The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas on May 8, 1997 · Page 14
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The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas · Page 14

Salina, Kansas
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Thursday, May 8, 1997
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CJ8 THURSDAY, MAY 8, 1997 HEALTH THE SALINA JOURNAL V ORGAN DONATION EMOTIONS Kidney recipient has 'greatest gift' Majority approve of donating organs, yet few plan for it By GORDON D. FIEDLER JR. The Satiim Journal Up to 91 percent of the population believes organ donation is the right thing to do. That's according to a recent national poll, said Kim Francis, organ procurement coordinator for Midwest Organ Bank in Westwood, a suburb of Kansas City. Two Salina men, both of whom are waiting for double-lung transplants, can be counted in that number. Richard Shannon and Chris Hrabe favored organ donation, but until they were intimately involved in the process, they never thought much about being donors themselves. Marie Braasch Moore was another. Moore had known since age 17 that she had polycystic kidney disease, which ultimately caused her kidneys to fail. She was on dialysis for 5'/2 years before she received a healthy kidney in 1991. But when she was undergoing dialysis and on the kidney transplant list, organ donation wasn't something she thought about daily. Even when her first husband, Rick Braasch, a Stockton pharmacist, died in his sleep in 1990 of a heart attack at age 36, it wasn't in the front of her mind. "I had been on the waiting list for weeks and you'd think that would be the first thing I would think of," said Moore, who remarried and now lives in Salina. But it wasn't. He was buried before it occurred to her that he could have donated tissue. Had she only been asked, she laments. "Something good could have come out of Rick's death. The kids and I got cheated out of the opportunity because nobody asked." She's not alone. "We hear a dozen stories where that happened," Francis said. "People are going through the grieving process, and they rely on health-care professionals to remind them of their options." Had her husband died in a hospital, Moore would have been asked. "Any hospital that receives Medicare or Medicaid reimbursement is required to have policies in place to talk to families about donation," Francis said. However, no legal mechanism catches deaths that occur at home or in other non-hospital settings, Francis said. Organ-donation proponents continually work to rectify the public's apathy. People either don't sign organ donor cards, or sign them and forget about it, thinking it's a legal document. It's not. Survivors often can and do override that decision. "That's why we believe you should take that second step, a most important step, and talk to your family," Francis said. Team talks to families At Salina Regional Health Center, a team consisting of the patient's doctor, a hospital chaplain and a social worker will approach families to discuss organ and tissue donation. There are special "rooms of meditation" in the THEATRES For MOVIE Selections and SHOWTIMES Call: 825-91O5 We ve gone world wide web! emergency room and near the intensive care unit where the team and family can talk privately. The hospital is an advocate of organ donation, and the team tries to steer the family in that direction using a soft-sell approach. They try to dispel myths: Organ donation does not prohibit open- casket funerals, nor is it against religious beliefs. The team talks up the life-saving potential of donation and explains how one donor can affect up to 50 people. If the survivors are still opposed to donation, the hospital respects the decision and backs off. "The body always belongs to the family, the next of kin. They have ownership of it," said Sister Rose Monica Donnelly, director of the hospital's chaplaincy program. In her experience, families who haven't discussed organ donation are the ones who struggle the most when they are asked permission. "Many don't know," she said. "When they're approached cold, it's harder for the family to make up their mind." Even when the patient has signed a donor card and made those wishes known to relatives, all survivors must agree. There have been occasions when a single family member has overruled the others. "It doesn't happen often," Donnelly said. "Suppose you have adult children and no spouse or brother or sister. (The children) are the ones who speak for you. Adult children have equal value. If one says 'No, absolutely not,' we hope they could talk about it and come to some kind of decision that all would agree with." If they can't, the transplant center walks away. Marie Moore offers this suggestion: When signing a donor card or the back of your Kansas license, have it witnessed by two family members. Each time the license is renewed, have other family members witness it. In time, everyone's covered who should know your wishes. "It's a good way to bring up the subject," she said. A lack of communication can also have the opposite effect, where organs are donated against the patient's wishes. "It's usually the other way around, but once in a while it does happen," Donnelly said. "There have been times," Francis said, "when the family said (the patient) didn't want to be a donor but they felt strongly about it ... and really wanted it to happen." Moore is thankful the family of her donor felt strongly in favor of organ transplants. "I'd love to personally thank her husband and children for making the decision to do this. My life has changed so much and I'm so grateful," she said. "I didn't know how people felt until I got this kidney," she said. "I don't ever remember feeling this good. I'm never tired. I'm like a kid. I don't want to miss anything. It's the greatest gift in the whole world." 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Yes, say therapists and other observers: Anger can be contagious. Given the right circumstances, it can infect one person at time — or whole groups. And the results — both in individual health and in a community's quality of life — can be most damaging. Anger can make you sick. It can elevate your blood pressure, strain your heart, pump up your adrenaline for no useful purpose. It can manifest itself in migraine headaches, colitis, neck and lower back problems, nightmares, depression and accident-proneness. And when you make others angry, you're sharing that wealth of bad feeling. As the perennial Christmas movie "It's a Wonderful Life" makes clear, each of us touches thousands and thousands of lives in a delicate web of human connection. Poison one strand with anger, and the web carries that poison farther than you'll ever know. "I think there are a lot of angry people in the j ... world today, and a lot of "Anger is trying people who * J J *•' Jnv,'* V,mrn n to please don't have clue what's a prop- another person, er expression ,., T of anger," says We re Anita Gitlin desperately f p S dather " trying tO be workshop pre- j ;i senter in Ken- good guys all more ,N.Y. the time, and "whenaioi.of , people like that the anger comes ge t together, when we don't ^ ei:e ' s some wnen we uun i really negative measure Up." energy that's created." Betty Doty Anger often spreads in work places, because the ^ conditions are just right. You have a bunch of people under a certain amount of stress, working elbow to elbow, dealing with the boss's exceptions and their own dreams and fears and insecurities. And into that volatile cast of characters walks the guy at the next desk, who got cut off on the freeway this morning and family counselor, Redding, Calif. boy, is he seething. You might have been feeling pretty good about the day, but he starts free-associating: traffic, commuting, the working life, today's quota, the injustice of it all... and pretty soon you, Ms. Hapless Co-worker, are catching that anger bug. University at Buffalo Professor John B. Miner sees anger growing in workplaces mainly where it's perceived that employees are treated unfairly: "It probably becomes more pervasive when there is a general perception and general sharing of that anger," Miner says. "For instance, (when) management has done something that generally violates the values of people, it's viewed as unfair and everybody shares in it. Then it becomes acceptable to vent it." But there's a subtext in work situations, one that goes to the core of human frustration and explains why so many people at work seem so angry. Work is the place where we run up against people who represent missing parts of ourselves: what we could be, but aren't. The career woman meets the mother and vice-versa. The auto worker looks with suspicion on the financial analyst on the top floor, with his Saab and his threatening sheets of numbers. And all of these people feel some anger. They may not know where it's coming from — like all emotions, anger generally works below the surface — but at the end of the day they know that they're mad as hell. Then there are all those chance encounters that make up the angry fabric of our lives. The guy in the next car who drives with one hand on the wheel, the other making gestures. The jostle in a crowded elevator, without apology. The rude store clerk. The gut at the health club who sweats like Niagara Falls, but doesn't towel down the weight machines. Minor irritants all, but they accrete, into a major source of stress. So how does one avoid contagious anger? First, think back to that web of human interaction, and sow peace. Proponents of transcendental meditation have a theory: If the square root of one percent of the world's population meditated daily, we'd see an end to war. The numbers may seem daffy, but the principle works: Bite your tongue; practice faith, hope and charity, and you'll add less anger to the stew we're all boiling in. It may also be useful to rethink our whole idea of anger. Betty Doty, a family counselor in Redding, Calif., has written several books on the subject; her latest, co-authored with Pat Rooney, is "Shake the Anger Habit!" (The Bookery, $11.95), Doty proposes that instead of trying to figure each other out — just too complicated, she says — we stop trying so hard to be "good guys." "Anger," she says, "is trying to please another person. We're desperately trying to be good guys all the time, and the anger comes when we don't measure up." She says criticism, which generally provokes anger in the one criticized, "says more about where that person is coming ,,. from than about me. What I see is almost everybody in power . struggles. They think they're . the nice guy and the other guy . is doing the hurting." The way out of the trap, Doty says, is to transcend the idea that anger is necessary at all, to realize that anger results from others' expectations, not your own self-image. A person prop-, erly centered in himself, balanced in his life, has no need for anger, she says. ,,, Working through anger If you find yourself caught up .. in frustration and anger, here are some low-impact ways to work through it: . • Write it out. Keep a journal — for life, not just for anger rr ., and use it to vent your feelings. Or write a nasty letter to the Qb- . ject of your ire, making sure not ; to deliver it. • Exercise. It releases brain- • opiate chemicals that wash away bad feelings. • Chocolate. 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