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2B Lifestyle www.marshallnewsmessenger.com The Marshall News Messenger, Sunday, March 15, 2009 Woman starts to question boyfriend's protectiveness Dear Abby By Jeanne I I Phillips LrsJ stantly criticizes or says blatantly cruel things; degrades, curses, calls you ugly names. This may also Involve sleep deprivation, waking you up with relentless verbal abuse. 12. Rigid gender roles: Expects you to serve, obey, remain at home. 13.

Sudden mood swings: Switches from sweet to violent in a matter of minutes. 14. Past battering: Admits, to hitting a mate in the past, but says the person made him (or her) do it 15. Threats of violence: Says things like, "I'll break your neck," or Til kill you," then dismisses them with, "Everybody talks that way," or "I didn't really mean it." easily insulted, claiming hurt feelings when he or she is really mad. Rants about the injustice of things that are Just a part of life.

9. Cruelty to animals or children: Kills or punishes animals brutally. Also may expect children to do things that are far beyond their ability (whips a 3-year-old for wetting a diaper) or may tease them until they cry. Sixty-five percent of abusers who beat their partner will also abuse children. 10.

"Playful" use of force during sex: Enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will during sex; finds the Idea of rape exciting. 11. Verbal abuse: Con DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, "Josh," won't leave me alone. We have' been living together for almost a year, and he is the ultimate overprotector. When I start to leave the house run errands or anything, he stops "nd asks, "Where do you think you're going?" When I tell him, he will then follow me to the location.

I love Josh and would never want to hurt his feelings, but I think he's a little too worried about me. I'm an adult, and I can take care of myself. Is Josh being too overprotective, or am I just crazy? OVERPROTECT-ED IN OREGON DEAR OVERPROTECT-ED: You're not crazy. Josh's volvement: Comes on strong, claiming, "I've never felt loved like this by anyone." An abuser pressures the new partner for an exclusive commitment almost immediately. 2.

Jealous: Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly; prevents you from going to work because "you might meet checks the mileage on your car. 3. Controlling: Interrogates you intensely (especially if you're late) about whom you talked to and where you ore; keeps all the money; insists you ask permission to go anywhere, or do anything. 4. Unrealistic expecta tions: Expects you to be the perfect mate and meet his or her every need.

5. Isolation: Tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who are your supporters of "causing trouble." The abuser may deprive you of a phone or car or try to prevent you from holding a Job. 6. Blames others for problems and mistakes: It's always someone else's fault if something goes wrong. 7.

Makes others responsible fur his or her feelings: The abuser says, "You make me angry," instead of, "I am angry," or says, "You're hurting me by not doing what I tell you." 8. Hypersensitivity: Is behavior is over the top and is less about your safety than his own insecurity and lack of trust. Every year or so, I print the warning signs of an abuser. Please review them carefully. If any of the signs in addition to No.

3 apply to you, you should end the relationship immediately. Read on: 1. Pushes for quick in Your Horoscope Ynii mioht add confusion when trying to clarify a situation. You 1 Your Horoscope By Jacqueline Bigar could woider what to do. Assume more responsibility.

If you want something done a certain way, do it yourself. Unexpected behavior could cost you. Handle a stern partner with care. Tonight Could be late. This Week: Be a follower, and follow your friends.

The happening could happen all week long! PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Go on a day trip or do something very different A new setting, as well as a new type of activity, revitalizes your thoughts, feelings and way of handling yourself. You might do a reversal after reading between the lines. Let a loved one be a bit withdrawn. Tonight Daydream to music, or go to a movie.

The theme is "escape This Week: Others seem to need your permission. Note what is going on. Don't ever hesitate to claim your power. 21): Right now, you might be happiest pulling back and doing nothing. Remember, everyone needs a lazy day or two -you are no different You might be confused by what someone really means, as you might be hurt by his or her words.

Tonight Don't explain. Do your thing. This Week: Don't let anyone tell you that you are not Irish. Demand your rights, and celebrate this holiday. The aftermath could be heavy with fatigue.

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): You can be found with groups of people be it at a baseball game or the movies. You have much to smile about Be careful with a surprising situation. You suddenly might lose money or your wallet.

Count your change; know what you are doing. Tonight And the party continues. This Week: You do your thing all week, proclaiming your independence. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb.

18): breaks out where you least expect it Everyone needs to let off some steam sometimes. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Be ready to take the lead on the home front if you want something done a specific way. Family and home matters dominate, perhaps because you don't want to go far. A partner only adds confusion to a situation.

Tonight Order in. This Week: Any excuse that adds more fun into your life works. And you have a great one Tuesday. But know that you will be crushed with to-dos afterward. VIRGO (Aug.

23-Sept. 22): What you say makes an impression. Make Sunday calls, and touch base with the people in your thoughts. Catching up on news could lead to getting together for dinner or a visit. Enjoy what is happening.

Tonight: Out and about. This Week: You might be unusually quiet until Wednesday, when your creative juices flow. LIBRA (Sept. 23-0ct. 22): Be aware of the costs you are incurring.

You could be out of sorts and tired. A risk could backfire. A child or loved one could be adorable but confusing. You are subject to moments of high energy and then depletion. Tonight Meet a friend for dinner.

This Week: You might not think you have plans, but you do someone will entice you to come along and play. You'll love every moment SCORPIO (Oct 23-Nov. 21): Your personality melts barriers. A child or loved one could be full of fun and surprises as you try to keep up with his or her unexpected behavior. Do give up a need to control, because it will get you nowhere.

Could a roommate be withholding something? Tonight-Do what you want. This Week: Keep an eye on spending and your wallet through Wednesday. The pace will quicken at the end of the wcbK, SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. Sunday, March IS, 2009 ARIES (March 21 April 19): Work with a loved one.

Honor fatigue. Your instincts could be right-on. The unexpected comes out with a friend. Could this friend have played a game that backfired? Tonight Get extra sleep. This Week: Suddenly, everyone you know is Irish.

Join in on the festivities, knowing you will make up the lost time. TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Listen to a loved one who is very serious. The unexpected occurs, bringing new insight andor opportunity. Don't allow a respected friend or loved one to influence your plans. This person might want more than you can give.

Tonight Listen to an offer. This Week: Let others be Irish; you might be too, as you want to be closer to someone key. GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Relax and put your feet up. You often run around without stopping now is your time to stop. Others could be very demand- ing or have strong expectations.

Watch a movie; read the paper; don't feel like you have to do anything. You don't not today. Tonight Early to bed. This Week: Invitations surround you left and right Can you justify an Irish jig as networking? Give it a shot, but don't have great expectations. CANCER (June 21-July 22): Your imagination could point to a mischievous path.

Listen to what is being offered by others, but ultimately you decide what would please you. Allow a child to play a strong role right now. News could provide a surprise opening. Tonight Act like there is no tumorrow. This Week: A celebration Generations Twitter: When 9 Click it up: i www.marshallnewsmessenger.com is it too much The Boys Girls Clubs of the Big! grilles lias tcaiucu up Willi wield i I -Vi Mils.

I For $10 you can sign up for an HOIan Mills sittina and net ai C0RILYN SHROPSHIRE HOUSTON CHRONICLE It wasn't Allan (ATlessal-lan) Branch's intention to tur the birth of his daughter into a Twitter event it just sort of happened. As baby Sarah pushed her way into the world, Branch posted on Twitter, the mi-croblogging bazaar where people share anything and everything in 140 characters or less: "Yo people, I'm live streaming." He included a link displaying his wife's face during the delivery. Almost instantly, the 730 "Twitterers" who follow Branch, plus countless others who were "retweeted," were tuned in to the blow-by-blow account of Sarah's debut. At 8:35 a.m.: "We're in pre-op, ready for Sarah to come." At 9.04 a.m.: "Waiting." And then, at 12:35 p.m.: "Finally after a delay with the surgery schedule we have our baby girl Sarah. 81bs.

3 oz 19.5 inches On Twitter, it's typical to stumble upon post-breakup meltdowns, a mini-rant on the state of economy, what 10x13 family portrait or a Just if or Kids" oackaae (8x10. 2 eat '1 5x7, and 8 ea wallets) Courtesy photo THE BISHOP FAMILY of five generations are Sylvia W. Bishop, Charter Bishop Sheil Reulejrisha Magno and Julian Magno. Call Chanel at the Clubi for details I Education News 1500 Positive Place www.bgcbp.com (903)935-2030 PYS GIRLS CLUBS A Proud United Way Ag km- I rrr pni mts tte. Military News Malcolm Hudson of De-Berry has been selected to be a part of the U.S Air Force's elite entertainment group, Tops in Blue.

Reunion News Marshall High School's class of 1984 will have its first class reunion meeting Saturday, March 28, at El Chi-co from 5 to 8 p.m. All classmates are invited and are encouraged to bring ideas. For more information, call Karen Emory at 903-472-2267 Hallsville LSD. 3QMWMSL someone ate for lunch. Live coverage of medical procedures, ranging from the glorious to the gory, and recently even wedding ceremonies are, well a bit less expected.

When Gwen (ATgwenbell) Bell and Joel (ATjlongtine) Marissa Moore has been named to the Dean's List at Baylor University for the 2008 fall semester. To receive this honor a student must earn a 3.7 or higher GPA. Ms. Moore also traveled to Chicago, 111., to participate in the Pricewa-terhouse Coopers Leadership Adventure. She was one of 215 students from around the nation picked to attend the accounting conference.

Ms. Moore has accepted an internship with the firm's Dallas office. She has been inducted into Delta Epsilon lota Academic Honor Society, Golden key International Honor Society, Alpha Chi Honor Society, WW MARISSA MOORE Beta Gamma Sigma, and Beta Alpha PsL Ms. Moore is the daughter of Ricky and Bobette Moore of Uncertain. or Cheryl Johnson Goynes at 903-237-8184.

In Brief fTfJ Anyone interested in seeking XA employment with HISD WWI7r April 2, 2009 Spring break safety tips WIXC1 T3 Hallsville Intermediate School riXLf 1VE; 432 Galilee Road Hallsyille, TX Longtine met on Twitter, it was "like at first sight," Bell wrote on her blog, Gwenbell. com. So it makes sense that just over a year and countless Tweets later, the pair tied the knot last week in a 15-hour extravaganza that was chock-full of spontaneous Tweets not only by the bride and groom, but guests both in-person and on the Web. "So much of our lives are already online," said Bell, a social media maven, educator and self-proclaimed geek, of she and her groom, Longtine, a Web developer. When the economy downsized the couple's guest list to 45, from 150, social networks such as Twitter and live Web video service Ustream.tv were an obvious option for loved ones to participate.

"If people can't be there physically, at least we have them there online," Bell said. 903.668.5990, ext 5017 or 5007 Applications online at The Opera House Theatre Players will present "Harvey," a three-act comedy March 26-28, at the Russell Building in downtown Jefferson. A cast of 12 is featured in the Pulitzer prize-winnig play written by Mary Chase in the 1940s. Robert Carter is cast as Edwood P. Dowed, whose six-foot white rabbit friend is invisible.

Tickets are $10 per adult and $7 per children younger 12. Tickets are available at Blessings Gift Shop at 903-665-3895 or by calling 903-665-2310. Seating is limited. Early purchases are advised. Lindsay MInnema The Washington Post For students in kindergarten through college, nothing is like the excitement of spring break (except for maybe the wonder that is summer break).

With the school holiday coming up for many kids, it is a perfect time to remind them how to stay safe. Here are just a few tips from the American College of Emergency Physicians: Spending a lot of time outside? Wear sunscreen of SPF 15 or higher, and wear a hat and a good pair of sunglasses. If your break includes water activities, remind your kids to swim with a buddy or wear a life vest when boating. When venturing far from home, familiarize your spring breakers with their surroundings, and let them know who to call in the event of an emergency. Pack medications and proof of insurance, and carry a cell phone.

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