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18 I OBITUARIES The Guardian Tuesday September 19 1995 Jack Stoddart Art off socialism iSMi journalists and writers. His JIHBsHHiii3raiiiiiiB He was bom in Consett, County Durham, and went down the mines as a wartime Bevin Boy before studying graphic design, part time, at Durham University. He worked briefly in Glasgow before joining Labour in London. Several decades later I asked him if he regretted his long stay. "Not a single hour He was an easy man to like and love because he appeared to have banished all maliciousness from his soul.

In his retirement he held court weekly in a Notting Hill pub and the turn-out of colleagues from his backroom political past was indicative of his popularity. The single memory I have that sums him up best might be the time he decided to unilaterally produce his own card for Labour Party members. In a beautifully scripted design he had the following quotation from Thomas Rain-borowe run off in tens of thousands: The poorest he that is in England hath a life to live as the greatest he. Jack leaves a widow, Beryl, and three children. played throughout the country.

As a result, thousands of elderly demonstrators turned up at the Albert Hall chanting a specially composed song, "Give Me The Right To Live!" Jack was a meticulous craftsman with a love of design and what he called "typographical good At conference time it was a pleasure to be with him as he savaged or praised with unarguable accuracy posters and signboards for anything from chocolate bars to limousines. I still can't walk a city street uninfluenced by Jack's verdicts. When we first met I guessed that he wanted to be thought a I soon learned that he had no need to try. He loved conversation more than anything, and if it could be conducted in a good pub with good beer so much the better. He had either been born with, or meticulously acquired, a social persona that managed to combine the lexical fascination of Dr Johnson with a stage Irishman's rolling blarney.

He was intimidated by no one and I suspect there are several Labour-supporting stars, no less than ex-minis-tors, who will have memories of amiable discourses from Jack as to where Labour was going wrong. He was most at ease with JACK STODDART, who has died aged 70, was the longest-serving member of Labour's Walworth Road HQ staff until his retirement a few years ago. At one time he comprised the art department, being responsible for many of the leaflets, posters, artwork, and party conference designs. When he went to work for Labour at Transport House in 1953, recently defeated Prime Minister Clement AtUee was the party leader and Dennis Healey was a close colleague. Jack saw the party through nine general elections and a variety of campaigns, with slogans ranging through "Let's Go With "You Know Labour Government Works" and "Yesterday's Men" the ill-starred Tory-bashing 1970 campaign.

Jack didn't mastermind all these even then Labour handed itself over to advertising agencies when the stakes were high but he did claim to have midwifed the Labour symbol that preceded the Kinnock rose, the crossed quill, torch and spade which still adorns John Smith House. His input was most significant in byelections and special issue campaigns. For an early seventies pensioners' rally Jack's posters were dis Ian Flintoff Jack Stoddart, designer and socialist, born August 8, 1925; died August 29, 1995. comprised the Labour Party's art department Yehuda Meir Getz The rabbi at war thongs, the thong passing round the neck of each. Several pots were on the fires cooking dura and beans The slave-party consisted of five or six half-caste Arabs, who said that they came from Zanzibar I asked if they had any objections to my looking at the slaves.

The owners pointed out the different slaves, and said that after feeding them, and accounting for the losses on the way to the coast, they made little by the trip I said to them it was a bad business altogether. The Last Journals of David Livingstone in Central Africa. Murray, J875. RABBI Yehuda Meir Getz, who has died aged 71 of a heart attack, was the rabbi of the Western Wall, the most holy place in Judaism, for nearly 30 years. But he came to that duty at terrible, though indirect, cost: one of his sons was killed in the Six Day War of 1967, in which Israel captured the Old City of Jerusalem and with it the site of the Second Temple.

Rabbi Getz was an Asbken- azy or western Jew, but' was born in Tunisia. He came to Israel in 1949, the year after the bloody foundation of the state, when Jews fought off the invasion of Arab armies from countries which refused to recognise the partition of Palestine. The young Rabbi Getz settled in Galilee, where he helped to found the moshav. or agricultural cooperative, of Kerem Ben Zimra. But his main career was in the army, in which he rose to the rank of lieutenant-colonel.

In the war of 1967 he was a major, serving with the artillery corps. By then his son Avner was also in the army, and was killed in the brief but fierce battle for the Old City. After the war, Getz left the heyday must have been the Wilson years, when Labour still eyeballed the Conservatives across Smith Square, and the Marquis of Granby was the haunt of Labour and Tory hacks and political Fleet Street. I felt he missed that hurly-burly when I occasionally met him in Walworth Road's quieter saloon bars. Away from politics he did paintings and design.

He once told me how he had worked on a book for Brendan Behan. When asked to provide a preface, Behan seized the nearest book in Erse that came to hand and pointed out an arbitrary couple of paragraphs for his preface. They live on, Jack claimed, the product of a night of carousing. He did oriental calligraphy and watercolours, exhibiting the latter briefly at Conway Hall. When the display was visited by Transport House colleague, Andy Thompson, Jack barred him at the door of the room.

"You can't see them now," Thompson was told, "there's a keep-fit class going on." Jack was a key figure in the Labour Party choir and a zealot for the conferences' famous Red Review that de lighted delegates and journal ists. One may wonder if this tradition of self-mockery will survive. coquette and subtle actress Perry Mason in The Case Of The Lucky Lees (1935). By the time of her penultimate picture, No Time For Comedy (1940). in which she entices James Stewart away from his wife Rosa lind Russell, ostensibly to nurture his ambitions to be a serious playwright, seduction had lost its allure for her.

Unlike her screen per sona, Tobin was happily married to Warner Bros stalwart William Keighley from 1938 to his death in 1984. Keighley, who direc ted Tobin in three films, retired in 1953, and it was fitting that the couple settled in Paris, France, which, as Oscar Wilde's Dr Chasuble might have said, "hardly points to any very serious state of mind at the last." Ronald Bergan Genevieve Tobin, actress, born November 29, 1901; died July 31 1995. letter from an 1 1-year-old boy who vows not to change his underwear until I feature him? I'm needed and wanted as never before I sympathise more than I let on with the anxious Californians struggling to produce the world's largest burrito, who call to ask "What exactly do you mean by And it wouldn't be so hard for me to disillusion the woman who wants to write the world's most romantic poetry (most as in quantity, not style) if I didn't, at some level, wish her well. After all, it would be a lovely affront to the tyranny of this world's poetry editors to be able to tell them, "Maybe The Paris Review disagrees, but according to The Guinness Book of Caleb Crain writing in the New Republic. He says he doesn't workfor Guinnessany more.

He writes sonnets. UK-US YTP THERE'S a scene in Troma's Toxic Avenger where someone's hand gets boiled in chip fat. The bubbles in the chip Colin Gray RAF's ace Kiwi Jack Stoddart for years he army and was one of the first Israelis to settle in the newly resurrected Jewish Quarter of the Old City. Soon afterwards, he was appointed rabbi in charge of the West-em Wall, the only surviving remnant of the Temple, and the other holy sites surrounding the Temple Mount It was -a. job fraught with real controversy and potential conflict.

The Temple Mount, object of 2,000 years of Jewish longing for the lost homeland, is also highly reveredtby Muslims, who call it the Haram atSharif and believe it to be the site from which the prophet Mohammed ascended to Paradise. Getz piety not politics one New Zealand candidate per year was admitted to Cran-well cadet college, and neither was chosen. Five years later the twins tried again. Kenneth was accepted, joining Bomber Command and dying in an air crash in 1940. Colin failed the medical, lacking strength in his arms after a childhood illness.

So he took a job on a sheep farm for a year, so that no doctor could reject him at the next examination. He started RAF training in early 1939 and was posted to number 54 Squadron, flying Spitfires. His early days were not propitious. A puntal virtuosity." Reviews ofPuroell'sstudies. The same letter which thanks heaven for having "no one to care for" among the war casualties concludes with a note on life's real horrors; namely a blacked gutter and a waterlogged nursery her syntactical detachment and topical juxtapositions suggest an individual voice not quite submerged within the family chorus.

Review. Jane Austen's letters. Bartok liked to pick out a folk melody and set it, a jewel in the thick of hammered discords and shifting registers: not unlike this dippy Mamas and Papas tune floating along nicely among the debris. August Kleinzahler poem extract. Emergency ward 1070 Headline on a reviewed history of English hospitals.

Bully boys Bullies are a special breed of children. The vast majority of children are never involved in bullying, either as perpetrators or victims. Early in development, most Another Day September 19. 1866: We held along the plain till we came to Mponda's, a large village, with a stream running past. The plain at the village is very fertile We found an Arab slave-party here, and went to look at the slaves; seeing this, Mponda was alarmed lest we should proceed to violence in his town, but I said to him that we went to look only.

Eighty-five slaves were in a pen formed of dura stalks. The majority were boys of about eight or ten years of age; others were grown men and women. Nearly all were in the taming-stick; a few of the younger ones were in Birthdays Kate Adie, television journalist, 50; Louise Botting, broadcaster, financial consultant, 56; Rosemary Casals, tennis player, 47; Judith Church, Labour MP, 43; Michael Elphick, actor, 49, Capt Jim Fox, pentathlete, 54; Sidonie Goossens, harpist, 95; Rosemary Harris, actress, 65; Jeremy Irons, actor, 47; Tan-ith Lee, writer, 48; David McCallum, actor, 62; Austin Mitchell, Labour MP, 61; Penelope Mortimer, novelist, 77; Pete Murray, broadcaster, 67; Derek Nimmo, actor, 63; Dr Harold Plen- squadron fighter wing for the Normandy campaign in June 1944. When the VI flying bomb campaign began, Gray transferred to a wing earmarked to chase these proto-cruise missiles. After the war he went home and married Betty Cook, a young war-widow with a daughter.

They had two sons and two daughters, and returned to England on being offered a permanent commission. He left his beloved RAF as a substantive group cap tain in. 1961. A new career with Unilever back in New Zealand saw him rise to per sonnel director before his retirement in 1979. Dan van dor Vat Group Captain Colin Gray, airman, born November 9, 1914; died August 2, 1995.

decades, perhaps a lifetime. The person hurt most by bullying is the bully himself, though that's not at first obvious, and the negative effects increase over time. Most bullies have a downwardly spiralling course through their life, their behaviour interfering with learning, friendships, work, intimate relationships, income and mental health. Bullies turn into antisocial adults, and are far more likely than non-aggressive kids to commit crimes, batter their wives, abuse their children and produce another generation of bullies. Bullies for the most part are different from you and me.

Studies reliably show that they have a distinct cognitive make-up a hostile attribu-tional bias, a kind of paranoia They act aggressively because they process social information inaccurately. Bullies do a lot of damage in organisations. They make subordinates run scared. They put people in protective mode, which interferes with the company ability to gen erate Genevieve Tobin The morals of Mitzi GENEVIEVE TOBIN, who has died aged 93, was a oval-faced, wide-eyed blonde, particularly suited to the risque, pre-Hays Code thirties boudoir comedies usually set in a glittering Hollywood, where infidelity was the only game in town. In Ernst Lubitsch's One Hour With You (1932), Tobin played a vivacious vamp called Mitzi, in saucy bats to match her morals, of whom her husband remarks: "When I married her she was a brunette, now you can't believe a word she says." She manages to lure Maurice Chevalier away from his wife Jeanette Macdonald, getting him to sing in his suggestive manner, "Oooh that Mitzi!" But unlike many other coquettes of the cinema.

Tobin, usually swathed in furs and satins, was an adept comedienne, as well as a subtle, often enigmatic, actress. It was a pity, therefore, that she was seldom able to break away from typecasting, and her career faded as American films be came less permissive. Bora of wealthy parents in New York, Tobin began acting on stage from the age of 10, her career being interrupted in order to complete her schooling in New York and Paris. She returned to Broadway as the ingenue star of Little Old New York and Polly Preferred, in both of which she toured for some years, and appeared in one silent film, No Mother To Guide Her, in 1923. But it was with the advent of the talkies that Tobin came into her own on starting as she It's personal YESTERDAY I rejected an 82-year-old woman with braces.

Too young, no special skills. I felt a brief flicker of pity, which I silently smothered. As the editor (for two and a half months, anyway), I can't just let anyone into the Guinness Book of Records. I didn't bother to write a personal note; I sent her a form letter. "How can you live with yourself?" an officemate asked when I told him.

Editing The Book is like editingpoetry circle of people, who you hope will never discover your home telephone number, you are wildly glamorous and Since the Israeli conquest of the city, the Temple Mount has been a place of friction and frequent clashes, as well as a focus of faith. Jews pray at the base of the Western Wall; Muslims worship in the ancient al-Aqsa mosque only yards away. However, Getz eschewed politics in favour of piety. A noted scholar of the Kabala, the mystic tradition of Judaism, he was famous for his dedication and discipline, rising in the early hours to study and pray in the network of tunnels adjoining the WaU. Though considered a moderate, in matters of Jewish custom he was deeply conservative.

He was fiercely opposed to the movement for women to be allowed to read from the Torah at the Wall. As the Jerusalem Post put it yesterday: "He walked a thin line at the Wall between pleasing the haredim who view it as a sacred site, and the masses who see it as a national monument." Dorek Brown Rabbi Yehuda Meir Getz, soldier and religious leader, born 1924; died September 17, 1995. row with a superior was followed by a "prang" in 1940 at an inspection by Air Chief Marshal Sir Hugh Dowding. He shot down his first Mes-serschmitt 109 in May 1940, near Dunkirk. His own plane was all but destroyed.

Gray stayed with "the Few" throughout the Battle of Britain. An all-night party did not prevent him shooting down two more fighters on August 12, when he flew six missions. He destroyed at least 12 more in the ensuing three weeks. He joined the staff of Number 9 Group as an acting wing commander in autumn 1941 and brief commands of two more Spitfire squadrons in 1942 took him to North Africa and Malta. He won his DSO after heavy fighting during the invasion of Sicily.

He trained new pilots for a year, commanding a five- children acquire internal restraints against such behaviour, But those who bully do it consistently. Their aggression starts at an early age. It takes a very specific set of conditions to produce a child who can start fights, threaten or intimidate a peer and actively inflict pain upon others. Bullying causes a great deal of misery to others, and its effects on victims last for urn mm 'ii mi in i in i i hi mm1 minium I kids' stuff derleith, antiquarian and scientist, 97; Prof Ferdinand Porsche, car designer, 86; Zandra Rhodes, fashion designer, SS; Dr George Richardson, warden, Keble College, Oxford, 71; Pida Ripley, director, WomenAid, 51; Brid get Rosewell, economist, 44; David Seaman, footballer, 32: Prof Sir Geoffrey Slaney, surgeon, 73; Twiggy (Lesley Hornby), model and actress, 46; Dr Christopher White, authority on fine art, 65; Paul Williams, composer and lyricist, 55; Dr Arthur Wills, composer and organist, 69. Death Notices BARKER.

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224 Groat Portland Slrool, London, WIN 6AA. To place your announcement talopbono 0171 Ell 9080 you in a state of psychological emergency. And add to it the rage you feel towards the bully and a sense of self-rage for putting up with such behaviour." These are hardly prime conditions for doing your best work any work. It's never easy to make headway with an office bully, observers agree. The first step is to recognise when it's happening.

Repetitive verbal abuse. Micromanagement. Exploitation, Any activity that repeatedly demeans you or is discourteous. "Whenever you're dissed, you're dealing with a bully Sometimes it's inadvertent We all get caught up in that once. You apologise and it's over.

But bullies don't recognise their impoliteness and they don't apologise." HaraMaranoon thelifeofthe bully and his or her victims in Psychology Today. You can E-mail jackdamguardian.coMk.: fax 0171-7134366; Jackdaw. The Guardian, llSFarringdon Road, London EC1R 3ER. Edited by Vanessa Harlow Genevieve Tobin screen would continue in A Lady Surrenders, playing the role of a scheming but innocent-appearing rival of Rose Hobart for the love of matinee idol Conrad Nagel. In Free Love, she was Na-gel's wife who decides to move out with the children when an expensive shrink tells her she's "an intuitive introvert" and her hubby is "an infantile Nagel brings her to her senses by punching her on the chin, a case of wife-beating happily accepted by audiences of the day.

In Seed, would-be writer John Boles leaves bis wife for Tobin, who works for a publishing company. He then has to write trashy mystery novels to support her extravagant life-style. Her illicit charms would also entangle Cary Grant in Kiss And Make Up, and Adolphc Mcnjou in Easy To Love (both 1934), only changing pace in her portrayal of a witty Delia Street to Warren William's powerful. But the bitter truth is you spend most of your days rejecting people. Desperately ambitious people.

People who will do nearly anything to win a meagre fraction of a column inch in your publication. It either breaks your heart or fills you with sadistic glee. In a few cases, a no is clearly a mercy killing It seems right to take a firm stand against infant prodigies, especially when their parents have forced them to fly airplanes solo for long distances or lift their own body weight in Olympic competitions. But in the beginning I had trouble coming to terms with this power of veto. I agonised about turning down the woman who found a carrot inscribed with her initials on the processing belt of the cannery where she worked.

In neurotic compensation I would scribble a handwritten sorry at the bottom of many of my form letters to the Dear Aspiring Record-Breakers, as if a personal touch could soften the blow. But in what other job would I receive a threatening GROUP Captain Colin Gray who has died aged 80, was twice rejected by the Royal Air Force before becoming one of its finest wartime Spitfire pilots and New Zealand's top ace, with a tally of 28 German aircraft shot down one shared and a dozen more unconfirmed. He displayed all the dash and determination that made his country's small forces so formidable. Gray was as keen as his twin brother Kenneth to join the RAF on leaving school in his native Christchurch as an 18-year-old in 1932. But only fat," says Benjamin Ross, "were me." Things have improved since he was a production assistant blowing hard down a long tube.

His first feature film, The Young Poisoner's Handbook, is "Are You Being Poisoned, Troma hired Ross to sleep in the truck with the camera equipment when they were shooting in Hell's Kitchen, but got fired when he blew off a camera lens with an exploding dog. "They thought I would never amount to anything," says Ross. Not surprising really. He'd been frantic to get away from Britain. "Everyone was talking about Chariots of Fire and I couldn't get on a Job Fit scheme." Inspirational aspiration in Sky magazine 's movie notes.

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