Cumberland Evening Times from Cumberland, Maryland on October 24, 1955 · Page 12
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Cumberland Evening Times from Cumberland, Maryland · Page 12

Cumberland, Maryland
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Monday, October 24, 1955
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TWELVE EVENING TIMES. CUMBERLAND. RID- MONDAY, OCTOBER 24. 1955 V Counsel By Mail 'Editor's Note: nUim-bod by adopt- fd ton'* lnf»ntlUsm HI !S. woman wonders II U 15 hli niuunil heritage. . „• : DEAR MAHY HAWORTH: Is it ''possible for n cliild lo Inhcril a ' .total lack of ambliion. even wlion, * token from shiftless parents and - reared in a Rood environment? We! adopted Stan when he was 5 years old; and although he has developed Into a fine .man physically, he r'c- . -mains a child in altitudes and gen- ; cral reactions. Stan is 16. a junior in high "• pchool, and a fair student, with an >' 1C) of around 110. lie is over six -;; feet and weighs over 200 pounds. ~.i~ir-! jiy husband and 1 work hard in !' .^i;;cur small business to support our,. •«-. solves and him: but he is content i'»- 1'° '' c ^d ' a '° °" Saturday's, and • IM- «lhen go scouting or to (lie movies, "'"""•"and he expects us to provide the !•• -*i inoney. ' "''] This summer he worked just sev- ';_•••' en full days at odd intervals. We _..cvi>n had to hire the grass cut, while he read, swam or stayed " t ^.' _ :abcd. Lately we've ceased to nag or prod him, hoping lo make him ishamcd of himself. He went out for football this fall, but gave it up after 10 duys— referring to an old injury, a broken high .bone. We suspect the training vas taxing him physically, and hat he used the injury as an easy out. However, his bones do break •iilhcr readily, so maybe he did ear a football injury. Helps You Overcome FALSE TEETH \ Looseness and Worry No longer be annoyed or feel 111-at- csse because of loose, wobbly fnlse teeth. FASTEETH. an Improved alkn- . line (non-acid) powder, sprinkled on your plates holds them firmer so they feel more comfortable. Avoid embarrassment caused by loose plates. Get FASTEETH today at any drug counter. AilvcrtiMfiiitml Store Headquarters for Over 50 Years Furniture HEINHART'S 17 Baltimore Street Type tnl Likeable He never causes trouble any- vhoro and is liked by- all those he nil associate with. • He spends iiucli time alone, reading or listen- ng lo radio two don't have TV). uatcly he aspires to join the boys' up choral group in school — but says he has very little hope, really. am sure he wouldn't make the lightest effort on his own behalf. He clings lo me especially, and demands a lot of personal attention -•which 1 am almost embarrassed to give him, now. He enjoys illness, usually, for the attention he gets. He expects us to hunt him a ob, and, although we tell him nobody wants lo hire a man who can't ask for his own job, he seem- ugly can't "see" it. 1 am wondering if memories of tis own poor babyhood, plus the act that we've had poor success 'iiianciaUy of recent years, may be causing him to give up hope — on Ihe theory that it's futile lo try for For Dinner Tonite.. filet mignon $•* .45 2 VEGETABLES ROllS and BUTTER 1 SEAFOOD • DRAFT BEER • • LIQUORS • THE DOLPHIN BAR 107 N. CENTRE ST. PHONE PA 4-9821 Goodness! I know the Crystal promised that \ Sta-Nu cleaning would put new life in Bob's ^ baggy old suit, but I never expected it to "^ \ walk home. inytliing "because you won't gel t anyway. 1 ' .We,have sacrificed to give him idvanlagcs far beyond our means, o.perhaps he is spoiled. Because vc'wanted a child so badly, per- aps we loved him "not wisely but on well." Is (here anything we can lo to spur him into action, so that won't completely waste his ifc?—R. G. 'Icrcdiiy Is 'neradicable DEAR R. G.: In the lasl 20 'ears, specialists in the field of luman behavior are' incrcasinglj agreed that hereditary tendencies —or call them "predispositions"— ilay an ineradicable part in the ormaiion of individual character. There was a period, earlier in his century, when a cbntroversj vaged between two schools ol hought on the subject. One school nsistcd that heredity was inescap- ible. The other claimed, in effect, riat environment was "all" haping the person—that we enlei his world a blank check, so to. peak; and become, in sum total, he exclusive result of all the "experiences" thai are written on our :onsciousness from the moment of lirth. At one time, environmentalists elf they held the decisive cards. But gradually testimony has arisen, from authoritative sources, to ndicate that basic tendencies, to vards positive strength, or passive 'non-strength" in dealing with life are inherited. These authorities" suggest. that he best that environment can do or the inherently "non-strong" is juard them from unfavorable stresses, and guide them into pro- ectively limited but satisfactory patterns of useful. adjustment to society. In short, you can't make a diamond out of a piece of cut- glass. Person Can't Be More Than He Is Now about Stan. There is much to be said. His latter day behavior — rude, surly, dissatisfied with what you arc able to provide—is typical of most teen-agers, in the ;rip of the turning-point fever called "adolescence." So don't be loo hard 'on him about that: rather, be steady, kindly, ana. self-confident in dispensing judicious mixtures of sympathetic love and good discipline. " His disappointing behavior otherwise suggests: 1. He has been pampered unwisely, which keeps Mm infantile and dependent. 2. He 'eels profoundly discouraged aboul limself, unconsciously, due to the gap lie senses,, between his natural ibilitics and your ambitious hopes Tot him. Specialists find that persons of riieager talents, from, poor or struggling backgrounds, if pushed too hard up the social ladder, tend to lose initiative, interest, organization, etc. 1 suspect you've been trying to fashion Stan into a dream-son — a prince charming—instead of clearing ground, as it were, for him to be simply himself at par. You need first-hand day-to-day counsel, from a family relations c.xpcrt, in hitting a sensible stride with Stan. In the city through which you write there is a Family and Children's Service that might guide you.—M. H. .Mary Haworth counsels through her column, not by mail or personal Inlerview. Write to her in care of The Kvcnlnc Times. (Copyright, 1935. hy The Washington Post) :Uistrlhittof! by King Features Syndicate) StaNu DIAL PA 4-1400 Daylight saving time first was uggested by Benjamin Franklin in France during April of 1884. FUNERAL FLOWERS '5,00 BOPP'S FLOWERS 19 N. lih.rly 51. Ph. 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