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THE TAMPA TRIBUNE-TIMES, Sunday. September 28. 1986 7-I Slow approach to sex is rare, binqies week flattering new group for single people, sponsors a dance every Thursday, 8 to II p.m., at the Holiday Inn, 1-4 at 50th Street Admission is $5 and is open to all single adults. For more Information, call 237-2739. Single File Friday The Bachelors and Belles' weekly singles dance is scheduled for 8:30 p.m.

to midnight at Zendah Grotto, 4109 Lauber Way. Admission is $4 and setups and ice are available for B.Y.O.B. For more information, call 626-1268. Today Tbe Ramada Inn's weekly singles' party and dance is from 8 p.m. to midnight at 820 E.

Busch Blvd. Admission is $4 and is open to the publicFor more information, call 884-0750. Monday Singles Investment Club meets at 6:30 p.m. in the Lincoln Hotel, Suite 690. Singles are invited to come and learn about investments while meeting new friends.

For more information, call 1-786-2636. Thursday Singles Network Enterprises, a By SUSAN DEITZ Los Angeles Times Dear Susan: A few weeks ago I wrote you about a divorced man I'm dating. I mentioned that we'd been dating six months, he is attentive and affectionate and doesn't see anyone else, yet we have never slept together. You suggested that we talk, since perhaps sex was one of the reasons he divorced. Well, last night we were calm, in a nice mood and I felt it was finally safe to bring up the subject I did, and he said that he doesn't hop into bed, and when he does, he wants it to mean something.

He said that since he works in a hospital, sex is all around and easy to get, but he doesn't want the casual kind. The discussion didn't put a damper on the evening, not at all; in fact he was even sweeter afterwards. But I don't know whether to feel flattered or rejected. I certainly feel frustrated, and I think he knows it. I think he's a real great guy, but I don't know where to go from here.

quiet and a bit afraid, but sometimes I think guys want that; later in life they want to settle down with a "nice" girl not one of the pushy, loose ones they've been dating. But I'm worried that when my time comes (and it will), I won't know how to cover my inexperience. Helga, Dayton, Ohio Dear Helga: The young man who is drawn to you will in part be attracted by the very quality that worries you: inexperience. He will consider it part of your charm, and be thrilled and proud to be the one who teaches you the art of kissing his way. Until then, there is no way i to read up on it As for your "friends" with them around, you don't need enemies.

How about using this dateless time to make new 1 friends, the kind who support you? Your man could be among them. Dear Susan: I have a real problem. I'm in love with this guy who works in a variety store that sells newspapers near the bus stop I use every day. Each morning I go in there to pick up my paper and I want so badly to talk to him, but 1 really don't have the courage. Right now I want to invite him to a bus ride next week, one that my church is sponsoring, but I don't know how, to go about it Samantha Atlan- tic City, N.J.

Dear Samantha: Since it is the first time you've made a first move, use a small white lie to smooth the way: Tell this nice man that a friend dared you to ask him on the bus jl ride, and that you bet $5 he is mar-j ried. Drop in for your paper earlier than your usual time, so that you are unhurried when you speak to him Give yourself time to pick up on his vibrations and vice-versa. And be patient with yourself. You may stamj mer a bit this time, but with prac-f tice, your outreaches toward men will become more assured and sue- cessful. There will be more in- stances, you know this is merely the premiere of a new phase in your1 life.

Once you see how flattered men are by an assertive woman, make this type of thing part of your! repertoire. I'm not promiscuous, and I guess this is reverse chauvinism since I'm not used to hearing these words from a man's mouth. But I'm stumped. Eleanora N.Y.C.. Dear Eleanora: Of all the feelings you feel right now, enjoy the flattered one.

The message your man is sending is that he sees real potential in the relationship and he wants to allow it to develop even further before he seals it with a kiss. When he does, it will mean a great deal. In this world of fast-food sex, his kind of approach is rare and wonderful. Stay frustrated and stick around. This may be the happy ending you dream about.

Dear Susan: I am 18 and haven't had a boyfriend yet Sure, I've been out with boys but never one that was like a boyfriend. Some "friends" of mine are always asking me whether I have a romance yet, and I hate it when they ask. I know I'm shy and Information for this column should be mailed to Singles? Week, The Tampa Tribune, P.O. Box 191, Tampa, Fla. 33601, and be received by Monday prior to publication.

Heloise Patients are words apart from their doctors After learning that "fireballs" were fibroids, Dr. Jeremy Sugarman decided to help doctors understand their patients. By DEBBIE SELINSKY Scripps Howard News Service a fresh pineapple and remove the top leafy part (crown) by twisting it off. Cut away any of the fruit that still is stuck to the crown and strip away a few of the lower leaves. Place the crown upside down in a dry shady spot You should leave it there for about a week to help prevent rotting.

In an 8-inch porous clay pot, place broken pieces of an old pot on the bottom (for drainage). Cover them with an inch of coarse gravel. Add a good, lightweight garden soil with well-composted organic matter to fill the pot Now you can plant. Put the crown into the soil and press the soil down firmly around it Try to avoid getting soil into the leaves. It will take about two years for the plant to produce a ripe fruit So be patient Heloise Dear Heloise: My 4-year-old daughter used to be very frightened of the doctor.

I have found an excellent solution to relieve her fears. I carry a few extra crayons in my purse. She draws on the paper that covers the doctor's examining table. The covers are thrown away after each patient Now she doesn't get worried while waiting for the doctor and she even looks forward to it. Sheila Cox King Features Syndicate Dear Heloise: I would like to share a few warnings.

My grandson was unintentionally scalded in the bathtub, so I hope this saves someone else from having a problem. Tap water that is 130 degrees can cause severe burns to a child! If you place a child in water of this temperature for 30 seconds or longer it can result in a full-thickness burn. Many adults don't think about it because they can tolerate this and higher temperatures. Remember, children's skin is very delicate. Make it a rule to always test the water before placing a child in it and help prevent accidents by keeping toddlers away from hot water taps.

(Close the bathroom door.) Consider turning your hot water heater's thermostat to between 120 and 125 degrees. Ed James Thanks so much for sharing this good advice. Where children are concerned, parents can't be too careful. I hope your grandson is getting better every day. Heloise Dear Heloise: I recently saw an article somewhere about growing pineapples from the fruit Could you give me any help with this? K.

Lepper I would be delighted. Begin with Words the Doctor May Not Know." The findings, published in the North Carolina Medical Journal, were based on Sugarman's own experience, patient interviews and discussions with resident and attending physicians at Duke Medical Center and the Veteran's Administration Hospital. Sugarman's interest in patient terminology arose during medical school. "I began to realize that it took me longer to take medical histories than some other doctors. And it was because I was having difficulty understanding some of the terms the patients used." Terms like "low blood," for anemia, and "high blood," for hypertension, came up regularly and were pretty easily understood, even for a doctor born outside the South, like Sugarman.

He was stumped by others, like "fireballs," for fibroids, "Eucharist," for uterus, "strutted feet" for swollen feet and "agures chill," for a violent chill possibly indicating sepsis. When he heard "spinal-moanin-Jesus," for Spinal meningitis, he began to "catch on." One day Sugarman broached the subject with Butters, an associate professor in the English department and editor of "American Speech." They agreed to compile and classify some of these terms. The two looked at the data presented in Whalen's "Medical Malaprops" (1961), Kolin's "The Language of Nursing" (1973), and Pound's "Hospital Lingo" (1938). They also looked into James D. Thomas' work on problems of members of the American subculture of Gypsies interacting with the health care system, and L.F.

Snow's work focusing on problems relevant to some American blacks in similar settings. "We divided patient medical talk into two categories: malapropism, in which the patient confuses the pronunciation of standard medical terminology; and slang and nonstandard dialect terms that may differ regionally or socially from what the doctor may be familiar with," Butters said. Terms regularly encountered by Sugarman and his colleagues include "article," for artery, "Old Timers' Disease," for Alzheimer's Disease, "tentacles," for testicles, and one that Sugarman describes as "humbling" "Insensitive Care Unit," for Intensive Care Unit. Debbie Selinsky is a reporter for The Duke University News Service. DURHAM, N.C.

A patient who complains to the doctor about "athletic fits," "cascading" and "running off at the bowels" is probably talking about epileptic seizures, vomiting and diarrhea, according to a physician and a linguist at Duke University. Dr. Jeremy Sugarman and Ronald R. Butters have undertaken a project to provide practical help for doctors seeking a better understanding of terms patients use to describe symptoms and illnesses. Their collaboration resulted in an article called "Understanding the Patient: Medical 2 Music exposure helps children develop Watch for our nn AmTnT and NEW IMAGE For Home Delivery call 272-7422 THE TAMPA TRIBUNE ment singing and playing an instrument" Collins has written "Piano and Your Preschooler," a free brochure for parents available from the National Piano Foundation.

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