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ADVICETV Tuesday, March 18, 1997 The Advocate4B WITH OMAR SHARIF TANNAH HIRSCH 01 997 Tribune Media Services, Inc. Bridge Live-in couple should pay for its own DEAR ABBY: I disagree with expect them to pay for anything. your harsh condemnation of 1 The mother does not have to "Disannrovine Mother." who I I approve of their lifestyle. They Disapproving Motner, wno approve of their lifestyle. They LOGIC, NOT ROTE the ace and returned the suit, and Abby Van Buren wedding either.

The daughter has shown her lack of respect for all the parents hold dear, so why should she want or need their help with her long overdue wedding? She has already set up housekeeping, so why have a shower? Since she and her friend have already consummated a marriage, who needs a fancy wedding? The money might be more helpful later. The votes won't be in until the daughter's own children are old enough to do likewise. As the old-timers say, "What goes around comes around." I suggest that what is now "modern practice" is not necessarily a right one. I cannot come down on this mother for what might prove to be the greater wisdom, in God's sight. -VIVIAN B.BROWNING, DAMASCUS, MD.

DEAR VIVIAN AND READERS: Thank you for letting me know your strong feelings on this matter. Tomorrow, we'll hear from some of those who supported my thinking. refused to celebrate sier daughter's engagement because the daughter is living with her fiance. I realize that it is difficult to address all considerations in the space of your column, but I wonder if you feel, as it appears, that the mother owes the daughter an elaborate wedding? If this girl is able to live on her own with her fiance, why should the mother be expected to pay for a wedding? The young couple is clearly able to attend to their needs, so why is it they can't take care of their own wedding? I don't condemn this couple. If I knew them I would be happy to wish them well.

However, I also wish the mother well, as she has been willing to stand up for her values in a world where there are few people willing to do so. THERESE D. BARRY, BEECH MOUNTAIN, N.C. DEAR THERESE: Nowhere in her letter did the mother have lived together for two years and plan to shack up for another year while calling this an engagement. As for future grandchildren, I don't think "Disapproving Mother" has anything to worry about.

They'll be dropping off their offspring for grandmother to baby-sit free of charge. "Disapproving Mother" should attend the wedding if invited, like any other guest. ARLENE JOHNSON, AVON LAKE, OHIO DEAR ARLENE: I agree, the mother does not have to approve of their lifestyle. However, by refusing to give the young man permission to marry their daughter, they have reduced their chances of being asked to the wedding, and should the young man carry a grudge, they could well be cut off from any grandchildren. DEAR ABBY: Maybe this daughter's plans will turn out well.

But I would never call her mother insensitive or rigid, declarer quickly discarded the diamond loser. After trumps were drawn, declarer had to rely on the heart finesse down one. Had South taken some time before playing to the second trick, the winning line might have become evident. Declarer should discard a heart on the second club, draw trump, then cash the king and ace of hearts. Not even the 4-1 break disturbs the contract.

Declarer ruffs a heart, returns to dummy with the king of diamonds and ruffs another heart to set up long card in the suit. The ace of diamonds is still on the table as an entry to discard a diamond on the high heart, and the slam sails home. However, South's play at trick two simply restored equity to the par result because East, too, was guilty of flying fingers. There is no point to a club return, and the only suit to which East can shift with safety is the jack of diamonds. That removes a vital dummy entry before it can be put to good use and, in the fullness of time, as the cards lie declarer will have to suffer a one-trick defeat.

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North deals. NORTH Q98 OAK6 KQ WEST EAST 652 47 V5 10 9 4 OQ842 0J10 5 J10963 A8742 SOUTH AAKJ1043 0973 5 The bidding: NORTH EAST SOUTH WEST 19 Pass 1 Pass 2NT Pass 3 Pass 40 Pass 4NT Pass Pass 6 Pass Pass Pass Opening lead: Jack of Beware of a knee-jerk reaction to a situation. Consider your play carefully before committing to a campaign. North's four-diamond cue-bid showed spade support and a maximum jump to two no trump. South judged well to upgrade the king of hearts and press on to slam when North announced possession of two aces.

West led the jack of clubs, and the play was soon over. East took indicate that she had been asked to pay for the wedding or shower, nor did I tell her to do so. Paying the expenses of a wedding should be considered a gift, and not an obligation by the bride's parents. I told the woman that her angry, punitive stance would isolate her from her daughter, her future son-in-law and grandchildren and she had everything to lose and nothing to gain. DEAR ABBY: Your response to "Disapproving Mother" was that she should apologize to her daughter and her fiance.

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