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THE TA3IPA TRIBUNE, Wednesday. June 25, 1958 19 Off To The Races At Ascot Gesell Institute Mary Haworth Occasional Reader Finds Annoyed By This Type Himself Column Thumb-Sucking Still A Problem At Age 6-Mother Very Puzzled "V-. 1 11 wants his (or her) brains to shrivel and become encased in protective fat, thereby becoming less receptive to reality Disgustedly, W. P. DEAR W.

Judging by the full contents of your letter, here condensed, the bad taste that carries over in your psyche, after reading my column, was there to start. Obviously you suffer from chronic dyspepsia of mind. Another word for it is hate. And you hate most those persons who seem, to you, to have w. Tat or eight years of age.

If they continue to eight or nine, then we devise ways and means to help them to stop, at this age when they are more cooperative and more anxious to stop. YOU CAN give him the idea that soon he will want to stop, and when he does that you will help him plan. This plan may consist of holding his hand for a while at bedtime, putting a strip of adhesive tape with an extra tab to chew on on his thumb, or any of the usual variants. That the amount of sucking already seems to be falling off and now seems to be restricted to certain times, is the big first step. When he is asleep, if you take hjs thumb out of his mouth does it come out with a loud pop and go right back in again; or does it come out -I A If, found some purpose in life; and some measure of success in doing their job.

This I gather from your spite references to certain great men in recent American history. As it happens, my knowledge of psychiatry andor psychoanalysis "has been acquired in trying to find the answers to others' problems. I had been writing this column for a couple of years, back in the 1930s, when an emissary from the local Life Adjustment Center one of the pioneer mental hygiene clinics in this nation came on behalf of the agency to proffer all-out cooperation in helping people. IN EFFECT the emissary said: "Your column seems to be attracting the very people that our agency was set up to reach." The story back of the Life Adjustment Center was this: an internationally famous psychiatrist and a leading clergyman had got together and organized a group of professional experts from many fields (medicine, law, psychology, social welfare), to counsel with troubled souls before cqoi: 4237 Boy-te-Bay SHORTS PEDAL PUSHERS BLOUSES DRESSES their problems became acute or overwhelming. The idea was to educate them to help themselves, foresightedly, and thus avert catastrophes.

Gradually thereafter, this column became acquainted, via agency counsel, with the psychiatric approach to constructive handling of human difficulties, and passed this learning along to the public. The joint aim of the agency and the column was to guide people with problems to community resources waiting to help them. But in order to get help, a person first must admit his need of help which you aren't yet prepared to do. I've checked my files to locate the article that sparks your blast. I see the headline reads: "How Can They 'Pay for Mistake?" It was the story of two young men, sorry now that they dumped two respectable girls on a dark back country road, forcing them to walk home.

I told them the best they can do to overtake the mistake is simply to turn over a new leaf, and become nicer fellows all the way through. "Use your shame as fuel for growth When you are different and better, the fact will proclaim itself," I said. Your trouble is that you sense a dissatisfaction in certain aspects of your own living and you'd like to tar others with the same pitch. Instead of trying to justify yourself, why don't you get to work and wash out the sins, whatever they are. M.

H. Mary Haworth counsels through her column, not by mail or personal interview. Write her in care of The Tribune. to work at Harvard University as a research fellow in medieval Spanish literature. Since her marriage to a University of California professor of Philology in 1948, she has lived and worked in Berkeley except for brief terms as a visiting professor at Ohio State University and at Harvard, and as a research associate at the University of Wisconsin.

She has been a Guggenheim fellowship holder twice. An honorary doctorate was conferred on her by Smith College in 1955. Before coming to the United States, Dr. Malkiel was head of research at the Institute of Philology at the University of Buenos Aires and a teacher of Greek and Spanish at the Argentine National Teachers College. Last night's audience included the 43 AAUW state division presidents in the nation's capital for the seventh biennial AAUW state presidents conference and members of the AAUW board of directors.

SURPLUS BLIMP Ascot, England, June 24. Bagging a girl these days isn't as hard as it used to be at least not for the fashion designers. Mrs. Jack L. Lotinger, who seems to be wearing a top-to-bottom bustle, wore this startling, polka-dotted creation in Ascot, England.

(UPI Photo). Announcing Tampa's new Stauffer Home Plan Location: 4220 Eay-ro-Bay Boulevard, Tampa 9, Florida By FRANCES L. ILG. M.D.. AND LOUISE BATES AMES.

PH.D. "Dear Doctors Ilg and Ames: "I am quite concerned over my 6 year old first-grader. The problem Is thumb-sucking. Our pediatrician advised me to ignore it. All the literature on the subject informs me that the cause of thumb sucking is that a child feels unwanted.

If ever a child received attention and love and affection, mine does. When he was younger, he sucked his thumb in the daytime when he was not occupied. Now it occurs sometimes when he is viewing TV, and every night. I asked him why and he says, 'Because it tastes so good. "My son likes school, likes people, is a bright student, and adjusts well to almost any situation.

Last year a slight tic developed, but has not recurred even with the adjustment to the first grade. His permanent teeth are coming in crooked, the dentist says due to the pressure of the thumb on those precious teeth. I have tried ignoring the thumb, putting a mitten on it (he always sucks the right thumb), applying bad-tasting liquids to the thumb, etc. None work! Please help me to solve the problem." IT IS NOT our opinion that all thumb sucking results from feelings of being unwanted. It is true that If a child were lonely and unhappy it might exaggerate thumb sucking.

But much of this behavior occurs in happy, reasonably well-adjusted and much-loved children. The fact that his tics did not increase when he started first grade, in fact did not ever recur, is a very good sign that he seems to be getting along all right psychically. We would be interested to know whether he sucks his thumb at school as well as at home. When a child restrains his thumb sucking to home we have an indication that he can stop it under certain situations where he would be embarrassed. Even at home you report that the sucking occurs only occasionally.

As for his crooked teeth we would like to know whether they are his lower or upper teeth. He is a bit young to be erupting his upper teeth and we often find crooked teeth quite apart from thumb sucking. We too are concerned about the teeth, but we do not like to use drastic means (such as the sharp pronged barbs to be worn in the child's palate) until we have given the child a developmental chance. Some find that prolonged thumb-sucking occurs more often in boys and that some boys don't stop before seven Supper Party For Bride-Elect Miss Marilyn Hooper, fiancee of Gerald Hayman, was honoree of a supper party given last night by Mrs. M.

R. Simpson and her daughter, Miss Jill Simpson, at Kapoc Tree Restaurant. Covers for eight were marked at a table centered with a large wedding bell. Oriental fans were favors. DEAR MARY HAWORTH: Because of an Insatiable and not overly selective reading urge, I sometimes find myself into reading your column.

The net result is always the same: I end with a a taste, wondering how any educated human can be such a mixture of naivete, self assurance and i God knows Haworth what else, all at once. I would guess that your apparent knowledge of psychiatry andor psychoanalysis stems from your own original desire to find out what the heck was wrong with yourself. Why don't you at least attempt to (1) cheer up; (2) grow up? You must have led a cloistered life, otherwise you would be more actively aware of the fact that all humans can be pretty vile when a suitable situation presents itself. Did you ever read H. L.

Mencken's views along this line of thought WHEN AN interviewer once asked Mencken if his (cynical) attitude didn't have a ten-, dency to make him feel morbid and depressed, Mencken answered in effect: "Of course not! Why worry about human shortcomings that you have no power to change? Grow up. You know of course that a person who talks all the time never has a chance to learn by listening. Same for a writer; it is so easy to get all-engrossed in your own views. And who Mr. Jack McKinney Clairol Color Expert Gratis Consultation Miss Clairol Adds color to your hair and completely 55 coven grey.

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Dr. Maria Rosa Lida de Mal-kiel, Berkeley, whose published works include critical treatises and essays, was presented the award, which carries a stipend of $2500, at a banquet at the Sheraton Park Hotel Saturday night. Dr. Malkiel was cited for her extensive command of general literature and as a "scholar whose love of and devotion to learning inspire and inform her every work" by Dr. Mary Frear Keeler, dean of Hood College, Frederick, and chairman of the AAUW committee on fellowship awards.

Dr. Malkiel was born and educated in Buenos Aires, Argentina, receiving her Ph.D. degree in humanities from the University of Buenos Aires. She came to the United States in 1947 on a Rockefeller grant easily and stay out? If the latter, you can figure that the sucking urge is diminishing in its intensity. But if it comes out with a pop, and goes right back in again, then you still have a long way to go.

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Independent groceries and supermarkets are well-stacked with Florida watermelons of good quality, and shipments from Georgia and other states are Increasing. The prediction: plenty of melons from now right on through July. With this bonus crop, along come many telephone calls from readers who want to know whether the delicacy can be frozen. Well, sometimes melons are frozen Inadvertently, which happens when People put melons in deep freezers to chill and then forget about them. However, Lor a Kiser's home demonstration office assures me the most reliable way to freeze melons is to cut into slices, cubes or tiny Can You Tell inshf on STAUFFER.

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Insert a sprig of mint or sprinkle lightly with creme de menthe, if you want to get fancy. Then, there are those Industrious people who want to make watermelon pickle. Will have a recipe for that, tomorrow. The Tribune awards prizes of $5, $3 and $2 each week for best recipes submitted to the Florida Recipe Contest. Watch the Friday food section for winners each week.

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