Honolulu Star-Bulletin from Honolulu, Hawaii • 10

10 October 6, 1962 The Saturday Star-Bulletin dear eey 1 I 1 By ABIGAIL VAN BUREN I 1 I I Children Reading Depends on Parents 2 Advice From My Readers Dear Abby: My advice to people who want to meet someone, object matrimony, is to GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. Go where folks gather, Join hobby groups, go to the or take dancing lessons, or get active in church activities. Don't just sit around the house. The only person who will ever ring your doorbell is someone who wants to sell you something. "LUCKY" Dear met my husband on the beach.

If a girl wants to meet a nice man all she has to do is fix her hair real nice, get a good-looking bathing suit and go to the beach. It is best to go alone. 4 "'S Vsi I Vv fg7z friz By BETTY PATTERSON "Tommy and Linda just won't sit down and read," wailed one young mother. "They play outside every spare minute they have!" This seems to be a common cry for mothers especially here in Hawaii where youngsters can be outdoors all year around. Many parents, embarrassed that their children prefer the surf to a cozy chair and a book, turn to teachers and librarians for help with their dilemma.

"There is an interesting feeling about reading in our country," said Mrs. Richard Aim, instructor in education at the University of Hawaii and mother of two sons. "Everyone says reading is good and our children should read more, but very few adults set examples by reading themselves," she said. "Parents should pay more than Up service when they insist that their children should read if the parents don't read, they can't expect reading to be a natural pastime for their children." Miss Susan Taylor, director of work with children at the Library of Hawaii, maintains that parents have a responsibility to their children to encourage them to read at home. Books Give New Ideas "Many parents are interested in the child's schools, dress, and friends but not in the child's mind.

Books give the child new ideas, a command of English, a broad understanding of life," she said. "The ideas from books that children store in their minds like squirrels store their treasures, will pay off when these children are adults and the going gets rough," she said. "Then they will recall a particular passage or bit of poetry." "Parents really spend very little money for children's books they think nothing of paying for a truck or fire engine that may break in two weeks, but hesitate to spend that money for what they consider a 'one-time' thing," said Mrs. Aim. "What if it is a one-time experience if it is a good one," she countered.

"And of course, some children read books over and over." Choose the Best "Always choose the best in children's books not the cheap literature or the talking records," insisted Sister Martha Louise, principal of St. Anthony's School in Kailua. "I think children should be read to and told stories they shouldn't just listen to the mechanical voice of a television set or a record," she said. "There is a wonderful homey feeling that a child gains when the mother or father personally gives them stories and thoughts to treasure and share." Sister Martha Louise discourages children from reading the popular series books such as "The Bobbsey Twins" and the mystery books, because "the writers just don't develop characters and plots in these books! "In a 1934 issue of Fortune magazine," she recalled, "there was an expose of these books, telling that two old maids and their brother spent all their time thinking up ideas and then selling the ideas to hack writers who turned out the series books." She explained that the results just couldn't be considered good literature. According to Sister Martha Louise, just encouraging your child to read isn't enough.

"I think there must be discussions between the parents and child after reading the book, and the child should learn to express himself; just saying it was a good book' isn't enough they should be able to tell you why they enjoyed it she said. "Parents should also call the child's attention to good illustrations in the books," continued the Sister. "I like those that are suggestive rather than just photographic-type pictures; with the former, the child can use his imagination." Fairy Tales Are Important Sister Martha Louise feels that fairy tales are an important part of a child's heritage. "I feel sorry for the child who has never seen a fairy!" she said. "Often a book can help a parent help a child understand a situation better," said the Sister.

"Children can often read a book and realize through the character's experiences, that his own problems or values are unimportant and wrong." The Sister also pointed out the value of both parents and children getting to know the characters in children's books so these characters can become part of their conversations at home. "We have often used the book 'Charlotte's Web' with the children here, saying to them, 'now what would Charlotte have done in this to help the children understand a problem," said the Sister. "Parents should take their children to the libraries and look together at the books," said Mrs. Aim. "While many people buy encyclopedias for their children to use at home, these volumes are often rarely used and become cultural furniture." "A child should first be read aloud to by the mother at about age 2," said Taylor.

"If there is reading in the home, then it will never seem a chore for the children to read, but instead a feeling of oneness which they can share with their families. "Let the child be surrounded by wonderful books just lying casually around, and the children will automatically gravitate toward them," she said. Suggestions that perhaps will help parents choose the right books for their 2 Why bring your own competition with you? GOT MINE Dear Got: True! No point in bringing your own competition; it's usually already at the beach when you get there. Dear Abby: She had been "spliced" several years before, and I had been a widower for years. She was lonely and so was I.

To make a long story short and sweet, she complained that her plumbing was giving her trouble, so "Handy Andy" offered to turn off her valve. She reciprocated by turning on her charm and, believe me, she had it. One thing led to another and we have been happily married for several beautiful years. IN THE SEVENTIES Dear Abby: Tell the girls who want to know how to trap a man to take up nursing. How fast can a guy run with his leg in a cast? FRANK Dear Abby: In reply to your request for first-hand information on how to meet your "one and only," I want to give you my experience.

If you want to meet someone who is good and clean and God-fearing, go to church. You will find that person there. Folks who prowl around in bars will only run into people who are looking for trouble. And they usually find it. TRIED BOTH Dear Abby: Back in 1897 I was a young man who wanted to see the world.

So I left home and traveled far and wide. I looked them all over, but never found the one for me UNTIL I returned home. And there she was, right next door. The hunting is not always best in distant fields. Tell your readers not to run all over the world for something that could be just around the corner.

GRANDPA H. What's on your mind? For a personal reply, send a self-addressed, stamped envelope to ABBY, Box 3365, Beverly Hills, California. For Abby's booklet, "How to Have a Lovely Wedding," send 50 cents to ABBY, Box 3365, Beverly Hills, I Reading aloud is a favorite family pastime at the Robert B. Stauffer home each evening. Here Mr.

Stauffer, a professor at the University of Hawaii, reads 'Treasure Island" to from left, Jim, Ann, Mrs. Stauffer, and Bob, 10. Star-Bulletin Photo by John Titchen. to Children's Reading" by Nancy Lar-rick which is available in pocket book form, as an excellent guide for choosing children's books. And she commented that usually a good test of a book is that if the parents enjoy reading it, undoubtedly it is one that children, too, will like.

There are many parents who have already started their children on the road to literary enjoyment. Mrs. Robert B. Stauffer, mother of three and wife of a University of Hawaii professor says "we have always had books in our house both library books and our own, and we visit the library regularly. "Our children got their own library cards as soon as they were old enough, and every night either my husband or I read to them." And Mrs.

Harry K. Meyer, mother of five daughters, says "We like to have a quiet hour at home, when I give books to the children and encourage them to read. I try to take them to the library once a week during the summer." children were offered by Sister Martha Louise, Mrs. Aim and Miss Lydia Asato, children's librarian at the Kaimuki branch library. "We first ask about the children's interests and then suggest books that are in these interest fields," she said.

"We also have a Parent's Shelf, where parents can choose books to be read aloud. Miss Asato also pointed out that schools often organize library tours and many children are acquainted with the offerings of the libraries at this time. Suggested Books Sister Martha Louise recommends two books by Annis Duff "Bequest of Wings, A Family's Pleasure With Books," and "Longer Flight, The Family Grows Up With Books." She also suggests that parents consult a book by Hana McAllister, "Books, Young People, and Reading Guidance," as well as Ruth Sawyer's "Crock of Gold'V-stories to be re-told to children. Mrs. Aim suggests "A Parent's Guide WellesleY Club Sets Luncheon The Wellesley Club of Honolulu will meet for luncheon at noon October 13 at the Halekulani Hotel.

Guest of honor will be Mrs. Ukiko Domato Maki of the class of 1924. Mrs. Maki works with the Fulbright Program in Japan and will be in Hawaii on a garden tour. Interested persons may make reservations with Mrs.

Robert Mcintosh or Mrs. Carl Carlmark. JSs! Glamorous Secretary Leads Exciting Life Shoes That Fit Help Dispositions BEAUTY and the BEAST Club Calendar Today Noon DIAMOND HEAD UNIT U. AMERICAN LEGION AUXILIARY meeting and luncheon at the home of Mrs. John R.

Sanders, 41-M4 Lau-milo Street, Waimanaie. 1:15 p.m. ASSOCIATED CHINESE UNIVERSITY WOMfeN'S CLUB tea at the home of Dr. and Mrs. Koon Sun Fong, 36V2 Diamond Head Circle.

Hawaiian attire. Reservations: Mrs. Herbert W. H. Dang.

7 p.m. KE ANUENUE ASSEMBLY No. ORDER OF THE RAINBOW FOR GIRLS, open Installation of officers and choir in the Kailua Elementary School Cafetorium. feet have a great deal to do with your disposition. If your feet hurt your face reflects that hurt.

don't look for too much success in that category. Buy a shoe that feels absolutely comfortable. Your nnnnnnnDCf Li Pi II III I A I 4 II E3 I remember the days when a real woman never went outdoors without a hat and gloves, but something has happened. First the hat disappeared, then the gloves were left home, and now you don't even wear shoes. What are the women of this country coming to? I notice this particularly at dances, where you take Ail wonting bins Housewives stenographer for the army's War Crimes operations.

"I worked for the clemency board, which heard wives and relatives of the convicted criminals. My office would be full of wives and children waiting to be heard, and it was very sad. That was difficult," she reflected. FOLLOWING HER HUSBAND she went to Maryland, California, Fort Knox and then to Japan where she was secretary to the late Vice-Admiral James H. Thach, in Yokosuka.

Her next boss was Rear Admiral Thomas Burrowes. "I loved my title: I was secretary to the commander." Mrs. Godsey's hours are "from 8 a.m. to when Mr. Holtzman leaves roughly about 5 p.m." The day begins by "checking his ap- F3 II Fashion Center ANNOUNCES Free Holiday Short Sewing Classes BEGINNING OCT.

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Holtzman's inner sanctum. The view from her desk is out across the hotel's front lawn to the ocean. "But I haven't had time yet to put my foot in that sand," she laughed. Mrs. Godsey has been with Mr.

Holtzman for nine months. "It's my first hotel work, and I learned quickly that the guest comes first." SHE TOOK her first job at 16 with Honolulu Iron Works following her graduation from McKinley High School. She took a year's course at Heald Business College in San Francisco, and then launched into a career that is rich in variety and all-important experience. She worked at the Pentagon in Washington, D. when her husband, now retired, was sent to Italy by the Army.

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Simple, isn't it? I particularly dislike that horrible gyration called the Twist It is partly responsible. It's bad enough with the shoes on, but without shoes it's deplorable. It's the fault of American mothers, every bit of it. First you lazy mothers, so as not to have to wash and iron dresses, permitted your daughters to get out of their dresses into shorts. Now they don't wear shoes.

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