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THE HARTFORD COURANT: Sunday, August 2, 1992 H7 iWhat's the story? Can hair dyes really cause cancer? 3 Ann The Food and Drug Administration and the National Cancer Institute both said, "No recommendation to change patterns of hair dye use can be made at this time based on these research results." respond to statements that are so Latently superficial, but they would extremely grateful if you volunteered in a way that seemed genuine. Only those of us who are housebound can know the stress of caring for someone 24 hours a day. JANE DOE, OAKLAND, CALIF. "I DEAR JANE: Beautiful. I hope' a great many of my readers will action your generous suggestion.

GEM of the DAY: Anyone who can swallow a pill at a drinking fountain deserves to get well. good about the way I look. Last night my husband handed me the newspaper and said, "This means, of course, that you have to stop dying your hair. He then pointed to a news story that said hair coloring products, known to contain substances that cause cancer in animals, may be associated with more than a third of certain types of immune system cancer. The article said darker colors and permanent dyes were "more carcinogenic" than the blond dyes.

I've always been terrified of cancer and now I'm afraid that I may have already set myself up for this terrible disease. Please find out all you can about this subject and tell me what you have learned. WORRIED IN WISCONSIN DEAR WISCONSIN: I've been Inundated with letters from women most appropriate analyses was an egregious omission." The bottom line is this: The Food and Drug Administration and the National Cancer Institute both said, "No recommendation to change patterns of hair dye use can be made at this time based on these research results." Feel better, Wisconsin? I hope so. DEAR ANN LANDERS: This is for anyone with a friend who is at home all day caring for someone who cannot be left alone due to illness or disability. Instead of saying, "Let me know if I can do anything for you," please say, "I have a few free hours Saturday.

I'd be happy to come over and stay with your mother while you go shopping or take in a movie." Most care givers are reluctant to i Lenders EAR ANN LANDERS: I'm a 1 I female professional, age 47. 1 "JLr My hair began to turn gray when I was in my early 20s. Some of 4he people I worked with said the gf ay made me look "distinguished," but a voice deep inside said it made i me look older. When a salesperson Mistook my daughter for my grandchild, I knew it was time to do some- thine and I did. For nearly 15 years I have been coloring my hair and feeling very Vale School of Medicine, said, "Although this paper may receive considerable media publicity, the work has so many scientific defects that it cannot be regarded as credible.

I am surprised that it was accepted for publication." Dr. Roy E. Shore, professor of environmental medicine at New York University, had this to say: "The inconsistencies in the data raise questions about the author's interpretation. Failure to do the pnee in a while, you Jhave to change tactics Family values matter to this family of one John Rosemond PARENT CHILD We have three children, ages 8, 6 and 5. When it comes time to pick up tovft.

thv irnia with aim annthar over who should pick up what, who I put what where and so on. More JJ often than not, one of us ends up getting in there with them and iji helping. If we didn't, it would take i all night. Bickering of this sort occurs every time we assign the Ji three of them to a job, any job. Do you have a guaranteed, tried-and- true method for solving a problem such as this? $TA.

Yes, I do, and it's so obvious a solution that you're probably going Mo slap your forehead and exclaim, C'Now why I didn't I think of that myself?" But, you see, making the i. obvious seem brilliantly insightful what being a psychologist is all "about. Don't ever again assign the three of them to the same job. I know, you want them to learn to work together cooperatively, and no one could argue with the logic of having all three children pick up toys that all three have been playing Kwith, but there are times in the Rearing of children when one must -sacrif ice ideals and logic in order to JCexpedite the practical and preserve fc-one's sanity. This is definitely one of those times.

Three unrelated children would -if probably cooperate willingly on just about any task you assigned them 3the operative word being unrelat- i it dui siDiuigs are anuuier mauer entirely. Siblings are always look ing for ways of one-upping one another, of gaining the advantage, of passing the proverbial buck. If you assign siblings to the same chore 5 even one they cooperated in creating, like picking up toys they are genetically programmed to point their fingers at one another and cry, "Heshe did it!" If you manage, by threat or bribe, to override this pro- el 1 DEAR ABBY: Lately I have been hearing a lot about "family values" from politicians, and several others in the media. My question is what exactly are "family values?" Are they talking about the idealistic Cleaver family on "Leave It to Beaver?" I am single and feel a little left out of our latest political buzzwords. This country has many types of families, and not all include a husband and wife and 2.5 kids.

Do single-parent households meet the criteria? How about people who are alone and have no living relatives? Are they considered a family? To me, all of these groups may not be termed ideal, but many have high moral values. Iwish people would stop talking about family values and start talking about personal values. Just because I do not have a does not make my values "any less important. Thank you, Abby, for letting me get this off my chest. SINGLE AND HAPPY WITH HIGH VALUES IN DALLAS DEAR SINGLE AND HAPPY: You rattled the right cage if you're looking for support.

Single-parent households are most certainly a family, in my opinion. The same goes for people who are alone and have no living relatives. DEAR ABBY: I am the concerned friend of a 72-year-old wealthy lady who is dating a 49-year-old man who has a 16-year-old son. This man is unemployed. The lady is attractive and young-looking, but everyone knows that a jobless man that age is mainly after what she has.

She, just lost her husband last year and fell right into his hands. If they get married, he can take VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Study Leo message. Focus on independence, originality, courage of convictions.

You'll be rewarded financially and morally. Article lost will be voluntarily returned. Subterfuge was involved. LIBRA (Sept. 23- Oct.

22): Obtain valuable hints from Leo, Virgo messages. I What you began 1 1 days ago will bear fruit. Emphasize intuition, teaching, contact with individual who is eccentric, dedicated. Timing is on target. SCORPIO (Oct.

23-Nov. 21): What begins as chance meeting could prove I to be far more meaningful. Clandestine arrangement figures prominently; former teacher will be at your side. Hospital, museum tours are on agenda. SAGITTARIUS (Nov.

22-Dec 21): You've been craving attention from individual apparently aloof. Tonight the "icicles" completely melt. Focus on speculation, romance, popularity, emotional fulfillment. Taurus, Scorpio people involved. CAPRICORN (DOC.

22-Jan. 19): Libra Moon relates to your House of ambition, promotion, production, standing in church, community. People will be fascinated by your words, verbal or written. Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius involved. AQUARIUS (Jan.

20-Feb. 18): Property settlement could figure in scenario. You will at very least settle family dispute concerning ownership. Harmony restored by 10 p.m. Music is part of agenda, along with gourmet dining.

PISCES (reD. 1- March 20): Creative endeavor will succeed despite those who "pull out." Focus on children, change, trips, variety of experiences. Another Pisces plays key role, could have these letters, initials in name: Y. Los Angelas Timet Syndicate A premature By SHELBY LYMAN BEGINNER'S CORNER hint explanation: Divert its defender. a WHITE WINS THE QUEEN White move Mikhail Tal, the former world champion who recently died in Moscow at the age of 55, was an authentic genius of chess.

So awesome were his mental powers that one famous grandmaster complained I 17 8i ni Instead of expecting all three children to work together on the same job, assign each child a separate task. gram, then be prepared for them to complain that "heshe isn't doing hisher share." You can live a longer, happier life by accepting the inevitable. Stop fighting the same battle every evening and be proactive. Instead of expecting all three children to work together on the same job, assign each child a separate task. One child can pick up toys.

One can sweep the kitchen floor. And one can turn down everyone's beds and put mints on the pillows. If there aren't enough jobs to go around at bedtime, then rotate the one job of picking up toys. Put up a seven-day calendar on which picking up toys is the 8-year-old's responsibility on Monday, the 6-year-old's on Tuesday and so on. Over the first six days, therefore, each child will do the job twice.

On the seventh day, draw straws, but put a straw in the pot for yourself and manage to always lose. This will not only delight the children no end, but also, believe it or not, will result in a more cooperative attitude on their part. Humor is the best of all family tonics. Using the one-chore, one-child approach will circumvent lots of problems, but not eliminate them entirely. Your children will bicker until they are no longer children.

But there will, I assure you, be later opportunities for revenge. For example, when it comes time to fund college educations, you and your husband could point at one another and cry, "Make himher do it!" That'll teach 'em. John Rosemond is a family psychologist in private practice in North Carolina. Write to him in care of The Courant, Features Department, 285 Broad Hartford 06115. Wiia Straw berry' Mi.

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The division has a minimum order of $10 and a service charge of 50 cents per order. Envelopes with first-day postmarks may be ordered at the same price, by who, like you, are concerned about the news stories linking hair dye with cancer. Since I'm not an expert, I did some exhaustive research to find out what the respected authorities had to say. This is what I learned. The study on which those findings were based was conducted by Sheila Hoar Zahm and published in the American Journal of Public Health.

Dr. Alvan R. Feinstein, professor of medicine and epidemiology at the (T) if (jjT For more details on your horoscope, call 1-900-370-2522. Calls cost $1 per minute. If today is your birthday: You are impressionable, sensitive, loyal, have been known on more than one occasion to sacrifice your own needs for good of family.

Capricorn, Cancer people play important roles. Mother had more than usual influence. Current cycle features travel, gain via written word, added recognition, marital status, possible addition to family. Social activities accelerate during August. Major domestic adjustment takes place in November.

ARIES (March 21-April 19): Your words prove more meaningful than you might have imaqined. Choose with care! Spotlight on legal affairs, credibility, partnership, marriage. Short trip involves relative seeking missing papers. TAURUS (April 20-May20): Emphasis on design, color coordination, I music. Family member says, "For sake of peace, we will do it your way!" Important contact during late afternoon could affect your future.

Another Taurus involved. GEMINI (May 21- June 20): You'll be asked to explain differences in various theologies. Do your best to remain impartial. Focus on style, creativity, beginnings of romance. Pisces, Virgo persons play dominant roles.

CANCER (June 21-July 22): Attention revolves around security, durable goods, large household products, completion of negotiations. Family member says, "It could not have happened without you!" Scorpio figures prominently. LEO (July 23-Aug. Thnea uihn eairl i "it can't be done your way" will be embarrassed. You'll complete mission with polish, panache.

Relative issues declaration of loyalty. You're vindicated! Aries plays dramatic role. check or money order, from the Postmaster, Washington, DC 20066 until Sept. 9. Columbian souvenir sheets The Postal Service has announced that all local post offices may now sell the Columbian souvenir sheets that were issued in May.

Sales had been restricted to post offices with philatelic windows. Postmasters at offices wishing to sell the sheets must order them specially. Stamp shows First Sunday Stamp Bourse, today, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m., Holiday Inn, 363 Roberts East Hartford. Representatives of various Caribbean post offices will be on hand.

Second Saturday Stamp Bourse, Saturday, 9:30 a.m. to 4 p.m., Howard Johnson Motor Lodge, Exit74 from 1-95 in East Lyme. David A Kent, a member of the International Philatelic Press Club, lives in Connecticut and has been collecting stamps for more than 30 years. The bidding: North East South West 1 NT Pass 4 Pass Pass Pass Opening lead: King of 9 "Ah, Hastings, monami, it is a sad day when they try to fool me and get away with murder by concealment!" This was not a case involving mayhem that had occasioned such an outburst from the great Belgian detective Hercule Poirot, but rather an incident at the bridge club. Their-opponents had arrived at four spades on a direct auction after North had opened the bidding with one no trump, and Poirot hadai-tacked with the king of hearts, to Write to Ann Landers in care of The Courant, Features Department, 285 Broad Hartford, CT 06115.

For, a personal reply, enclose a stamped, self addressed envelope. Lot Anotlw TlmM Syndicate her for everything. If she gets down and old-looking, he will be long gone. Should I try warning her? She acts crazy over him. What do you think? WORRIED IN EL PASO DEAR WORRIED: Keep your opinions to yourself until you are sure there is a marriage in the offing.

Then, if you are still convinced that your friend is at risk of being taken advantage of, casually bring up the subject of a prenuptial agreement DEAR ABBY: I am 78 years old and have two lovely daughters, ages 52 and 46. 1 also have grandchildren and great-grandchildren, but let me get to the point of this letter. There are three words that upset me when they are used in this context: "I had to 1. take Mama to the grocery store." r. 2.

take Mama to church." 3. take Mama to the doctor." 4. go to see Mama." 5. do some errands for Mama." 6. check up on Mama." Abby, it would be a kindness to us senior citizens if people would stop saying "I had to," and say instead "I took," "I went" or "I did." ELO--ISE G.

IN CASTLEGAR, B.C. DEAR ELOISE: Thank you for an original suggestion. Actually, nobody "has to" do anything except die and pay taxes, but it's curious how frequently we say "I had to" when there has been no coercion. DEAR READERS: Who said, "Where I come from, when a Catholic marries a Lutheran, it's considered the first step on the road to Former Minnesota Gov. Luther Youngdahl? No, Garrison Keillor.

Write to Dear Abby in care of The Courant, Features Department, 285 Broad Hartford, CT 06115. For a personal reply enclose a stamped, self-addressed envelope. Universal Press Syndicate Tal with the same chess powers and wit, even more respected and admired than before by those around him. T. "Mischa," I asked him during' an interview, a few days later, "twenty-five years ago you said the best game you ever played was with your young wife on your honeymoon." "It is still the best game," he quickly replied.

"Another question: If you could be a chess piece, which one would you choose?" "I would choose to be a passed pawn," he replied with a gleam in his eye. "But why a passed pawn?" I asked. "Because then I would have a future," he answered with a warm but ironic smile. Below is a famous and wonderfully dynamic draw played with Bobby Fischer in the 1960 Leipzig World Chess Olympics. Fischer 1.

e4 2. d4 3. Nc3 4. e5 5. a3 6.

b4 7. Qg4 8. bxa5 9. Qxg7 10. Qxh7 11.

Nf3 12. Bb5 13.0-0 14. Bg5 15. Nxe5 16. Nxf7 17.

Nxd8 18. Nxe6 19. Khl 20. Rxf 1 21. Kxg2 Tal e6 d5 Bb4 c5 Ba5 cxd4 Ne7 dxc3 Rg8 N(8)c6 Qc7 Bd7 0-0-0 Nxe5 Bxb5 Bxfl Rxg5 Rxg2ch Qe5 Qxe6 Qg4ch(a) Draw.

Note (a): White cannot avoid perpetual check. Solution to BEGINNER'S CORNER: 1. Rh6ch! Kxh6 (the pawn Qxg8. 1 death, an abundant life rset features Pwild berries By DAVID A. KENT Edible wild berries appear on a set of seven new definitive stamps from Canada to be released Tues-J Iday.

The stamps, ranging in value rom 1 to 25 cents, are used to make iip odd amounts of postage on packages in Canada, where the lowest regular rate is 4 1 cents. Featured on the stamps are full-jColor views of ripe wild blueberries, strawberries, black crowberries, that it was unfair to have to play Tal because he had the memory and calculating ability of a computer. But Tal was much more than a human chess machine. He was an elemental creative force as well, a man who had a passionate love affair with chess and life itself. His brilliance at the chessboard, charming wit, modesty and warmth earned him world-wide admiration and affection.

From his youth, the "magician of Riga" suffered from chronic and often debilitating illness, resulting finally in his premature death. But despite his poor health, the gifted grandmaster embraced life to its fullest, always grateful for the considerable blessings bestowed on him. I first met Tal in 1956, a vital dark-haired youth with a piercing but friendly stare and a striking personal charisma. Thirty years later, I met him again in Brussels. Before me there appeared a man who seemed 10 or 15 years older than his actual chronological age.

But it was the same marked with the ace of spades and, at best, we would have to hope for an unexpected trump trick unless, of course, we had a second heart trick coming and declarer was trying to take me in. "Once that was clear, it was a simple matter to continue with the ace of hearts at trick two. Notice that, had I shifted to a minor suit declarer would have wrapped up 10 tricks with ease. As it was, down one was all he deserved for trying to, how you say, stretch the wool over my eyes." For information about the Charles Goren newsletter for bridge players, write Goren Bridge Letter, P.O. Box 4426, Orlando, FL 32802-4426 Was it a singleton queen, or did Poirot detect a bluff? Kthe rose hip, black raspberries, the and the saskatoon ber-; ry.

Each is shown in a natural set-l' ting. The berries grow naturally in various areas of Canada. The signs are printed in a continuous across the sheet, with perforations running between the edges I of the designs, giving the appear-. ance of a continuous landscape of wild berries. Dedication ceremonies will be in Mistassini, Quebec, site of an annual blueberry festival.

Canada Post sells stamps by mail order from the National Philatelic Center, Canada Post Antigonish, N.S.B2G2R8. Consular envelopes The Postal Service has released two stamped envelopes commemo-rating the bicentennial of the Consular Service. The service, a part of the Department of State, manages embassies and consulates overseas, and is also responsible for issuing passports. The new envelopes will be used primarily to mail passports. The design features a world globe against an American flag in red and blue.

At the lower left is the quote, i "You can't appreciate home 'til you've left it, nor Old Glory 'til you see it hanging on a broomstick on the shanty of a consul in a foreign town," from 0. Henry. The wallet-style envelopes are slightly larger than a business-size envelope. The $: which Hastings had correctly followed with the deuce. Declarer dropped the queen! "Of course, I realized from the outset that you would have contributed the two of hearts even had you held four cards in the suit you know that I cannot abide count signals at trick one and insist that we show attitude: whether we want a continuation or not Therefore, I realized that declarer's card could have been honest "As usual at such times, I put those little grey cells to work.

Let's suppose that you held the ace-queen of clubs. Even if we could collect two club tricks, that would not be enough to defeat the contract Declarer would then have been By OMAR SHARIF and TANNAH HIRSCH Tribune Media Services Neither vulnerable. North deals. NORTH K74 9J73 0AKQJ9 K6 WEST EAST 6 AQ2 VAK985 9 10 6 2 0 10 62 08543 8732 J95 SOUTH 10 9 8 5 3 VQ4 0 7 A 10 4 4'.