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E4 THE MORNING CALL, SUNDAY, JULY 9, 1995 WEDDINGS DearAbby BrittinghanvPasquariello Wife searches for fire to rekindle lost love Howard-Yaissle Kimberly Lynn Yaissle and Todd Andrew Howard were married yesterday in St. Thomas More Catholic Church, Allentown. Deborah A. Yaissle was her sister's maid of honor and Jeffrey Mark Howard, the bridegroom's brother, was best man. Huffman-Bergman Rebecca Bergman and Philip Huffman were married yesterday in Cathedral Church of the Nativity, Bethlehem Sarah Bergman, the bride's sister, was maid of honor and Philip P.

Huffman, the bridegroom's father, was best man. The bride is a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Eric L. Phyllis M.

Pasquariel-lo and Robert J. Britting-ham Jr. exchanged wedding vows yesterday in Our Lady of Hungary Catholic Church, Northampton. Frances Pasquariello, the bride's sister, was maid of honor. Mark Brit-tingham was his brother's best man.

w- By ABIGAIL VAN BUREN DEAR ABBY I have been married for 12 years and have three beautiful children. The problem is I have fallen out of love with my husband. He is a good man Parents of the couple are Mr. and Mrs. John R.

Yaissle of Allentown and Mr. and Mrs. Ronald Howard of Vienna, Va. The bride and bridegroom are graduates of Emmaus High School The bride, also a graduate of the University of Richmond, is an elementary education teacher. The bridegroom, a graduate of the College of William and Mary, is an associate producer for Bethesda Softworks.

The couple will reside in Germantown, Md. The bride, a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Umberto Pasquariello of Northampton, is a graduate of Northampton High School and Chestnut Hill College. She is a sales manager for Lane Bryant.

The bridegroom is a son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert H. Brittingham Sr. of Philadelphia.

A graduate of Abraham Lincoln High School, he is a forklift operator at International Paper.in Philadelphia. The newlyweds will reside in Philadelphia. Bergman of Bethlehem. The bridegroom's parents, Mr. and Mrs.

Philip P. Huffman, reside in Newark, DeL The bride, a graduate of Liberty High School and the University of Delaware, is completing her master's degree at Temple University. She is an athletic trainer at Haverford College. The bridegroom, a graduate of St. Mark's High School in Wilmington, and the University of Delaware, is a medical student at Jefferson Medical College.

The newlyweds will reside in Philadelphia. Dean-Christman Yeager-Christoff xt; 1 rr i I 1, Mrww -VV i. Kasarda-Pagano Quinn Ann Pagano and David Christopher Kasarda were married yesterday in First Presbyterian Church of Bethlehem. Sarah Lichtenwalner was maid of honor and Douglas Leonzi, the bridegroom's cousin, was best man Parents of the bride Barbara Dee Christ-man and William Durfee Dean exchanged wedding vows yesterday in First Presbyterian Church, Allentown. Mary arm Heffelfin-ger, the bride's aunt, was matron of honor and Sheldon Dean was his brother's best man.

lNicoie nrision ana Scott Yeager exchanged wedding vows yesterday in St. Peter's Catholic Church, Coplay. Nadine Christoff was her sister's maid of honor and Kirk Luba was best man The bride, a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. James take the rest home with me." The others thought it was a good idea, and they took theirs home, too.

We were shocked, but of course didn't say anything. In your opinion, what would have been the proper way to handle this? PERPLEXED IN ARIZONA DEAR PERPLEXED too, would have said nothing. After all the leftovers were theirs, so they should have felt free to take them home. DEAR ABBY I recently purchased a wedding gift at one of the finest art galleries in my city. Even though it was on sale, I spent more for it than I had intended because I thought it was so exceptional.

Apparently the bridal couple didn't think it was as exceptional as I did, because they returned it to the store, refused a replacement for the gift, and asked for a cash refund. In accordance with the store's policy, the people there contacted me and issued a store credit for ME to use at my convenience, which I have since used. My question: Do I now need to send the couple another gift? Or should I let their refusal of my original gift be their loss? NAME WITHHELD TO PROTECT THE GUILTY DEAR NAME WITHHELD Don't attempt to punish the couple for their behavior. Ask the bride where she is registered, then make a selection from that store, or send them a check. Money is always welcome.

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61054-0447. (Postage is included.) and he treats me well, but I just don't love him anymore. I have tried counseling, but it didn't help. The love is gone. I still respect him, but I hate faking it in the bedroom which is what I've been doing.

I have only a high school education and have always been an "at home" mom. So, do I go through life faking it? I suppose I sound selfish, but I hate putting on an act for the rest of my life. I will gladly accept any advice you have to offer. Sign me FAKING IT DEAR FAKING IT The fact hat you acknowledge you have a problem and want to do something about it speaks well for you. Your problem will not resolve itself unless you and your husband have frank conversation about what's NOT happening in the bedroom.

Faking it" is not the answer. As a couple, you should ask your physician for a referral to a sex therapist. Good luck. DEAR ABBY Recently some datives dropped in to visit us on a Sunday afternoon. We did not pect company, but fortunately I had some fresh fruit on hand, so I served it.

It got to be dinner time, and 1 hey made no move to leave, so I asked if they would like to stay for supper. They said they would, so I took their orders and telephoned a place that delivers carry-out food. We, as hosts, paid for everything. There were seven of us aitogether. Before we finished eating, one of the guests said, "I'm too full to eat all of this, so I'll The bride, a daughter of Katherine Carl of Lehighton, completed her education at Lehigh Carbon Community College.

The bridegroom, a graduate of Emmaus High School and the University of Massachusetts at Dartmouth, is a project engineer for Sequel in Newtown Square. The newlyweds will reside in Boyertown. Christoff of Whitehall, is a graduate of Whitehall High School and the University of Pittsburgh. She is a pharmacist for Rite-Aid. The bridegroom is a son of Mr.

and Mrs. Donald Yeager of Washington County. A graduate of Trinity High School and the Pennsylvania State University, Yeager is a quality specialist for Welch's. The couple will reside in Erie. are Dr.

and Mrs. Louis A. Pagano of Bethlehem. The bridegroom is a son of Dolores Yaschur of Allentown. The bride is a graduate of Freedom High School and Moravian College.

She is employed by IKEA in Philadelphia. The bridegroom, a graduate of Parkland High School and Lehigh University, is a medical student at Temple Medical School. They will reside in Lafayette Hill. Heard-Schray Karen Theresa Schray and Alexander Cameron Heard were married yesterday in Ss. Simon and Jude Catholic Church, Bethlehem.

Juli Scatena was maid of honor and Richard Shedlow was best man. Parents of the couple Wendt-Bogert Cheryl K. Bogert and Christopher A. Wendt were married last Sunday in Lutheran Church of the Holy Spirit, Emmaus. Lori A.

Tighe, the bride's sister, was matron of honor and Christopher A. White was best man Parents of the bride are Ronald A. Bogert of Fatteich-Engiles Carol Louise Engiles and Charles Martin Falte-ich exchanged wedding vows yesterday in Notre Dame Catholic Church, Bethlehem. Rosemary A. Reagan was her sister's matron of honor and George L.

Fal-teich HI, the bridegroom's brother, was best man. The bride is a daugh Miss Manners Alburns and Linda L. Bogert of Emmaus. The bridegroom is a son of Mr. and Mrs.

Robert A. Wendt of Emmaus. The bride and bridegroom are graduates of Emmaus High SchooL The bride, a customer support specialist at Air Products and Chemicals, is pursuing an accounting degree from Allentown College of St. Francis de Sales. The bridegroom is a graduate of Drexel University, where he is pursuing a doctorate in electrical are Mr.

and Mrs. Keith J. Schray of Bethlehem and Mr. and Mrs. Edward Heard of Brookline, Mass.

The bride is a graduate of Bethlehem Catholic High School and Lehigh University. The bridegroom is a graduate of St. Paul's School in New Hampshire and Swarthmore College. The bride is pursuing a doctorate in biochemistry from the University of Massachusetts Medical School, where the bridegroom is a fourth-year medical student. They will reside in Worcester, Mass.

ter of Miriam C. Engiles of Bethlehem and the late John A. Engiles Jr. The bridegroom is a son of Mr. and Mrs.

George L. Falteich Jr. of Wilson Borough. The bride is a graduate of Liberty High School, Pennsylvania State University and Northampton Community College. She is a registered nurse at Miners Memorial Medical Center in Coaldale.

The bridegroom, a graduate of Notre Dame High School and East Stroudsburg University, is a seventh-grade teacher at Nitschmann Middle School in Bethlehem. Paules-Kiefer Hosts revealed more than guests expected engineering and is a research assistant. The couple will reside in Alburtis. By JUDITH MARTIN DEAR MISS MANNERS In our new neighborhood, the neighbors couldn't be more friendly. Our next-door neighbor had a Moconyi-Wojtusik Diane Wojtusik and Michael R.

Moconyi were married in St. Peter's Church, Cheshire, Conn Elizabeth Gillette was matron of honor and Michael Bottaga was best man. Parents of the couple are Mr. and Mrs. Edward Wojtusik of Berlin, and Mr.

and Mrs. Andrew Lopata-Harleman Jennifer Sue Harle- man and John Joseph Lopata were married June 3 in Bethany Evangelical Congregational Church, Lehighton. Angela Marie Harle-man, the bride's sister, was maid of honor and Timothy Quinn was best man. The bride, a daughter Rebecca Louise Keifer and Timothy Michael Paules were married June 4 in Trinity United Church of Christ, Mount Bethel. Jessica Keifer and Amy Jo Keifer attended their sister.

Earl Duzey was best man. Parents of the couple j. are Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Keifer of Bangor and Mr.

and Mrs. Jacob Paules of Jacobus, York County. A graduate of Bangor High School and Widener University, the bride is employed by Industries. The bridegroom, who graduated from Dallastown High School, is employed by The Bon-Ton. The newlyweds reside in Allentown.

of Mr. and Mrs. Richard Harleman of Lehighton, is a graduate of Lehighton High School and a recent graduate of Elizabethtown College. The bridegroom is a son of Mary Santore of Nesquehoning and the late Michael Lopata. A graduate of Panther Valley High School and Pennsylvania State University, the bridegroom is a teacher in Lehighton Area School District.

The newlyweds will reside in Jim Thorpe. S. Moconyi of Bethlehem. A graduate of Central Connecticut State University, the bride is a management analyst for the Internal Revenue Service. The bridegroom, who graduated from Liberty High School and the University of Maryland, is executive director of the Connecticut Chapter of National Electrical Contractors Association They reside in Wallingford, Conn.

Goehner-Esther Molchany-Wink Sandra Wink and Michael Molchany exchanged wedding vows June 3 in Morgenland United Church of Christ, Orefield. Betty Wink, the bride's sister, was maid of honor and Jerry Molchany, brother of the bridegroom, was best Steffy-Kurtz Monica A. Kurtz and Erik D. Steffy were married June 3 in St. Joseph's Catholic Church, Ore-field.

Susan Jordan and Alicia Shoup, the bride's sisters, were honor attendants. Robert Posocco was best man. Parents of the couple are Mr. and Mrs. George Christy Jeannette Esther and Christopher Roll Goehner were married May 13 in Weavers Men-nonite Church, Harrisonburg, Va.

Nina C. Campagna was matron of honor and John David Wiedmaier was best man. Parents of the couple are Mr. and Mrs. Charles Yi1'!" -n outside.

I am learning to wave as they drive past the "No Trespassing" signs at the highway and pass the "Private Drive" sign, which should clearly let anyone know that this is not an exhibit. Surely this is some kind of odd compliment. What has me so rankled is an article in a travel magazine that invites tourists, "by all means," if there is "a real burial" here, to "delay your plans and attend this event steeped in local custom." I consulted an etiquette reference, which states that anyone may attend a funeral. However, I would appreciate your thoughts. I have had some experience with grief.

I had the unfortunate, adult responsibility of arranging and attending the funeral for my mother, and simply attended the one for my father, as I was but 16. Thank goodness, I knew the people in attendance. Such a personal thing is mourning, I feel. It could happen that you might be just traveling through here some day, and just by chance, my friends might be burying me, or my ashes that day. If you wanted to come, that would be all right with me, as I feel as I know you somewhat and feel that you have respect for life, but the odds of its being you are not so good.

See what I mean? GENTLE READER Let us hope that day is far, far off. Miss Manners would grieve to lose someone who understands the underlying principles of manners so well; she needs all the help she can get to reform others. Apparently, we also need to rewrite some of those etiquette rules, so that concepts that could once be taken for granted are made explicit for people from whom one can take nothing for granted. Sure, the books have said that anyone can attend a funeral. But it never occurred to the writers that they needed to rule out people who were simply wandering around the area looking for amusement.

It was assumed that "anyone" meant anyone who wished to show respect for the deceased, whether friend or admirer from afar. It also assumed that everyone present knew how to behave at a funeral, which precludes those who go to gape at local custom, as well as those who go to make a show of their own. (Here, Miss Manners is thinking of examples she has been given of unseemly competition for the role of the most closely bereaved.) Address your etiquette questions to Miss Manners, in care of The Morning Call, Box 1260, Allentown, Pa. 18105. man.

Parents of the couple are Mr. and Mrs. Ray Wink of Breinigsville and Mr. and Mrs. Jacob Molchany of Coplay.

The bride, who graduated from Northwestern High School and Lehigh Carbon Community College, is a licensed practical nurse at Luther Crest Retirement Community. The bridegroom, a Whitehall High School graduate, is a machine operator at East Penn Container Decorating. They reside in Allentown. Piechota-Breisch R. Esther of Bethlehem and Mr.

and Mrs. Richard H. Goehner of Springfield. Va. A graduate of Freedom High School and James Madison University, where she received a master's degree, the bride is a teacher in Shenandoah County Public Schools.

The bridegroom, who graduated from Thomas Jefferson High School and James Madison University, is a financial adviser for American Express Fi- nancial Services. The newlyweds reside in Harrisonburg. Paluch-Dotter A. Kurtz of Allentown and Mr. and Mrs.

Donald B. Steffy of Balli- etsville. The bride and bridegroom are Parkland High School graduates. The bride, an occupational therapy assistant, also graduated from Lehigh Carbon Community College. She is employed at the Rehabilitation Hospital of Indiana.

The bridegroom, a Kutztown University graduate, is a technical sales representative for Air Products and Chemicals. The newlyweds reside in Indianapolis, Ind. Frankel-Watson party for us, and told us to bring towels if we wanted to relax and converse in their spa after dinner. The problem was, we were the only ones wearing bathing suits. Everyone else was totally naked, even one couple who are Mormon.

While no one commented on our wearing bathing suits, we felt very uncomfortable, but didn't want to be rude and leave, particularly since these were the nicest people we have met in ages. They accepted us as we were, yet couldn't accept their nudity. What should we have done? What should we do in the future? GENTLE READER They do sound like nice people, although of course Miss Manners hasn't seen as much of them as you have. Giving a welcoming party and tailing to notice that you were differently attired from everyone else are both polite acts. So surely, you do not want Miss Manners to chastise them for setting the dress standard in their own house.

(They might properly have warned you of it, but perhaps they consider it a well-known local custom.) Rather, you have the choice of (1) accepting similar invitations after asking if they mind if you wear your bathing suits and after having practiced looking everybody straight in the eye, and (2) declining invitations to their spa but encouraging their riendship otherwise by issuing other invitations to them. In the latter case, you might want to borrow the phrase people used to use when the custom of wearing evening clothes in the evening could unfortunately no longer be taken for granted. People who still observed the amenities would say to their guests, "We'll be dressing for dinner." DEAR MISS MANNERS Is it really proper for tourists to attend a funeral "to observe local I live in a picturesque community, a tremendously beautiful area near a national park, where an annual chili cook-off brings many -tourists through. I live in one of those "ghost towns" in a home built onto an historic remain, and people drive by slowly and video our houses and us while we cook or enjoy the Joanne V. Breisch and Gregory J.

Piechota were married May 6 in Calvary Wesleyan Church, Bethlehem. Wendy Danner; Stephen Kosic; Brad Breisch, the bride's son, and Eric Leith, the bride's nephew, were attendants. The bride is a daughter of the late Mr. and Maryann L. Dotter and James Paluch were married May 13 in St.

John's Lutheran Church, Coplay. Beverly Atkinson, the bride's sister, was maid of honor and Dennis Marakovits was best man. The bride is a daughter of Charlotte Weretta of Northampton, formerly of Kerry Lynn Watson and Robert Frankel Jr. were married April 7 in St. Paul's United Church of Christ, Indianland.

Heather Watson, sister of the bride, was maid of honor and Steve Onifer was best man. Parents of the bride are Janice Watson of Philadelphia and Robert Lehighton. The bridegroom is a son of the late Marion and Charlotte Paluch. The bride is a student at Allentown Busi- ness School and the bridegroom is semi-retired. The newlyweds reside in Allentown Mrs.

Ervin Hedrick. The bridegroom is a son of Mr. and Mrs. Stanley Piechota of Bethlehem. The couple owns and operates Piechota Auto Body of Allentown.

They reside in Bethlehem Watson of Chicago, 111. The bridegroom is a son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert Frankel of Walnutport. The bride and bridegroom are Bloomsburg University graduates.

The newlyweds reside in Bloomsburg. Thompson-Dapko Lisa Sue Dapko and David B. Thompson were married April 20 in Talla-' hassee, Fla. The bride is a daughter of Susan Lee of Pen Argyl and Michael Dapko of Easton. She is employed by Healthplan Southeast in Tallahassee.

The bridegroom is a son of Peggy M. Thompson of Tallahassee and the late Jesse J. Thompson.1" ,0 Thompson is employed by Beck's Pre-Press, also in Tallahassee. Makovsky-Luciano Pam-Alice Luciano and Corneil Dennis Makovsky were married yesterday in the Weaversville Country Inn. Donna Knoblach and Richard Guard were attendants.

The bride is a daughter of Ray Althouse of Walnutport and the late Joyce Althouse. The bridegroom is a son of Joseph Makovsky Jr. of Hok-endauqua and the late Emily Makovsky. A graduate of Northampton High School, the bride is employe4 by Miller's Diner, Northampton. The bridegroom is employed by Service Tire Truck Center, Bethlehem..