The Austin Daily Herald from Austin, Minnesota on December 29, 1958 · Page 7
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The Austin Daily Herald from Austin, Minnesota · Page 7

Austin, Minnesota
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Monday, December 29, 1958
Page 7
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Both Sides of the Problem By ANN LANTJtittS » ... • ""™^"*'*T** —— . » y «•»•• M»VWB ^ *•»« v** 0W T«* *•«! Deaf Rwtewt OHCI in A blue husband from itwdltts turn feel- fawn 1 will devote an entire column to a tingle letter. 1 do this when the letter it, i« my opinion, one of «rtr1»rtiiijafy inter* est to a great many people. Today the moon is bhle.-ANN LAN- DERfl -' Dear Ann: Why do you constant* ly advocate segregation? I am referring to your stand that elderly members of the,™ family be shipped Ann Landeri off to the old folks home. The problem of aged parents has been with us since the Stone Age. It has never been borne so lightly by any generation as the current one. And your advice, Mrs. Landers, hasn't done much to promote family peace and harmony. Grandfather's chair has been a respected if not revered institution in a great number of American families since Plymouth Rock and Jamestown. Your automatic suggestion that children pool their funds and send mama and papa , to an institution shows little compassion and no understanding. (I am fortunate. I have money and could well afford to pay my own way in the best of the institutions for the aged. But I have reason to believe my children slave year after yeat to* savf her ings. In some instances the older person has lost contact with reality afKUs unable to identify his surrounding! or the people Who are caring for him at great personal sacrifice, tinder these circumstances home care makes no sense whatever. 'Hot all older folks are a problem. Some are hale, hearty, cheerful, helpful and a source of genuine pleasure to those around them. If they went off to a home for the aged they would be sorely missed. But t don't hear about these people very often'-became this 18 a problem column. Remember? -ANN LANDERS To learn the difference between A marriage that "settles down 11 and one that "gets'dull," send for Ann Landers' booklet, "What To Expect from Marriage," enclosing with your request 20 cents in coin and a large, self-addressed, stamped envelope. (Ann Landers will be glad to help you with your problems. Send them to her in care of THE HERALD enclosing a stamped, self- addressed envelope.) Miss Delores Wolf el What Is Your Becomes Bride of Gene Cafdurek Miss Delores Wolfe, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Charles Dockham, Austin Rt. 1, and Gene Cafourek, son of Mr. and Mrs. Rudy Cafourek, Highway 218 North, were married Saturday, The wedding took place at St. Paul's Lutheran Church, the Rev. David Kock performing the ceremony at 2 p.m. Mrs. Kock was soloist, accompanied by Lloyd Egtvet. Given in marriage by her father, the bride wore a street-length dress of light beige lace with ac would prefer to have me live with cessories to match and a corsage f nntv* no lf\nrv A« 4U.n *.«.«.*! T «»..) r\f vtAllsitt* **»V«»4-*s nl**l* M«*J !_.._._ them as long as the good Lord allows. Why do you create doubts in the hearts of elderly people who feel of yellow, white, pink and laven der carnations and yellow roses. . Miss Donna Cafourek was'maid of honor wearing a beige lace secure and content with their fam-1 dress with royal blue accessories ilies? I think you do untold harm. Will you print this letter please? You claim to be fair. We see. — GERIATRIC G. shall Dear G. G.: You write so well. It's a shame you don't read. This is a problem column. People who write usually do so because they are having trouble of one sort or another. In regard to aged parents, it is rare indeed thnt I get a letter saying "I just love my 82 - year - old mother • in- law." "Cramps is a joy to have around the house." Because of the nature of this column, I get the beefs — not the bouquets. People write when things are bad — not good. Although no two problems are exactly alike, a thread of similarity runs through many of the letters dealing with aged parents. More often than not, one son or daughter ii saddled with the total responsibility for one or both parents while several brothers and sisters refuse flatly to help out in any way whatever. In some cases the parent is meddlesome, erochety or an out and-out trouble-maker. I've had many letters from harrassed daughters-in-law who describe the back-breaking job of caring for an older person who is physically incapacitated, childish, and not in control of his faculties. One woman wrote recently, "I lov« my father-in-law dearly, but I'm afraid if I don't get some help 111 die before he does. He's 79 years old, has no sight and I must care for him like an infant. He belongs in a nursing home where he can get proper attention. But my husband says 'My father jwill die in the home of his loved ones. We'll send him to * nursing home over my dead body.' Well, Ann, I'm afraid it will be over my dead body!" In such cases I strongly advise the wife to get moral support from her clergyman. Often he can make the husband see the light. No woman should be a 24-hour For Smart Women PRINTED PATTERN and a corsage of roses and carnations. Charles Wolfe Jr. was bestman and Kenneth Dockham and Daryl Richardson were ushers, Mrs. Dockham wore a black Growing-Up Quotient? By VIVIAN BROWN "There seems to be a defeatist attitude overwhelming our teenagers," .writes a mother. "If they do not make some sort of major conquest by the time they are in high school, they feel cheated, and determined to do something that will shock their elders into realizing they are around. Why is this so, I keep asking myself." Every generation seems to have a major share of young people who become bored with routine, and who feel they haven't lived unles they taste of adventure. So in the flapper era we had powder, paint, cigarette smoking, bobbed hair. Today it is hot-rod cars, steady dating, all-night prom parties and the duck-tail hairdo, and today's mother gets the same "they're all doing it" explanation Extroverts trigger off these fads and fancies usually, and other young people follow along sheep- velvet dress with navy blue ac- ' ike > happy for the diversion. It's cessories and corsage of red roses P art P f gr-wing up, the restles- and white carnations. The groom's ness> T" 611 one day, maybe, they mother was attired in a dress O fi become y°ung individualists. black 'and white metallic cloth with ! An y m °d e m mom can tell whe- black accessories and corsage ofj ther offspring is on the road to _!_!_ _. __ 1 __ V *i_ __ .it . . I HI Ilf llflrV 111 of l>tt svViflQt**M*irV *r*Vi<-> pink and white carnations and red roses. A reception for 50 guests was held at the Dockham home. Mrs. Charles Wolfe Jr. and Mrs. Donald Wolfe served refreshments as Mrs. Ernest Pechacek poured. Miss Lois Cafourke was in charge of the gifts. After a short trip, Mr. and Mrs Cafourek will be at home at' 916V4 Lansing. | maturity, just by observing whe ther they are inching up in grow th. Here are some test questions for teen-agers: Growing Up 1 Can you lend a helping hand in school work, without worrying aid come competition? 2. Would you comfort an enemy 'atricia Schroeder, Richard Duncomb Wad at Holy Cross Church, Sunday Holy Cross Lutheran Church at 2:30 p.m. Sunday was the scene of the marriage of Miss Patricia Aflfl'SchMieder arid Richard Ed- Win Duncomb. The bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. franklin Schroeder, 2100 Deneen, and the frown's parents are Mr. and Mrs. lolph Duncomb, St. Ansgar. The Rev. H. C. Bentrup per- termed the ceremony and Mrs. Darold Yost accompanied the solo- st, Marvin Moe, A gowrj of embroidered lace over slipper satin, made by her mother, was worn by the bride, given n marriage by her father. It was ashioned with a scalloped neck- ine and hemline edged with seed pearls. Her fingertip veil was held with a tiara of pearls and she carried a crescent bouquet of pink and white Sweetheart roses and eathered carnations. Miss Dianne Geannakouri was maid of honor ' and bridesmaids were Miss Marlene Stewart and Miss Laura Duncomb. They wore waltz-length gowns of red velveteen and carried crescent bouquets of white Sweetheart roses and fea- thered white carnations. Kenneth Duncomb attended the groom as bestman and LaVern Nelson and Robert Hall wire groomsmen. Ushers were Mark Schroeder and Laurence Duncomb. Mrs. Schroeder wad attired In a cocoa brown dress with winter white accessories and corsage of yellow Sweetheart roses. The groom's mother wore a navy blue dress with white accessories and corsage of pink Sweetheart roses. A recpetion was held in the church parlors. Those who served refreshments were Miss Terry Jepson, Miss Nancy Trueter, Miss Peggy Wolf, Miss, ^ean Nelson. Miss Janice Kraft'and Miss Kay Nelson poured as Mrs. Clara Kenfield cut the wedding cake. Miss Phyllis Schroeder served at the punch bowl, Mrs. Harvey Heimer was at the guest book and Miss Janet Rappe and Miss Joyce Anderst displayed the gifts. After a short trip, Mr. and Mrs. Duncomb will be at home in rural St. Ansgar. For travel, the bride wore a blue and black two-piece 1 dress with black accessories. Six Mile Grove Lutheran Church Is Scene of Lee-Eggen Wedding •> n~ » , >. , • • 3< °° y ° U get fun out of glvmg ' or do you resent the fact that there are such budget - breakers as birthdays, Christmas, etc.? 4. Could you give up a date evening to help a sick friend? 5. Can you compliment a person who is better-equipped thatj you to merit the praise, or do you resent their good luck? 6. Is it easy for you to admit your wrong, or do you stew over how you can wiggle out of a mistake? 7. Do you feel you absolutely need make up on your face or you just can't be- seen in broad daylight, even though you are pretty? 8. Could you part with your last dime if some one needed it? 9. Are you a prima donna, the type who resents mother making a constructive suggestion or a date coming a few minutes late, even though he may have a legitimate excuse? Maturity Test 10. Can you tolerate people not of your generation, older people and children? 11. Do you spend a great deal of time dreaming, rather than engaging in physical exercise or a hobby? 1Z Can you understand the other fellow's viewpoint or are you always trying to convert people to your way of thinking? 13. When the crowd is organizing a project, do you hold out for something you prefer, even though you are in the minority, or do you go along in the best interests of the group? 14. Are you a cry baby? if you resort to ' tears every time something goes slightly awry, you- ve still got to learn to' take it. 15. Can you make decisions? if you postpone making up your mind about things, It's probably Because you do not trust your own judgment. All of New England and the state of New Jersey could fit within the borders of Nebraska. MARY KAY KELLY Mary Kay Kelly and Ronald Earl Engaged to Marry Mr. and Mrs. Walter R. Kelly, 1309 Freeborn, announce the engagement of their daughter, Mary Kay, to Ronald Earl, son of Mr. and Mrs. Vernon J. Smith, 2106 E. Wlnona. No date has been set for the weding. COLUMNIST DIES WASHINGTON (AP) - Frederick C. Othman, 53, Washington columnist for the United Feature Syndicate, died Saturday of a heart ailment. He had been with the United Press for 22 years before joining the United Feature Syndicate. He was born in St. Louis. TRUSTEE DIES TOLEDO, Ohio (AP) — C. Jus-, tus Wilcox, 79, managing trustee of the Libbey Estates Corp., which administers the interests of the late Edward Drummond Libbey, died Saturday. He also was a board member of Libbey-Owens- Ford Glass Co. and of the Owens- Illinois Glass Co. Miss Beverly Eggen, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Walter Eggen, Lyle, and Lawrence Lee, son of Mr. and Mrs. Elmer Lee, Otisco, Minn., were married Friday at Six Mils Grove Lutheran Church, near Lyle. The Rev. William P. Lehman performed the ceremony at 2 p.m. James Olswold, Austin, was soloist, accompanied by Mrs. Harold Thompson, BluS Earth. A gown of Chantilly lace was worn by the bride, gUren in marriage by her father. It was styled with a round neckline edged with seed pearls and a full skirt ending in a chapel train. A coronet held her veil of illusion net and she carried a white orchid on a Bible. Miss Marian Schmidt was maid of honor wearing a floor-length gown of red velveteen. The brides maids, Mrs. Robert Yess, Clarks Grove, sister of the groom, and Mrs. James Weber, Austin, woae gowns identical to that of Miss Schmidt. Each attendant carried a white velvet muff with holly. As flower girl, Laurel Kay Olson, Albert Lea, wore a red velveteen dress. The ringbearer was Douglas Yess, nephew of t h e groom. Clair Dahl, Albert Lea, was bestman and Merle Eggen, St. Paul, brother of the bride, and Leslie Melgard, Otisco, were groomsmen. Ushers were Clyde Robert Nelson, Mankato, and Robert Yess, Clarks Grove. ., Mrs. Eggen wore a blue knit dress with blue and white accessories and the groom's mother was attired in a dress of tan wool with brown and white accessories. Their corsages were of white carnations and holly. Two hundred guests attended the reception held at Trinity Lutheran Parish Center, Lyle. Mrs. Newell H. Nelson was hostess and Mrs. Leland Haugen and Mrs. Clyde Nelson poured as refreshments were served by Mrs. Carroll Sorenson, Miss Sylvia Lucas, Miss Lois Hanson, Mrs. Ronald Nelson, Mrs. John Manges. Mrs. Clyde Robert Nelson was in charge of the guest book and Miss Ann Bonnallie and Mrs. Roger Gerber, the gifts. Mr. and Mrs. Lee will be at home at 102 Katherine, Albert Lea, af- AUST1N (Minn.) HIRAI& f Monday, Dee. 29, 1918 I j • ' ');, ter a trip to CWtago.F«* travel, the bridtf wort a beige w*l drtto with brown reptile accessories end a white orchid corsage. Mrs. Lee is a graduate of Lyl» High School and Luther College and is a kindergarten tei&her at Albert Lea. "The groem wl» graduated from Waseca High . School and DeVry Technical Institute, Chicago. He has a radio and television service in Otisco. One of Shtbo's Cubs Dies; Others Fine ST. PAUL (AP)-One of the cubs born to Sheba, Como Park Zoo's Siberian tigress, died Sunday after being stricken with an intestinal upset. The three other kittens born to Sheba last Thursday night appear in good condition and have fair prospects of living, The one which died had been considered one of the strongest in the litter, About 250,000 acres of o p en range are burned by grass and brush fires every year in the j United States. It s not whor the kids know that porents - it's how they lfout - ,*A. For Expert Pointing and Decorating • INTERIOR • EXTERIOR CALL HE 3-8363 or HE 3-5100 FOR FREE ESTIMATES TONY WIEL 206 S. Franklin AYMONtfS AFTER-CHRISTMAS CLEARANCE Continues All This Week on *SNO-SUITS * JACKETS * COATS * DRESSES Open 'Til 9 p.m. Tonight tetter naif and *IJM — Checkmate, th* llouion . . . Creaio-reiiitant Arn«l and <atton by Triplex . , . wath and wear. I*U check combination! al black and whit* , navy and while, and red and while. 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Bond to Aunt Adam* tan of tbe Austin H«£drP*tt»n> Dost.. Ml W*»t •(.. N«w Tort 11. H. T. Flint *A»S ADDMM with COMB, #l2t2- Olngham gaiety ... Inchontlngplaid : hoi tatln ilrlpe. j Moareivllle waih ! and wear cotlon in 1 Urrocollo, pawder blue, • and antique gold. Jlzeii i 10lo20-12'/ita22V4 ' #8213 - Softly tailored i ihirfwalil... fprlng'i ' lounca Una create- ' r«ililont broadcloth.,. need* little or no A Ironing. Hue, •elal pink, lilac, pin* yellow, and navy. Slx*li10to20- PICTURE YOURSELF IN YOUR WONDER * WARDROBE ALL REMARKABLY MICED Downstairs Budg«t DressM •till •1111 ;- Slim-lined thealh . . . Uwanilein't Whalelana, drip-dry cotton ilrlpa. led, rvyal bliM, and ipua gchj. -7»t| •MM* «*»•«< tw»-p!e<* wll-d'ew ...«n« iloral «*Mo* print by Mald«lon*. Drip-dry (ail-color. layal with gray. greea with royal, red with gray. Siiati 10 »e 29

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