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News Monday, Fehruery 27, 1984 so, 'f News Monday, Fehruery 27, 1984 I 1 BURIAL, from 1B BURIAL, from 113 "ut1ge in i'LIDJUE, I I I 4 4 4 4 A I I Dear Abby A School bus seat belts wouldn't help save lives Dear Abl Schoo would les 1928, when the county population was small, the rare and sundry indigents were reportedly buried in the old City of Miami Cemetery at Northwest 19th Street and Second Avenue, a prestigious place where the remains of such founding families as the Tuttles and Burdines rest. As more and more people of every variety began coming here, spurting the population, more and more unclaimed bodies or bodies relatives said they simply couldn't afford to bury became a problem that had to be disposed of. That was when the county went into the graveyard business and struck the agreement that exists today with the undertakers. Metro-Dade budgeted 8110,000 for the program this fiscal year. And it remains today the only county in the state owning its own graveyards.

1928, when the county population was small, the rare and sundry indi- gents were ere reportedly burled In the old ty of Miami Cemetery at Northwest 19th Street and Second Avenue, a prestigious place where the remains of such founding land. lies as the Tuttles and Burdines rest. As more and more people of every variety began coming here, spurting the population, more and more unclaimed bodies or bodies relatives said they simply couldn't afford to bury became a problem that had to be disposed of. That was when the county went into the eravevard business and struck the 7' zens of the community, and they're .4 in circumstances now where they 1 want mom out of that grave. -4 A 1 i 4.

"Or, in other cases, a family has I- had a change of heart. You don't 1' 1 112, know how many we '0-4 Ai I A. s' their death, they say, 'We haven't i J. '1-' when their family is notified of 4 ck 1" 4.4..; 4 1 seen him in 20 years and we 9 4. '46, 14' couldn't care And then there are those who I dc I simply are not notified for varying ..,1 4 reasons and when they find out I-of ,1 4' 4.

r. they say, 'What do you mean you A 1, buried her i fl''''e, tz Gaensslen said the county does everything it can to assist in such Simple monument a symbol that someone cared disinterments. i For one thing, it frees, another The inmates had put the top of dead flower. gravesite. the coffin back in place, and one Each year, she said, people come began nailing it down while the to her and ask if or where a relative For another, the people who ant their relatives out 'are adaother two prepared lowering straps is buried.

Some simply want to see mant in their feeling. that would be affixed to each end of the exact spot, and Gaensslen often g. It is not because there is no tell. the coffin. In the distance, the big will go with them on her days off to machine was heard rumbling that unlock the gate and show them.

gious ceremony a practice dis- continued, she said, because of "a way. Others wish the body disinterred lot of flack from various religious Officer Gonzalez was pleased and buried with a religious ceremo- groups because a corrections officer 4 with this day. "Sometimes it's pret- fly in a private cemetery. was reading a few verses from the ty bad," he said. "Sometimes we "Many of these are Latins who psalms." get them in body bags.

As soon as we lay them out, the flies start came here very poverty-stricken," It mostly has to do with pride, she said. "They lost a loved one, but she said, even for the homeless swarming. And then there's the couldn't afford to pay for a burial. winos. Nobody really wants, she smell.

Always that same smell. You Now these people are in business said, to be buried by charity in a never forget it." for themselves. They're upright citi- nameless, unmarked grave. The Inmates had put the top of the coffin back in place, and one began nailing it down while the other two prepared lowering straps that would be affixed to each end of the coffin. In the distance, the big machine was heard rumbling that way.

Officer Gonzalez was pleased with this day. "Sometimes it's pretty he "Sometimes we get them in body bags. As soon as we lay them out. the flies start swarming. And then there's the smell.

Always that same smell. You never forget it." dead flower. Each year, she said, people come to her and ask if or where a relative is buried. Some simply want to see the exact spot, and Gaensslen often will go with them on her days off to unlock the gate and show them. Others wish the body disinterred and buried with a religious ceremony in a private cemetery.

"Many of these are Latins who came here very poverty-stricken," she said. "They lost a loved one, but couldn't afford to pay for a burial. Now these people are in business for themselves. They're upright citi unity, and they're .4 now where they tat grave. Ism a family has heart.

You don't we bury, because ly is notified of say, 'We haven't years and 'Ave are those who titled for varying they find Out, lo you mean you the county does I -4 I 4. I 1 112,, 4' ,111 1 ts A I 1, 4 1 44, 1 to, 't I P. ..4,4 Af! 4 7 DEAR ABBY: "BR. in Avi Ila, Ind." asked, "If seat belts say. lives, how come they don't have seat belts in school buses?" You replied, "Good question." There are no seat belts In school buses for a very good Is reason: They are unnecessary.

I School buses in case to afford ctz, maximum protection case of a sudden im a a high-backed 1 well-padded, and made with the sturdiest materials. If a school bus were to catch firs 1 or to plunge off a bridge and land upside down in deep water, it would be Impossible Abby for the bus driver assuming he was conscious to unbuckle 50 or 60 kindergartners. Studies prove conclusively that seat belts on school buses would COST lives not SAVE them. ENGINEER, PHILADELPHIA DEAR ENGINEER: Now let's hear it from a former school bus driver: DEAR ABBY say. lives, how I buses?" You reF 41k AI i Abby conscious to prove conclusivi COST lives PHILADELPHIA DEAR ENGI bus driver: seat belts In school -N, 1 The big machine lowered its claw and the lowering straps were slipped under the coffin and attached around the claw.

The machine gently lowered the coffin with the steadying assistance of one of the Inmates. Then, as quickly as that was done, it began covering the cot- fin. By 11:15 a.m., the procedure was over. The machine had rumbled away, the burial crew had boarded the van, and Sharli Gaenssien was walking back across the burial ground toward her rented car. As she walked, she passed by a small mound of stones that some unknown person had erected.

In the center of the mound was a green, plastic flower pot holding a long straps were slipffin and attached The machine gen- coffin with the ice of one of the quickly as that I covering the cot- the machine procedure 'h had the burial crew van, and Sherif liking back across toward her rented she passed by a stones that some lad erected. In the and was a green. holding a RUG SERVICE We Specialize In ORIENTAL RUG Cleaning rringing Surging Repairing "It Pays to Properly Care for your Rugs" 8725 SW 132 St. 232-3368 MIRA HOLD PAD Available, the best for Orionis! ores rugs. Cut to fit.

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As a bus driver, I have had to break up fights, bandage wounds, stop bloody noses, remember who left the green sweater on the bus, return lost books, name it. The question of seat belts has come up many times, but experts in transportation safety agree they should not be installed in school buses. SCHOOL BUS DRIVER (RETIRED) Dr. Joyce Brothers Is there any hope for man who can't get a pay raise? DEAR ABB protecting child respect the rule have to look in I who is causing I from the road. A fights, bandage left the green st it.

The question experts in trans, installed in schc Dr. Joycl Is ther who I I 1 DEAR DR. BROTHERS: My wife is tired of hearing me complain about how tight my employers are. My boss hasn't given anyone a raise for two years. once dared to mention this and he said he never got a raise from the big boss at the top, so why should he c141''51-.

be generous? I know at least three of the workers would quit tomorrow if there were i any other lobs available. How can a guy take this risk when he's trying to support a 4 family? It seems to me this is a no-win ea. T1 ab situation. What's the answer? VAC DEAR You may just have to wait Brothers until there are more jobs available. It sounds as if your Immediate boss is under pressure and may be experiencing some of the same frustration you feel.

Paul Goodman of the Graduate School of Industrial Administration at Carnegie-Mellon University researched this subject and found that a high-performing boss who was himself well paid tended to relate pay to performance, giving good workers high pay and poor workers low pay. If you're in a situation that you can't change at the moment, and it sounds as if you are, try to accept and live with it for now. DEAR DR. complain about given anyone a I ct 1 4 ,04., lib Brothers as if your immeC experiencing sor Paul Goodn Administration a subject and four himself well paid good workers hil If you're in i moment, and it with it for now. Ellaines DIPtitert'S FIRM AM FAVITA ST4 SALE! Ellain'te) 118,, piRivi AmIll ATAsTc SAliziE was- 10:47 before the green-and-white Metro-Dade Corrections and Rehabilitation Department van finally arrived for the detail.

Three Inmates, led by corrections officer Roger Gonzalez, followed the small entourage into the cemetery area. First buried were the Gonzales, armed with a blueprint and a log book, approached the long, open trench where the unnamed, unknown little bodies would be placed. Their memory at least out here would be only a numbered notation. Reed drove his station wagon beside the trench. A stone-faced in.

mate reached into the back and tenderly moved the small boxes out, passing first one, then the other to the second inmate, who quickly passed the boxes down into the trench, where the third inmate gently laid them end-to-end and climb4 ed back out. The only sounds heard during this were a screeching bluejay and the rumbling start of the large Warmer and Swasey Gradall machine loaned by the county's department of public works. The four-wheeled machine's steel claw, which had cut through the solid rock like a hot knife through warm butter to cut the burial trenches, reached out and down to scoop the dug-up crumbled rock and, as gently as such a machine could, cover the tiny caskets. As the machine did its deed, the entourage moved south, then east to the trench that received adults. By now Reed had left and Healy had transferred the particle board casket to his station wagon, which he drove to the adult grave site.

There the inmates removed the casket, resting it on the ground. They lifted the cover a requirement of the county to make sure Healy had done the final work. He had. The man's hair was combed, and his beard neatly trimmed. He had been nicely dressed in a clean suit, including shirt and tie.

Horror stories are easy to come by in the burial business. Gaenssien has heard them all, often about what supposedly happens in the indigent cemetery that she's in charge of. The charges range. Some have it that the county just bulldozes the indigents into mass graves. Some say they just stack the caskets one on top of the other, triple-decking them, even stacking them five on top of each other.

One story that keeps making the rounds is that the caskets are buried standing on end all of this in the name of space. Others say the funeral directors simply wrap the bodies in news. papers before boxing them. The grisly stories go on and on. Gaensslen laughs and shakes her head at the tales.

She doesn't doubt that they are told, because she has been asked by people if they are true. Where the stories come from, she doesn't know. Perhaps, she speculates, an overzealous funeral director is trying to hold out for a private funeral and tells such stories to scare the families into a better deal. She doesn't know. But if she found that such was the case, she would raise hell.

"First of all, we've done a lot over the years to make our cemeteries things of dignity. I'm very proud of that. The bodies are dressed, completely made up, as if they were going to have the finest funeral in town. "And our graves are very generous. Our adult graves are five feet wide and 10 feet long, which is bigger than any private cemetery in Dade County.

We allot one five-by10-foot space for four babies. We used to use the same space for two, but they're so tiny and space is at a premium in Dade County. Because of grave expense, some private Dade cemeteries actually do allow double-decking of bodies in graves if they're in the same family." IT they're In the tame 28 The Miami 28 The fillam nieM 28 The Miami Senior forum Kent Collins Senior fc Kent If anything can get you firm and fantastic in a hurry its our Powercise program, Its called the greatest exercise program ever invented. And with good reason because Powercise goes beyond Aerobics and dance type programs by giving you cardiovascular health plus a whole lot more including rapid inch and weight loss. We offer different programs to fit your individual needs.

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She took care of I ''ik them, now it's their turn to take care of her. tarr- 1 she is not the responsibility of the 1 1 i taxpayers. No wonder the welfare programs are overburdened. I am retired on a modest income. I have no children.

I have never asked anything from my government. I Collins would like to encourage all citizens to do likewise. I paid a lot of income taxes over the years to support people who took from the tax rolls. The woman should go to her children for help not the government. SACS.

DEAR S.W.S.: In principle. a lot of people would agree with you. But your philosophy would spell disaster for thousands of our older citizens. Social observers write books on that. A letter from a 64-year-old widow illustrates the reality.

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I don't know how long it will be before they try to put me in the rest home. But I'm afraid." Linda Albert Daughter needs special help to get along with her peers DEAR MR. I woman who stn "comes to the r1 I 4-2 ,.0 l' Collins likewise. I paid support people should go to he SACS. DEAR S.W.

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She says she doesn't like the other kids end they don't like her. I see similar problems with the kids In the neighborhood. What should we be doing? I MRS. G.G. DEAR MRS.

Begin by teaching her -1" the language of play. She needs to know how 7 to ask for something if another child is using it. Teach her to say "I want to play with 4 Will you Tye it to me viten you are finished Albert with it?" When another child coverts Something she es playing with teach her to be assertive and say I am using this now. You may have it when I am through." Adults who work with your daughter need to give her special recognition and attention when she cooberstes wrth ether kids, reef than when she buts therm. The pattern gettimg rtention for irappropriata behavior needs to be reversel She alo needs state; es tog eivessirg and reeasing her angry arid hose feelogs.

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