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B2 SATURDAY, NOV. 8,1997 LIFESTYLE KOKOMO TRIBUNE Ireland Names IN THE NEWS Ireland's been raising eyebrows LOS ANGELES (AP) Kathy Ireland has been raising eyebrows lately not so much for her curves as for the pucker in her lips. The supermodel who has graced the covers of Sports Illustrated magazine's swimsuit editions made her debut on Halloween night at the San Diego Repertory Theatre in Edward Albee's Pulitzer Prize- winning play "Three Tall Women." And she's trying to take her theater superstitions seriously, even if it means breaking an old habit. "There is an old theater superstition that if you whistle in the dressing room you have to leave, turn around three times and spit over your left shoulder then knock on the door and ask permission to come in," Ireland said Tuesday. "While I'm waiting around the dressing room I just whistle," she said, adding she's had to go through the spitting-over-the- shoulder routine a couple of times.

"I'm learning." Brooks no power broker NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP) Garth Brooks insists he's no power broker just a singer happy that his long-delayed album "Sevens" is about to be released. It's due in record stores Nov. 25, a release date announced along with a management shakeup at his record label amid talk that he's calling the shots. Capitol Nashville President Scott Hendricks was pushed out in favor of marketing expert Pat Quigley, a favorite of Brooks.

He brushed aside reports he held up "Sevens" for months, demanding the shakeup at the label that has sold more than 62 million of his albums since 1989. "I can definitely tell you 100 percent that that was not true," Brooks said of the changes announced Wednesday. "The decision that was made was made by the company. It's all about the music." Fueled by hits such as "Friends in Low Places" and "The Thunder Rolls," his albums made him the second-biggest selling recording artist in the United States, behind the Beatles. Giuliani out relishing victory NEW YORK (AP) The campaigning done, Rudolph Giuliani was out and about relishing in his victory.

The newly re-elected mayor got a shower of confetti and a round of applause when he strolled onto the set of "Late Show with David Letterman," to the strains of "New York, New York." On the nightly Top Ten List, one of the talk show host's "Signs Your Mayor is Nuts" was that he "agrees to do lame comedy bit on network talk show." Earlier in the day, the city's first lady Donna Hanover sidestepped questions about the couple's private lives, which have become fodder for tabloid reports that the marriage was on the rocks. Once a vocal supporter of her husband, Ms. Hanover took no visible role in his re-election bid and stayed away from his victory celebration Tuesday. "I was home last night taking care of my children, watching the election returns," she said at a children's center Wednesday. 'Grace' given another chance NEW YORK (AP) "Grace Under Fire" will get another chance to live up to its name.

The struggling sitcom starring Brett Butler was left off ABC's fall lineup but kept in production. Now the network says the show will be plugged into the Tuesday night lineup, a vacancy left by the cancellation of "Over the Top" after three episodes. "Grace Under Fire" will begin airing Nov. 25. Dan Aykroyd's series, "Soul Man," will shift to the Tuesday slot left empty by the demise of "Over the Top," which starred Tim Curry as a struggling actor.

"Hiller and Oilier," the struggling freshman sitcom starring Kevin Nealon and Richard Lewis, has also been sent on vacation for the rest of the November sweeps, a period when ratings are used to set local advertising rates. Woman can't accept end of affair Secret love is now her obsession. EAR ABBY: I've been in a loveless marriage for 20 years. Six years ago, I fell in love with a wonderful (but married) man. We shared a passionate, fantastic and totally secret relationship until a year ago when his wife discovered our affair.

Unfortunately, instead of kicking him out, she chose to forgive him. He had led me to believe that our love was forever and he couldn't live without me. Now he tells me he realizes he still loves his wife, will not leave her, and our relationship is over. I will not accept this. I must live my life with him.

I am unable to give him up. I'll do anything to get him away from his wife, but I'm running out of ideas. Do you have any? IN DETROIT DEAR DESPERATE: Yes. Get over it. You have confused love with obsession.

If you continue pursuing this man, you are asking for a bigger dose of heartache than what you've already suffered. Concentrate on the husband you have, and perhaps you'll have a marriage as successful as your former lover's. DEAR ABBY: The mother of "Caged Up in Los Angeles," who won't allow her 19-year-old daughter out of the house after sundown, is making a tragic mistake. She's teaching her daughter that she has no willpower, no conscience and no judgment. The mother fails to realize that if her daughter is so inclined, she can misbehave as easily at 2:30 in the afternoon as she might at 11 p.m.

That mother should be teaching her daughter the social skills. She should then permit her daughter to practice and refine them. If the mother fails to do this, she will be sending an unprepared, uninformed and inexperienced 25- year-old into society, thus doing a disservice to her daughter as well as those around her. N.P., SANTA MONICA, CALIF. DEAR N.P.: I couldn't have said it better.

I pray the young woman's mother recognizes herself, and eases up on her daughter. DEAR ABBY: In commenting on your advice to "Sad Mom-to-Be," the woman signed "Been There, Done That" said her husband was also selfish, inconsiderate and inflexible, and her son is "now stuck with a name that means nothing to him." I am always amazed that people who hate their names feel that they are stuck with them forever. "Been There" should look at her own "flexibility." My ex-husband and I have both changed our names, and so have at least five other relatives and several friends. There are very few possessions, physical or acquired, that are not changeable nowadays, and my name was a lot easier to improve than my nose! GERTA FARBER, OAKLAND, CALIF. DEAR GERTA: I salute your honesty and what an interesting and unusual name you chose.

I'll wager that changing your name was a lot less expensive than your nose job. For everything you need to know about wedding planning, order "How to Have a Lovely Wedding." Send a business-sized, self- addressed envelope, plus check or money order for $3.95 ($4.50 in Canada) to: Dear Abby, Wedding Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, 111. 61054-0447. (Postage is included.) Ointment new treatment for hemorrhoids Traditional heart medication being tried.

EAR DR. GOTT: I have periodic attacks of severe pain from hemorrhoids. I've tried everything from creams and suppositories to hot baths. Is there any treatment short of surgery that can help me? DEAR READER: Perhaps a novel, brand-new approach might relieve your discomfort. Doctors recently that nitroglycerine ointment, ordinarily a prescription product used to treat angina and heart problems, may reduce hemorrhoidal pain by up to 90 percent.

When applied to the anus, the cream relaxes the sphincter and allows more blood to flow to the anal lining, relieving the pain of thrombosed (clotted) hemorrhoids. This remarkable discovery, which may revolutionize the treatment of hemorrhoids, was presented at the June meeting of the American College of Colon and Rectal Surgeons. If you ask your doctor for a prescription for nitroglycerine cream to treat your hemorrhoids, be prepared for his jaw to drop in astonishment, because this new therapy is definitely not in general use; most physicians may not even have heard of it. Nonetheless, it is completely safe and appears to be extremely effective. DEAR DR.

GOTT: Do antibiotics sometimes help people with rheumatoid arthritis? During a course of doxycycline therapy for Lyme disease, I noticed much less arthritic pain. DEAR READER: In a study published in the May issue of a journal (Arthritis Rheumatism) devoted to research on arthritis, scientists reported that minocycline (a relative of doxycycline) significantly relieved the symptoms of rheumatoid arthritis. Sixty-five percent of patients experienced improvement after three months of treatment. The antibiotic was free of side effects. These results are surprising.

Rheumatoid arthritis has been tra- ditionally considered NOT to have an infectious basis. In fact, the cause is unknown. However, at least two studies have documented improvement with antibiotic therapy, raising the possibility that the medical profession may have been misled for decades. The situation is analogous to the finding, now widely accepted, that a high proportion of peptic ulcer patients suffer from a bacterial infection called H. pylori.

If further research confirms the results of the minocycline study, scientists will be one step closer to identifying a treatable bacterial basis for one of mankind's most ubiquitous and disabling forms of arthritis. For now, however, experts encourage physicians to try minocycline in rheumatoid patients whose disease is less than a year old. Although this therapy is not appropriate for long-standing rheumatoid arthritis, it is a safe and inexpensive treatment for many patients with newly diagnosed disease. To give you more information, I am sending you a copy of my Health Report "Managing Chronic Pain." Other readers who would like a copy should send $2 plus a long, self-addressed, stamped envelope to P.O. Box 2017, Murray Hill Station, New York, NY 10156.

Be sure to mention the title. Buddy's 'necessary surgery' is none of snoopy boss' business Bern says friend would tell him about it if he wanted him to know. Sid and I have been friends for years, both at work and at church. Over the years we've told each other everything even after I became his manager in our engineering company. Last week he asked me to have one of our colleagues take over his work on a temporary basis, saying he had to have some "necessary surgery" and wouldn't return to the office for five days.

I asked him, "What kind of procedure?" and he said it was unimportant and I have a funny feeling that he's getting a face lift; he's been mumbling lately about his "dropping jaws." I would like to call his regular doctor and ask what's going on. Perhaps it's serious and I should know. What do you think? in Lawrence, KS Who are you kidding? I think you just want to snoop so you'll have a choice bit of gossip to pass around the office. If Sid wanted you to know, he would have told you. Whether your buddy is getting his jowls trimmed or his hips liposuctioned, it's none of your business.

Ever since I was a child, I've wanted to be loved. In fact, I would do most anything to receive a hug, a pat on the back or a compliment. I realize my desire to be loved probably comes from the three foster homes I grew up in; I just never felt needed or special. Now I'm in line for a top position in the DR. PAULA BERN SYNDICATED COLUMNIST corporation where I've worked for the past 10 years.

But I'm very disappointed. My co-workers don't show me any affection, nor do they take pleasure in my rapid rise to the top. In fact, many seem to avoid me, almost as though they were jealous of what I've achieved. Surely, they would be thrilled that a female colleague has made it to the executive suite! What's wrong with these characters? in Seattle. Your "characters" very well may want to have the office next to yours in the executive suite.

Or, better still, push you down to the bottom floor and take over your newly assigned quarters! No one is going to applaud, nor are you going to win any Miss Congeniality contest on your way to the top. However, just wait until you've reached one of the highest levels in your firm: I promise you that they'll fight for your attention then. In fact, they'll brag that you're their bosom buddy. Is it possible to have two bosses within one small company, both of whom are considered the final authority for the employees? I know my question sounds a bit weird, but when my best friend and I opened a new business, she said it would be an equal partnership with both of us having the final say on major issues. Well, just between you and me, that decision was a disaster! The guys who work for us have no idea which one to go to for an opinion: my partner says one thing to an employee and I say another.

We end up with crossed wires and very unhappy members of our departments. What would you do? We need an answer pronto! Bewildered Bess, Philadelphia. You had better get this problem straightened out. Absolutely nothing is more destructive in the workplace than a misunderstanding over who is the Big Cheese. Even though you and your friend are in a partnership, it's impossible to be an equal equal (and I'm not going crazy repeating myself)! Every person in the company must know who has the last work or the ultimate responsibility in what particular area.

And, frankly speaking, it ought to be put in writing. (Bern, author of "How to Work for a Woman Boss," has taught executive seminars at Carnegie- Mellon University. Questions may be addressed to her Scripps Howard News Service, 1090 Vermont Ave. NW, Suite 1000, Washington, D.C. 20005.) HEALTHY SAVINGS FOR YOUR Ready for the Holiday Season? Time for a trip to 1101 N.Washington St.

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