Panama City News-Herald from Panama City, Florida on February 25, 1973 · Page 71
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Panama City News-Herald from Panama City, Florida · Page 71

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Starci|at Dyan CaiuMMi on Dyan Camion When^'re Alcme,^ Get to KnowUnirself A ctress Dyan Cannon has been Zm called by "Time" magazine JL m. "Hollywood's newest sex star." Following her painful and much-publicized divorce four years ago from Gary Grant, she seems to have emerged a wiser, more confident and relaxed person. We talked in the living room of a friend's Upper East Side apartment, where she'd been staying while making a movie in New York. In person, Dyan is younger, more beautiful, softer looking than she appears in photos and on the screen. With her was Jennifer, her dark-eyed, dark-haired daughter who sat quietly nibbling pumpkin seeds. FAMILY WEEKLY: Dyan, what do you think have been the greatest changes in your life the last few years? DYAN: I'm now my own guru. I'm no longer affected as much by people around me. I'm caring less about what other people think. That was one of the toughest things for me to learn: not to be a thermostat for people and not to let the outside influence me as much as it was. I lived my whole life trying to please everyone around mie, any immediate authority figure, teacher or parent. I've learned that I must be my own self in order to grow. I must decide for myself what is right or wrong for me because nobody can tell me any better about me than me. FW: Was divorce a difficult experience for you? DYAN: Divorce is a shattering experience. There are women all over this country who have two or three children and their husbands leave them without any alimony or child support. If they don't know how to work, if they don't have any trade, what do these women do? And what do they do emotionally if they have nowhere else to go? Right after my divorce, my work was everything to me. I'm still very thankful for it because it gav^ me something to do. FW: What has it been like living alone? DYAN: I found out that the only way my creativity was going to come out was to have the confidence to live alone. I finally decided why so many people run from their problems: because they're frightened to death of being alone. Jennifer knows how to be alone and how to be quiet and how to enjoy herself. And she does it very well! We do it together. She'll be in one part of the house and I'll be in another part of the house and every once in a while, we'll connect. When you're alontf, you find out a lot of things about yourself. 16 • FAMILY WEEKLY. February 25, 1973 "1 guess what I want is a playmate! I've always been in school with men—it's never been recess. Now, it's time for recess— By Helen Dorsey "When guys g«t into their forti**," Mys Dyan Cannon, "thoy got caught up in tho liuainom thing—they stop growing and •oem to get bogged down." Dyan start in "The Last o( Sheila" for Warner's, "Shamus" for Cohjmbia. FW: You had some experience in encounter groups at Esalen. What did they teach you about yourself? D^irAN: For the first time, I began to slow down and stop kidding myself. I had convinced myself that it was the material things that were making me happy. I learned then how very fragile I was. Feeling the extent of one's weakness is the extent of one's strength. Before, I had decided I was tough. I had thought I had strength. I found out I had had to develop that strength to fend off the devastating blows. FW: How do you like California compared with New York? DYAN: In California, it's quiet and I'm in touch with nature. I don't know how people manage here in New York. This city is geared to speed and activity and frenzy and faster and more money and quick and hurry. All you have to do is go away for a year and come back and get into a taxi. You think you're putting your life in the hands of a maniac. What is he doing? Where is he going? What is the rush? FW: How important is your career? DYAN: It's pretty important now. I don't know what it will be next month or a few months from now. It's not the only thing in my life. FW: Would you like to do something on Broadway? DYAN: I can't think of anything that would make me happier. I would even live in New York to work on Broadway. Knowing every night that I could go and make music would be my salvation. I love to sing and dance! I love it, but to get paid for it, too!... I'm even giving serious thoughts to putting together a nightclub act. This is a breeze next to films. On the stage, you start from the beginning and you go to the ending. Pilm making is the hardest work in the world. FW: What are your thoughts about marrying again someday? DYAN: I'm sorting that out right now. I'm scared to death just thinking about it. I've never really had a real one-to- one relationship with a man. FW: If you did marry again, what kind of man might he be? DYAN: It's hard to say what I'm looking for now. I'd like someone who likes to laugh a lot, even if it's over nothing. I'm not really sure what I'm looking for. I guess what I want is a playmate! I've always been in school with men- it's never been recess. Now, it's time for recess; volleyball games, picnics and camping in the woods. Maybe I'm looking for somebody younger. Too often, when guys get into their forties, they get caught up in the business thing-they stop growing and seem to get bogged down. Younger guys at least still seem able to bend. I don't want to be around men who have arrested themselves on any level, because then 1 can't expand either. I want to be where I can grow and learn. Thai's what turns me on more than anything. FW: Many stars seem to be into the drugs. How do you feel about drugs? DYAN: I've stopped all drugs in my life —even aspirin. Anything you put 'in your body has to deaden it, or dull or dope it. I've seen some of those people who experiment with drugs. I've seen what it does, to their minds and bodies. I've seen it destroy their lives. FW: Are you a permissive parent? How do you discipline Jennifer? DYAN: Up to now, anything she wanted to do, she could do. I mean, feel and touch. I just try to suggest things. Sometimes, Jennifer will try talking back to me, but she can't get a rise out of me. When she sees I ignore her and it doesn't work, she gives up. But sometimes I get really mad and blow. She does, too. Then I tell her, "Go ahead, honey, get it out," and sometimes that makes her even madder. It's healthy to teach kids how to cope with anger. Parents don't let their kids express themselves: let them go nuts and scream and holler. I tell her to do that, and she does it. Suddenly, it's all over, and I've got to think it works, because she is a joy! FW: How do you feel about yourself? DYAN: I like the change in myself. I feel much better about me. I find myself changing all the time, not about the basics really, but about attitudes and material things. I'm happy to be where I am right now, feeling more relaxed. I'm getting more open all the time. lUi

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