Greeley Daily Tribune from Greeley, Colorado on February 26, 1976 · Page 9
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Greeley Daily Tribune from Greeley, Colorado · Page 9

Greeley, Colorado
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Thursday, February 26, 1976
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Counseing with Jean lush Marrying within a year after divorce 'too soon' Thurs.,Keb.26,lt76 G R E E L E Y (Colo.) T R I B U N E ^ 9 Several young divorced women have raised the following d i f f i c u l t question. " E v e r y o n e , i n c l u d i n g a u t h o r i t i e s , o n the matter of divorce, say we should never get involved in another relationship with a man until we have worked through all our feelings and arc literally free from the negative carry-over of the past trauma. We are told we will only repeat (lie same mistakes or use the ne*r friend to work through our left-over anger and despair, thus making things only worse because this prolongs the stage. We have not wanted to make such friends yet anyway.because there is an unfaithful feeling, as though we are forever married. What are we to think now that we are two to three years from the final divorce?" One woman described dating a man she respected very much who told her she had an alienated spirit that he could feel even when they were both enjoying t h e fellowship together. I think I always have advocated a balance here, as marrying within a year after a divorce does appear to bo loo 30011, fcVLll ihuUfili [sulliiUi; alllc of the new relationship. The trouble with this is that the very e n t h u s i a s m of the new relationship could be produced as a reaction to tlw old or perhaps simply as an escape from the natural grief work which must be done after any relationship has been broken down. Now it is easy to raise this question: "I wanted iml fur a long time and my divorce was a merciful release from what was a bondage. Do you still main- t a i n t h e delay should necessarily apply to me?" My feeling would be (in most cases) that a wail is still beneficial before a new com- mitment is made because a large number of divorced people go back for a second try with each other. So the one year of waiting can be a final testing out. Just lake the case of a young mother with three children who found her husband's lack of involvement intolerable. One year later she may be finding that managing three children alone Is far more intolerable and her nice, understanding, involved new boyfriend is quite indifferent to her children, even hinting that they should go to the natural father. This girl may be faced with a choice that is making her pretty a m b i v a l e n t about being a parent, and^et she loves those children. At the end of a year, she may have some different priorities which means she has to re-evaluate the needs she thought were dominant. Now let us get back to the o r i g i n a l question w h i c h suggests a divorcee could drift on for years without a change in her grief feelings. Yes. some really can, so I am greatly in favor of joining special groups where others in the same p^Eitinn h;:vc found help and are now eager to give it to others. 1 suggest rather than an early i n v o l v e m e n t w i t h a special person, a steady attachment to a suitable group may be much better, so there is a rtispersnl of the emotional involvement for a start. This agency has excellent growth groups for every kind of grief or problem and the groups are spread about this geographical area so there is Ixmnd to be one near readers. Kor niher continued fellowships set up for single people, we can help you explore your area for the one most suited to you. Sponsored by Family and Child Service, Seattle, Wash. UNC debate team enters Arizona meet By L'NC NKWS SKHV1CK Members of the University of Northern Colorado debate squad will travel to the University of Arizona in Tucson to attend the 11171; Desert I n v i t a t i o n a l Forensic Tour- n a m e n t set for S a t u r d a y , Sunday and Monday, Feb. 2a- March 1. E i g h t U N C s t u d e n t s w i l l debate at the t o u r n a m e n t . Those participating in senior division are Mark Gduvin, Tony Manzaretti, Debbie Wilcox and Randy B r i n g a n . Students debating in the junior division are Bob Woolsey, Bert Noel, I J am Kandaris and Robin Kiley. In addition, .Ian learned will p a r t i c i p a t e in oral interpretation and oratory at the tournament. "The learns should do very well. They have started breaking into the finals one tournnmcnt earlier than they did last year, when they went to nationals," said Jay Verlinden, g r a d u a t e assistant t o U N C debate coach Robert Trapp. 'Mature woman' scholarship is established at CSU FORT COLLINS A scholarship designed lo aid women more Ihan 25 years of age has been established at Colorado State University. Called "The Mature Woman Award," the scholarship will provide $050 lo a w o m a n returning to CSU al the junior level or higher. It will apply toward one academic year. Selection for the award will be made by CSU's office of f i n a n c i a l a i d following guidelines established by the A m e r i c a n Association of U n i v e r s i t y Women ( A A U W ) Scholarship Commit tee. The recipient will be chosen on [lie basis of need and motivation to return to school and already must have been accepted at CSU. If continuous attendance is not maintained for one academic year, a percentage of the scholarship will be forfeited. Applications for the scholarship should be made at Ihe financial aid office in the Student Services Building on the CSU campus. Some legislators, treasurer give support to UFIV boycott DENVER ( A P ) - A handful of legislators and Colorado Treasurer Sam Brown joined United Farm Worker spokesman Jerry llyan today in reaffirming support for the UKW movement here and in Califor nia. Ryan came to the oapitol to gain legislative support for a "reactivation" of a boycott against nonunion wine and grapes, lettuce and a three-day march in Denver to bolster the UFW's efforts. .Joining Ifyan were Reps. Wellington Webb, Rich Castro. Wayne Knox and Doug Wayland, all Dcmvcr Democrats, Rep. Gerard Frank of Aurora and Sen. Paul Sandoval, D-IVti- vcr Supporting the UFW but not at the news conference were Reps. Chuck DcMnu-in, D-Denver and Leo Lucero, D-I'ueblo, as well as two Denver Democratic senators, nennis Gallagher and Regis Groff. Ryan said to put more pressure on growers, a boycott is being continued against Gallo wines, and Sunswect and Sun- maid products. Those two companies are major buyers of grapes and prunes. Another thrust of the effort, Ryan said, is to try to force the California General Assembly to provide funds to oversee elections for unionization by workers in the field. A two thirds majority is needed for that funding, he said, but it is being blocked by a "small minority group" headed by a California grape grower .serving in the Senate. lie was identified as Clare Bcr- ryhill, R-.Modcsto. The grower last year sold $10,000 worth of grapes to Gallo, Hyan said. The three-day march is scheduled for friday, Saturday anil Sunday and will travel from the city's southeast section to the northeast section. 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