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3 I I I I I I II If I I lf Ml I 1 I I Jit Ml I I I i ill I rl rl KS ft VI rl I I Ui Jl VyiOjJJ, VvyJ 1J DivOamJ LH I JL DECEMBER 19, 1994 SERVING WISCONSIN'S GREATER FOX RIVER VALLEY TOM RICHARDS Post-Crescent staff writer Tense atmosphere in relationship with North Korea iter i Irn tions with the communist state. North Korean officials, communicating through a U.S. congressman visiting Pyongyang, say one pilot of a U.S. Army helicopter was killed and the other captured when the chopper strayed across the demilitarized zone dividing the two Koreas into North Korean territory Saturday. The death of Chief Warrant Officer David Hilemon of Clarksville, Rep.

Bill Richardson of New Mexico Is negotiating on behalf of the U.S. government WASHINGTON (AP) The White House promised today to "press very hard" for the release of an aviator downed in North Korea, but said the incident does not need to unsettle fragile diplomatic rela WE EEC 16: Packers 21, Falcons 17 was the most serious U.S.-North Korean military incident since the 1970s, and came at a time of tentative steps toward normalization of relations and negotiations over North Korea's nuclear program. "This tragic loss of life was unnecessary," President Clinton said in a low-key statement. Clinton said the administration was pressing for the prompt return group, is there?" HOLMGREN. Packer coach MIKE THUMBS UP: To QB BRETT FAVRE, who completed 29 of 44 passes for 321 yards and engineered the winning drive.

To TE MARK CHMURA, who had a career-high five catches for 63 yards. To FB EDGAR BENNETT, who rushed tor 46 yards and caught eight passes for a career-high 101 yards. To LB WAYNE SIMMONS, who saw hisitnost significant playing time of the season and contributed six tackles and several quarterback hurries. THUMBS DOWN: Tq CHRIS JACKE, who missed of Hilemon's body and the release of the second pilot, Chief Warrant Officer Bobby Hall of Brooksville, Fla. But he avoided any public criticism of North Korea's handling of the matter.

"We're going to continue to press very hard for the return of Chief Warrant Officer David Hilemon's body and Chief Warrant Officer Please see FLIER, BACKPAGE Post-Crescent photo by Mark Courtney two field goals, including a 37-yarder. To DT DON DAVEY, who jumped offside twice even though he was lined up in front of the ball both times. To the PACKER OFFENSIVE LINE, which was called for three holding penalties that killed Packer drives. NEXT WEEK: The Packers end their regular season with a Saturday noon game at Tampa Bay. If the Packers win, they make the playoffs.

The Buccaneers, 6-9, have won four straight games. INSIDE: C-1: Favre's touchdown dive keeps the Packers' playoff hopes alive. Chuck Carlson: The bottom line has yet to be determined. The best formula is the simplest: Green Bay wins and it's in. Favre makes the right decision.

C-4: Chmura makes the most of his chance. Statistics, scoring. C-5: The Packers were overdue for a game-winning drive. White gets a rest at a curious time. C-6: The Steelers wrap up the AFC Central by beating the Browns.

The Patriots, behind Bledsoe's three TD passes, eliminate the four-time AFC champion Bills. The Bears move into a first-place tie in the NFC Central. C-7: Johnson says he'll stick with TV. SAVING THE DAY, AND THE SEASON: Packer quarterback Brett Favre dives to the goal line to score the winning touchdown with 14 seconds left in Sunday's game against the Atlanta Falcons in Milwaukee. The victory keeps alive Green Bay's chances for a playoff berth.

PACKER PLAYOFF PICTURE Can't you wait a little bit, Mom? You can't help but wonder sometimes whose fault it is. I mean, who is responsible? Obviously, somebody has undermined family values. We have a sick society, and somebody did it. But who? With all the wisdom I can muster, I must say that I don't know. But I've got an idea.

We were shopping the other day. There's a lot of that going around this time of year. We were at a more or less conventional department store, and we were looking for a more or less conventional item. We wanted, for a 4-year-old girl of our close acquaintance, a little flannel nightgown. You know, little teddy bears or butterflies on it, little ruffle around the bottom, the kind you expect to see on the kid carrying a candlestick in a storybook illustration of Christmas.

I can tell you this without divulging to her what will be wrapped up for her because she doesn't read my stuff. Suffice to say that, in fact, we did find what we were looking for. But I saw something I never would have looked for. There on the same rack, in a little-girl size 5, was a sheer, frothy pink nylon gown. That's little girl size 5.

Sheer and frothy. No teddy bears, no butterflies. And, on a shelf almost adjacent, there were little plastic containers shaped like some kind of cute animal, and these contained several varieties of lip gloss. Lip gloss? Sheer nighties? For someone three feet tall and years away from puberty, much less the occasion for these things? That's sick. I mean, really sick.

This was a family-type department store, not some sleazy, back alley kiddie porn shop. This was next to the teddy bears, not the teddies. I'm not blaming the stores. Here's the law of the economic jungle: To the store, it's just merchandise, the same as motor oil and electric frying pans. The store isn't responsible for the ills of society, it just serves them.

The negligee was there because someone would buy it. But who? I can't be absolutely certain, because I wasn't about to stand around watching until a customer took this gown off the rack. But I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be some drooling, eye-rolling pedophile or some perverse creep of a male relative. Nope, I'm guessing that the biggest customer for this little Vicky's secret is none other than Mom. First, a kid that age doesn't buy clothes for herself.

Mom buys them. Second, I have to think that most men would agree that this is sick. Finally, most men don't even like to touch this sort of garment in public, much less one designed for a 4-year-old. When they are buying them for the grown-up ladies in their lives, they are inclined to point and look the other way. It is women who buy colognes and makeup and lip gloss for their little girls.

It is women who see to it that their tiny female children have their ears pierced for earrings. Before they have stopped wearing throw-away underwear. It is women who buy that ultimate in female-value-building, Barbie, so their daughters will understand what is important in life and what is valuable. If this seems as though I am taking a broadside (if you will pardon the expression) at women, it is because I am. Men teach their sons baseball and football and such.

Games. You won't find a man buying his son tight jeans that show off his buns. No man coaches his 4-year-old bov by telling him to ask her what her sign is, telling him that flowers work or that if he really wants to shine in the eyes of the opposite sex, he should show her his Gold Car'1- fJ Maybe he should. BTom Richards' column appears here every Monday. The first four scenarios include a Packer win at Tampa Bay on Saturday: TO WIN THE NFC CENTRAL DIVISION CHAMPIONSHIP: Minnesota, Detroit and Chicago must all lose, TO BE THE FIRST NFC WILDCARD: Two of above three teams must lose.

i TO BE THE SECOND NFC WILDCARD: One of above teams must lose. TO BE THIRD NFC WILDCARD: All three teams must win or tie. IF THE PACKERS LOSE, TO BE THE THIRD NFC WILDCARD: New York Giants and Arizona must lose. i The NFC Central champion will host the third wildcard team, while the first wildcard team will host the second wildcard team, with one game each on Dec. 31 and Jan.

1. Hilemon Hall Charges filed in Darboy murder The charge against Reid Harder carries a maximum off life in prison plus five years By Andy Thompson Post-Crescent staff writer A 24-year-old Appleton man was charged today with first-degree intentional homicide in connection with the Dec. 13 stabbing death of Jackie Hetcher in her Darboy residence. Reid D. Harder, 1119 W.

Winnebago allegedly killed Hetcher, his former fiancee, and then stabbed himself. The charge carries a maximum penalty of life in prison plus five years. Harder, who has been recovering from wounds at St. Elizabeth Hospital, was scheduled to make an initial appearance before the Outagamie County court commissioner at 3:30 p.m. today.

According to a criminal complaint filed this morning by Dist. Atty. Vince Biskupic, Harder was depressed over the breakup of his relationship with Hetcher. A paramedic told police that he spoke to Harder while he was being transported to the hospital for treat-ment of his self-inflicted stab wound. The paramedic said Harder made the statement, "I couldn't live without her." When the paramedic asked Harder if he killed Hetcher, Harder nodded in the affirmative and said, "Yeah," according to the complaint.

Harder, who sustained a stab wound in the upper chest, also acknowledged to the paramedic that he stabbed himself. The body of Hetcher, 26, was found in the early morning of Dec. 13 in the kitchen of her duplex at W3131 Harvard Court in the Town of Buchanan. An autopsy determined the cause of her death as "stab wounds to the heart." Officers discovered a bloodied knife next to Harder on the lower level of Hetcher's duplex. Officers later found three knives from a common cutlery set at Harder's residence.

The knives had handles similar to the handles on the bloodied knife retrieved from Hetcher's residence, the complaint stated. today in the context of neglect and abuse, and we don't recognize this as a violation of the civil rights of children," said Westman, who wrote "Licensing Parents: Can We Prevent Child Abuse and Neglect?" While he sees the specific licensing requirements as more symbolic than practical, Westman says the chief goal in writing the book was to stir up the discussion of child welfare and family policies. Westman's proposal is threefold: Parents would have to be at least 18 years of age. Parents would have to make a written commitment to rearing a child in a signed document similar to an application for a marriage license. Parenting classes would be required before the birth of a child, Please see PARENTS, BACKPAGE MILWAUKEE There wasn't much on the line here Sunday, unless you count the Green Bay Packers' work of the past year or so.

And maybe some self-respect. And don't forget that the football game against the Atlanta Falcons was the Packers' last game in County Stadium, ending a 61 -year relationship with the city. On second glance, maybe it was a pretty big day for all concerned. Even the Falcons' playoff hopes were on the line. So, when Packer quarterback Brett Favre scored the winning touchdown on a 9-yard run with 14 seconds left, it made for an almost storybook ending for a special day.

The 21-17 triumph knocks the Falcons from the playoff picture, but keeps Green Bay alive in the race for the NFC Central Division championship, and puts the Packers in a stronger position for an NFC Wild Card playoff berth. RECORDS: The Packers, 8-7, are a game behind NFC Central Division leaders Chicago, Detroit and Minnesota. KEY PLAYS: The Packers defense stopped the Falcons on first-and-goal from the 4, forcing Atlanta to kick a 20-yard field goal in the first quarter. Appleton's curriculum efforts draw PBS B-1 FORECAST MOSTLY CLOUDY Back page 1 1 1 1 1 lrm Two professors say parental licensing is idea for our times The defense again held late in the game, forcing the Falcons to punt and setting up Green Bay's game-winning drive. On the first play of that final drive, quarterback Brett Favre hit tight end Mark Chmura with a 25-yard gain down to the Falcons' 42.

Favre found Robert Brooks on two crucial third-down completions that kept the drive alive. Favre scrambled right, eluded the tackle of Atlanta defensive end Chuck Smith and barely got into the end zone for the winning TD with 14 seconds to play. KEY QUOTE: "There's never a dull moment with this INDEX Bridge D-3 Business A-9 Classified C-8 A-8 Crossword 1 Donohue D-3 Eating Well D-1 Editorials A-11 Horoscope A-8 Landers D-3 Obituaries B-4 Sports State news B-2 Theaters D-4 TV D-4 Vitals B-2 Weather A-12 urn Should rpn parents be $5 licensed? fir" It's Your Call: 734-5678 The pair contends that accountability of parents would improve our children's chances MINNEAPOLIS (AP) A father is imprisoned for having sex with his daughter. A mother gives birth while high on crack cocaine. Two university professors say one way to weed out bad parents like these is to license them.

"Everybody's so concerned about the parents," said David Lykken, a professor of psychology at the University of Minnesota. "My concern is, what about the babies? What about the children?" The claim that child abuse would be reduced dramatically if parenting required a license has been debated before, only to be dismissed as too radical or totalitarian. But, in the swell of calls for welfare reform and state-run orphanages, the professors parents themselves have each written a book on parental licensing. Dr. Jack Westman has worked with abused children for 30 years.

As a child psychiatrist and professor at the University of Wisconsin Medical School, he has witnessed the results of incompetent parenting, he said. "We have many children who are being tortured, maimed and killed.