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Sunday, January 15, 1961 San Antonio EXPRESS and NEWS 9-F How Big Should Ideal' Family Be? LUNCHEON TIP Wedcuoj; Invitations, announce- Nice lor lunch: jeliy sandwich-' menls aad lthai vou eiv dipped in milk and graved or printed Social until brown--as for French ery street floor, Joske's of I toast. What size family makes an "ideal" family? There is no one answer, agree today's panelists. The considerations must include financial ability of the parents to care adequately for children, an most important- loCtor, "1 believe the 'ideal' family is from four to six children, if ls man Possible," said RAE NELL COEN, 16. They would be able to grow up harmoniously, learning.to Share and enjoy each other's companionship. Jt would teach them to live and get along with dislikes and likes of others and make each one realize that he is not the only 'one' in the world.

However, if the income of the family is small, I believe two children would be ideal. For they could also learn to share and have each other as a companion. A husband and wife must decide what is best for their ideal family, said LORRIE BARNETT, 17. "After considering all the factors: social acceptance, financial interest, spiritual beliefs and physical capabilities, a tentative agreement should be made by both parties. "If you can clothe, love and educate 12 children, then by all means have them! Contrary to this fact, if you can't afford a large family, thc-n have as many as you can provide for.

I cannot submit to the thought of bringing an innocent child into a world of hunger, ignorance and poverty. "Before you can have one child or eight children you must be aware of your responsibilities as a parent. A person must be mentally capable of handling a family; moreover, she must be mature enough to accept that responsibility. "1 feel that an ideal family would be four. I think they should be two years apart so that they will enjoy each other's company.

"I feel that a family of lour will suit my needs most because it is large enough to establish a true feeling of a family." Rae Nell's twin, RITA ANN COEN, says, "My idea of an 'ideal' family is four children. The parents would be able to care for and give their attention to each individual, whereas in an enormously large family it is almost impossible to give the needed- attention to each child. "It should be large enough to make each child enjoy playing and associating with other children and yet not so large "that each child does not have a chance for educational advancement which is sometimes financially difficult when a large family is considered. "In these when education is expensive but necessary for everyone, education should be an important factor in rearing children." For ELIZABETH ANN GALLE, the 'ideal' family does not rrally depend on size. "The important thing is that each member have a special kind of love for the others, a willingness to help the others.

The children should obey and respect their parents. And doing things together is very important. You can have an 'ideal' iamily of one child or 12. "As for myself, if I get married I think two boys and two girls would bo but if God thinks differently, it is just fine with me, "That is the 'ideal' sire for a family--the number God wants." Companionship is important thought MIMI McKINNEY, 16. "My 'ideal' family is one in which the parents, besides providing the necessities of life, are to be companions to the children, arc not able merely to feed, clothe and school them, but can mold them into successful personalities.

"My ideal family is able to spend time together in family nativities and my ideal family is four because in a a i of this size the parents will have lime to study each child as an individual and give each one the amount of guidance he or she needs. "In a large family, six or more, the parents must work hard In provide their children with the necessities, much less things which the children would like to have, such as a college education. 1 don't think the parents ot large families have time to be the companions they should be to their children. With all the work it lakes to keep up with a large family, it is cnly the extraordinary parent. 1 make time to spend with their families.

"I think that a family of iour children, two boys and two girls, will have plenty of time for companionship, but each child will have ample time to himself." Four to six children would make an ideal family for SON.IA CAROLE HELDT. "The reason I chose four to six is because an average family usually can see to the needs and wants of the children. "A child who grows up in an average family may have a better opportunity for a college education. There are exceptions. Too mfiny in one family may cause financial problems.

"Financial problems are sometimes the reason why a teenager may leave school to help provide for the rest of the family. "But if there are four to six in a family they always seem closer together. By this I mean the children are closer 'in their ages and therefore there is more unity in what do and think. "A family of this size learns to share things and to do things together. "No one can really say for sure what size family is the ideal family, all anyone can do is give an opinion, because there is God, the giver of life.

The family itself, no matter what size, makes it the ideal family." Big families seem best to SUSANNA E. CUNNINGHAM, 15. "I think that the ideal family should be a large one. 1 happen to be the oldest in a family of nine, so I know whereof 1 speak. I wouldn't give up a single one of my brothers and sisters, and 1 surely do wish I had some more.

"Being in a large family has its advantages. A person learns quite a bit about getting along with people and about homemaking. Living in a big family is a lot of fun, too. There are so TEEN-SOUNDING BOARD many things a family can do together. Picnics, going to the park, or just going for a ride are all things that our family likes to do.

It's inexpensive, too. "Then there is home life. Doing housework is a lot easier when there are many hands to do it, as well as a lot faster. "You get in some free psychology, too. The various problems of different members of the Iamily help you gain an insight into the problems of all kinds of people.

"1 will admit though lhat a large Iamily is hard on the parents, and, 1 might add, on the unfortunate oldest child as well. There is a terrific amount of responsibility involved. Feuding and clothing a large family is hard, but with the help of God it can be done. are other problems as well. Just try doing your homework some day accompanied by the sound of the latest model missiles being launched in one room and Cinderella's ball on in another! You have to be an expert on everything Irom model airplanes to setting a doll's hair.

"1 really, honestly tnink a big a i is the best you can have. 1 am having a wonderful time in helping to raise my brothers and sisters and 1 wouldn't have it any other way for anytning in the world." The 'ideal' family depends upon the parents, thinks ANITA PATASSO, 16. "For some people, four children are perfect, while for others six or seven are belter. Personally, I would like a family of six or more. Being the oldest in a family of five, 1 find that it helps us all.

"It teaches all the children responsibility, dependability and other traits that will help us in our later life. "But 1 believe it really depends upon the parents to create an atmosphere conducive to these traits. I'll admit having a large family is hard on both Mom and Dad, but it's worth it. 1 think the backbone of a family should be religious atmosphere, not just theoretical but practical. "Through your relationships with brothers and sisters you see the problems of other people, how they handle them, how you can help and when not to help." NOW AT LA FERIA- The Largest Selection of Nationally Advertised Brands at a Savings Breathtakingly beautiful, dream-come-true wedding gowns destined to create an unforgettable image of loveliness on your day of days.

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