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D2 TUESDAY 31516 TODAY TO YOUR HEALTH The goal of online dating is actually meeting offline even check their IMs, and when they do it's usually to close the box because it just contains "hey." The verdict: Skip the IM. WinkFlirt Each site has its own way of describing something similar: indicating your interest to someone without going through the process of writing an email. On Match and Zoosk it's called a "wink." On JDate, Christian Mingle and OurTime, a "flirt." A rose by any other name would smell as sweet, but a wink or flirt by any other name is just a poor man's way of showing interest. Just like with the IM, it's best to take the extra few minutes and send a real message to show that you put the time into choosing that person rather than just a rogue click of a button. The online dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble and Hinge are a whole other animal one that I could probably write 10 articles on! The only messaging feature available on these apps is tex-ting.

The best advice is to keep the texting to a minimum and get to the date sooner rather than later. With any of the sites or apps, the goal is to ultimately make a connection, and the only way to truly do that is in person. used form of communication on any online dating site. On many sites, including Match.com and eHar-mony the user has to pay for the ability to both read and receive emails. On other sites, such as OkCupid and Plenty of Fish, emailing capabilities are free.

The pro of the paid approach is that you know people are invested, at least financially, in the process. There is a barrier to entry a credit card number or Pay-pal account. The con to email is, of course, that the person at the receiving end might not answer. Such is life. I like to just assume that person went on vacation forever.

JDate and Christian Mingle have an additional feature called "All-Access" that allows your email to reach anyone, regardless of whether they are a paying member. This is not something I recommend buying because presumably if someone is not a paying member, he or she is not yet ready to receive emails or dates, so yours may be falling into the abyss that is online dating. ChatInstant Messenger Remember AIM (AOL Instant Messenger)? I do! My username was Gr8Day99. Many online dating sites, including JDate and Match, include an instant message (IM) feature. This feature is available only when both you and a potential match are logged into the site at the same time.

As I tell my clients, if you're thinking about IM'ing someone, take the time to craft an email rather than a quick instant message instead. Most people don't In a world of rampant technology, it's often hard if not impossible to know which form of communication is best for each situation. "I think I accidentally said 'I'm busy' to someone over JDate chat who I actually wanted to talk to!" "Ugh I didn't write to my Bumble match in the 24 hours they gave me, and now he's gone forever!" "Did I send an email that was too long to someone on Match.com?" The list of questions and scenarios goes on and on. Each online dating site offers different ways of communicating with your potential matches. Let's break down the different communications and then discuss the pros and cons of each.

Email This is the first and most Erika Ettin is the founder of A Little Nudge, where she helps others navigate the often intimidating world of online dating. Want to connect with Erika? Join her newsletter, eepurl.com dpHcHfor updates and tips. 'Mixed Plate' will return to TV and to station where it began By Erika Engle erikastaradvertiser.com aPeabodyAward. The show had aired on KITV for decades, until Young left the local ABC affiliate in December following an ownership change. When Young launched the show, she worked at KHON.

A locally based television show that has traversed the world for three decades is returning to KHON2, the station that first launched the pro Plate' is the perfect addition to KHON2's lineup of local programming," KHON2 General Manager Kristina Lockwood said in a statement. "It's "I figured if I'm going to do one, I may as well do both," he said. But food became a replacement, and he packed on 30 pounds, eventually tipping the scale at more than 250 pounds. It was a time when he indulged in huge plate lunches and ice cream, candy and pastries. Breakfast was often loco moco or eggs, Spam and rice.

Dinner was also a big meal, whether it be steak or roast pork. He could drink a 12-pack of coke a night. Chang remembers trying workout videos and other gimmicks, but none worked. He credits friends for giving him the encouragement he needed to start jogging. The Internet has been his other resource for running tips and advice.

Chang's two 20-something sons think he's a bit crazy, but they are also glad to see him healthy. His doctor is pleased, and said he's added 20 more years to his life. Chang says it's never too late to change. "I thought I was too old to change, but you're never too old," he said. "I think I'm in the best shape I've ever been in my life." And he wants to keep it that way.

Sometimes he sees larger guys out running and wants to tell them, "Don't give up. Just keep going." "No matter how tired you get, don't stop. Just run slower." Chang kept at it, eventually managing to jog 1 mile, and then 2. He kept going. "I noticed myself feeling better, and people were telling me, 'Eh, you look good.

You look he said. "Then I found that when I run I just get into this zone. That kept me going." Now Chang's routine is a 6-mile run from his home in Kaimuki to Diamond Head every morning, Monday through Friday, with at least one uphill stretch. On weekends he looks forward to a longer run of 10 miles. He also hits the gym daily.

He likes marathons because they give him a goal. In May he's ready to take on a bigger challenge by doing the Armstrong Redwoods Trail Run 50-kilometer race in California. One day he hopes to qualify for the Boston Marathon. Chang's lifestyle today is drastically different from what it was a decade ago, when he was a smoker and heavy drinker. In 2008, he was determined to turn his health around after his doctor warned he would have to start taking cholesterol medication in addition to the high blood pressure pills he already took.

He decided to quit smoking and then drinking, too. CHANG Continued from Dl into each other at Longs Drugs. He's even run a marathon. In December he completed the Honolulu Marathon in 4 hours, 38 minutes, placing him in the top 15 percent among the race's 25,000 runners. That's not bad, considering it was his first marathon.

"My mind told me I wanted to do it in four hours," he said. "It was amazing. I felt good all the way." The bank incident was the catalyst for Chang, who resolved to lose weight, and by running he lost 100 pounds. "I love it," he said. "It's my peace, my meditation time.

Whatever's going on in my life, I run and just forget about everything and find myself in this zone, this inner peace. It's a form of meditation to me." When he first started running, Chang could barely jog two blocks in his neighborhood. He went at night so others couldn't see him. "I was ashamed of how big I was," he said. "I didn't want my neighbors to see me running." He would start jogging, get out of breath after a few minutes and then stop.

A friend gave him this advice: gram. "Pamela Young's Mixed Plate" will begin airing again on KHON this summer with its debut episode, "Under Sakura Skies." The episode will be preceded by a "Mixed Plate" series on KHON. so wonderful to have a show of STAR-ADVERTISER mat scope come back to the sta tion where it all began." "Mixed Plate has always evolved to embrace the trends of the time and demands of the audience," Young said in a statement. "I'm so happy the adventures continue at KHON2." Exact air dates Pamela are pending. Young The show started as a local news feature and grew to be an international exploration, sending Young and her production crew to some 40 countries and 25 U.S.

states. The show has won 12 Emmy Awards and WORD GAME SUPER QUIZ MARCY KATHY MITCHELL SUGAR shingle Shingle: SHING-gul: A thin piece of wood, slate or the like, used to cover roofs or walls. Average mark 15 words. Time limit 25 minutes. Can you find 22 or more words in SHINGLE? The list will be published Wednesday.

Knowing cause of tension might help end sisters' feud MONDAY'S WORD: Atavistic activist tacit visa astatic tact visit atavist titi vista attic vast vita avast vatic scat stat static cast cist Subject: Names of U.S. presidents (e.g., The three initials of this president's original full name spell the word "hug." Answer: Hiram Ulysses Grant.) FRESHMAN LEVEL 1 What is the shortest presidential first name? 2. Which presidential surname comes first in an alphabetical list? 3. Which presidential surname comes last in an alphabetical list? GRADUATE LEVEL 4. Name any four of the six presidents with the first name James.

5. Which president was named after Richard the Lionheart? 6. Which president's birth name was Leslie Lynch King PH.D. LEVEL 7. Which president had the longest first name? 8.

Name the only president with two middle names. 9. Name either of the two presidents with middle names that are presidential surnames. 1 John or Bill. 2.

Adams. 3. Wlson. 4. Madison, Monroe, Polk, Buchanan, Garfield, Carter.

5. Richard Milhous Nixon. 6. Gerald Rudolph Ford. 7.

Rutherford B. Hayes. 8. George Herbert Walker Bush. 9.

Ronald Wilson Reagan, William Jefferson Clinton. Score one point for each correct answer on the freshman level, two points on the graduate level and three points on the Ph.D. level. 18 points: Congratulations, doctor; 15-17: honors graduate; 10-14: you're plenty smart; 4-9: hit the books harder; 1-3: enroll in remedial courses immediately; 0: who reads the question to you? 1 Words must be four or more letters. 2.

Words that acquire four letters by addition of such as "bats" or "dies," are not used. 3. Only one form of the verb is used. 4. Proper nouns are not used.

5. Slang words are not used. BRIDGE Dear Annie: My oldest and youngest sisters are 10 years apart. They used to be good friends, but in the past three years, something apparently happened and now they can't stand to be in the same room together. At family events, the tension is awful.

My parents and I are caught in the middle. Each sister comes to me to complain about the other. I have tried to get them to talk it out or call a truce for the sake of the family, but it continues to get worse. Mom is 86 years old and worries constantly about her daughters. No other family members will talk to them about this.

I am so sick of this family feud. Is there anything we can do with these selfish adults? The Middle Sister Dear Middle Sister: Does anyone know the original cause of this animosity? Sometimes, a minor problem can become a major rift because it isn't dealt with at the time, so it festers. Could you, your mother, your clergyperson or a professional mediator get the two of them in a room together to discuss it? JUMBLE Dear Annie: A while back, I read with interest a letter from "Jungle Jim in Indiana," regarding the things men should know if their wives become incapable of doing common household tasks. What is good for one is good for the other. Please print my list of things a woman should know if her husband were no longer around.

Dover, Penn. Dear Dover: Thanks. Here it is: 1. Know how to check the fluids in the car. Also, know how to check the air pressure in the tires and properly wax the car.

Or know where to find a reputable mechanic and car wash. 2. Know where the main water shutoff is located in the home. 3. Know where important papers are kept.

4. Know what to do if the pilot light goes out on the gas stove and who to call if there is a gas leak. 5. Know how to replace the batteries in the smoke detectors. 6.

Know where the fuse box is and how to change a fuse. 7. Know how to fix a toilet that has stopped working. North dealer North-South vulnerable NORTH K3 A6 A10752 KJ52 WEST EAST 82 AQJ10 YJ10984 Y752 QJ96 3 10 4 A9863 SOUTH 97654 YKQ3 K84 Q7 North East South West 1 Pass 1 Pass 2 Pass 2NT Pass 3NT All Pass Opening lead Lest they forget By Frank Stewart Tribune Content Agency "Women may insist that they can forgive and forget," Cy the Cynic told me, "but they never let you forget that they forgave you." "Wendy is giving you a hard time?" "About a deal from two weeks ago," Cy growled. Cy, a chauvinist, and Wendy, my club's feminist, are always at odds.

Cy had been today's East, and Wendy led the jack of hearts against 3NT. Declarer won in dummy, led a Unscramble these four Jumbles, one letter to each square, to form four ordinary words. Should I even bother can't even plugging you pay a G. in? i ELHOL KYI 1 2016 Tribune Content Agency, LLC mm Hignis Meservea. CRIBH I I Tl FISXUF I I 1 AN ELECTRIC GUITAR WITH JUST ONE STRING IS DOUHRS i Now arrange the circled letters to form the surprise answer, as suggested by the above cartoon.

diamond to his king and returned a diamond. Wendy played the queen, and dummy played low. "I discarded a low club," the Cynic said, "and Wendy pondered and led another heart. South won, ran the diamonds and led a club to his queen. He cashed his last high heart, led another club and was sure of nine tricks.

"Wendy berated me, as usual. She said I should discard my ace of clubs on the second diamond, compelling her to shift to a spade. She's still talking about it two weeks later." If I were Cy, I'd have been upset with myself. He missed a chance for a beautiful discard. (The queen of spades was possible.) Answer here: WWW Annie 's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column.

Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net or write to Annie's Mailbox, care of Creators Syndicate, 7373rdSt, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. (Answers tomorrow) Jumbles: DITCH BRAVO MANAGE GARLIC Answer: The weasel didn't like his pushy cousin because his cousin liked to BADGER HIM Yesterday's.