The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas on April 29, 1997 · Page 5
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SALINA JOURNAL PARENTING TUESDAY, APRIL 29. 1997 AB -T-TIME MANAGEMENT A daughter, Alexa Darann, was born April 8 to Phil and Sharon Smith of Great Bend. Grandparents are Dale and Doris Brown, 1103 Westchester Drive, Salina, and Xen and Evelyn Smith of Great Bend. * * * A daughter, Calle Layne, was born April 8 to Salinans Daryn and Lynn Blaha. Grandparents are Elaine Cham- bers of Garden City, and the late Don Robben, and Salinans Clarence and Donna Blaha. • • • A son, Connor Kent, was born April 3 to Salinans Keith and Sandi Martens, 426 Camden Drive. , Grandparents are Max and Loretta Graber of Salina and Mildred Martens of Hesston. Great-grandmothers are Wilma Graber of North Newton and Annie Goertzen of Newton. "" . Photos by Scripps Howard News Service Anthony Siracusa, 12, of Memphis, Tenn., is woken by his mother at 6:15 each morning before school, and then the timer begins to tick. His mother makes him set a timer for each stage of getting ready to make things run more smoothly. Reduce the morning hassle families organize clothing the flight before and keep all their Necessary items by the door By DEBORAH WHITE Scripps Howard News Service .., ^MEMPHIS, Tenn. — Weekday mornings Used' to be an ordeal for Laura Siracusa and . her two children. ,," tier son and daughter listened to the TV and .,;t$dio instead of getting dressed. Anthony, 12, .,'tjbpk 30-minute showers. Natalie, 10, stayed in • IfiGV'room with the door locked. <'.' There were fights, tears, spankings. "It's been bad. I have gone to work crying. ,,They have gone to school crying," said Laura, . 43i'a petite single mother who works as a city "cburt clerk. .''"'At the beginning of the school year, Laura .decided it was time for a big change. She took the kids out of school, took them to lunch and ^said,, "We can't live this way anymore." "' The first day of the new routine, Laura set a ,timer for Anthony. As he headed for the show- ,.er,.she said, "Son, you have 10 minutes." Then she'set the timer for 20 minutes as he got dressed and cleaned his room. She banned lodked doors and made TV or radio off-limits until the kids were completely ready. Anthony and Natalie get up at 6:15 a.m., 1V4 hours before they leave for their schools in suburban Memphis. Now they're usually ready at least 30 minutes before they get in the car. The new routine is all right, both kids say, With little enthusiasm. But after a pause, An- "thbny said, "It ends up to be a better day" if you get up early. Natalie agreed. ,,, Along with the new rules, Laura decided to .;j.ighten up a bit from her perfectionist ways. t '^When you chill out, your kids tend to chill '.'out," she says. ', -Mornings can be the most stressful time of . 'day'for families, particularly for parents who ; work outside the home, says Barbara Blumenthal, who teaches a variety of parenting class- r es as program coordinator for the Parenting Anthony Siracusa's timer is set for each stage of getting ready —10 minutes for the shower and 20 minutes for dressing and cleaning his room. Center. "Children won't get up," says Cathy Faust, a home economist with the University of Tennessee Agricultural Extension Service, whose job includes teaching classes about how to get organized. "People are lagging behind." Then there's the TV, not knowing what to wear, misplacing things. "It's like a vicious cycle." Faust was among the 30 readers who responded when asked to share tips on how to make mornings go more smoothly. Preparing as much as possible the night before and keeping crucial items near the door were the most frequently mentioned strategies. Acted like Tazmanlan devils But for one family, arriving at a more organized approach was especially tough. "Up until two months ago we were Tazmanian devils in the morning. We all slept late, we all ran through the house screaming, no one could find anything," says Jeannette Campbell, 49, a medical transcriptionist for St. Jude Children's Research Hospital. The low point came in September when Jeannette and her 17-year-old daughter, Samantha Siebert, were frantically styling their hair together in one bathroom. Jeannette was using the blow dryer and Samantha was spraying her hair when suddenly Jeannette's hair caught on fire. "Sam was screaming, the dog was barking. My hair was on fire and everyone else was saying we're going to be five minutes late." The next day, Jeannette decided it was time for a morning overhaul. Not only did her short blonde hairdo have a big hunk gone in the back, Jeannette was also fed up with her hus- ' band, Joe, and Samantha waiting until way too late to get up. She knew they couldn't stand her high voice escalating to a squeaky scream when she panicked about the time. So she announced, "If you don't wake up tomorrow morning, I'm not going to wake you." She set alarms for Samantha and Joe. The alarms went off, but they didn't get up. Jeannette left for work anyway. By the time Joe woke up, it was 10:30 a.m. Samantha slept until 12:30 p.m. "They were furious," says Jeannette. But she had warned them. She said if they wanted her to wake them up, they were going to have to cooperate with her. "I had 'em over a barrel," she says. She started with a businesslike approach. "I wrote a contract out — that I would deliver my services, that I would make sure they would not be late because of anything going on inside the house. They had to give me their full cooperation. They had to read the contract and sign it," says Jeannette. The reaction? "They rolled their eyes. They know I'm a little bit ditzy." But the contract came in handy when Samantha started to argue. Jeannette would just say, "Read your contract." For Jeannette, the big request from her family was don't talk' in the morning. So she turned to yellow sticky notes and folders with a color for each family member. In the folders she puts whatever is needed for the next day and she usually attaches a yellow sticky note to the front. It may say something like, "This has to be signed and returned." Blastoff table makes for a smooth start By Scripps Howard News Service MEMPHIS, Tenn. — To help tl rnake mornings peaceful, every Family should have what home ''economist Cathy Faust calls a /blastoff table. ..'"•That's where family members put'every thing they need the next day, says Faust, who teaches a "class called "Getting it All Togeth- 7er"'as one of her duties with the •University of Tennessee Agricultural Extension Service. '"' 'Her tip about getting everything. ,,'together the night before was "echoed by many of those who called The Commercial Appeal to 'share how they make mornings go . smoothly. ' Preparing at night is especially important for Vicki Glass, an ele- "m'entary school teacher who .fwakes up at 3:30 a.m. three times a ,;we{jk to take her daughter, Meg- -'gan, 13, to the Ice Chalets at the "Mall of Memphis. Meggan likes to ' itake lessons and ice skate at 5 a.m. , when it's not as crowded. '' At night, Vicki and Meggan pack everything and set it by the 'door. "All you have to do is get up anil get your clothes," says Vicki. For breakfast, they eat something "simple during the long drive from their home in suburban Memphis to the mall. Several families also pick out clothes for the whole week on Sun'.days. Some pin underwear and socks on the hangers. When s 12-year-old daughter, elle, was younger, Cathy attached an index card with She-day of the week to each outfit. Elena Williams doesn't label the clothes, but she does line up a week's worth of complete outfits for her son, who is 10, and 8-year- old daughter. This practice started when she became a widow and her children were still in diapers. "I was a single parent for five years. It was madness." Kenny and Angelique also make 10 sandwiches on Sundays and freeze eight of them. While many readers swear by making lunches at night, Elena prefers to make the next day's lunches just after she drops off her kids at that day's school. Here are some other tips from readers: • Get up early enough and "don't bite off too much in the morning," says Allen Earth, a wholesale auto parts salesman and father of three teen-age daughters. "It's better to lose five minutes' sleep than pull your hair out before you leave." • Enforce bedtime for children. "There are too many activities at night," says Cathy Faust. "That's why it's hard to get up in the morning." • Start the day with prayer. Jan Glenn-Brown, mother of 11- year-old twins, Jonathan and Judson Brown, was among half a dozen readers who emphasized spiritual help in keeping life under control. • Don't allow TV or radio until everyone is ready. "There are jobs to be done. The radio and TV don't go on until the child is ready to go out the door," says Barbara Blumenthal, program coordinator for the Parenting Center. • Simplify as much as you can. For example, you don't have to make a time-consuming breakfast every day. "Leave the pancakes and French toast for the weekends," says Blumenthal. • Take advantage of school breakfasts. They usually aren't expensive and it can save 15 to 20 minutes of home-time in the mornings. • Make quality time with your spouse. Becky Renfro says mornings go smoothly for her family — even with five daughters in four different schools — because she and her husband, Thomas, make time together a priority. Becky gets up at 6 a.m. on weekdays to chat with Thomas before he leaves at 6:45 a.m. And they go out every Thursday night. "It keeps our marriage strong," she says. Becky, a nurse, works three 12-hour night shifts on the weekend and Thomas keeps regular business hours as an engineer. "He does the Mr. Mom thing during the weekend. I do the Mom thing during the week," says Becky. We can provide information and coverage for your LIFE INSURANCE Ask about Shelter's HOME, CAR, FARM, BUSINESS coverages too Jaan Curry 2737 Belmonl 823-9129 We'll always be there for you. 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