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ALCOHOLISM AND MARRIAGE There Are Dry By-paths To Temperance via Pushes By Belly Reef Women's News Service NEW YORK (WNS) All along Hie alcoholic's sodden road to ruin there arc dry by-paths to temperance. But to find them, lie a push in the right direc- at (he right moment, from the right person. His wife, at once contributor wilh him, lo explain I found him physically repulsive because of the aura of whiskey always around him Ihe depressing smell," she said. "But he'd Ml (lie liolllc rlnht after work and was never sober enough at home lo Inlk about anything." This way of life grew more and more intolerable; She sought guid- 'and chief victim of his condition from give him the most help if! her usba knows when and how. She can learn this from i.

information centers, hicn lls hc 'S't their 18th year wild Ifave now been set up in 67 ma-' cities around (be United States. with the Natonal Coun. cil on Alcoholism (NCA) in New York, these are usually called. alcoholic addiction and they have! of doctors who know bow treat it, psychologists and clergymen who it, and lists of specialized clinics where reeled her lo Ihe Domestic Reia lions Court. The summons they served sobered Neil up for two months.

"But only the group therapy at the Alcoholism Information Center kept him (hat way," she said, in gratitude. She had gone around lo get some of their literature anc talk to the social worker there. That's how she learned about the Vocational Rehabilitation Project. Remorseful about his violence and afraid of losing his job, Neil sponclcd lo Betty's suggestion that he join the group. In sessions which were held al the lime for wives, she learn- i ed she said, -(hat Neil hart been ismand marriage based on m(MMu because he was lone- Studies by the National )y because he was never sure she loved him, and because she was so often full of disgust and contempt.

from a psychiatrist who sent most help i usbancl to a hospital for a was sclcs abuse reached This is the last of a series of five articles on alcohol- he threatened to kill her with a shotgun. Betty went to her clergyman. "It's nice to know your minister THE AMARILLO GLOBE-TIMES Amarillo, Texas, Friday, October 20, 19S1 Page 15 West Indians Gain Respect For Heritage by Dancing I through," she couldn't help." When all Neil's income went into drinking and there was nothing to support the household, she went to see a lawyer, who di- it can be treated. "Alcoholism need not be a hopeless illness," said Dr. garet Bailey, who heads a research project involving 262 wives of.problem drinkers in the greater New York area.

"The wife who learns where help exists in her community knows where to (urn at Ihe strategic moment when her husband is ready to accept il," she continued. "The aftermath of remorse which follows a severe hinge or a drunken blackout can be the right psychological moment to steer him to effective help." Various experiments are now being conducted by government- and foundation supported groups and stage actress, to find better methods of reslor- ing obsessional drinkers to normal life. One of these is an NCA demon- understands what you're going much on church attendance, she By Betty Reef Women's News Service PORT OF SPAIN, Trim dad is the nost important thing in life is secondary--only a ong gopd-bye," said Beryl IcBurnie, one-woman pio leer of the Caribbean dance. This tall, attractive, humorou oinster of interminate age, who manatcs vitality and radiates at ection. is the founder and main Still in group-therapy, Neil has stay of the Little Carib Theater Physically nothing more Han i three-walled shed wllh lial- been sober now for a year and a half.

Though Belly was never said, "but heinow goes regularly "lo thank God for Neil's cure and to pray that he finds permanent peace of mind," she said. When he she will have her own heart's de sire a happy marriage. Hat Gives Actress Feeling rs TTI i Ui Being Well Dressed By Vivian Brown AP Newsfeatures Wriler If you want to make a hit with the boys, wear a hat. Boys love 'em, says 19-year-old Deborah Walley, movie nd stage actress, "I have a lot of hats and I wear them all day, even early in the morning," she says. "A hat gives me a wonderful feeling of being) stration project in Manhattan in wel1 dressed, and my datesj a i which ncvrhintrictp am mfnpiahvavs arlmirfi mv hals." I cloche because it covers her which psychiatrists are using! always admire my hats.

group therapy to return problem Deborah's favorite hats are drinkers to their jobs. Six- groups mboxes ideal for her small Bh from the U.S. Office of Vo-l lra 8 cations! Rehabilitation, the poun sions have continued for a year' The hats also are inexpensive, and a half. since Ihis green eyed, red- 'When I was on tour covering four or five cities day, there Was-no time for a beauty parlor. cony, the Litllc Carib is a unique institution.

II is a magnet which draws top dance talent from all over this liig, multi-racial island. It also draw's clapping, shouting audiences of Trinidad- ians, foreigners and tourists, including American families connected wilh the U.S. defense base here and Ihe Texaco oil refinery. An inspired teacher and choreographer. Beryl McBurnie transforms amateurs civil servants, students, clerks into a disciplined dance corrmany.

Any young person with a lilhe figure and bodily grace is likely to be recruited on the soot. "If I like the look, I go up and ask." explains Beryl wilh a shrug of her smooth, coffee-colored shoulders. Every word she speaks AMY ON ETIQUETTE Unworried, Happy Mother Is Truly Successful One By Amy Vanderbilt "DEAR MISS VANDERBILT: It made me feel very good after reading your article on dancing. I found out a while back that is true every word you printed. "I'm the mother of six (oldest 14, youngest 10 months).

I used to 'feel a little guilty when I dropped everything the liiiBhin" in a mc llnle 01 5 at bed-making, joking and laugnm, in disllwasnin doinf? tne clean pair of frontier pants and a neat blouse (I live in them) (ban to see me all beat, no lip- slick--and the home with everything in its place. "What I do for relaxation, or fo get away from it is bicycle riding. When Ihe older children arrive home from school I take off for about a half-hour ride. It's great fun and stimulating. D.Q., Brain- Iree, Mass." You find time for fun.

re) 1961 United Feoluri TM work to Svndlcale, Inc.) Rchekahs Hold Regular Meeting Mrs. Betty' Reid, noble grand, was in charge of the recent meeting of the Rebckah's Queen of the Plains 276, in IOOF Hall, 31ZH E. This letter gives me a chance-5th. to say some of the things I have! Mrs. Dclores Richardson was been wanting to say for some (he ac jng vice loblc grand "while the aim of every good! Visitors werc Mrs Doris Brid homemaker is a clean and order-j an past gra ofXID lly house, meals carefully pre-i olh BeU 4fi2 Falls.

N.Y pared and attractively presented; a l. MTM de de to her family, it is often impos-jP rcs iont of Dlstnct 11irce sible under many circumstances Announcement was made that to live up to what you expect niixt meeting will be a for- yourself and what you imagine imal initiation ceremony and that others expect of you. a Thanksgiving dinner for the If, for example, like this group is being planned. an you are the mother of six children, it is certainly more important to have enough relaxation real physical relaxation lhan to be overly concerned about perfect housekeeping. her nervous, tender voice is Choreographer Beryl McBurnie, founder of the Little uti 111,1 vulia lenuer vuiCc IS mi i accompanied by "body English" Ca Theater, raps out a dance rhythm for Phyllis Her bright eyes flash and roll, Allfrey, lone woman member of the West Indies ier nxnrcssive hands wafe, her cabinet, eet tap.

made me look respectable, even a group of Trinidad busi-, former British colonies, this to pay for Ihe theater's helps fuse the divergent strains ofj logi a i' stud "ii There are still no accurate assessments of its success. But the haired gal delights in making her own. She Julys buckram case of Betty and Neil, a couple! shapes in millinery supply stores who had been married for 20 years, tells something about school to studying though my hair was a mess I a with Marlha Graham. Beryl! southern wal1 Ber vl had already their culture, felt neat, so that I wasn't Ins'loosed, on a re ibuilt tlle eastern lva11 903 ain Trinidad has the barrassed meeting people," sheiceptive world, team after raised dollars. The stage, explains.

indiscnous dancers, After thcy! wtlich is cslern wall, was Young children are completely unconscious of dust under (he beds, but they feel acutely their mother's tension if she altempts to do (he impossible. A mother who can joyously do whatever she is able to do in her household and for her children, and who does not worry about what must be left undone, is mother. Psycho- ics indicate that chfl- idrcn remember, when they are grown, the companionable times (hey had with their parents P-TA Delegates Arc Elected "If you want your hat to be I learn, they leave for paid engagc-i'' 1 5 be finished. Betty, 40, is a waitress, and 42-year-old Neil a city fireman. They have two sons, ages 19 and 12.

styles. My little pillboxes for daytime wear are plain, just right for my type. Some girls wear pillboxes at the back of their heads, most volatile racial, religious, and cultural mixlure. Here Carib and museums they visited logeth- Arawak Indians, Spanish con- er the ice-skating on the frozen talked her family a quisladors, French planters, At- 'pond. Housekeeping for many wnm- and covers them with material a success, though, wear the hat men The Ullle Carib has no 1 Beryl lo match dresses or handbags, that.looks well on you not the money for salaries and jn(o i ric Mm Eas( wife's role in a man's 5 n0 ke hats or one mat is worn tne model I goj dms i the kjtchcn arri( of thcjl jll( lahorcl Por as well as indicating that 'oral hats Deborah 'he the Mmments home she couM jn therapy can work.

a AS "5P mod elhinc dancing as farithoaler on Ihe land, into the: coniributed their music, dancn. hot vibrant yellows amlj a "ossible." bright blues, to enliven plain blacki Blli wherever (liey or beige dresses. but I like mine lilted forward, ex- If TM an't find what you I her own flaming i theater also went the money she Kn, if is 'had carefully saved to buy a nthiusiasm i "I said lo myself, 'You're a I She knew him for more lhan when my hair is done in a in nat shops, visit millinery sup- two years before marriage. She loved him, she said, because he was attentive, neat, clean, loving, quiet, reserved--the things she wanted in a male. Friends told her he got dnink now and then, but she had never seen him that way.

There was no serious drinking problem until he came back from, the Army to learn that she had! met another man while he was away and wanted a divorce. His! reaction was to drink so heavily that he passed out, and several times, when drunk, pushed her around. She changed her mind about divorce, and they got together again. But his drinking grew worse. Periodically Ihey would quarrel and separate.lbcn i style that is fussy in front.

ply stores. Deborah suggests. Her evenin" oillhovps II-P Hppn Try on tllc various shapes of hat nir 0 piiiooxes aie aeco- Hi transmuted inlo motion (she jfool, McDurnie. Why do you want riMurbs and comiiiunicates joy at Ibe same lime," friend dress, and language. So have Ihe Scottish, Irish and English colonizers, and settlers from Latin America en without help and with many children is actually endless.

But it should not be without fun and diversion. It Is easier done with a whisllc than wilh a whine. A friend of mine Wilh Uvo children, a big house and no help Delegates were elected recently lo represent Avondale Parent- Teachers Association at the Texas Parent-Teachers convention which will be in Houston. Elected from the executiva board were Mesdames Floyd Seg- Ier and Glenn McDavid. Mrs.

Helen McNeil, a teacher, will also be a delegate. Advertlsemen) a car? What you really want or g'' eal project for next told me that she used a little theater. It cannot move; wi l)e a folk opera drag herself through the whole Holiday feasts made easy Planning a holiday dinner, especially for a large group relatives, is a pleasant but difficult task. November Better Homes Gardens helps you make it as easy as possible. There's complete informatipn for preparing both the traditional turkey dinner and an informal holiday raled wilh a single flower.

"Most people don'l wear hafs (o the Ibcaler, but I like to. I bad an unbelievable number of complinlcnis when wore a drCSS a i sides sewing. She swims, rides I Nornwndie's poolsidc dining ter-iancc she could buttonhole. Evorv- IilHbox thai covered with a hol scs anri coi iecls theater pro-! She doesn't uallv dine i i went inlo Ihe Little Carib. grams.

She also sculpts and pamtsj well, she said. She remembered: Now at long last, a permanent i i in Paris fo kc a car. but it can a a music and dance. day feeling generally sorry for, buffet. Detailed recipes simplify arts, of so called "pnki Chong." a nativejhcrself.

Then she got a morning'preparation, assure you of proud bodies and when you find one that 11 8 eir elcc you ab ut i suits, buy it and buy material' porfo TM ln move the hci to cover it. Patterns can be foundL rec nil for 'he Little; Next she borrowed her mother's wor TM- kilo, a bird, or job at a nearby nursery success. November Better for bags and even gloves if TM as comc TMri morlaagcd the R' 1 "i' man," as a an hour earlier, finished her! Homes Gardens on your are suffieicnty ambitious. Trinidad. Beryl confided, over aiand went nboul selling her lllc islands.

housework in two hours, and found! shopping list buy it todayl Deborah has (ilher bobbies be-jhure lobster lunch at Mie paintings (o every acquaint soft black rn.se," she says. Deborah's second favorite hat is'in oils. LOVELIER YOU By Mary Sue Miller (EDITOR'S NOTE: Letters ol inaulrv should be addressee a i i Box 158. Dundee. MM PERVERSITY OF WOMAN.

Studies show thai a preponderance of women past 50 years of the a a or he sake of i lise mak llio chidren." By he. Wh year Neil; rouge a tick A had lo be hospitalized three times pe arc also us- for intoxication. mascara, eyeshadow and -j; Each time he came out sobered pencil up then started drinking again. I Thus (he mature ovdy gjm She el so despairing she report- clear a des ir for con- ed. that she swallowed his entire tinued attractiveness.

And this -f supply of tranqmlizers and fell ea ds to the assumption that she lo a dead sleep for two days. Two; would be concerned about the con- days of surcease from her prob-jdition of Ihe skin under (he make- lems apparenlly restored her en-; up. But such is not the case. Less durance and laste for living. than half the age group applies i a dry-skin cream or lotion.

Vet it is a fact, and every woman knows it, that dryncss and lines increase with every candle Betty rosenfed the a that Neil had been unfaithful lo her during his Army experience and again during Ihcir separation. She was embittered further by (he knowledge (hat he had even committed adultery wilh her sis- (wo weeks on Iporridse (oatmeal) when her mon- didn't arrive. The British Government had i dven her a trin abroad, she (raveled through Spain, Morocco, i Portugal and France, "searching 1 the links (o our own dance She doesn't mind hunger! and then. "My darling, that cold porridge was looking as good! cuslard (o me some she remarked saily. I She won lite Order nf (be British Empire, first O.B.E ill art lo he "(inferred in the West Indies.

Iter trmipe performed in Puerto Rico and Canada and i brought the house down. They were a big hit all over Jamaica, after being slaked lo Ibe trip bv Brilish West Indian Airways, whoso board chairman H.O.B. Woortini; is one nf Little Cnrib's boosters. It was Mr. Wooding who ner- on a birthday cake.

The number of candles you may expect are on the increase too. Owing lo ad a PP "cation of modern skin care ivanccs in medicine, a woman of! rTM luets stays-wither. Why then been drunk. "I wanted to discuss tilings years of life full of vital activity. It is another fact that regular! cr-in-law once when both had may look forward'lo 27 1 1 a ev llcglccl hnfli dnmlr vofivc r.f i I i blthCr She SkCptlC 01' (IOCS know what to use.

For the "know-nols," here is a lisl of Ihe bare essentials: moisturized cleanser; skin freshener; moisturized lotion to wear under powder base; night-care cream or lotion, formulated with rich oils and such plusses as hormones and polyunsalurales. For the skeptic, Ihis advice: Be faithful to those beauty aids, anc the improvement in your skin will soon rout your doubts. Copvrloht mi. Field Enterprises Ine Social Calendar slructnre may soon milace the shod. The money lie raised bv popuhir subscription, and the Rockefeller Foundation has in- vifed Trinidad architeet Colin Lp.irri to have look al theater design in (he as earned ouf in Southern Florida University's theater in Tampa and at Harvard's neiv Loch Theater at Cambridge, The foundation i niav Rive other assistance Mcrmvhile Beryl makes her living as a phvsical education in- struct or at four teachers' col- leges, chasing back nnd forth he- ihvcen courses in elhnic dance.

This leaves only evenings and Sundays and barely enough energy for her life work. Her prophetic idea has been Ihnt dancc as an art form could infuse West Indians with respect for their own heritage. Now that the islands have joined together, fo form a new nation from 10 TODAY South Georgia ParenlTeachers Association, Halloween Carnival, school. 5:30 D.m. 8:30 p.m.

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