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SECTION Tin 11 A voluntary thanks see page 2D MAY 3, 1981 Slang teen talk seems to be a carry-over of the drug culture of the 60's. "A culture explosion as the '60s were, with the Vietnam war and the widespread use of drugs causes more slang to be created," she said. The past 20 years have spawned tremendous creativity in slang, she said, and the conservativeness of the '80s with the return of the prep attitude has changed the meaning many words once used. One word can take on different meanings simply by the intonation, and words that were once bawdy or lewd are now quite respectable, and vice versa. Other words have different meanings depending on the region of the country where they are used.

"Slang just pops into my mind it relieves the boredom of common words and shows action," explained a student at Auburn University of Montgomery. Following is a list of slang words in current use in Montgomery, and was compiled from high school and college students. i lllpf HUM Sgl on pedestal, say teens i Lost out of it, unaware, as in, "Hey, is he lost!" It's been real to describe an experience, either bad, good or indifferent It's been a slice short for a slice of life; to describe a good experience Jimmy jam an object; thingamajig, whatchamacallit, doohickey Messing with my mind confusing Munch or munch out to eat. My bad admission of a mistake, as "Sorry, my bad." Narf to eat fast, as to wolf down Nasty really gross No big loss a negative outcome of a situation, as "It ain't no big loss." Also no biggie. Ozone layer where an unintelligent person is said to reside, as "He's in the ozone layer." Poindexter a studious person Pour out of the frame an experience that is too much to deal with, as "It pours me right out of the frame." Rack king one who sleeps a lot Scoping looking at girls Space cadet lives in the ozone layer; a person who is not considered to be very intelligent Suds beer Study to consider, as "Let me study on it." Takes the rag off'en the bush over the limit; same as takes the cake; also, if that don't beat all The max the very best of anything The pits the worst possible of anything, even worse than gross and nasty, as "He is the PITS!" The week in review cleaning out the refrigerator for a meal; leftovers Throw down on to participate in an activity, for example, "Let's throw down on some pizza," or "I can't, I need to throw down on my homework." Vamping looking for sexy women Vegged out describes a person who has used too many drugs assume responsibility, as long as it is not injurious or destructive to them or the family.

Experience is a good teacher." Hill said he believes there are ways to keep the lines of communication open with a teen-age child. "Be approachable," he said. "I'm more concerned with quantity time than quality time. It's great to spend an hour a week doing some great activity with your kid, but I think it's more important to be available on a consistent basis. Don't force yourself on them or try to invade their world, but let them know you're interested.

Ask their opinion. "There are several levels of communication," said Hill. "Most parents communicate with their kids on the first level, which is 'How was your day at They don't go any further because they really don't want to know. "The deepest level is when you really sit down and talk to each other. Self-disclosure works two ways.

So many parents think if they let their kids see them as human beings with weaknesses the kids will lcse respect. Actually, the opposite is true. It's OK for them to see you as a fellow struggler." Hill said he would encourage parents not to worry so much about making mistakes in raising their children. "I read the results the other day of a recent survey with thousands of teen-agers," he said, "which showed that an overwhelming majority of teen-agers say their relationship with their parents is all right. I think that is both surprising and By ELIZABETH VIA BROWN Advertiser Staff Writer Parents and their teen-age children alike often complain about lack of communication.

Teen-agers say their parents form opinions or set rules without listening to their side of the story. Parents say their children only listen to what they want to hear. To communicate effectively, language must be understood, but teenagers, high school and college age, have a jargon all their own. Nancy Anderson, who teaches English at Auburn University at Montgomery, said slang is used possibly because teens want a language only they understand. "It's like a club in which only students are members.

They may talk in front of their parents without being understood, as though the words have secret meaning." Dr. Guin Nance, vice chancellor of academic affairs at AUM, who also teaches English, said current slang Ace to make an the highest possible grade on a test Airhead an attractive but unintelligent girl All nighter a hard test which takes a lot of studying, as "That quiz was an all nighter." Ankle biter a dog or really unattractive person; also topsoil, hag, scrub, skuz, minus two, creep, dip Bent out of shape upset, mad, aggravated, as "My parents are bent out of shape." Also torn up. Big time callous description of an event or person, as "He thinks he is big time." Blew either bad or good: "I really blew that test," (bad); "It just blew me away" (good). Blitz drunk Blow chunks upchuck, especially after drinking a fews suds or brewskies Bod physique, as "What a bod! Bookin' leaving one place for another, as "Can't talk now, I'm bookin' to class." Bozo an unsophisticated person; also twerp, wimp, nerd, jerk, goon, momo, turkey Brewskie beer Bro short for brother; friend, as "He's my bro." Brutal awesome, moving Burned really tired Check out my ride look at a car, as "Hey, check out my new ride." Cold blooded really cool, terrific Crib home, pad Cruisin' driving around the local hangouts to find some action Flag to make an the lowest possible grade on a test Get fired up anger Get fried drunk or high on drugs Get your ducks in a row to organize time or affairs; similar to "Get your act together." Greasing to eat a lot of food, also pig out Gross really awful Grub king a person who eats a lot; also porker Hunk describes a boy who has a well-built physique LaFete David J. Beecher, ringmaster, I (v '1 of Parents By SUSAN SANFORD Advertiser Staff Writer When their teen-ager begins to identify less with the family and more with a group of peers with a language and style of dress all its own, bewildered parents sometimes wonder just where, and if, they fit into the picture anymore.

But when a confused parent, in a genuine attempt to maintain communication, tries to adopt the teenage role, it's a real turn-off for the teen-ager, said Don Hill, counselor with the Family Life Enrichment Center. "Among the things teen-agers have told me they want from their parents," said Hill, a psychologist who taught on the college level for 18 years, "is that they act like parents. They say, i don't want them to dress like me or talk like me. They're parents, and they should act like a "Kids have told me they have their parents on a pedestal, and that it's the parents who step down, the kids don't take them off," said Hill. The counselor, whose outreach ministry with Morningview Baptist Church includes family life and marriage enrichment seminars both locally and in surrounding towns, said teen-agers also tell him they need some restrictions in their lives.

"They want to know the limits," he said. "It's like you're drawing a big circle. Here's the center, and out here are the perimeters. Most kids won't stay near the center, they'll go all the way out to the perimeters, but they feel safe knowing where the boundaries are." Dr. Kevin Walsh, assistant pro There's nothing as exciting as a circus, and the mystic order of LaFete carried its hundreds of guests to a party under the big top Saturday evening.

This was LaFete's 22nd annual ball. With David J. Beecher as ringmaster, the circus rolled onto the elaborately decorated stage setting, and through pageantry and pomp the acts took the spotlight. There were clowns and lions, prancing horses and beautiful girls. Colorfully costumed members of LaFete performed as cotton candy and balloon girls.

Animals of all varieties performed, the ringmaster presenting hippos and gorillas, and even a tiger and lion or two. Clowns on tricycles did daring stunts, and of course there were jugglers and trapeze artists in daring acts. Fat ladies and prancing horses each took their turns, and even Aubie the Tiger and Big Al were there. The grand finale was the arrival of the queen of the circus LaFete's own queen in a brilliantly sparkling costume riding a "hot pink" elephant, docile as a toy under its trainer's hand. The queen and her pachyderm friend were accompanied by LaFete's board members, who wore green sparkle costumes with free-swinging fringe.

fessor of education at the University of Alabama in Birmingham, says in his book, "Taming the Young Savage," that once a child's biological needs have been met, safety is the next basic need which must be fulfilled. "Safety for a child is found in limits set on behavior and actions, in a properly constituted authority, and in consistency of rule enforcement," says Walsh, whose approach has its roots in A.H. Maslow's hierarchy of needs. "The child will not feel love from or be able to give love to a parent unless this need for safety is met," he says. The UAB professor believes that both parents must be a part of the discipline process.

"When a mother says, 'Just wait till your father gets she is actually admitting to the child that she is not the properly constituted authority that it is the father who has the overriding effect on the child's life in terms of right and wrong," says Walsh. However, when both parents enforce limits and carry out the consequences when the limits are exceeded, he says, the child begins to realize the authority of others is something he must incorporate into his system. "The child's moral development will actually start to take place through this process," says Walsh, a formal juvenile delinquent who says he has seen the problem from both sides. Teen-agers look for consistency in their parents, said Hill. "Parents have to be an example," he said.

"Telling a teen-ager, 'Do as I say, not as I just doesn't cut it. People and Places By MADERA SPENCER And thus began the big top circus ball. The reception committee last night included Mrs. Henry C. Chap-pell, Mrs.

Bob Owen, Mrs. Clement Carpenter, Mrs. Tarrice S. Brazier, Mrs. Robert G.

Rocheleau, Mrs. Forrest B. Watson, Mrs. Malcolm Smith, and Mrs. John T.

Spencer. Double It is doubtful that even in the glorious days of ancient Greece was there a marriage celebration more joyfully elaborate than the double wedding Saturday evening of Calliope (Peppy) Zgouvas to Elia Nicholas and Katina Zgouvas to Nicholaus Varnavos. The marriages of the daughters of Mary and John Athanasios Zgouvas took place in a beautiful, symbol-filled ceremony in the Annunciation Greek Orthodox Church here; then the celebration was comDleted in the circus guests gather under the 'J t-. a Psychologist Don Hill They are searching, looking for their own identity, and they are looking for deliberate inconsistencies in their parents' behavior." Both Walsh and Hill said teenagers should be included in the decision-making process when it affects them directly. "They need to learn to make decisions," said Hill.

"If not, they'll be sent off to college at 18 and will find they don't have the ability to make decisions on their own." There is a risk involved in letting a teen-ager make some of his own decisions, he said. "It's hard, but go ahead and let them make an he said. "Don't take away encouragement and incentives, but let them know they have to huge Constitution Hall of Governor's House Motel. The stunning setting where 450 guests dined on prime rib dinners was lighted by antique glass lanterns on all the tables, reflecting luminously on encircling springeria fern, pink carnations and daisies, and criss-crossed satin ribbons. An ethereal, cloud-like atmosphere pervaded the great room, for at each place were frothy pink tulle-and-net-wrapped almonds, ornamented with sprigs of lily-of-the-valley, favors for the guests.

The brides' cakes were spectacular. Personal Touch had created a double fantasy each bride had seven cakes attached to a large central heart-shaped cake topped with fluttering white doves. Miniature figures, representing the bridal attendants, ascended a staircase up the cakes on each side to the the bride and the groom on top. Flowers in abundance, music by strolling serenaders, candlelight from many-branched candlelabrum enhanced the romantic setting. Guests were there from all over the country, as well as from Salonika, Greece.

Mr. and Mrs. George Stylianos of Salonika, she the sister of John Zgouvas, kept a promise of long ago to attend the girls' weddings. This is their first trip to America. big top After the sumptuous banquet, there was dancing to the music of The Rhodians from Detroit.

The party lasted into morning's early hours. The two couples will have wedding trips to the Caribbean to different destinations, however. But their double wedding will live long in the memories of the Greek Community here, and others fortunate enough to have been included. Birmingham Former Montgomerian Kathy Barnes, daughter of Claudia and Bill Barnes, now of Birmingham, is being honored with parties prior to her marriage May 30 to Thomas McLaughlin of Auburn. Last Sunday, the home of Mrs.

John B. Johnson in Birmingham was the setting for an afternoon tea when several hostesses, including former Montgomerians, entertained for Kathy. The hostesses were Mrs. Earl Kreis, Mrs. William Land, Mrs.

Robert Hull, Delores Dee Bond, Mrs. James Dunn and Jo Anne Hall. Among those going up from Montgomery were Kathy's grandmother, Willie Belle Barnes, and Kathy's aunt, Dianne Chandler. Both Kathy and Tom are graduates of Auburn University, where they first met. They will marry in Shades Valley Presbyterian Church in Birmingham.

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