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The Honolulu Advertiser Monday, December 1,1997 Island Life Editor. Wanda A. Adams, 525-8034 rcrciil vi Ljfe ISLAND fJOKN ROSEMOND Proof is in the TV-less pudding i I raveling around the country, doing talks and workshops for parent and profession oipliealft OR. DON PURCELL Internal Medicine Learning to lessen stress -a i OavM ScullThe Honolulu Advertiser va.iw awiv 1 lie nviiwiuiu nuvoi usei 1 Anna Kasof, president and general manager of Hawaii Public Radio; says HPR consumes 95 percent of her waking hours. Her goal: 10 get some sleep, ana take a Hawaii vacation.

Raolo KHPR's leading lady says public radio's listeners need to put their money where their ears are Married or single, parent or non-parent, most women today have too much to do. The competing demands of juggling a professional life and career ad-vancement goals, the requirements of day-to-day living, the needs of children and, often, of aging parents, and personal needs for fitness and relaxation can be overwhelming. Too many women, encouraged by time management programs geared toward stuffing ever more activity into our day, expect to excel in all facets of life at the same time. However, since each day contains not a minute more than 24 hours, it's time to retire the "super-woman" model of perfection. A healthier approach is to focus on what's reasonable and make the most of that.

The notion that imperfection is acceptable is essential to reducing stress. The first steps are to differentiate between what must be done and what would be nice to do, to be realistic about your time, energy and interests and to make sure your everyday activities support your long-term goals. For ex- ample, while dinner is a must, gourmet meals probably are not simpler fare will do just as well. A mother can support the goal of a good relationship with her children by spending more of her non-working hours with them than in making sure her house passes the white-glove test. Each time you feel pressured by a task, ask yourself whether it really needs to be done.

To be sure about your "yes" answers, follow up with "why?" Then determine whether someone else could do the job, such as a spouse or child, if you make it their responsibility, or if you can pay someone to do it for you. For responsibilities that are legitimately yours, seek ways to reorganize them so they are less burdensome or so others can pitch in. Learn to be assertive about what you can and cannot do. Studies repeatedly show that among married working couples, the wife spends far more hours each week on household chores and child care than the See Stress, Page C4 By Will Hoover Advertiser Staff Writer ith radio, perception can be everything. Take Anna Kasof.

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al groups, I always remind my audiences that the proof of anything I say must be found in the pudding. "Take my ad-Vice back into your families andor your professions," I tirge, "and see if it works." A mother and speech therapist in Waterloo, Iowa, took this challenge to heart. Several months ago, after hearing my "Six-Point Plan for Raising Happy, Healthy Children," she decided to see for herself whether my warnings about the effects of television-watching on children held any truth. She shared the results of her "research." Here's her story, in her words: "Because of your lecture, and because of what I had observed in my daughter's behavior when she watched television, we established a 'no TV policy in our house several months ago. Our baby-sitters and parents honor this policy; however, we don't expect friends to comply when we visit in their homes.

"The only television Rachel watches consists of videotapes chosen especially for family viewing. This averages one or two films per week. I try to pick movies no longer than IV2 hours animated, and only after we've read the book together. Furthermore, I always have the book present and open while we watch the movie. Results noticed an immediate increase in Rachel's speech and language skills after the "TV She had waited until she was 16 months to say her first word.

Nine -months later, she was finally putting two words together. After we silenced the television, she went from two-word utterances to singing nursery rhymes, to retelling "Cinderella" and other favorite books, and using as many as nine words per sentence. "She also acts out the Before the blackout, she would sit motionless in front of the tube, eyes glued to the screen (exactly the same way I get when I watch TV). "Because I've caught myself sitting still for even stupid programs, too, chose to limit my television watching to almost nothing. None of us seems to miss the television, although my husband says he just can't give up Monday night football.

Imagine it "The last few weeks, Rachel has been engaging in amazing amounts of make-believe pretending she is Cinderella, dropping a slipper while she runs away from the 'prince' (our cat), and asking me to 'pretend with her as she casts a magic spell, making me the 'good "I'm thoroughly convinced of the merits of pulling the plug on TV. As a mother and professional, I don't believe my child would have developed her present skills if we had continued to allow her to watch television an average of two hours per day, as she had done previously. I also feel I personally wouldn't have accomplished as many of my own projects." I've said it before, and IH say it again: Television-watching pacifies the growing child's intellect and imagination, and interferes significantly with the development of social, perceptual, motor and languagecommunication skills. This is true regardless of the program being watched and is why outcries over the content of certain "children's" shows are nothing more than red herrings. Prove it to yourselves.

'John Roserrwnd is a family psychologist in North Carolina. Questions of general interest may be sent to him at P.O. Box 4124, Gastonia, NC 28054 and at part of the radio mystique. Since people can't "see" radio, their imaginations fill in the visuals. That can give radio a larger-than-life dimension.

Kasof can use such perceptions to her advantage. But other perceptions work against her. "One of the hardest things to articulate is why people should become members of HPR," she said. "Ninety percent of the people don't know how we live." For instance, Kasof says, people cling to the perception that HPR is affiliated with Public Television. It's not.

Or that it's affiliated with the University of Hawaii. It's not. Or that it's state funded. "We don't get any state money nothing," she said. "Our federal support is only 12 percent of our budget." That means 88 percent of HPR's funding comes from members, corporate underwriting and special events such as the station's Dec.

4 premiere showing of "River Made to Drown In," starring Richard Chamberlain." Fact: HPR makes more money selling used cars than it gets from foundations. "When you realize that, you either want to cry or laugh," said Kasof, who started the used-car donation campaign shortly after she took over. She prefers to laugh. Born in Budapest, Hungary, Kasof emigrated to New York City with her family at age after the Hungarian revolution in 1956. Af- See Radio, Page C5 ceive her as tall, loud and frequently on the air.

In reality she's 5-foot-l-inch, soft-spoken and except during fund drives almost never behind the mike. "It's amazing the degree that people recognize me," said Kasof, whose distinctive accent is reminiscent of late actress Ruth Gordon. "But they don't recognize me by sight. They recognize the sound of my voice." Kasof author, anthropologist and veteran broadcaster is coming up on two years as president and general manager of HPR, which celebrated its 16th anniversary on Nov. 13.

When she arrived from New York City in February 1996, HPR was in big financial trouble. Today, the operation is in the black, despite a prolonged statewide economic slump and dramatic cuts by the Corporation for Public Broadcasting. "She's raised our profile," said Rick Clifton, chairman of HPR's board of directors. "She's our first president to be so outwardly focused. She's been able to convince underwriters of 1 the real dollars-and-cents benefits of support- ing HPR, in addition to its feel-go6d Kasof is acutely aware that perception is, 1 -tvt KHNL struggles in the ratings war 1 I 7 1 HI-.

17 Sm Deborah BookerThe Honolulu Advertiser KHNL reporter Patti Lee and video journalist Sisto Domingo cover Veteran's Day ceremonies at the National Memorial Cemetery of the Pacific at Punchbowl. They're part of the staff that was compiled for Hawaii's newest news show. Honolulu's four news stations just finished fighting for viewers during a November "sweeps" ratings period that came amid new management and philosophical changes for Hawaii's newest news station, KHNL News 8. Today, in the first of four profiles on Hawaii's television news stations, The Advertiser looks at KHNL, which remains fourth despite newsroom shake-ups. Second in a five-part series By Dan Nakaso Advertiser Staff Writer Inside editing bay No.

1, the names of KHNL news members who have left or been fired in the show's two years of existence scroll across the video monitor from right to left, like a ticker in a stock exchange. "Harada, Everett, Waygood, Ganoot, N. Nihipali, Harrington, Coniglio, Moises, Stockwell It's a list that memorializes the journalists who joined KHNL for the promise of something different but have since returned to Hawaii's three other TV stations, left for jobs on the Mainland or in some cases are still unemployed. Now their names merely serve as a screen saver for News Cutter 1, the high-tech, digital editing terminal inside editing bay No. 1.

"Ostrem, Rodd, Brandt, Anastassatos, Goto, Miyasaki, Meisenzahl The names can't be contained on just one monitor. So the screen saver directs anyone who wants the full tally to see the editing machine in bay No. 2. ,1 KHNL News 8: NBC affiliate, Channel 8 Slogan: "Where Hawaii's News Comes First" Owner A.H. Belo Corp.

Newsroom staff: 45 full-time, 2 part-time Anchors: 1 AnchorReporters: 4 Reporters: 7 KHNL News 8 made its debut on April 17, 1995, with a new approach to delivering TV news in Hawaii. Every other station watched the herky-jerk KHNL camera movements that made MTV look like a still-life portrait, and its penchant for reporters to walk in and out of view. In the first broadcast, reporter Lyle Galdeira flushed money down a toilet to See KHNL, Page C3.