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B2 THE DAILY DISPATCH AND ARGUS Monday, November 18, 1991 Life 3" Rape- Smith-LaRue Marriage vows were spoken Sept 7 in the Sherrard Presbyterian Church by Scharell Smith and Everett Sydney Keys, Moline. There was a reception in the Rock Island Plaza Hotel. The couple took a trip to Toronto, Canada, and they reside at 46141 Village Green, Apt. 313A, Belleville. The bride graduated from Northern Illinois University, DeKalb, and is a partner with Express-Compaipe International, Dearborn, Mich.

The bridegroom, a graduate of Augustana College, is a finance representative for Deere Credit Services, Des Moines. Johanson-VanBlair (Continued from page Bl) citizens who have decided to talk about the trauma of rape, risking the social shame that often is heaped upon victims. They take this gamble to regain some control of their lives, to bleach out the stain associated with this crime LaRue, both of Sherrard. The Rev. Robert -ft 1 Williams of Rock Island offi ciated at the 3:30 p.m.

cere mony. The bride is the daughter of Verda Young, RR Sherrard, and the late Arlin Young. The bridegroom is the son of Martha Kitchens, Sherrard, and the late date rapist and I understand the terrible consequences of being falsely accused of that crime. "Without any protest or argument, we engaged in intercourse. Afterward we went to brunch together, and during this time she began to express regrets about the morning's occurrence." Felt violated by college College administrators agreed some form of sexual assault took place.

After an administrative hearing last November, they restricted the man to his dormitory. This wasn't enough for Koestner, who felt she was violated a second time by the college's decision not to expel him. She considered pressing criminal charges but was told by local prosecutors that her case would be weak. The name of Koestner's accused is known across campus, despite the confidentiality of the college disciplinary proceeding. It is an open secret, an ironic reversal of what often happens in a rape case, when the woman is never named but everybody in town knows who she is and what happened to her.

"He's ruined," said Byron Blake, 22, a senior from Myrtle Beach, S.C. Blake has listened to Koestner and her accused present their stories in separate sessions of his business-ethics class. He sees it as a healthy change from the way people usually deal with rape. "Just arguing about it between guys and girls, talking about each other's views and positions maybe Loretta M. Johanson, Rock Island, became the bride of Charles D.

Van-Blair, Moline, on Sept 7 in Lincoln Park, Rock Island. Parents of the bride are Gaylord and Rose Claude, 628 84th Ave. Rock Island. The bridegroom is the son of Chet and Pat Van-Blair, Rock Island. The bride wore an ivory tea-length dress with -V1 William LaRue.

The bride's tea-length suit of mauve watered silk was styled with pleated skirt and long sleeves. She wore a matching headpiece of roses and baby's breath. Honor attendants were Colleen Lane and Ron Turner, both of Silvis. Other attendants were Jeremiah Beaston and Chris Slattery, both of Sherrard. There was a reception in Nellie's Sweets N' Eats, Sherrard.

The couple reside in rural Sherrard. The bride graduated from Sherrard High School and Black Hawk College. She is employed at Franciscan Medical Center, Rock Island. A graduate of Westmer High School, Joy, the bridegroom is employed by Montgomery Elevator Escalator Division, Coal Valley. Thelen-Wiebler Honor attendants were Leann Claude, Rock Island, and Mark Johansen, Moline.

Other attendants were Luella and Loren Claude and Cari, Mike and Marty VanBlair, all of Rock Island, and Linda Patton, Lexington, Ky. There was a reception in Sam's Hide-A-Way Lounge, Moline. The couple took a trip to Mackinac Island, Mich. They reside in Moline. The bride and bridegroom both graduated from Rock Island High School.

She is employed at Hardee's, Moline, and he is employed by Beardsley Printery, Rock Island. 'Rape is always rape, whether it's in a dorm room or a dark alley It's still awful and traumatic and terrible. And it's a Katie Koestner Schnowske-Cerven Marriage vows were spoken Sept. 7 in Trinity Lutheran Church, Davenport, by Catherine Marie Thelen and Matthew James Wie-bler, both of Davenport. The Rev.

Michael E. Vokt officiated at the 6 p.m. ceremony. Parents of the bride are Donna L. and Ralph H.

Thelen 1523 W. 13th St, Davenport. The bridegroom is the son of Richard and Doris Wiebler, 2415 N. Sturde- -y Rhonda Jo Schnowske, Sherrard, and Gregory Howard Cerven, Woodstock, were married Sept. 7 at Pleasant Valley Outdoor Center, Woodstock.

Officiating at the 2 p.m. ceremony were the Rev. Del-bert Icenogle and the Rev. Gene MajewsM. Parents of the bride are Ronald and Iona Schnowske, both of Sherrard.

The bridegroom is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Paul vant, Davenport. The bride's gown of ivory and satin was styled with long sleeves puffed at the shoulders, fitted bodice, Victorian bustle and short train. She wore a matching embroidered cap accented in pearls and sequins with a longveil.

Honor attendants were Mary E. Boozer and Anthony Carter, both of Davenport Other attendants were Leanna Robbins, Tammy Bendle, Jennifer Wiebler, Melissa A Kakert, Susan E. Schaffner, Patrick Kilfoy, Peter Bush, Richard Wiebler Gary Wiebler and Patrick Doyle, all of Davenport; Scott R. GelsM, Rock Island; Elizabeth and Marc Nover, Owosso, and Thomas Wiebler, Faribault, Minn. There was a reception in the Starlite Ballroom at the Mississippi Valley Fairgrounds, Davenport.

The couple took a trip to Faribault, and they reside in Davenport. The bride graduated from Assumption High School, is a distribution clerk at the Davenport Post Office. The bridegroom is a graduate of Assumption High School and IBM School, Chicago. He is owner of Wiebler Office Equipment serving the Quad City area, Ke-wanee and Galesburg. Brakeman-Covault Cerven Sturtevant, Wis.

The bride's floor-length gown featured short puffed sleeves and a long train with lace and sequin designs and leaf-like lace at the hemline. Honor attendants were Anna McMeekan, Mather-ville, and Tim Cerven, Bloomington. Other attendants were Jeni Chedgy of Union; Sue, Krista and John Kozlik, all of Cape Girardeau, Rita and Rian Schnowske, both of Sherrard; Maria Cerven, Bloomington; Tim McMeekan, Matherville; Joe Clarke, Crystal Lake, and Glen Cerven, Sturtevant. There was a reception at the Outdoor Center and an open house Sept. 22 in the Sherrard Presbyterian Church.

The couple took a Caribbean cruise and they reside in Woodstock. The bride is attending Western Illinois University, Macomb. The bridegroom is a graduate of the University of Wisconsin, Platteville, and is employed at the Pleasant Valley Outdoor Center. Honzel-Rowley and to give courage to other women. "Rape has a historic tradition of bringing stigma on a woman, as being soiled or damaged goods, that is not connected to any other crime," said Mary Koss, a psy- chologist at the University of Arizona.

The price of publicity Since her third week on campus last year, Koest-ner's life has been dominated by a date that went wrong. Since February she has taken on the added pressure of going public with her story first with campus women's groups and faculty organizations, then through an ever-escalating number of interviews with newspapers, magazines and TV shows. Larry King has interviewed her. Time magazine is calling. The publicity has had an impact Virginia Gov.

Doug Wilder has ordered state education officials to study rape on campus. William and Mary officials have launched a task force to review the way they handle rape cases. But there has been a heavy price. Koestner's stance has placed her at the center of a highly polarized debate on this 300-year-old campus, a conservative school of 7,200 students in the middle of a carefully manicured colonial tourist attraction. This is a small community; Koestner and her accused are well-known.

Both have told their side of the story across campus. There isn't the black-and-white of rape by a stranger. There are gray areas and question marks, missed signals and judgment calls between two people who knew each other, liked each other and shared some intimacy. But there is no neutral ground for Koestner. Daily anger and despair "Every day there's a point when I plunge down into the depths of anger and despair," she said.

"The lows are incredibly low, like free-falling from an airplane with a parachute. The highs are really high, like whooshing up into the sky on wings." Koestner is still a teenager from Mechanicsburg, Penn. She plays Softball, field hockey and the clarinet and she is a member of the hand-bell choir at her church. She's young. Some say she's inexperienced.

Some say the gray areas of her story undercut its validity. But her feelings are echoed by rape victims whose experiences were very different. Koestner says she was raped by a date who took her to breakfast the next day. Kim McSherry, a 40-year-old Houston psychotherapist, was raped by a stranger who held a knife to her throat. Both women hope their public stand will help heal the hurt that touches every aspect of their lives.

"I wonder whether I'll ever be able to make love with abandon again," said McSherry, who was attacked in her apartment last year. "It's a little scary when I think about being in an intimate relationship again." Koestner wonders whether she'll ever be able to enjoy sex. At all. "I was a virgin when this happened," she said. "I had this great, in-the-heavens view of what sex would be like with some guy I was married to, and it would be heaven and the culmination of love.

And then there was this nightmare which I try and push out of my mind." An emotional minefield Her new boyfriend, Brett Sokolow, is a year older and a model of compassion Alan Alda in a 19-year-old's body. He tries to meet her anger with understanding and a shoulder to punch or cry upon. He described it as life in an emotional minefield. "We've blown each other up a time or two," said Sokolow, former vice president of the student government asssociation. "But every now and then, you think you're going to step on a mine and you don't, and progress is made." He says he loves her; she likes him but is reluctant to use the word "love." Both say they can handle the ups and downs of a traumatic experience amplified by Koestner's very public stand.

They can't handle sex. "We try," says Koestner. "It's hard. It's really hard. Because when I recoil I totally push Brett away.

I don't want him near me. It's really awful." She has this recurring dream: There is a long, dark biology lab, full of test tubes and microscopes. On a shelf are specimen jars filled with formaldehyde. In one jar is the severed penis of her accused attacker. "So it wouldn't harm me," she said.

After she has this dream, Sokolow is the last person she wants to see. "I just say, 'Get out of my life; I need to be alone; I can't deal with men today and you're a man and I'm sorry about that, but today I need to be a woman and talk with A lot of skepticism The beer is cold. The sunlight is warm and gauzy. The subject is Koestner and date rape, the hottest topic on campus. "There's a lot of skepticism about where she's coming from," said Spencer Rygas, 21, a junior from Pulaski, Va.

"Some think she was raped. Others don't." The story of Koestner's date with a handsome young classmate from Greece isn't cut and dried. He had met her parents the week before, after a concert she had played in. They went out again. She invited him to her dorm room.

They danced, kissed and hugged. There was some heavy petting. Koestner said this is where she tried to draw the line: He wanted more; she said no; he insisted. "Rape is always rape, whether it's in a dorm room or a dark alley," said Koestner. "I want people to know the nature of my case, know it didn't happen in a dark alley, that I wasn't beaten up.

It's still awful and traumatic and terrible. And it's a crime." In an anonymous letter printed by the campus newspaper recently, the man denied raping Koestner: "I have had the misfortune of being wrongly branded as a that will help solve this problem," he said. Few campus rapes reported Since 1989, William and Mary students have reported 10 sexual assaults on campus. But experts say rape is the most underreported of all major crimes. One in.

seven college women have been raped; according to a nationwide study by Koss at the University of Arizona. But only one in 20 campus rapes are reported. Karen Turk, 21, a senior from Metuchen, N.J., thinks the problem is far more prevalent among college women than the numbers suggest. "There's unlimited alcohol; guys are swarming all over them; and they don't know how to handle it," she said. "I don't see violence, but I do see the emotional press-sure put on girls who may not be sure what's happening or may not be equipped to handle it." That's how Turk views Koestner: "I think it's a case of a girl who was young, who didn't know how to handle this." Koestner begs to differ.

"I absolutely disagree," she said. "Yes, I'm a young woman. I'm new to campus'. But I'm not new to independence or responsibility." Why she spoke out Sitting cross-legged on her bed, Koestner ran down her reasons for going public: She wants justice for herself and her accused; she wants to regain control of her life; she wants the college to change its policy on handling date rape; she wants to lessen the stigma of rape. "There needs to be a picture, a face, a human being associated with the words 'rape victim' in order f5r people to say, 'Maybe I know her; I've seen her-or I know someone who looks like Koestner said.

"She has real qualities. She plays softball, hockey, she plays the piano. She's definitely real." i Sometimes she wonders about the wisdom of her decision. "Is this all worth it?" she asked. "There's frustration.

Not knowing. Not being able to recover. Not really knowing whether this all is really helping me or other women." She can't sleep. She burns with a hatred she describes as "malicious, almost." She worries what others think. "There's a huge public out there who knows my name.

Who knows what they're really thinking? That's scary." McSherry also knows that rape has robbed her Cf some things she can never regain. "I've lost my innocence," she said. "I used to think' I was a loved child of the universe. But I've lost my unconditional faith in this world. I've lost that abandon, that ability to be totally open and free and safe." There are other losses.

Koestner's former roommate dates a fraternity brother of the man she accuses. Some of the women on her old dorm floor turned against her when she pressed her case with college officials. She switched dormitories. She lives alone. "I found it unbearable the way women on my hall were treating me," she said.

Some rape victims are haunted for decades. Koestner says she has been called by a woman named Sophie, a mother in her 50s who was raped in college. Sophie can't talk to her husband or daughter about the rape; they aren't sympathetic. She can talk to this young stranger. She told Koestner she draws strength from the teenager's public stand.

jT) Marriage vows were spoken Sept 7 in St. Malachy's Catholic Church, Geneseo, by Deborah J. Honzel and John R. Rowley, both of Geneseo. The Rev.

Robert E. Lee officiated at the 2 p.m. ceremony. Parents of the bride are Larry and Audrey Honzel, Geneseo. The bridegroom is the son of Richard and Kathleen Rowley, Monmouth.

Venise lace, pearls and sequins adorned the bride's Kristina Brakeman and Douglas Covault, both of Colona, exchanged wedding vows on Sept. 7 in the First Christian Church, East Moline. The Rev. William Coley officiated at the 5 p.m. ceremony.

Parents of the bride are Gary and Jeanette Brake-man, 1146 Mark Colona. The bridegroom is the son of Gary Covault and Patricia Wilkins, both of Moline. The bride's satin gown, till i- LA brocade gown, featuring scoop neckline, short pleated sleeves, basque waistline, V-back accented with a large bow, a full skirt and cathedral-length train. She wore a matching headpiece with veil. Honor attendants were Robin Clary, Geneseo, and Jim Rowley, Peoria.

Other attendants were Ellen and Dave Moore, both of Geneseo; Teresa and Jacque Rolph, both of Glen-dale, Ariz; Lisa Sponcil, Phoenix, Sue Honzel, Champaign; Kevin O'Neill, Tinley Park; J.C. Wise, Cambridge, and Jim Honzel, Chicago. There was a reception and dance in the Holiday Inn, Moline. The couple took a trip to Grand Cayman Island. They reside in Geneseo.

The bride graduated from J.D. Darnall High School, Geneseo, and Illinois State University, Normal. She is a manager with Carpentier, Mitchell, Goddard Moline. The bridegroom is a graduate of Yorkwood High School, Little York, and Loras College, Dubuque, Iowa. He is a field claims representative with Country Companies, Cambridge.

adorned with sequins, beads and lace, was styled with off-the-shoulder neckline, fitted bodice, long sleeves and full train. She wore a matching headpiece with pouf and veil. Her attendants wore tea-length off-the-shoulder satin dresses accented with a rose. Honor attendants were Teresa Gilligan, Emporia, Mike Anderson, East Moline, and Don Anderson, Tucson, Ariz. Other attendants were Denise Aschbach and Todd Taets, both of Orion; Holly and Chad Brakeman and Tom Bender, all of Colona; Angie Tabares, Fort Worth, Texas; Heather Gilligan, Emporia; Brendan O'Shea, Tucson, and Matt Kershaw, St.

Louis, Mo. There was a reception in the Elks Club, Moline. The couple took a trip to the Missouri Ozarks, and they reside in Colona. The bride graduated from J.D. Darnall High School, Geneseo, and is employed at the IH Mississippi Valley Credit Union, Rock Island.

The bridegroom, a graduate of United Township High School, is employed with the logistics support group at the Rock Island Arsenal. OUR FASCINATING EARTH By Philip Seff, Ph.D. i REMARKABLE, 5 Hill-Jones IN 1952 AS SWISS SKIF-PS jj ATCMFTi IM HQTZROfl AN ENORMOUS AVALANCHE TOWARD THFM I In a ceremony which took place Sept. 7 in the Second Baptist Church, Rock Island, Stefanie Hill, Belleville, became the bride of Collis R. Jones Belleville.

Officiating at the 3 p.m. ceremony was the Rev. William Grimes. The bride is the daughter of Donna J.Hill, 309 5th St. Court, Silvis, and Michael W.

Hill, 326 12th East Moline. Parents of the bridegroom are Collis and Edna MM 0 Gregory-Eaton Stan and Brenda Gregory, rural Alexis, announce the engagement of their daughter, Kristina, to Grant Eaton, Long Beach, son of Bill and Barbara Eaton, Newton, 111. The couple will be married at 5:30 p.m. Dec. 28 in Norwood Presbyterian Church, rural Alexis.

Relatives and friends are invited to the ceremony and a reception afterward in the VFW Hall, Monmouth. The bride-elect graduated from Alexis High School and the University of Illinois, Champaign-Urbana. She is employed at Priscilla's, Denver. The prospective bridegroom is a graduate of Newton High School and the University of Illinois. He is employed by McDonnell-Douglas Aircraft Long Beach.

Here's how to get your announcement in print The Rock Island Argus and The Daily Dispatch have reserved this page for announcement of your engagement, wedding, anniversary or special birthday. Announcement forms must be completed and can be obtained at the Argus, Dispatch or any bureau office. For more information, call 786-6441, ext 273. rams? NO ') ESCAPE BEING-POSSIBLE THEY EXPECTED TO CRUSHED LIKE FLIES SUDDENLY A LARGE CREVASSE OPENED I HEm AMTi TUP MISSISSIPPI VALLEY WOODCARVERS ASSOCIATION, 7 p.m. Tuesday at the Deere-Wiman Carriage House, Moline- information, call 355-551 1 QUAD CITY CHAPTER, PHI DELTA KAPPA, 6 p.m.

dinner Wednesday at Bishop's Buffet, Duck Creek Plaza, BettendorT business meeting at program on relevant hands-on science activities by Joan Braunagel McShane, Davenport elementary science teacher and recipient of Presidential Award for Excellence in Science. PUTNAM MUSEUM GUILD, 1:30 p.m. Thursday at museum in Davenport; program, "The Land of Israel and Egypt" by Rev. Mark Holmer; tea afterward; $1 cost for non-members and guests; information, call Ann Swanwick, 332-4999. APP-R0ACH1NGVISASTEK.

THE MASS OF SNOW ANT) ir.F rvzwn Jones, Joliet. The bride's full-length gown, detailed with sequins, pearls and lace, was styled with off-the-shoulder portrait neckline, elbow-length sleeves, full skirt and train embroidered with lace insets. She wore a matching headband with pouf and veil. Honor attendants were Lisa Keys, Rock Island, and Greg Cousert, Chicago. Other attendants were Sharon Jones, Joliet; Angie Villarreal and Robert Hill, both of Silvis; Piper Davis, Calvin Stringer and Michael J.

Hill, all of Chicago, and INTO THE OPENING, LEAVINGTHEIA UNHARMED THE CREVASSE WAS A COLLAPSED SNOW BRIDGE THAT, IRONICALLY, THE. AV HAD JUST 'JZ, CKOSSE.D! A.