The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas on October 13, 1996 · Page 13
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The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas · Page 13

Salina, Kansas
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Sunday, October 13, 1996
Page 13
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SUNDAY OCTOBER 13, 1996 THE SALINA JOURNAL Life WEDDINGS / B2 VOLUNTEER OPPORTUNITIES / B6 CROSSWORD / B8 B Welco meh Creative ideas room by room The charms ofpainted furniture By CHRIS CASSON MADDEN Scrtpps Howard News Service Pi Carpets more durable deep green wainscoting in this bedroom Sctlpps Howard Ne«s ,,„„, taking center stage in this <M»«- |ainted furniture is found in every culture, in every style, in every country around the world. From the detailed geometric patterned tables of Northern Africa, to the charming folksy chests of Scandinavia, to the stylized and intricate chairs created in the Orient, painted furniture plays a major role in interior decoration. It has numerous attributes: • Easy to repaint to coordinate with a new color scheme. • Small nicks, scratches and variations in color enhance the charm and personality of a piece. • Coordinates beautifully with stained and naturally toned woods. However, before you paint or refinish any piece of furniture, check to make certain that you are not painting an original, signed 18th century Chippendale chair. Refinishing and repainting significantly reduces the value of any antique. Also, if you do not know how to repaint or refinish your piece — leave it to an expert. A badly painted item will look dreadful no matter where it is placed in your home. If you do decide to tackle painting your own furniture, check the directions on the materials you purchase before you start. Also, be certain to thoroughly clean and prepare whatever piece you are going to paint or refinish. By BARBARA MAYER The Associated Press '- arpeting and family pets don't have to be mutually exclusive. For starters, ~ • . ' • there are plush carpets with stain-release finishes. And then there are well-behaved dogs. , For the rest of us, there are commercial Carpets that are quite practical — and attractive enough for the home. Kathryn Wise of the Carpet and Rug Institute in Dalton, Ga., recalled a woman who ^wanted bedroom carpeting even though her dog loved to scratch on soft fibers and tended to leave oily stains on his favorite napping 'place. "' She matched a commercial-grade carpet to Jthe rusty color of the dog's coat. "It worked out fine," Wise said. " So-called industrial carpet might once i.'have been considered too hard-edged, too ^professional, for a home. Today there's a .blurring of lines between the office and home — in where we work and how we dress. See CARPET, Page B8 Fireplace design warms home By CHRIS CASSON MADDEN Scripps Howard News Service The Associated Press A lively and complex pattern, such as this traditional Scottish plaid carpet, can both mask the effects of heavy use and offer an attractive casual feel. serve as a focal point in a |"! room. Not only do they provide a JL" source of heat and warmth in the colder months, but their architecture and design elements create a statement that can influence the decoration of an entire room regardless of season. Many times people alter the elements around their fireplaces as their taste or current decorating trends change. If your look is cutting-edge contemporary and you cannot afford to change the Rococo marble overmantel, you can visually downplay this element and your • room will look more balanced _ and better suited to your taste. °Qt <_ By simply covering the over- *"o/» ^ - ye// ~>i 9stt —'HD SA , mantel with a wooden frame h * tie* *t>9lnt ^tfa * a covered with a large mirror, or a piece ^ fijee o I °H Ife ^ s /b of artwork, the fireplace will not detract from o ^9/f /" a W the rest of the room. ''/Os. Many times, larger homes have been subdivided into smaller apartments or condominiums. The result is that you usually wind up with a half-sized living room boasting a full-sized fireplace. By selecting a simple, neutral color and painting the entire room in the same tone, the fireplace will seem to recede into the rest of the space. Another visual trick is to strategically place an oversized mirror in the space opposite a window or a doorway. During warm months when the fireplace is not in use, place a large plant, floral arrangement, collection of votive candles, or a decorative basket of pine cones in front of it. :>A/ ( / n /w TIN REAL LIFE At age 56, she's unhappy with her husband; should she leave? DORIS WILD HELMERING St. Louis Post-Dispatch A woman, age 56, came to see me for therapy because she's very unhappy. She wanted to know if she should leave her marriage. Her friends keep encouraging her to leave. She's not so sure. Among her complaints: Her husband takes her for granted and he's no fun. "What does that mean?" I asked. "He expects me to clean the house, pick up his clothes, make dinner and grocery shop," she answered. "I work four days a week, and I'm tired. He thinks because he vacuums and dusts that I should be happy. I'm happy about that, but be forgets about the other things that have to be done. "At night he sits and watches television. I pay the bills, do laundry, and one night a week I go to my daughter's house to watch our grandbaby. After the baby goes to bed, I try to help straighten her house and do a few loads of laundry. He could help, too, if he would come along. I think he's selfish. I never see him go out of his way for other people, not even his children. "On the weekends it's a tussle to get him to do anything. I like to go to the movies. He says, Let's rent a movie.' I want to go to a craft fair. He says, "I have enough junk.' I want to invite people over to the house. He says, 'It's too much.trouble.' it is a lot of trouble, but it's fun, too. I tell him that by the time he dies, he won't know anyone to come to his funeral." This woman also complains that her husband does not support her personally. For instance, when a good friend died, she did a lot of crying the first week after her death. "When my husband saw me crying one morning, he said, 'We all have to die sometime.' This is support?" "Howte your sex life?" I asked. "We rarely have'sex anymore," she said. "I don't find him appealing, and he hardly ever approaches me. When he does, we do it, but it's not satisfying." Again she asked, "Do you think I should leave?" I said I couldn't make that decision, but I could help her evaluate the situation. During the rest of the session we went over her finances. We figured out approximately what money she would have right away if she got a divorce and when she retired. We talked about how her life would be different. Would she want to stay in the house? Based on her finances it would be difficult. She said she'd just as soon move. Where would she want to live? Would she consider a condo or would she want to rent? A condo payment wouldn't be much less than her house payment after adding on condo fees. Another consideration: What part bf his family would she lose? What friends might side with her husband? How did she envision her life after divorce? It's more difficult for women than men in her age group to find a mate. Not impossible, but more difficult. And how would she handle it when her husband found someone else? Often a husband of many years will watch television night after night, but when his wife divorces him, he's out dancing and biking. Other concerns: Who would she have to help her if she became ill? How would family holidays be handled? What support could she expect from her children? Would they view her as the persecutor for leaving their dad and see him as the victim who needed to be taken care of? We concluded with the agreement that she would think about these issues. Helmering is a psychotherapist in private practice in St. Louis.. SUGGESTIONS? CALL SHBRIPA WARNER, LIFE EDITOR, AT (913) 923-6363 OR 1-800-827-6363

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