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i This is the first in a three-part families. Some couples want one child. none. Still others want two families. explore how and why some of those were made.

Family With child 'Wednesday, March 1, 1978 ITHACA JOURNAL 13 'Wednes(Iay, March 1, 1978 ITHACA JOURNAL 13 I i Family 1 i die, 111-1---a 4 -T--- i 11 With child 1, 10 Ili siii 4 0 I A 91 135 in ly This is the first in a three-part families. Some couples want one child, none. Still others want two families. explore how and why some of those were made. I i i I By TAMAR ASEDO SHERMAN Career satisfaction seems to be replacing the need for children in many women's lives.

Several women interviewed by The Journal said that one child was enough for them and all they could handle while trying to maintain a career. Others are comfortable with the decision not to have any children, but to devote themselves entirely to their work and strengthening close ties with their husbands. A woman writer, whose only child is 10 years old, said, "I had been working full time at a job that was very interesting and extremely satisfying. By the time she was 3112 or 4, we felt if we were going to have another child we should do it. But I honestly felt that I didn't want another.

I was happy with my career and got a lot of satisfaction out of our daughter." "I saw others tied down with two or three kids, always screaming at them and I didn't want to see myself in that position," she went on. But the deciding point came when a friend told her, "If you would have another child simply to give her a sibling, don't do it because you'll be sorry." Jones (not her real name) took that advice to heart. She decided against having any more children and has not regretted it, although some time in the future she might adopt an older child, perhaps a teenager. A generation ago parents rarely had only one child. Having one was a commitment to having two except under extreme circumstances.

Jones was told by her mother-in-law: "Anyone who raises an only child should be shot." But parents no longer feel that it is necessarily a bad thing to grow up as an only child. There are lots of advantages, such as more time and attention from parents and more money to spend. With the increased use of day care for young children, youngsters without siblings have the benefits of having other children around during the day, learning how to socialize and share. "Ithaca has excellent day care facilities so she always had other kids around," Jones said. "But now we live in an isolated area and have to arrange for WAN a replac- women's I by The lough for le while hers are to have gthening hild is 10 king full sting and she was to have L.

But I nother. I It a lot of I two or hem and hat posi- ing point 'If you to give you'll be Tie) took against has not le in the er child, rely had commit- extreme by her aises an a rents no ly a bad Id. There 'ore time ad more care for lout other facilities around," re in an ange for series on others We will decisions playmates. Ocassionally she says she would like a sibling, but she also likes having peace and quiet." Liz Bellinger has a 7-year-old son, Geoffrey, and doesn't want any more children. "I had always thought of the typical American family of two children, but I didn't realize how much time is involved.

If I had another child I would be re-. sentful," she said. "I don't have enough time to do all the things I want to do" and raising a second child is not on her list of priorities. Working full-time to set a framework for national policy on children and completing her Ph.D. and teaching at Ithaca College are.

So is spending her evenings with Geoffrey and husband Bob. "I believe in quality, not quantity," Reilinger said. From the time they get home at 5 p.m. until Geoffrey goes to bed is family time. She said her husband would like more children.

"He basically feels more comfortable with kids and enjoys them more than I do," Reilinger noted. They share child rearing responsibilities 5050 although she has the ultimate responsibility The husbands willingness to share responsibility is a key factor in several women's decision to have or not to have children. One woman, who prefers to remain anonymous, said she is "a married, single parent" and for that reason would not choose to have a second child. "A lot of men would like to have large families as long as the wife is the one who takes care of them," said Smith (not her real name). Although her husband loves their son and would like to have another, he does not spend much time at home with the child.

Smith said, "We always had a very independent marriage before he was born and we still do, but my husband is independent at work and I'm left holding the bag." "I have career goals which I didn't have when he was born," she said. She had had "People are coming in and talking about getting their grandmother's stickpins out and making repairs," said Sally Burrrell of Tiffany. "We started selling them last fall and had a tremendous Christmas season with them." Cartier has several new stickpin designs planned for the future, according to gold buyer Jeanne Schaffer. "We're definitely in the stickpin business, but we want to do more important and more exclusive items," she said. "There are too many people in the market.

Our clients are special and we want to do something a little bit different." One plan calls for converting already popular Cartier diamond pendants to stickpins. The oval, teardrop and round diamond designs range from $1,500 to $3,000. Clusters of diamonds, rubies, emeralds and saphires set in 18k gold will run from $650 to $1,200. The 1977 annual business survey of the Retail Jewelers of America, which represents 11,000 stores around the nation, reports that last year was indeed the year of the stickpin. Stores in Iowa, for example, reported that "facotries couldn't supply them fast enough." Georgia stores said stickpins "led fashion." Forecasts for 1978 seem to indicate that the fashion world will have a long way to go before it can unstickpin itself.

for making sure Geoffrey has clean clothes and other basic necessities. Carol and Robert Kaske have a I2-yearold son who says he is glad he is an only child because he can get a bigger allowance. "He may be somewhat spoiled," his mother admitted. "He has lots of toys and opportunities and unlimited money to spend on his hobbies tropical plants and electronics." She said she had a miscarriage and then decided it was really the best thing that could have happened. "The miscarriage was made in heaven," Kaske said.

"Having another child would have been disastrous for my career." She is an assistant professor of English at Cornell. "I do find myself feeling very tender towards little girls because I don't have one," she added. Kaske has been working part-time since her son was born and reads to him for an hour every night. "He likes to show me things and I usually put down what I'm doing to look at them," she said. The women agreed that it is difficult to raise a child and pursue a career.

One working woman who has a 7-year-old son one career and didn't like it and then had a baby before finding a second career. She feels she fell into a trap that catches many other women too. Without anything else to do they figure they might as well have a baby. She has no regrets, though. "I'm a different person for having him.

Having a child teaches you a lesson in humility and selflessness. A child teaches you to be highly organized and extremely efficient with your use of time, during naps and when the dhild is in nursery school." "Raising a child is a common denominator of humanity. It is universal," she said. "The experience is invaluable." Dennis Winters' commitment to his work is one reason why he and wife Linda have decided to limit their family to one child. But their reasons differ from AP Photo.

A salesperson at Tiffany's in New York displays stickpins in her waistband. According to some of the fashion conscious, the stickpin is replacing the chain as the trend-setting accessory. said, "I like to work. I'm not a homebody and it's a lot of hassle raising a child while working." She said she stayed home with her son for the first two years. "You can't afford not to have two people working," she said.

Occasionally her son asks for a brother or sister, but the 29-year-old mother thinks it is too late now. "They wouldn't know each other. That's too big an age span and I don't know if I'd want to start all over again," she added. Carol Terrizi sees advantages in one-child families. She plans two of them.

She has a 512-year-old son and plans to have another child in a couple of years. She looks forward to caring for another baby as "an indulgence, a pleasure. We had a good time raising Gabe and we look forward to doing it again." The age difference doesn't concern the Terrizis. "My husband is from a family of eight kids and he's closest with those who are about 10 years younger," she said. "Gabe has been an only child and we've had to provide playmates.

We'll do it again. Infancy is a relatively short investment." finger lakes I infirm A husband should be willing to help Smith's. "I had as much to do with our daughter's upbringing as Linda did. I was working part-time and doing free-lance work at home. If I had to go to a meeting I took her with me in a basket or her car seat," he said.

But now he wouldn't want to limit himself to part-time employment again and he doesn't think it would be fair to a second child not to give it the same time and attention he gave his first. "I wouldn't feel the child was as much mine as Jill is. If Linda were with the child most of the time it would be more Linda's child than mine," Mr. Winters said. "We feel it is necessary to have both of us raising the child equally," Mrs.

Winters noted. Both were employed part-time during Jill's infancy and early childhood so that when one was not with her the other was. She is now 5 years old. Their other reason for not wanting a second child is that they like outdoor sports and a mobile life style. "We find we can do many of the things with her that we could do by ourselves, like hiking, traveling and outdoor sports.

It's easy to bring her along. But we feel we would not be able to do these thirgs with two children," Mr. Winters said. "It would be a hassle. We would feel like a tied-down family," he added.

A family counselor and mother of one child, Linda Mack, expressed concern for the plight of the only child. "An only child grows up with all the hopes and dreams of his parents in one. That's one hell of a burden," she said. "He's their only ego extension and can become almost too special to them." "Being the first and only child sets up unreal expectations about who he is and what is coming to him. When he grows up the only child often expects and demands an awful lot in interpersonal relationships," Mack said.

When there are conflicts with parents the only child doesn't have anyone else to share his perceptions of family life and relationships with, no one to sympathize over "the way Mom is sometimes." But Mack is also concerned about the only child when he is grown up "and has no aunts or uncles for his children, no family to share holidays and special times with. "One of the things that was very important to me throughout my life has been sharing with my two sisters. I'm really into families. I like them. Having sisters is reassuring and comforting to me," she went on.

"I feel if I don't have another child I will be depriving Joshua (age 5) of something really special 50 years from now." By ERMA BOMBECK A male reader wishes to be heard. "I wish to comment on a column you had a few weeks ago where you accused husbands' of apathy toward a wife's problem of what to fix for dinner. Your exact words were: 'I don't know of a woman alive who has not begged her husband for suggestions for I don't know of a husband alive who has not constantly ordered, 'I don't care." He continues, "Perhaps the main reason 'I don't care' is consistently ordered may be seen in the following exchange: Wife: Honey, what would you like for dinner tonight? Husband: I don't care. Wife: Please don't say that. Help me decide what to fix.

Husband: All righthow about spaghetti? Wife: No, I'm really not in the mood for spaghetti. I'd rather have something more meaty. Husband: Okay, how about a pot roast? Wife: We can't. I'm saving our last roast for day after tomorrow. It's too big for the two of us and we'll have someone in.

Husband: Well then, why don't you just fry up some chicken? Wife: We don't have any. I took those last two fryers to the church potluck last Sunday. Okay, so most of us are sick of 1 winter. We can't deny it. The faces tell the story.

Now there are times when people look happy, all smiles. The only frowns are thoughtful ones, not dreadful ones. But that's when everyone is having fun, meeting and greeting friends, learning something new, going to a concert or a lecture, dancing even. Catch them unaware and that's a different story. I went grocery shopping the other evening, and a more dismal range of countenances lined up at the check-out counter I've never seen.

I felt I must surely be looking in a mirror. So I straightened my back and hoped for a real opportunity to smile. But it wasn't easy. And I couldn't blame the prices, although I spent $126 (I don't shop every week) and I don't live in Fall Creek. Moreover, I don't own a sump pump.

Still it is the weather. So far, there's just no sign of spring. Determination can put a smile on your face while grocery shopping, but determined smiles aren't what we're after. If the only thing that puts a smile on the face, besides an expense-paid trip to Jamaica, is doing things and going places, do something. Go somewhere.

If you are waiting for the day you can get to the golf course and join your friends at the nineteenth hole, all taking refuge from the warm sun have I got a deal for you. Starting Thursday, March 16 at the Women's Community Building are golf lessons, indoors of course, and under the dim glow of incandescent lights. But if spring ever does get here, you want to be ready to swing into it. I I 0 Or you can get in on the start of something grand. Millie Drake at Ithacare is trying to form an adopt-a-grandparent program.

Call her there for more information. The League of Women Voters and the Tompkins County Women's Committee are among those people who smile most often. It's because they never run out of things to do. And they can put a smile or two on your face. If not a smile, okay, then one of those thoughtful frowns.

Starting today they will have an informal series of "noon-hour" (actually they start promptly at 12:15) programs at the Women's Community Building to explore current issues. You can brown-bag it; they'll furnish coffee. The second and third sessions will feature speakers discussing educational opportuniuties for women who want to continue their schooling. According to Eddie Devereaux they will suspend the midday breaks for the spring holiday. But on Wednesday March 29, Marjorie Waldman, assistant director of Family and Children's Service will talk about the social service network in the county.

Next on the agenda will be June Rogers discussing Day Care and the next Wednesday Sue Clarke talks about problems of the aging. Its a nice line-up, informative, and besides you can count on good company for lunch. And then there's the matter of spirit. There's a lot of talk about it lately, mostly over lunches at the DeWitt Cafe. That's interesting because it's a word I haven't heard often since high school pep Then we were all encouraged to have some.

The word came up again recently this time in connection with something happening this weekend called City Spirit. It's a little hard to describe at this stage, which is definitely preliminary, but the possibilities sound interesting. It's to be an open forum to discuss the arts, and to plan for cultural opportunities in Tompkins County. Ed Henry, whose title is City Spirit facilitator for the National Endowment for the Arts, will come here from New York City to be at the Strand and to meet with people from all different branches of the arts music, theater, dance, the literary arts, the graphic arts and film. It seems that the National Endowment for the Arts has a program where money is available to selected communities for long-range (10 years) cultural planning.

Ithaca, according to Barbara Thuesen, is one of those cities being considered. Henry will explain the concept, try to decide if the program makes sense for the community, and help the community, for itself, decide how to develop and conduct a broad-based planning process for the arts. What is needed right now is participation the more the merrier says Barbara Thuesen. For more information about when and where the different groups are meeting call the Strand at 272-7174. It's time well spent in the community's interest.

The company is good and the setting inspiring. You can face it with a smile a beautiful painting, lively music, a good play. Sometimes the only way to stride through an uncooperative March is purposefully perhaps to the stirring strains of John Philip Sousa. JANE BROWN Protest from a husband Husband: If we don't have anything, let's just go out for dinner. Wife: You know we can't afford it.

We've gone out too much lately. Besides, my hair is a mess and I don't have a thing to wear. Husband: What do we have then? Wife: I could thaw out some hamburger at wit's end and fix your favorite casserole. Would you like that? Husband: I don't care." Author's Postscript: If the writer had taken his vignette one step farther, we would have the wife thawing the hamburger and serving his favorite casserole. He would look at it and observe, "Is this the casserole with the imported eagle eggs, $35 worth of shrimp and clams, the secret sauce that takes 12 hours to prepare and marinate and can only be served during a full moon?" (His wife nods enthusiastically.) "I had it for lunch." "Why didn't you tell me?" "I don't care." I 7 eries on playmates.

Ocassionally she says she for making sure Geoffrey has clean said, "I like to work. I'm not a homebody 1 -'141 1 111 'cl, others would like a sibling, but she also likes clothes and other basic necessities. and it's a lot of hassle raising a child while We will having peace and quiet." working." 1 decisions Carol and Robert Kaske have a 12-year- Okay, so most of us are sick of Liz Bellinger has a 7-year-old son, Geof- old son who says he is glad he is an only She said she stayed home with her son .1 winter. We can't deny it. The frey, and doesn't want any more children.

child because he can get a bigger allow- for the first two years. "You can't afford I'''Ill'I faces tell the story. Now there "I had always thought of the typical ance. "He may be somewhat spoiled," his not to have two people working," she said. are times when people look happy, all smiles.

The only 'A American family of two children, but I mother admitted. "He has lots of toys and Occasionally her son asks for a brother frowns are thoughtful ones, not dreadful ones. But that's 4 didn't realize how much time is involved. opportunities and unlimited money to or sister, but the 29-year-old mother when everyone is having fun, meeting and greeting friends, If I had another child I would be re- spend on his hobbies tropical plants and thinks it is too late now. "They wouldn't learning something new, going to a concert or a lecture, 1 sentful," she said.

electronics." know each other. That's too big an age dancing even. "I don't have enough time to do all the She said she had a miscarriage and then span and I don't know if I'd want to start things I want to do" and raising a second decided it was really the best thing that all over again," she added. Catch them unaware and that's a different story. I went child is not on her list of priorities.

could have happened. "The miscarriage Carol Terrizi sees advantages in one- grocery shopping the other evening, and a more dismal Working full-time to set a framework for was made in heaven," Kaske said. "Hay- child families. She plans two of them. she range of countenances lined up at the check-out counter I've national policy on children and families, log another child would have been dis- has a 5112-year-old son and plans to have never seen.

I felt I must surely be looking in a mirror. So I 8 0 completing her Ph.D. and teaching at astrous for my career." she is an assis- another child in a couple of years. She straightened my back and hoped for a real opportunity to I Ithaca College are. So is spending her tant professor of English at Cornell.

looks forward to caring for another baby smile. 1 evenings with Geoffrey and husband Bob. "I do find myself feeling very tender as "an indulgence, a pleasure. We had a i "I believe in quality, not quantity," towards little girls because I don't have good time raising Gabe and we look But it wasn't easy. And I couldn't blame the prices, I Heilinger said.

From the time they get one," she added. Kaske has been working forward to doing it again." although I spent $126 (I don't shop every week) and I don't I home at 5 p.m. until Geoffrey goes to bed part-time since her son was born and The age difference doesn't concern the live in Fall Creek. Moreover, I don't own a sump pump. Still is family time.

reads to him for an hour every night. Terrizis. "My husband is from a family of it is the weather. So far, there's just no sign of spring. She said her husband would like more "He likes to show me things and I eight kids and he's closest with those who erm 'nation can put a smile on your face while grocery children.

"He basically feels more com- usually put down what I'm doing to look at are about 10 years younger," she said. shopping, but determined smiles aren't what we're after. fortable with kids and enjoys them more she said. "Gabe has been an only child and we've than I do," Bellinger noted. They share.

The women agreed that it is difficult to had to provide playmates. We'll do it If the only thing that puts a smile on the face, besides an child rearing responsibilities 5050 al- raise a child and pursue a career. One again. Infancy is a relatively short invest- expense-paid trip to Jamaica, is doing things and going though she has the ultimate responsibility working woman who has a 7-year-old son ment." places, do something. Go somewhere.

If you are waiting for the day you can get to the golf course and join your friends at the nineteenth hole, all taking refuge finger lattes I LiviriG from the warm sun have I got a deal for you. Starting Thursday, March 16 at the Women's Community Building are golf lessons, indoors of course, and under the dim glow A of incandescent lights. But if spring ever does get here, you 1 want to be ready to swing into it. husband should be willing to help The husband's willingness to share re- one career and didn't like it and then had Smith's. sponsibility is a key factor in several a baby before finding a second career.

She "I had as much to do with our Or you can get in on the start of something grand. Millie women's decision to have or not to have feels she fell into a trap that catches many daughter's upbringing as Linda did. I was Drake at Ithacare is trying to form an adopt-a-grandparent children. One woman, who prefers to other women too. Without anything else to working part-time and doing free-lance ram Call her there for more information.

prog remain anonymous, said she is "a mar- do they figure they might as well have a work at home. If I had to go to a meeting The League of Women Voters and the Tompkins County red, single parent" and for that reason baby. I took her with me in a basket or her car Women's Committee are among those people who smile would not choose to have a second child. She has no regrets, though. "I'm a seat," he said.

most often. It's because they never run out of things to do. "A lot of men would like to have large different person for having him. Having a But now he wouldn't want to limit And they can put a smile or two on your face. If not a smile, to families as long as the wife is the one who child teaches you a lesson in humility and himself to part-time employment again okay, then one of those thoughtful frowns.

Starting today takes care of them," said Smith (not her selflessness. A child teaches you to be and he doesn't think it would be fair to a they will have an informal series of "noon-hour" (actually real name), highly organized and extremely efficient second child not to give it the same time they start promptly at 12:15) programs at the Women's Although her husband loves their son with your use of time, during naps and and attention he gave his first. Community Building to explore current issues. You can and would like to have another, he does when the dhild is in nursery school." "I wouldn't feel the child was as much brown-bag it; they'll furnish coffee. The second and third not spend much time at home with the "Raising a child is a common de- mine as Jill is.

If Linda were with the sessions will feature speakers discussing educational opng child. Smith said, "We always had a very nominator of humanity. It is universal," child most of the time it would be more portuniuties for women who want to continue their school-learning independent marriage before he was born she said. "The experience is invaluable." Linda's child than mine," Mr. Winters jug.

and we still do, but my husband is inde- said. pendent at work and I'm left holding the Dennis Winters' commitment to his "We feel it is necessary to have both of According to Eddie Devereaux they will suspend the mid- bag." work is one reason why he and wife Linda us raising the child equally," Mrs. Win- day breaks for the spring holiday. But on Wednesday March "I have career goals which I didn't have have decided to limit their family to one ters noted. Both were employed part-time 29 Marjorie Waldman, assistant director of Family and i when he was born," she said.

She had had child. But their reasons differ from during Jill's infancy and early childhood Children's Service will talk about the social service network 1 so that when one was not with her the in the county. Next on the agenda will be June Rogers 1' TT PIT -i. 4 7-. other was.

She is now 5 years old. discussing Day Care and the next Wednesday Sue Clarke I i -i talks about problems of the aging. 1 1 o' Their other reason for not wanting a It's a nice line-up, informative, and besides you can count A I- i second child is that they like outdoor on good company for lunch. sports and a mobile life style. "We find we 1 can do many of the things with her that we could do ourselves, like hiking, tray- And then there's the matter of spirit.

There's a lot of talk 4 I let I I. i mg and outdoor sports. It's easy to bring about it lately, mostly over lunches at the DeWitt Cafe. 1.:, .1" 1 her along. But we feel we would not be That's interesting because it's a word I haven't heard often have some.

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0 for long-range (10 years) cultural planning. Ithaca, accord- When there are conflicts with parents ing to Barbara Thuesen, is one of those cities being o- 0 the only child doesn't have anyone else to considered. sit' iittl 0 S' lo .110 :110: share his perceptions of family life and Henry will ex lain the concept, try to i tip decide de if the A 0. relationships with, no one to sympathize Irolit, 44'e' program makes sense for the community, and help the 1'4 over "the way Mom is sometimes." community, for itself, decide how to develop and conduct a But Mack is also concerned about the 1 I I I only child when he is grown up "and has broad-based planning process for the arts. 4 aunts or uncles for his children, no What is needed right now is participation the more the no a family to share holidays and special times merrier says Barbara Thuesen.

For more information about :11., er, with. "One of the things that was very impor- Strand at 272-7174. to- 4, when and where the different groups are meeting call the i )1 I II--. i' tant to me throughout my life has been ,...1 rY ''''k 1,, )' sharing with my two sisters. I'm really tea, 1 into families.

I like them. Having sisters reassuring and comforting to me," she You can face it with a smile a beautiful painting, lively NtiNtsit. It's time well spent in the community's interest. The company is good and the setting inspiring. ..1.

-1 is went on. "I feel if I don't have another music, a good play. Sometimes the only way to stride child I will be depriving Joshua (age 5) of through an uncooperative March is purposefully perhaps something really special 50 years from to the stirring strains of John Philip Sousa. now." -JANE BROWN Protest from a husband "People are coming in and talking about 't By ERMA BOMBECK Husband: If we don't have anything, let's getting their grandmother's stickpins out and IL A male reader wishes to be heard. just go out for dinner.

making repairs," said Sally Burrrell of Tif- 1' ro Wife: You know we can't afford it. We've dr 1 fany. "We started selling them last fall and 1 "I wish to comment on a column you had a gone out too much lately. Besides, my hair is had a tremendous Christmas season with .,....4 few weeks ago where you accused husbands' a mess and I don't have a thing to wear. of apathy toward a wife's problem of what to them." Husband: What do we have then? fix for dinner.

Your exact words were: 'I Cartier has several new stickpin designs don't know of a woman alive who has not Wife: I could thaw out some hamburger planned for the future, according to gold begged her husband for suggestions for buyer Jeanne Schaffer. "We're definitely in v.k-' I don't know of a husband alive who the stickpin business, but we want to do more not constantly ordered, 'I don't care7 as important and more exclusive items," she ,.40, i He continues, "Perhaps the main reason 'I a it tv 1 5 said. "There are too many people in the do ''';) n't care' is consistently ordered may be ant se market. Our clients are special and we I en in the following exchange: to do something a little bit different." Wife: Honey, what would you like for One plan calls for converting already popu-, dinner tonight? tar Cartier diamond pendants to stickpins. I Husband: I don't care.

and fix your favorite casserole. Would you Is''' -i Wife: Please don't say that. Help me like that? The oval, teardrop and round diamond de- signs range from $1,500 to $3,000. Clusters of l' decide what to fix. Husband: I don't care." diamonds, rubies, emeralds and saphires set Husband: All right-how about spaghetti? In 18k gold will run from $650 to $1,200.

,,411, Wife: No, I'm really not in the mood for Author's Postscript: If the writer had spaghetti. I'd rather have something more taken his vignette one step farther, we would 1 meaty. have the wife thawing the hamburger and The 1977 annual business survey of the Retail Jewelers of America, which repre- Husband: Okay, how about a pot roast? serving his favorite casserole. He would look sents 11,000 stores around the nation, reports at it and observe, "Is this the casserole with that last year was indeed the year of the the imported eagle eggs, $35 worth of shrimp stickpin. Stores in Iowa, for example, re- A Photo Wife: We can't.

I'm saving our last roast and clams, the secret sauce that takes 12 ported that "facotries couldn't supply them A salesperson at Tiffany's in New York for day after tomorrow. It's too big for the hours to prepare and marinate and can only fast enough." Georgia stores said stickpins displays stickpins in her waistband. Ac- two of us and we'll have someone in. be served during a full moon?" (His wife Husband: Well then, why don't you just fry nods enthusiastically.) "I had it for lunch." "led fashion." cording to some of the fashion conscious, Forecasts for 1978 seem to indicate that the up some chicken? "Why didn't you tell me?" fashion world will have a long way to go the stickpin is replacing the chain as the Wife: We don't have any. I took those last before it can unstickpin itself.

trend-setting accessory, two fryers to the church potluck last Sunday. "I don't care." i ,,,,1 series on playmates. Ocassionally she says she for making sure Geoffrey has clean said, "I like to work. I'm not a homebody Sla I others would like a sibling, but she also likes clothes and other basic necessities. and it's a lot of hassle raising a child while 4, We will having peace and quiet." working." 1 i A decisions Carol and Robert Kaske have a I2-year- Okay, so most of us are sick of Liz Reilinger has a 7-year-old son, Geof- old son who says he is glad he is an only She said she stayed home with her son 1 winter.

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read one of Richard's books about automobiles of the future. Stickpins are getting stuck everywhere re getting stuck everywhere (AP) They're popping up all over the place. On collars, on suits, on coats. And they're destined to be as big a fashion hit this year as they were last year. Stickpins are in.

Once an ornament reserved for securing a cravat, the currently hot jewelry item is fast replacing the chain as the big trend-setting accessory for the fashion conscious. Observers of the ever-changing fashion scene say the stickpin owes its re-emergence to a renewed popularity in shawls and scarves. And what better way to secure these often immense garments than with an elegant pin. "It is a rage," said a salesperson at New York's Bergdorf Goodman, as she displayed a spider stickpin with rubies and diamonds for $155 and enamel butterflies for $105. "They're selling big.

We get calls for them all day long." In Chicago at Marshall Field and the prices are somewhat lower for gold plated and gold-filled stickpins. But the popularity. Is the same. Initials, love knots and hearts, ranging in price from $5 to $15, are selling well. all over the I coats.

And shion hit this are in. )r securing a item is fast trend-setting ious. ing fashion e-emergence shawls and secure these an with an rson at New the displayed nd diamonds es for $105. ills for them and the gold plated le popularity. 3 and hearts, are selling The big sellers at Tiffany and Co.

in New. York are stickpins with diamonds. Prices range from $55 for a plain round gold circle to 1,595 for a tennis raquet surrounded by diamonds. cl Co. in New.

onds. Prices gold circle to rrounded by.