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Dear Abby: Please tell in the the mother of 15-year-old that she needs to step in for her sake. The overprotective father has gone off the deep end. I was also raised by hyper- protective parents. When I was finally allowed to spread my wings, I went a little crazy. I wanted to catch up with my friends and see what I had been missing.

The result was I became a mother at 18. Small Town in Illinois Abby says: When I published that letter, the roof caved in. I received more than a thousand letters and e-mails. Read on for a sample: Dear Abby: The only time I was let out of the house was to go to school. I allowed to have friends call me or even attend my own senior prom.

The one time a boy did call, I got the silent treatment from my step- dad for a week. I finally joined the Army to get away. I had my first date when I was 18. The only difference between and me is my stepfather was physically, emotionally and sexually abusing me. I am now 43 and have never married.

I have a hard time trusting men. I stress enough how detrimental this situation can be for a young person. living proof. Trying to Trust Again Abby says: Thank you for an important letter. sorry to say that at least one-third of those who wrote to comment on that letter had stories similar to yours.

Dear Abby: I spent several years in law enforcement and had the opportunity to investigate cases of incest among family members. One sign we noted repeatedly was extreme by the fathers who had abused their daughters. (Their motive was jealousy and paranoia that the child might reveal to their friends what was happening at home.) It might be advisable for that mother to look deeper into this. Concerned in California Abby says: I agree. Dear Abby: I am a physician specializing in health and see many women who were sexually abused in childhood unfortunately by their own fathers.

I am concerned that Becky is being abused, and now that she has reached sexual maturity, he is making sure no one finds out. The type of jealousy described by in the can be typical of these distorted, evil relationships. Please contact that mother and express my concern. This is urgent. Concerned Physician in Kentucky Abby says: She was afraid to give her name or address.

I hope she sees this column. Dear Abby: The same thing happened to me! I was young, sad, lonely, desperate and afraid. My father said if I told, no one would believe me. I considered suicide. I was 17 when he died, and I was finally able to tell Mom.

She was devastated, but she believed me. I have been in counseling for three years. Many women in my support group tell the same story. Becky will need counseling even if her father is not sexually abusing her. Cornell, Reader Abby says: That may be true.

The father may also need professional counseling even if not an abuser. In the words of C. Knight Aldrich, M.D., professor emeritus of psychiatry and family medicine at the University of Virginia School of Medicine: should not think that only fathers who are sexually abusing their daughters are overprotective. Sometimes overly conscientious parents are, too. The problem is, if parents are too rigid, their worst fears can turn into a self-fulfilling Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.

Write Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 11 2003STARTRIBUNE E3 By Randy A. Salas Star Tribune Staff Writer a growing trend: special-edition DVDs that replace previous feature- packed editions solely as a way to promote a theatrical sequel. We saw it in the past with in and get it soon with and Fast and the And we have it today with 1.5” (Fox, a two-disc set that supplants an older two-disc release to feed the fan frenzy for coming May 2.

The presentation of the 2000 film which stars Patrick Stewart, Halle Berry and Hugh Jackman as part of a team of superhero mutants trying to thwart a diabolical mutant played by Ian McKellen changed, aside from the addition of DTS 5.1 surround sound. A much-rumored extended edition by director Bryan Singer never materialized. So we must look to new supplements for enticement. Most interesting is the scene-specific commentary by Singer, who admits to being nervous about what to say. But thanks to the prompting of moderator Brian Peck, he quickly opens up which is good, because his revealing interview with Charlie Rose on the old DVD has been dropped.

In addition to the previously available option of watching the movie with extended scenes, viewers can choose to see making-of vignettes during the film by pressing a button on their remotes. Dominating the second disc are two worth of new making-of material, viewable in various ways and including the near- unanimous comments that they were unfamiliar with the comic-book characters before doing the movie. Oh, yes, and a brief behind-the-scenes look at with host Singer, who promises more action in the sequel. A RESTORED Once upon a time, French director Jean Cocteau created the finest live-action fairy tale ever made. Today, a newly restored version of his 1946 masterpiece, and the (Criterion, hits DVD just a few weeks after showing at the Oak Street Cinema in Minneapolis.

Cocteau crafted two films in one, an enchanting tale for kids and an allegory on the transformation of the ordinary into the magical for adults. Unforgettable images include living statuary, windswept forests and the tormented Beast, played by Jean Marais, who endured a five-hour makeup application for the role. As if the movie itself enough, in a terrifically inspired move, Criterion has added the option of watching it to the surround- sound accompaniment of Philip 1994 opera Belle et la Composed to be watched with the film, the opera has vocal parts meticulously matched to the movement of the lips and approximating the dialogue. attraction of Cocteau for me was the simplicity and elegance of the visual imagery of the Glass writes in an introduction to his work. Among the bountiful extras are a 1991 commentary by film historian Arthur Knight and a recent, more engaging one by writer Christopher Frayling; a 1995 retrospective that includes an interview with Marais; an interview with cinematographer Henri Alekan; a 1964 special about makeup artist Hagop Arakelian, whom Marais called his behind-the scenes photos; trailers; a restoration demonstration, and a 32-page booklet with copious notes and the original story by Madame Leprince de Beaumont.

NOT SO SUPER Just 16 days after the big game, we have release of the DVD for Bowl (Warner, just too bad that the game, in which the Tampa Bay Buccaneers pasted the Oakland Raiders 48-21, was so forgettable. (Has a team ever looked less interested to play in a championship game than the Raiders?) Well, Bucs fans will be happy with the DVD, which justifiably focuses on that incredible run, including a 38-24 win over the Vikings on Nov. 3. Coach Jon Gruden and safety John Lynch wore microphones during the Super Bowl, and their commentary enlivens highlights of the game. Other features include expert pre- and post-game analyses by Ron Jaworski and Merril Hoge, a behind-the-scenes look at Super Bowl week in San Diego and radio play-by-play commentary.

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had always talked about his days with Fatty Arbuckle as the best time of his said Dennis Doros, executive producer of the DVD. as much, if not more, than in any of their collaborations, displays their real joy in working together. You can see it in every frame of the had to see countless times, and it never failed to invoke a added Cindi Rowell, director of acquisitions for Milestone. Besides the 22-minute the DVD includes another once-lost film, Reckless (1917), and Harold (1920) each 23 minutes. For those with DVD-capable computers, the disc has exhaustively complete liner notes and the raw footage for allowing users to do their own reconstructions with film-editing software.

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