O5 We've gone world wide web 1 www.dlckinsonlheatres.com ADAM HEALY 2075 S. Ohio, Surte7B 823-7713 For auto, home and life- Being in good hands is the only pkce to be: SUNFLOWER HOME CARE 645 E. Iron / Suite F / Salina, KS 913-825-9220 /1-800-826-0786 • Skilled Nursing • TLC Services • Home Health Aide • Physical Therapy/ Occupational Therapy Scripps Howard News Service Bill Gedeon, 88, lifts up a portion of a huge parachute while children play under the chute. Old and young spend an hour together before lunch at Lifespan Intergenerational Day Care Inc., in Springfield Township, Ohio. loosely arranged into several pods with reclining furniture, opens onto a large, piney yard with a 300-foot sidewalk. "The whole philosophy is to introduce children to older adults and to give older adults the pleasure of seeing children every day," said Gedeon. "It helps educate the child that it's not all bad to age." Staff assigned to children and adults are present during times the two groups are together, and seven surveillance cameras in various rooms provide additional security, she said. Absent from the adult room is a television, although there is one on the premises. "It's not stimulating. It's passive, and we're not here to not stimulate them," she said. Hard to blend age groups Generations have mixed since time immemorial, but less so as populations moved from rural to urban areas and cars provided mobility. Nevertheless, few facilities blend age groups. "People talk about it a lot, but it's very hard to do," said Mary Brugger Murphy, acting director of the National Adult Day Services Association at the National Center for the Aging. "You're serving two different populations." Americans have embraced day care for children but not for adults, said Ruth Beckerman- Rodau, executive director of the Alzheimer's Association of Northwest Ohio. "The concept is not well understood by the general public," she said, adding that several local centers have been unable to keep their doors open. "The market won't bear the cost," she said. Ohio has a handful of mixed-generation day centers, the oldest of which may be the one Merle Griff started in 1986 in Canton. Located in an old school building, the McKinley Centre includes assisted living, a nursing home, and a children's day care. Dr. Griffs adult day-care business serves about 50, including those needing help with tasks such as bathing or toileting, people who have Alzheimer's disease, and a handful who are independent but want socialization. She does not own the child care center. "In order to do intergenerational programs well you have to have experience and training both with children and with adults, and that has not been a common combination," Griff said. IL6STON€_ chimney and stove store 545 S. Fifth /Salina. K5 Steve Miles & Jim Kerby Children vary in ability to make friends LINDA LEWIS GRIFFITH Scripps Howard News Service Parents can help by .exposing child to those with similar interests "My nine-year-old daughter doesn't have any friends," complains Lynette. "She sits by herself during lunch and recess, and tells me nobody A wants to play with her after school." 1 Social skills are as important to children's success and happiness as are the mastery of language and , mathematical abilities. Socially , adept youngsters possess higher self-esteem, experience greater • satisfaction in school and are in', yolved in fewer playground and Cafeteria altercations than their less proficient classmates. .. But just as boys and girls differ , in,their academic prowess, so do ,they;vary in their abilities to get .alipni with others. Some youngsters naturally blend with fellow stuHents, while others continually fftiL'to fit in. . L Such difficulties often confound garents. While most folks are comfortable helping their youngsters • ,^earn the three Rs, they may be , stymied when it comes to teaching children how to make friends. To make matters worse, many socially,'unskilled boys and girls have -parents who also struggled to l imake friends. Watching offspring experience continual rejection ';oan trigger painful memories in .'these moms and dads and elicit '; slrong desires to shelter their chil- dren from further suffering. But such tactics seldom prove useful. Rather than helping students interact more successfully with their peers, parental overprotection makes children feel incompetent, prevents them from developing interpersonal skills and further isolates them from their classmates. Fortunately, there are steps moms and dads can take to help their youngsters make friends. These strategies work best when parents remain calm and avoid taking the issue too seriously. Social skills — like relationships — evolve slowly, in their own manner and in their own time. Arrange for friends to come to your house. Select one youngster at a time to minimize interpersonal conflicts. Choose a friend both you and your child agree will be an amiable playmate. Discuss several possible activities they both might enjoy, then arrange for those activities to be available. Such general planning provides kids with something they can easily do together, and cuts down on awkward, "What-are-we-going-to- do-now?" time. Keep expectations to a minimum. Don't envision each encounter turning into a life-long relationship. The goal is simply to arrange opportunities for your child to have time with friends and foster skills. Some friendships may work out, others won't. Either way, they're no reflection on parental competence or your youngster's innate worth. Allow your child to have large blocks of free, unscheduled time. Friendships take lots of time to grow. Continual exposure and availability are contributing factors. Avoid over scheduling youngsters with daycare, piano lessons or horseback riding. If your son or daughter only lives with you part time, make sure they have ample opportunity to blend in with neighboring playmates. Involve your child in social activities. Group events, such as Brownies, Sunday school, ski club and youth group, expose youngsters to boys and girls with similar interests. Children have opportunities to become acquainted with- out the pressures of one-on-one interaction. Structured activities provide rules and guidelines for getting along together. And continual, weekly exposure offers fertile ground for relationships to grow. Accept your child as is. In spite of all your efforts, some youngsters still remain loners. Showing them that self-worth is not measured by popularity teaches them to be comfortable with themselves while saying, "I love you just the way you are." 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