Daily Times Herald EDITORIALS Monday, October 26, 1970 Seek Red Accord It is heartening to find new Indications that Americans heavily favor efforts bo reach agreement with the Soviet Union in many areas of concern. This is all the more significant because it comes at a time when U.S.-Soviet relations have been worsened by the Middle East dispute and other sources of tension. Those polled were asked whether they favored or opposed agreement between Washington and Moscow on a variety of things, ranging from exploration of outer space (62 for, 27 against) to joint action to contain China's nuclear threat (77 for, 10 against). Majorities in favor ranged up to the 79 per cent for accords to prevent European v/ars, and for exchange of scholars and cultural groups. Even the question whether it is possible for the two superpowers to agree on "controlling" wars in the world got a 51 per cent edge in favor, with 32 per cent deeming it not possible and 17 per cent undecided. The climax, in percentage terms, came on the question whether there should be a summit meeting between Soviet Chairman Kosygin and President Nixon: 80 per cent said yes. This does not mean that anything like that proportion of the American public has soberly considered the pros and cons of a summit meeting and concluded that one would be useful at this time. Similar reservations must be made with regard to some of the other questions posed: the answers are in some measure based on wishful thinking rather than judicious assessment. The outcome is highly encouraging, all the same. It shows that Americans, far from being blindly hostile toward the Soviet Union or hopeless about tiie prospects for better relations, favor a sustained effort to work out substantive agreements on important questions. Lesser of Evils President Julius Nyerere of Tanzania has warned Western powers that the continued sale of arms to South Africa will drive African countries into the arms of flhe Communists. This is one threat which the United States can view with some equanimity, for one South Africa is worth more than a dozen divided, struggling, developing Black African countries in terms of the political stability of that continent and as an ally in the event of trouble there with the Soviet Union. This is a bitter truth (or anyone who abhors South Africa's inhuman policy of racial apartheid, and all decent men . abhor it. But weakening South Africa militarily or politically would not end that system — indeed, could make inevitable the bloody racial war many have long been predicting and which some, undouoted- ly, would like to see. The same is true of an economic boycott. Those who, with the best intentions in the world, demand that U.S. firms stop investing in South Africa, are not helping the victims of apartheid. South A f r i c a's economic boom has been an ideological embarrassment to •the white government. The accompanying labor shortage has done more to better the lot of the black majority and to weaken the absurd residence and employment laws than any amount of impassioned preaching from American pulpits. Those who really care about black Africans, everywhere in Africa, should actually be clamoring that we do all we can to keep South Africa strong and prosperous. Bug Goes Along Something curious is happening in the area of automotive safety. In the United States the federal government has taken the lead, setting the standards and requiring auto makers to comply with them within certain time limits. In Europe, auto makers have taken the lead while governments have lagged in setting standards. A case in point is provided by the Volkswagen company, which has just announced that it is developing a prototype car to meet forthcoming U.S. safety requirements. That will place it far ahead of anything European law requires. In fairness to American manufacturers it must be noted that the Volkswagen people are not just being noble and altruistic. They export more cars to the United States than any other European manufacturer. They want to go on being Number One in this regard. Ergo, they're busy going along with the U.S. highway safety impetus. Bull's-Eye—I Think!" Dear Abby AAMSSM Washington Notebook —Felt Red Knife in Back By Ray Cromley WASHINGTON (NEA) — This reporter has had long private talks recently with Mr. Do Quang Giai (pronounced Zai), whom some Americans refer to as the "Senator Fulbright of South Vietnam." Like Fulbright, Giai is chairman of his country's Senate Foreign Relations Committee. And he's a leading and vocal political opponent of his country's president and bis administration. (Actually, Giai is the deputy chief of the major opposition bloc in the Senate.) But there the similarity ends. Giai is violently anti-Hanoi. He is a vice-president of South Vetnam's anti- Communist League. Though he's willing to give the vote and the privilege of running for office to South Vietnam ]$ Communists if they pledge themselves to renounce force, he firmly believes the Communists will not be willing to lay down their arms and live in peace. Giai thinks President Nixon's disengagement policy is well-conceived and well carried out. Now there are several reasons why Giai does not see eye to eye with his American counterpart, Fulbright. For one, three of Giai's sons, nationalist guerrillas in the war for independence against France, were killed by Ho Chi Minh's Communists. They were not killed in battle but during a period of truce at a time when the Communists and nationalists were allies. One son made the mistake of advocating continued resistance to the French during a period when Ho secretly had allied himself with Paris (while publicly proclaiming unity wth the nationalists and war against the "foreign colonizer") in order to use French arms and French help to destroy the nationalists. The Communists preferred destroying the revolution if the revolution would not mean a Communist-ran government. Another son was picked up and jailed by the Communists, also d u r in g the truce. So far as Giai was able to find out, he was never charged with- a crime. But he was killed in prison. A third son disappeared in the interior of North Vietnam. Giai, after persistent searching, discovered that this son, too, had been murdered by the Communists. . Giai was mayor of Hanoi when the Communists took over after the end of the war with France. He saw the setting up of the coalition government. He watched but could do nothing as 46 non- Communist deputies in the: national coalition legislature (all but two of the non-Communists in the legislature) were, one by one, killed or kidnaped by Ho's men. This taught him a lesson in what the Communists mean by coalition government. Giai fled south. When one listens to Giai talk in his quiet voice, one sees the obvious personal modesty and sincerity and thinks of the troubles he and others who have tried to work with the Communists have been through, it is difficult to see how the Paris talks could reach any agreement which has any hope of succeeding. For how can these men trust a coalition? Or how can other men trust a coalition, knowing of these experiences? Can one honestly say the men in Hanoi have changed? Is there evidence of this? And if there ils no evidence, then how is lasting peace to be achieved except by helping the South Vietnamese to build themselves politically and economically to a point where the war winds down simply because the Communists do not have the strength to force their will? Woman's World A Blow for Mother's Lib Cooler weather brings on the queries of young mothers who face the prospect of being trapped within four cozy walls. They are asking, "Is this all there IS?" For the young mother who spends most of her waking hours cleaning shoe polish off the basement walls as she sighs, "Thank heavens, he didn't spray it in his eyes!" all I can tell her is, No, this isn't all there is. There's the mess little Susan made on the bathroom sink with the striped toothpaste, and, as soon as you've finished that up, you'll notice the garbage on the kitchen floor. Quick Quiz Q What event inspired Chopin to write his famous "Funeral March" (Sonata, Opus 35)? A — The march dees not express grief over the death of an individual, but expresses the Polish composer's feelings over the loss of the independence of his native land. Q — What species of fish is used «s a candle? A. — The euiachon found in the regions of the northern Pacific, is so fat and oily that when dried it can be used as a candle by merely drawing a wick through it. • Most of these women are careful to) mention how very much they do love their children. After all, they know any mother who doesn't whoop with delight over the prospect of spending 24 solid hours a. day trapped inside the house with preschoolers is regarded with suspicion. They know that in this country "young motherhood" is considered an exalted position — one preceded in honor only by a Girl Scout holding a piece of apple pie while she salutes the flag. However, the important thing is learning how to live into OLD motherhood and how to reach that point in life with a mind reasonably intact. I see no reason to waste time giving tips, such as how to lock up the toothpaste or how to set the gargage on top of the refrigerator. They already know — By Betty Canary these things. They also know kids who can pick locks designed to mysfity Houdini and kids who can push chairs and stand on them and make a bigger mess by spilling garbage on themselves as well as the floor. I can tell them the. most, successful old mothers I know got that way by thinking of themselves almost as often as they thought of others. They didn't survive by being soft. They may have looked soft on the outside, but, inside, they're strung together with piano wire. They didn't "find" time, they made time for themselves, even if, at first, it was only an hour a day. (You can always hire a sitter for an hour. Take the money from the grocery budget and list it under Food for Thought.) The successful; woman learns early on that making herself into a blotter for the family is not the key to a long or happy life. I'll admit it is easier to play the role of Woman as Blotter. You begin by soaking up your husband's thoughts instead of thinking on your own. Continue by letting the children's interests rub off on you instead of pursuing your own interests. During the early years as a WAB, you'll have a sense of purpose, what with being so useful. After awhile, however, one is likely to become a worn- out, frayed, blue, smudged sort of female without any identity to call her own. They Have Perfect Marriage, Except... By Abigail Van Buren Abby Van Buren DEAR ABBY: I am 40 and well established in the college teaching profession, married and have two children. My wife and I were childhood sweethearts. We are active in church and community affairs. Ours is a truly good marriage except for one thing: Our sex life has gradually come to a standstill. We have talked about it, especially in the light of my being more fit, vigorous and energetic than most men my age. She says she cannot help it — the spark just isn't there anymore. It's not menopause either. Otherwise we are compatible. We hardly ever argue and we never fight. We still say to each other, "I love you." And we really mean it. I recently met a woman of beauty and breeding. I am positive that this woman would be my mistress if I asked her to. Why should I not allow such an alliance to develop? ABOUT TO JUMP DEAR ABOUT: Because your "solution" would present more problems than the problem itself. You say yours is a truly good marriage — and you "love" each other. Have you insisted that your wife see her doctor to find out what's new in the "spark-reviving" department? (Or are you accepting her indifference in order to justify taking up with someone else?) Also, this woman of "beauty and breeding" must have feelings, which might lead her to becoming emotionally involved with you. Then what? You boast of being more energetic and vigorous than most men your age. How about showing some real manliness and strength and sticking to your marriage vows? Isn't that what you would expect your wife to do if your batteries went dead? DEAR ABBY: When we were married, a friend gave us a nice wedding gift. When she discovered it was a duplicate of one we had already received, she offered to take it back and exchange it for something else. She even asked me what I needed, and I told her. Several months passed and no sign of a gift. Then I ran into this person accidentally, and she immediately remembered that she hadn't replaced the gift. She apologized all over the place saying she had "forgotten." Again she asked me what I needed, and again I told her. Well, it's been over a year now, and still no gift! I suppose she "forgot" again. Should I remind her? STILL WAITING DEAR STILL: No. Look at it this way. You started with no gift from her, and you still have no gift. So you aren't out anything. DEAR ABBY: I am a 24-year-old girl who has just learned that I must have dentures. I have already accepted this fact so that isn't my problem. I carry insurance which will pay fon my dentures, but my problem is that there is a real big mouth in our insurance department and I am sure she will tell everybody in.the office that I am getting false teeth. I would almost rather pay for them myself. Is there a solution? FALSIES AT 24 DEAR PALSIES: Oddly enough, some big mouths also have big hearts, so why not "confide" in her and appeal to her sense of honor and kindness? I'll bet she rises to the occasion and keeps her mouth shut. (P. S. If at age 24, I were told I had to have dentures, I would check with the best dentist in town, and maybe two dentists just to be sure. The better the dentist, the harder he will try to save teeth.) ft DEAR ABBY: I have been married,' for 20 years to a serviceman and have traveled around and lived in many different cities. I have worked most of the time and have never gotten very friendly with neighbors until we moved to this city two years ago. I have a very lose friend now who is a neighbor of mine. She's a divorcee. My husband is presently overseas so. this neighbor and I are together a lot. We heard from a friend (who is willing to go to court and testify if we want her to) that someone we know said that this neighbor and I have a romantic "thing" going between us. The person who started that story is supposed to be a good Christian. Of course it is vicious gossip, but we are told it is all over town. I would like to know the best way to handle it. BOILING MAD DEAR BOILING: If I were you, I would forget it. People of quality do not believe such stories, so why should you become upset over something which has no more meaning than the barking dogs? DEAR ABBY: It's late and I have to be to work early in the morning, but I just had to write this to "Undecided" who saw one of her best friend's husband out with another woman. "Keep your mouth shut! Do you think the wife will stop loving him because of his? No, she won't. She may leave him, and even if she doesn't, things will never be the same between them. One thing, for sure, she will never thank you for having told her. In time she will resent you for telling her." I know what I am talking about, Abby, because tonight I sit alone in a house, not a home, for I had one "friend" too many. LONESOME Your Health Smoke Cigarettes, Suffer By Lawrence E. Lamb, M.D. Dr. L. Dear Doctor — I've heard that iso metric exercises are good for you. What are isometric exercises? Are they good for the heart? Dear Reader — Isometric exercises are those that involve tensing, a muscle without moving it. As an example, hold out your arm and tense all the muscles in the arm and hand, making the arm and hand rigid. This E. Lamb form °* tensin g is an isometric exercise. The opposing muscles work or contract against each other. If the muscle moves, like in running, push-ups or any exercise causing lengthening or shortening of the muscle, it is NOT isometric. Isometric exercises firm up the muscles and increase their strength. It is doubtful that they help the heart and circulation in the way walking, jogging or active exercises do. Cigarettes are high on the list of our "civilized" habits associated with poor health. Cigarette consumption in the United States increased parallel to the rise in heart and vascular disease. Fatty deposits in the arteries and cigarettes Polly's Pointers To Fix Chipped Glass By Polly Cramer Polly Cramer DEAR POLLY — I am answering Doreen who did not know what to do with the chipped rims on her crystal champagne glasses. My aunt solved a similar prob- . lem by taking her glasses to a local jeweler and having the tops ground. This was quite inexpensive. While there is a slight difference in the height >f the glasses, as some chips were deeper than others, this is not noticeable when they are in use, just when stored next to each other on a shelf. —MRS. D. L. R. DEAR POLLY — I want to tell Doreen that I have removed sharp edges from nicks in crystal with an emery board. I carefully use the fine side of the board until the sharpness is dull or smooth to the touch. A fine jeweler told me to do this. -ETHEL POLLY'S PROBLEM DEAR POLLY — I would like some suggestions from the readers as to how they "set" colors in garments they are dyeing at home. When I dye anything the colors run until I am back to the original color. —JEAN DEAR JEAN — I am sure the girls will come up with some helpful Pointers for you but I wonder if you carefully read and then follow the directions that are on the dye package. —POLLY step ladder Is needed as you can reach while standing on the floor. —S. E. G. DEAR POLLY — Since boots have become an important part of many women's wardrobes, storing them in a closet has presented problems. Instead of of keeping mine in the large boxes in which they come. I hang them from a multiple skirt hanger. This keeps them in shape and off the floor and shelves so I have a neater closet. -ADRIENNE You will receive a dollar if Polly uses your favorite homemaking idea, Polly's Problem or solution to a problem. Write Polly in care of this newspaper. were both rare before 1900. Only 4 billion cigarettes were manufactured in 1900 while the current level is 580 billion annually, or 145 times as many. Cigarette smoking is a fairly recently acquired habit. Cigars, pipes, chewing tobacco and snuff used to be the major form of tobacco consumption. You may associate cigarette smoking with lung cancer. But that is just the tip of the iceberg. They are implicated in a host of other diseases. The U.S. Depart-' ment of Public Health points out that there are a million more people with chronic lung disease than there would be if everyone had the same rate observed in nonsmokers. If you are a heavy smoker your chances of dropping dead or having a heart attack are increased about three times over the likelihood in nonsmokers. There is a relationship between peptic ulcers and cigarette, smoking. There are over a million more people with peptic ulcers each year than would occur at rates observed in nonsmokers. The more cigarettes you smoke the greater likelihood you will have a peptic ulcer. Even if you escape an actual ulcer you may develop a lot of trouble with your stomach that is akin to the difficulties associated with ulcers. If you want to live a short life, cigarettes will help. A 25-year-old man who smokes two packs a day, on the average, will live eight years less than a comparable nonsmoker. The more cigarettes you smoke the greater your likelihood of an early death. Cigarette smoking has decreased in both American men and women. Over 70 per cent of all men used to smoke. Now only 51 per cent smoke. Women cigarette smokers have decreased from 40 per cent to 34 per cent. Cigarette smoking for American men and women has decreased from 55 per cent to the current figure of 42 per cent. Since fewer young people are smoking today, there is reason to hope the rate will drop still farther. The biggest strides in cutting back cigarette smoking have been observed in people who are better educated than others. Thus cigarette smoking is more and more getting to be a mark of the nonachiever or less-intelligent person. It is said that bees never sting unless" provoked. If that's so, then the bees in' our neighborhood carry grudges for days and days. DEAR POLLY — To get rid of those cobwebs that will be gathering on the walls and ceiling this winter, cut nylon net scraps into any large shape. Tie them securely to the end of a yardstick, mop or broom handle and just brush the net carefully and lightly over the hanging web. This will leave no mark. No "Name, class and student identification umber!"
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