Ann Landers Don't Try To Hold What You've Lost Dear Ann Landers: Six months ago Timmy gave me an engagement ring. I was the happiest girl in the world. We went together two years and he —was the kindest, most considerate person I had ever known. We spent our weekends looking for a little home to buy and we even had some furniture picked out. Tim was n e v e r out of my thoughts and I'm sure it was the same with him. Some things Ann are too good to be true and maybe this is the way it was with Timmy and me. He was killed in an accident five weeks ago. When our minister came to the house to tell me the terrible news I became hysterical and they had to call the doctor. I was in bed for three days. No one else can ever take Timmy's place. I will never fall in love again. Would it be wrong to continue to wear his engagement ring? My mother has been pleading with me to put it away and forget. She says I'm torturing myself. Is it wrong to cling to this wonderful memory? Please, Ann, help me. - BLACK BLACK BLACK Dear Friend: Your mother has given you sound advice. I hope you take it. There's a big difference between cherishing a memory and attempting to hang on to something which no longer exists. Time heals. The pain will gradually diminish and one day it will disappear. If this were not a fact, life would be unbearable. Dear Ann Landers: As the wife of a personnel manager I've been fairly close to office problems of every type. May I offer some suggestions for women employees? 1. Forget your feminine wiles during office hours. You'll advance faster by concentrating on your specific assignment. 2. Don't try to take over the office. Bossy people are resented. Especially women. 3. Don't toot your own horn. If you are competent and productive everyone will know it. 4. Keep the gossip and small gripes to yourself. Your boss has enough to think about without becoming enmeshed in petty office problems. 5. Avoid becoming chummy with married co-workers. Don't ask them to pick you up or to drive you home. 6. Never call your boss by his first name. Keep it on a Mr. basis at all times. And address all other executives by their last names, too. 7. Forget everything you know about the office personnel when you go home at night. And forget what went on at home when you leave for the office in the morning.—BUTTE. Dear Butte; You've packed a lot of common sense into limited space. I hope your letter lands on many an office bulletin board. Dear Ann Landers: Last summer some relatives were in a tight spot. My husband and I loaned them $400. The understanding was they would pay it back when they were able. Nine months have passed and they have not paid back a dime. Two weeks ago they traded their old car for a new one. We are still driving our 1958 model. When my husband saw this he was furious. We see these people several times a week. Should we tell them how we feel and probably lose their friendship? We're tired of acting pleasant to their faces and feeling resentment inside. Thank you.-TWO FACED Dear Two: Enough of the fun and games. Tell them you want to know when they can begin to repay the loan. If they make no effort — stop seeing them socially. It's impossible to feel friendly under the conditions you describe, so why pretend? To learn the knack of feeling comfortable with the opposite sex, send for Ann Landers' book- et, "How To Be Date Bait," enclosing with your request 20 cents in coin and a long, self-addressed, stamped envelope. Ann Landers wiU be glad to help you with your problems. Send them to her in care of this newspaper enclosing a stamped, self-addressed envelope. Miscellany L. M. S. Since visiting the Van Gogh collection of paintings and drawings recently at Nelson Art Gallery, we've run across a number of articles which throw more light on artists and paintings. In one such article Dorothy Adlow, art critic of Christian Science Monitor, says that an Impressionist paints what he sees. An Expressionist paints the way ;he feels about what he sees. The Impres- Isionist records more clearly sur- |f a c e appearances as well as t h e atmosphere pf the physical vorld. For the . . 'Expressionist a 1X118 view or a vista must make an impact, provoke a mood, precipitate a personal vision in line and color. Vincent Van Gogh, according to Miss Adlow, was one of the initiators of modern Expressionism. He added a personal ingredient to his rapturous depictions of landscape, houses, flowers. The Marais des Cygnes Chapter, Sweet Adelines, has practiced two nights a week for the past six weeks for the competition in Independence, Mo., this weekend and chose two songs, "At the County Fair," and "Just Knock Twice and Ask for Joe." The chorus will compete with 16 oth er choruses. The women's costumes are black dresses with full skirts, white collars and gloves, red and white striped vests and bright red patent high heel shoes. The costumes are identical down to the last detail — hose, skirt lengths — even make-up. Region 7, which includes Arkansas, Missouri, Iowa, Nebras ka, Kansas and Oklahoma, ha; 28 chapters and 7 other groups applying for charters. Mrs. Paul K. Worley learned of a garden tour to be April 23, while visiting her parents, Dr. and Mrs. Floyd Taggart, in Topeka. In fact, the garden of her parents will be one of the four featured on the tour, which will be from 1 to 4 p.m. Tea will be served at Meade Park, in the new Topeka Garden Center, from 2 to 4 p.m. The event officially opens the Garden Center, a historic home that has been restored and furnished by the cooperative effort of the Topeka Park department and Topeka garden clubs. Donations are to be one dollar. To reach the park, drive west on 6th street. All visitors are welcome. GIVEN SURPRISE - Mrs. R. C. Marcell, 1015 S. Main, was honor guest at a surprise party following choir practice Thursday evening at Westminster United Presbyterian Church. The event marked her 80th birthday and her 64th year as a member of some church choir. Naomi Club Plans Trip Naomi Club made plans at the meeting yesterday to go to the lOOF-Rebekah home, Manhattan, on May 17, the next meeting date. The group will take knee robes and bibs and provide a program for residents of the home. All Rebekahs are welcome to go and should prepare for a basket lunch. Mrs. Lee Shobe is chairman in charge of the knee robes and bibs and any member having these articels may call her. Eighteen knee robes and six bibs were brought yesterday. Mrs. H. H. Feuerborn was hostess for the meeting, assisted by Mrs. Herb Richardson and Mrs. Lee Shobe. Mrs. W. L. Pickering presided and Mrs. O. L. Breckenridge led devotions. Mrs. Pearl Davidson received a prize in games directed by Mrs. George Starbuck and Mrs. Myrtle Kyle received the door prize. Plans were made to attend the Diamond Harvest rally April 29, in Wellsville. Members will take cup cakes. Refreshments were served. Hints From Heloise Don't Be Shocked; Keep Room Moist Dear Heloise: Tell us what to do about static electricity in our homes. I am tired of being shocked each time I touch the light switch. Yes, I do have wall to wall carpeting. Boiling Dear Boiling: I am told that static electricity is caused from dry atmosphere. By introducing moisture into the room this eliminates most of it ' ... if you have enough moisture. If you remember back in the old days of radiators, wood^ stoves and flat top kitchen stoves, you always Helois* used to see Mama and Papa set a pan of water on top of it. This is called surface evaporation. A tea kettle on the kitchen stove does a pretty good job because it is putting moisture into the air too. Friendship Club Meets Mrs. Marion Stark was hostess for the recent meeting of Friendship Circle, assisted by Mrs. Albert Kraft. Mrs. Lloyd Wilkinson was in charge. Mrs. Dean Baer and Mrs. Frank Cannady won prizes in games. Mrs. Kraft gave two vocal numbers and played her own guitar accompaniment. The offering was $1.86. The hostess had made favors suggestive of spring for the refreshment trays. Mrs. Kenneth Gentry and daughter were guests. The Herald pays $5 every week for the best news tip turned in by a reader. However, we burn a 24 hour vaporizer in our home — yep, the kind a child uses when he has the croup — during all of the cold months when the heat is on. Another thing. . . on the days when it rains, raise some of your windows a bit and let the moisture come into your home. Especially when it is foggy outside. Fog is wonderful. Full of moisture! There are also a lot of static electricity products on the mar ket. The National Institute of Rug Cleaning says "that any chemicals you might apply directly on your rug could cause more rapid resoiling. If you can just raise the humidity in your home you are far better off." But the funniest thing of all is, have you ever noticed that when you walked around the house barefoot, stocking footed, or in knitted - type booties that you never get static electricity? Or a shock? Here's a way to test it in your home: Walk across your carpeted room or down a hall. . . dragging your feet, then just touch a metal object! Do this while barefooted and then try it with your shoes on which have a leather sole. One will knock you for a flip! Guess which? Then tell me Why! Heloise Dear Heloise: I use a wet sponge when ironing. When I get a wrinkle in a garment where I "don't want one". . . I simply dampen my sponge, squeeze it out and wipe across the garment. Saves not only temper, it is wonderful. Cuttie Udvardy Dear Heloise: Those nicotine stains on fingers will leave if one will apply some cuticle remover! This also takes care of other stains too. M.C. Dear Heloise: When I buy salad greens, I wash them and then separate them into the divided amounts I ordinarily use to make our daily salads. I then put each portion into a plastic bag and refrigerate them. These individual portions are always crisp and ready to use and one does not have any greens left to be put back in the refrigerator. Saves time. Lynn C. Senior Club Has Guests Guests present with the 26 members at the meeting yesterday of Senior Club No. 1 were Mr. and Mrs. Earl Bellman, College Park, Md., and William Kerr, Mountain View, Calif. Mrs. Bellman played the accompaniment for singing after the opening song, pledge of allegiance and Lord's prayer. She is the daughter of Mrs. R. C. Marcell whose birthday was observed. A letter of thanks was read from Ransom Memorial Hospital for flower vases, scrap books and stuffed animals provided by the club. Entertainment included humorous readings and news clippings by members. Following the serving of refreshments by Mrs. Graham and Mrs. Flora Sherman there were table games and visiting. Socialettes Mr. and Mrs. Don Reimer, Lawrence, are parents of a son born Friday night at Lawrence Memorial Hospital. He weighed 7 lb., 2% oz. Mrs. Reimer is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs, Harry Brown, 1450 S. Cedar. Entertains Music Club Barbara Warner entertained the Musical Minors Club Friday evening at the home of her parents, Mr. and Mrs. Raymond Warner, Juanita Gish and Laurie Wallace gave memory recitals am received awards from Mrs. M A. Welty, club sponsor. Other members and Janet War ner, a guest, played piano solos. The game of maestro was played. Refreshments were served by Mrs. Warner, Janet and Barbara to 22 members and guests. Club Forecast Sunday COLD STAR MOTHERS, Installation Monday MPM Club MOTHERS Club, Mrs. P. K. Worley CWBC, Mrs. Walter Randal RNF Club. Mrs. Henry Lilly Tuesday LEGION AUXILIARY sewing session Mrs. James Durbin, 1246 S. Main CHAPTER AU, PEO, Mrs. H. J. Lamb COWORKERS SHUT-IN Circle, Mrs. Fred Puvogel PAST COMMANDERS Club Wedneiday CHILD STUDY, Mrs. Lelan Davis OMICRON CHAPTER, Mrs. Gerald Garrett TOT-TO-TEEN, Mrs. H. M. Drake, Jr SKILTON MUSIC CLUB, Youth program, First United Presbyterian Church LAFALOT Club, Mrs. B. L. Stratton REBEKAHS Thursday BETA SIGMA PHI, 3-Chapter Founders Day Dinner KIWANIS-KIWANIQUEEN shrimp supper, Mears Park SOROPTIMISTS, Mrs. Harold J. Lamb ELM GROVE CLUB, Mrs. Edna Justice FIRST METHODIST Circles, Sarah, Mrs Bruce Wren; Elizabeth, Mrs. Jay Todd SUSANNA WESLEY Circle of Trinity, Mrs. Doyle Taylor RICHTER WSCS. Mrs. J. C. Wright, 600 S. Main VFW AUXILIARY, installation Friday t>E MOLAY MOTHERS, visit of grand officers PEORIA-COLE community SENIOR CLUB, Youth Center Club Plans Field Trip During a business session con ducted by Mrs. Sam Shumate Thursday, FLA Club made plans for a field trip to University of Kansas. The group will have luncheon in the Commons and visit musems and other places of interest. Mrs. Jim Berry was hostess and served a dessert course at the beginning of the meeting. She had arranged games of Personal Impressions and provided personal gifts for the guests. Receiving secret sister gifts were Mrs. Morris Ferguson, Mrs. lone Dragoo, Mrs. Harry Holmes and Mrs. H. A. Ward. Mrs. Fred McFarland was a guest THE OTTAWA HERALD Saturday, April 20, 1963 Her Food Meets Taste Test There's no better way to learn what foods people like and how to prepare and serve the foods efficiently than in managing a tea room. That is one reason why friends of Mrs. Bernhard Fleming, Wellsville, say of her, 'Tt seems so easy for her." Mrs. Fleming had her own tea room in Wichita 10 years, then was assistant manager of Innes Tea Room, Wichita, and manager at another time of Wiley Tea Room, Wichita. "When I entertain, I do all T can ahead of time," Mrs. Fleming says. "If everything is all lined out it makes it easy at the last minute. Especially in catering a big wedding everything must move according to schedule." The recipe for Spanish Rice :ame from the Green Parrot, Kansas City, where it was very popular with diners. It is classed as 'unusual." Spanish Rice 1 tbsp. bacon fryings 1 c. uncooked rice 6 strips bacon, cut in pieces not too fine Vi c. onions, cut in strips 1 c. celery cut in 1 A inch pieces 1 pt. tomatoes salt pepper 1 tsp. sugar Vi tsp. chili powder, if desired Heat heavy kettle very hot; add raw rice and bacon pieces with the fryings and brown rice to a nice brown, but do not burn. Add onions, celery, green 'peppers and seasoning. Cover with water and let simmer until rice is tender. Stir only occasionally, using a fork so as not to mash up the vegetables. Add tomatoes and cook slowly for 5 minutes longer. Mrs. Fleming received the recipe for Hot Spiced Tongue from the woman who built her first tea room. Hot Spiced Tongue Parboil a tongue in salt water for one hour. Drain off water and peel the tongue. Add some whole spices, a carrot cut in pieces, one onion, 2 tbsp. vinegar; cover with water and cook until tender. Remove tongue and make a sauce by thickening the broth with about a dozen or so gingersnaps rolled fine. Add % c. white or dark raisins and cook until thick. Slice tongue and put into the sauce. Serve with drop dumplings and spinach (on the side). A most unusual dish popular with tea room patrons is the next recipe. If you can't associate the name of "custard" with chicken, then call it Scalloped Chicken but it bears no resemblance to most scalloped chicken recipes. Chicken Custard Cook one large fat hen until well done and dice. For sauce take the liquid from the chicken and remove the fat. To % pini fat (add butter if needed to make the amount) add 6 well beaten egg yolks, % pint (Ic.) flour, milk to make % gal. Cook in double boiler till thick and Club Marks Birthday Assisting in serving the Fair mount Birthday Club basket dinner at Mrs. Larry Dunn's home yesterday were Mrs. Alberta DeShazer, Mrs. Irl Staley and Mrs. Ralph Overstreet. Birthdays of Mrs. Edward Ferguson and Mrs Dolly Davis were celebrated. Work was done on a quilt and Mrs. Russell Wray was presented a quilt by the club. Mrs. Clyde Newby conducted the business and Mrs. Frederick Ferguson was in charge of entertainment. Mrs. J. 0. Taylor, Richard Carey and Brad Ferguson were visitors. Shower For Baby Boy A recent shower was given for Russell Allen Montague, baby son of Mr. and Mrs. Max Montague, 1137 N. Sycamore, with 26 guests invited. Mrs. Carroll Whiteford was hostess assisted by Mrs. Floyd Thompson, Mrs. Mike Newmaster, Mrs. Fred Heathman and Mrs. Charles Talbott. A building blocks theme was carried out in table decorations, nut cups and refreshments. BLUE GRASS SOD FOR SALE FREE ESTIMATES Ph. Lawrence, Kansas VI 2-1282; VI 3-8235 POPULAR FOODS — Mrs. Bernhard Fleming, Wellsville, displays foods which have proved popular with many people, both in tea rooms and in her home. Beside the colorful jello salad is the mold in which it was made. Recipes for the Sour Cream Date Pie and the chicken casserole are given below. (Herald Photo by Lois Smith) cool. Butter a long baking pan, put in one layer of cooked sauce, layer of bread crumbs, layer of chicken and layer of plain chicken broth. Build up layers with crumbs on top. Bake in moderate oven till brown, basting with milk if necessary. The following shortcake recipe served in the tea rooms is good warm or cold and keeps over quite well as well as being delicious. What more could one ask. Use it for fresh peaches as well as for strawberries. Strawberry Shortcake l /2 c. butter or margarine 1 c. sugar 3 c. flour Mix as for pie dough. Hold back Yi c. of mixture. To the balance add: 2 tsp. baking powder 1 c. milk 1 egg, well beaten Spread out in 9-inch square pan and cover with the dry mixture saved out. Bake at 375 degrees. Foods for a buffet meal should look especially attractive as well as taste good. The Cranberry Mold given below rates tops on both counts. You'll need a 6-cup mold. Cranberry Mold For Buffet Mix 2 pkg. strawberry jello with 3 c. boiling water and stir until dissolved. Cool. Add to the cool jello: 1. c. cranberries, ground 1 c. apples, ground 1 c. oranges, ground 1 c. crushed pineapple Pour mixture into mold. Chill. Turn mold out on cake stand and garnish with frosted fruit. Sewing Machine Service 23 yrs. Experience SEWING cmci.t Albright's Yes, while you wait we can get your shoes back in first class condition and on your feet when the need arises. CITY SHOE SHOP 122 S. Main Mrs. Fleming found the following recipe popular with patrons at the tea room in Hutchinson. It was served on a certain day of the week. One couple always came from a distance to order a serving and to take one home. Sour Cream Date Pie 1 c. sugar 1 rounded tbsp. flour 2 eggs 1V 2 c. sour cream 1 c. chopped dates Mix all ingredients together, pour into an unbaked pie shell and cover with lattice top. Bake as a custard pie .at 325 degrees. This makes one ordinary size pie. For two real thick pies, triple the recipe. Baking bread at home is as easy as can be if you use the following recipe. (We've used the recipe three times already.) The flavor is super. Swedish Rye Bread 2 pkg. dry yeast dissolved in Vs c. warm (not hot) water Vt c. brown sugar (dark) V4 c. molasses 2 tbsp. shortening 1 tsp. salt Vz tsp. cloves 2 c. scalded milk 3'/2 c.sifted white flour 3 l /2 c. sifted rye flour 1 tbsp. melted shortening. Dissolve yeast in water. Combine sugar, molasses, the shortening, salt and cloves. Add scalded milk and stir until shortening is melted. Cool to lukewarm. Add dissolved yeast, mix well. Stir white and rye flour and add to milk mixture gradually, beating after each addition. Knead dough on floured surface, adding only enough flour to knead easily. (The dough should be slightly sticky, brush with melted shortening. Cover with damp cloth and then dry cloth. Let rise in warm place until double in bulk, about 1 hour. Divide dough in half, after it has been kneaded down, and shape into two loaves. Or divide into four parts and roll into four long loaves and bake on cookie sheet If loaf pans are used, grease well. Cover as before and let rise in warm place until double in bulk, about 45 minutes. Bake at 35 degrees for 40 to 45 minutes for loaf pans, and 30 to 35 minutes for long loaves. Remove from oven and brush with melted butter. Shower Honors A Bride-To-Be GREELEY - Carol Cade was guest of honor at a shower given her for her new home. Carol is being married in June. The hostesses were Mrs. L. C Haughn, Mrs. Paul Sims, Mrs. Harold Bryan, Mrs. George Lewis and Mrs. John Casten. Decorations were in orchid and white. Carol was assisted at the guest lable by Miss Sandra Haughn and Miss Carol Stultz.
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