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SALEM PSYCHIATRIST ADVISES! MEANINGFUL ACTIVITY- Stream eels Outside 411 st In I 4ir h-t Main of Life Marie has begun to feel mote and more despondent lately. She has many married friends Nvho often invite her to their homes for dinner or a game of bridge But after spending an evening xwltn a married couple, she often comes home feeling alone and miserable. As she sees her married friends engrossed in their family activities, she feels that she's on the outside of the main stream of living, with no way to move inward toward the center. She finds that often her married friendsare not interested in the iiVenti which make up her life the inner-office quarrels, her latest promotion or the challenges she faces dailjon the job. She feels that although she is liked by man people, she is of no special value to anyone.

No man needs herte satisfy his physical and emotional needs. Her girl friends are soNwrapped up Or they can find constructivt and productive outlets for themselves, i They can seek out new interests, and activities, he said. But these must be meaningful, not busy work used to fill up time. Marie, who missed having children of her own, had volunteered to work twice a month in a children's ward of a Salem hospital, reading stories to the patients and doing her best to cheer them up. VOLUNTEER ACTIVITY The doctor suggested that she devote more time to this type ef volunteer activity and work a set number of hours each month.

"A married person can't be a parent one day and not the next A single person wanting to receive meaningful rewards from as activity must work at the activity. It can't be done on a hit or miss basis," he said. A woman who has creative abilities should continue to develop them, striving to perfect whatever talents she has. the doctor 'said. "Resourcefulness and an avid interest in the world around you are the keys to life's satisfactions," he said.

joys of life go not to the benignly contented, but to tha dedicated hustlers who are willing to fight and strive for "It's, hard for a single girl to feel valuable In a society which places such an emphasis on marriage which is considered tha proof of a girl's worth and desirability," the doctor told Marie. "Single women feel they're missing Out on the most important event in their life if they're not married," he said. "They fee. this no matter who tells them to think about all the blessings they have, such as few responsibilities and more money to spend on themselves," he added. The single woman who has devoted herself to her career and suddenly feels lost and empty can be compared with the married woman whose last child has left home, the psychologist told Marie.

Suddenly she feels that everything of value has been removed from her life, he said. STOP AND WONDER "Everyone stops and wonders at some point in his life about the value of what he is doing and where he is going," he said. "This kind of thinking brings about meaningful change." When women find themselves feeling lonely, they have many alternatives, he said. They can sit around and feel sorry for themselves, They can start drinking heavily to forget the plight they're in. Jl cr' omB fc today, with vlc On how haadl Utei dlleiUUi provided by thre Salm psyciUtrfitt.) By JOAN KRAUS Capita! Journal Writer Marie, a 40-year old private secretary, was divorced from Bob six years ago.

Following the split, she began working in Salem for an attorney. For the first year after her divorce, she liked her new life as a single girl. She could spend as much money as she wanted on without explaining herself to anyone. She could fk a peanut butter sandwich for dinner without feeling guilty about it. She was free of masculine demands on her time and emotions.

But after living alone for a year, she found that freedom from a man's concern could be a lonely thing. She found that although two is company and three's a crowd-one often adds up only to desolation. Marie wonders if she'll ever marry again. She hopes so. But she's beginning to doubt it.

For there aren't many available men around. in then own lives tnat tney have neitner tne time nor the in clination to devote much thought to her. SEEKS PSYCHIATRIST'S HELP Marie was feeling more and more useless to herself and the world around her. She sought a Salem psychiatrist's help to fnd out how to channel her energiee so that she could lead a more productive life. f'J 1 "HI Sheridan Couple Exchanges Vows a 1 1 i.

Capital Women Edited by Marian Lowry Fischer Page 6, Sec. 1, CAPITAL JOURNAL, Silent, Oregon, Friday, August 23, 1963 and scalloped lace neckline with sequin trim. Her shoulder-length veil was held by a Dior rose. She carried a yellow orchid in a cascade arrangement of stephanotis. The bride's attendants were Mrs.

Ron Barklow of Olympia, a cousin of the bride. Mrs. Ralph Rogers of Springfield and Mrs. Mike Fagan of Portland. They wore green and yellow dresses made with semi-full skirts and carried long-stemmed roses.

They wore headpieces of Dior roses. i Best man was Ron Chapman of Sheridan, brother of the bridegroom. Jan Wepster and Gary Williams, also of Sheridan were ushers. Yellow gladioluses decorated the church. Mrs.

Pat Wellman was organist and the Rev. Well-man was soloist. The reception was held in the church parlors. Amity Couple Moves SPRING VALLEY Mr. and Mrs.

Don Beener have moved te Spring Valley from Amity. SHERIDAN Miss Marcia Mae Bryant, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Lyle Bryant of Sheridan, and Walter William Chapman, son of Mr. and Mrs.

Kenneth Chapman, also of Sheridan, were married Aug. 17th at the First Methodist Church in Sheridan. The Rev. Donald Wellman of Eugene, a cousin of the bride, performed the single-ring ceremony at 7:30 p.m. The bride, given in marriage by her father, wore a full-length dress of net and lace, fashioned with bouffant skirt, fitted bodice Bride's Father Officiates Baldwin-Brown Service Portland Repeated in Miss Dorothy Yvonne Brown of Portland and Ronald Emer Baldwin of Independence were mar i i the waistline into a chapel train.

The elbow-length veil was held in place with a crown of seed pearls. The bride carried a white Bible topped with white rosebuds and stephanotis. Miss Phyllis Brown, the bride's sister, was maid of honor. Bridesmaids were Misses Betty Behrens of Salem, Lillian Zornes and Lois Ferris. All wore floor-length dresses of candy rose satin.

They carried cascade bouquets of white carnations. FLOWER GIRL Debby Parker was flower girl ried Aug. 18 at 8:30 p.m. rites in the First Evangelical United Brethren Church in Portland. The bride is the daughter of the Rev.

and Mrs. Wilmer N. Brown, formerly of Salem. Mr. and Robbie Parker was ring- bearer.

Both are cousins of the bride from Orinda, Calif. Baldwin is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Donald Baldwin of Independence. ON ANNIVERSARY Dave Baldwin was best man for his brother.

Ushers were Art Allen, Glenn Vaughn, Jerry Reunion Set For Touring Students I Schuler, and Walter Lindow. The date marked the 25th At the reception, Mrs. Paul wedding anniversary of the Parker of Orinda, and Mrs bride's parents. The Rev. Mr.

Brown gave his daughter in mar -4 71 1 i Iff Vv XtVMr.t;.:3 tv r-- r. 1 -i t- vi. f-4v ht MfMryitm A 'J I I i J. 1 i' i I I lr i 1 4 v' i i riage and also officiated at the Sanford Brown of McMinnville cut the cake. Mrs.

William Maur-er and Mrs. Arnold Egger of you are invited to our Heller Knits Pattern i "Pearls of Knit'dom" i ceremony. Of imported satin was the floor- length dress of the bride. The skirt extended from beneath a large bustle bow at the back of Portland poured. The newlyweds will be at home in Portland.

On Sunday, several friends from here went to Portland for the silver wedding anniversary reception for the Rev. and Mrs. Brown. A reunion of the teen-agers who went on the "Student Tour U.S.A. for 1963" will be given Saturday.

A no-host supper will be serVed in the cafeteria in the Stayton High School at 6 p.m. Students from all parts of Oregon will attend the gathering. Booklets will be distributed for the 1964 tour. The 1963 group left in June, returning in July; At the Saturday event pictures taken on the tour will be shown. Salem students attending the supper will be Martha Mdgan, Ann Derthick, Sally Joe Juza, Helen McGrath, Anne Ronne, Betty Rice, Dennis Stoll and Steve and Roger Hosling.

Loucks Family Reports Birth A son, Alan Clark, was born Med ford Girl Visits Miss Bernice Worth, daughter Monday, Aug. 19, to Capt. and of Mr. and Mrs. Ted Worth of Mrs.

Raymond Taylor (Judy Salem, is visiting her parents this Loucks) of Mountain Home Air Force Base, Idaho. He joins a week. Miss Worth is a laboratory technician employed in Medford. FASHION; SHOW i sister, Jennifer Sue. Grandparents are Mr.

and Mrs. A. W. Loucks and Mr and Mrs. Willard Taylor, all of Salem.

Mrs. S-S Furniture Overstock Loucks is in Idaho to greet the new arrival and to visit at the Taylor home. Mrs. Alexander air of savoir-faire, this buttoned-and-bowed beauty is black magic at Its ultimate! Schreiber of San Diego, is BOLD, BLACK AND BEGUILING, this figure defining sheath is as saucily chic as it's daringly different. With a very V'd neckline and a general lSHUY the maternal great-grandmother.

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He was all dressed up in his MOTHER'S clothes! He said, "Take a look at me." Then he said it was "fun," and I should get dressed up in ladies' clothes, too. I said "Drop dead if that's all you have to do in your spare time. I will see you later." I walked out of the house. I am wondering now is he sick? What should I do about it? I'm sure his parents don't know. I am all shook up over it.

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