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if sm 4 4 IS SB Standard-Examiner Sunday April 8 1973 JVVOMEN ALONE As Affair Cools hat's Salvageable? I i By ISABELLA TAVES may spark up a dull sex life his children but his relation polygamous relationship and long ago I ran a letter but as he grows older there is with his wife is his own affair 'avoid jealousy from a widow who admitted more to life than sex nd it makes me uncomfortable! some cultures it is ac- woman by her own ad- when he talks about her But cepted In ours it is very dif- she was having a serious affair with her boss a married man Shi? has never had any idea of taking him away from his wife yet' recently she had become mission does not want to be: may jjave f0 resign herself permanently saddled with a man who may get difficult as to living with his wife as long OGDEN WOMAN OBSERVES 80TH BIRTHDAY MONDAY Mrs Elizabeth (Bessie) Christiansen the former Elizabeth Davis of 2526 Adams will celebrate her 80th birthday Monday She was born April 9 1893 in Scotland She will be honored at a family party Saturday Mrs Christiansen was married in 1911 to James Christiansen in the Salt Lake LDS Temple He died in 1968 She had seven sons and daughters six of whom are living They are: Mrs Joe (Ruth) Git-tens and Mrs Paul (Jean) Mecham both of Salt Lake City Mrs John (Iris) Cameron of Georgia Mrs Jack (Elizabeth) Oxburrow of Carson City Nev Mrs Ina Carter of Ogden and Fred Davis Christiansen of Salt Lake City She has 35 grandchildren 65 great-grandchildren and one great-great-grandchild as the affair continues if she wants it to continue she will have to avoid jealousy as that will drive him VAX' '-'3r he gets older grow a paunch annoyed with the number of maybe or get tired even betimes he mentonedher jcome an invalid She wrote plaintively feel lover may also be aware as though she was the third 'of the statistics on death and home quicker than anything one irt our disablement of men as com-else The question to answer I expected angry responses pared to women 'really is: Can you live in a to her complaints and I got has several courses open them from both men andjto her 1) She can level with ijZj yQ advised her that him to let him off the ficult know I would never go after another husband Not because I am moral but because the problems involved are too unpleasant Even if the wife quietly and sweetly gets out of the picture the man will still have to deal with his guilt! feelings someday have met several women who let their husbands go with no fight and unanimously they say he stay with the second wife either After the sex wore out there was no1 lifetime of shared experiences to sustain the AV- women wha offer no matter how hard you tried hook and break up the affair to avoid guilt feelings theyjor 2) she can offer to continue would appear and ruin the re-jit on a much more unemotion- Fi-Wo-Ca Literary Club will meet Thursday at 3:15 pm at the home of Mrs Dixon Kapple 1357 Kershaw Mrs Evan Christensen will give the book review lation Other more sympathetic women many who had told her to stop acting like a wife and a jealous wife at that One said up the man be surprised what you can There are places and people which won put her on the one potentially most destruc-spot she is right now waiting tQ every0ne including her- for the bad news that it is js t0 put pressure on him! to marry her ally involved level where they enjoy each other for sex only and do not ask for deeper emotional commitment have an affair going at the present time which is on this level APPLY PRESSURE third alternative and the 4 -VC i l'P'4 -V 'JpAar x- i WfL Jt S3 A I Xy ''X'S iX Jhk: MRS NELSON WALLS KEEP PRIDE At least she can retain her pride if she quits now Another said you are feeling now is nothing to the guilt you would feel if you had broken up the marriage and wrere sitting home wondering who is the new woman in his Several told her sharply to take a look at herself and her life and decide what she really wants More generously a number of women agreed that a human being male or female ig capable of loving two people at once and that if she cannot accept this she is not making a mature adjustment: gets to see him every day envoys flowers and thoughtful presents and they make love at least once a week Many wives wotald Mrs Leon Taylor was at- feel superly adored if they retending matron with Miss Linda ceive the same attention from SHOE VOVS SPOKEN Attractive Terrace Maiden New Bride WASHINGTON TERRACE Debra Jones sister of the In a ceremony solemnized bride as maid of honor Saturday at New Zion Baptist They wore lavender and hot Church in Ogden the former pink gowns of Chantilly lace Miss Gloria Jones became! over satin with a Mandarin the bride of Sgt Nelson I collar and leg-of-mutton sleeves I i 1 i carries with it the risk not only that he and will break up the affair it also carries the risk of alienating his grown children and grandchildren from him causing him in the end enormous guilt and setting up a situation where the new marriage faces great trouble obviously wants more i than a simple sex liaison but: want either the res- possibilities of marriage or the problems of breaking up this' home has however made me realize again that one of the! rules in these situations for the wife is patience is very difficult and ini a situation v'here the is putting pressure on the man it creates avery un- pleasant situation for everyone involved all want some emotional-support from other people and! a man of your own who gives it to you is one of the best But we also need to be able to accept as a fact of life that an avfair will not last forever and if she wants emotional support a single man is a much bette bet NO STRINGS is probably nothing she can do to bring back the old relationship with her lover She accepted him i no strings attached and now he is taking her at her word think I might gently tell him that I love to hear about Walls Following the ceremony nerformerl hv the Rev Willie iC- Jones- Miss Kathy Jones their husbands Davis the couple greeted guests asters of the bride and Missj have to accept the at a reception in the church eria Wads sirier of the whims of circumstance but VM Ml y-i y-v y-i 1 y-J 4 i 1 yi Right On For Easter Fashion and quality combined with the just-right fit of our expert staff Shown are just 3 from our collection in Children's Shoes all stores in white crinkle patent Growing girls' 5 to 8 1650 black patent strap classic Misses 1212 to 3 1395 Growing girls' 4V2 to 8 1495 in white and blue crinkle patent with platform sole Misses 12y2to3 1295 Growing girls' 412 to 8 1395 social hall bridegroom as bridesmaids wives have the privilege of do- SHEER ORGANZA ing the wash mending fixing BRIDE'S PARENTS Their gowns were fashioned the meals and making love The bride is a daughter of Mr after the maid and matron of when and if the children are and Mrs Hermon Jones of 210 in lavender and hot pink asleep or out of the 4400 sheer organza over satin Another woman agreed Mr and Mrs William Best man duties were per- is capable of loving both you Walls of San Francisco Calif formed by Donald Williams with and his wife in separate ways are parents of the bridegroom ILasalle Turner as head usher and compares you to his wife The bride selected an Alencon jand Leon Taylor William either consciously or uncon-lace tiered gown with a Vic- McCoy Jimmy Brown and sciously Melvin Hampton as ushers love him too much and Patrick Gates was should try to see less of him Juliet sleeves The ensemble ringbearer and David Brooks He is a good friend but an af-was completed with an Alencon was trainbearer fair is only an lace chapel-length train Following a wedding trio to 1MM PTP Mrs Lasalle Turner was Acapulco Mexico the couple matron of honor with Miss 1 will reside in Utah Some personal confessions were so intimate that I have only passed them on to McD WEDDING IN YOUR FUTURE? so pertinent and understanding that I am using it in full HERE'S POLICY ON PICTURES much to think about as I am Planning to be married soon? 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