The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas on January 19, 1986 · Page 23
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The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas · Page 23

Salina, Kansas
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Sunday, January 19, 1986
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Engagements The Salina Journal Sunday, January 19,1986 Page 23 DonattaBackhus Scott McClain TerriBerneklng Robert Ross Kaylene Carlson Ronald Mueller Susie Campbell Mark Will JoleneKlnser Patrick Girard LynneRostocil Kevin Attleson KimberlyDumler Michael Klotzbach Kristine Bergstrom Kurt Stanley Backhus-McClain IHERENGTON — Victor W. Backhus announces the engagement of his daughter, Donatta Gay, to Scott Eugene McClain, son of Mr. and Mrs. James E. McClain of Bennington. The bride-elect, also the daughter of the late Loretta Backhus, graduated from Herington High School and Brown Mackie College, Salina. She works at Insurers and Investors Inc., Salina. Her fiance graduated from Bennington High School and Kansas Wesleyan University, Salina. He is a sales representative for Frito-Lay. An April 12 wedding is planned at the Trinity Lutheran Church, Salina. Berneking-Ross FORMOSO - Mr. and Mrs. G.W. Berneking, Rt. 1, announce the engagement of their daughter, Terri Lee, to Robert Vernon Ross, son of Mr. and Mrs. Vemon Ross of Rt. 1, Salina. The bride-elect, a graduate of Mankato High School and Marymount College, Sauna, is a registered nurse at Asbury Hospital, Salina. Her fiance graduated from Salina Central High School and Kansas State University. He is an estimator for Holgerson and Co. General Contractors, Salina. A May 3 wedding is planned at the Formoso Community Church. Carlson-Mueller Mr. and Mrs. Clifford Carlson of 314 Hartland announce the engagement of their daughter, Kaylene Rae, to Ronald Gene Mueller, son of Maxine Mueller of Rt. 2, Tampa. The bride-elect, a graduate of South High School and Bethany College, Ldndsborg, is a second grade teacher in Holton. Her fiance graduated from Centre High School, Lost Springs, and the North Central Area Vocational Technical School, Beloit, in production agriculture. He is a self- employed farmer. A July 12 wedding is planned at the Immanuel Lutheran Church. Campbell-Will BEVERLY — Tita Campbell announces the engagement of her daughter, Susie, to Mark Will, son of Mr. and Mrs. Charles Will of Herington. The bride-elect, also the daughter of H.D. Campbell of Beverly, is a graduate of Lincoln High School and Bethany College, Lindsborg. She teaches music at Centre Elementary School, Lost Springs. Will graduated from Herington High School and is a May candidate for graduation from the Kansas Technical Institute in computer engineering technology. He is employed by Radio Shack and owns Mark's Clock Repair, both in Herington. St. John's Lutheran Church, rural Herington, will be the site of their June 21 wedding. Kinser-Girard CONCORDIA - Mr. and Mrs. Jerry J. Kinser announce the engagement of their daughter, Jolene Marie, to Patrick F. Girard, son of Mr. and Mrs. Bernard Girard of rural Clyde. The bride-elect graduated from Concordia High School and attended Cloud County Community College, Concordia. She majors in secondary education at Kansas State University. Her fiance, a graduate of Clifton- Clyde High School, also attended Cloud County and studies architecture at K-State. An Aug. 9 wedding is planned at the First Christian Church. Rostocil-Attleson HAYS — Marilyn Howerton and Robert Rostocil of Zurich announce the engagement of their daughter, Lynne Marie, to Kevin James Attleson, son of Mr. and Mrs. James R. Attleson of Lindsborg. The bride-elect graduated from Plainville High School and Brown Mackie College, Sauna. She works for HMO Kansas, Salina. Her fiance, a graduate of Lindsborg High School and Bethany College, Lindsborg, works for the Accounts Receivable Service, Salina. An April 12 wedding is planned at the Bethany Lutheran Church, Lindsborg. Dumler-Klotzbach Mr. and Mrs. J.R. Dumler of 2063 Marc announce the engagement of their daughter, Kimberly Dawn, to Michael James Klotzbach, son of Mr. and Mrs. Marion J. Klotzbach of 2080 Wesley. The bride-elect graduated from South High School and studies medical secretary coursework at Butler County Community College. She works as a secretary for BCCC. Her fiance, also a South High graduate, attends BCCC majoring in physical education. He also works for the college. A wedding at the St. Mary, Queen of the Universe Catholic Church is planned although no date has been set. Bergstrom-Stanley GREEN — Mr. and Mrs. Erie Bergstrom announce the engagement of their daughter, Kristine Kae, to Kurt James Stanley, son of Mr. and Mrs. James Stanley of Wichita. The bride-elect graduated from Blue Valley High School, Randolph, and majors in travel/tourism at Cloud County Community College, Concordia. Her fiance, a graduate of Wichita Northwest High School, received an associate's degree at CCCC. He majors in physical education/sports business at Wichita State University and works for the Wichita Recreation Department. An Aug. 9 wedding is planned at the Ascension Lutheran Church, Wichita. Carrico-Kogler BELOIT — Richard and Maxine Carrico, Rt. 4, announce the approaching marriage of their daughter, Linda Rene, to Duane Allen Kogler, son of Stanley and Joan KoglerofRt.3,Salina. The bride-elect graduated from Beloit High School and Kansas State University. She attends college in Austin, Texas. Her fiance, a graduate of Southeast of Saline High School, Gypsum, Hutchinson Junior College and K-State with a degree in industrial engineering, is a line supervisor for Motorola of Austin. A Feb. 1 wedding is planned at St. John's Catholic Church, Beloit. Given name fails to fit bearer's self-image CIRREM BRIDAL REGISTRY * Lori Cockroft & George McCormick * Dana Labbe & Scott Cebhart * Janet Vogelsberg & Robert Adrian * Konnie Davis & Kent Smith You'll Always Feel At Home At... The Koch's House Broadway & State St. Bob & Sharon Koch, Owners By The New York Times NEW YORK — When Sonny Sloan named one of her daughters Gillis some 20-odd years ago — before the name became fashionable — she provoked an unexpected reaction. "My mother had the nerve to telephone and ask me how I had chosen such an odd name," Sloan recalled. "Not only that, she told me that I still had time to change it legally." At first, Sloan couldn't believe . what she was hearing. She was speechless with amazement. This reaction was occasioned because her own name, given her by the very same mother who was now registering serious doubts about Gillis, is Irvil. Not only that, but the name wasn't even a family hand-me-down; her mother had made it up. "I hate Irvil," said Sloan, who is an active worker for the Citizens Committee for Children and the New York Public Library. "I suffered with it all the way through school until I got to college. Then a friend took the 'son' out of Lawson, my maiden name, and I became 'Sonny.' My husband says that eventually, when I become a grandmother, I can't be called 'Sonny,' but I'll never go back to Irvil—never." Sloan's reaction to her name is not unique. A great many men and women are not fond of, actively dislike or even hate their given names. Sometimes it's because, like Irvil, the name is unusual and the subject of teasing when they are young. Occasionally it's because it's difficult to pronounce and has to be spelled out, repeated or explained. But most of- ten the disliked name is simple and not uncommon: it just doesn't fit the self-image of the bearer. The 18-year-old Kenyon College freshman who is known to her friends as Jean Kindred actually has a Marjorie in front of that Jean. It's never used because, in Kindred's view, "Margaret would have been all right but Marjorie is too prissy for me; Jean is nice and short and to the point." Her sister doesn't consider short and to the point any criterion. Her name is Lucy and she always wanted to be called something else. "I don't like the sound of Lucy," shesaid. "It's too sing-songy." In addition, said the older Kindred, a 23-year-old teaching fellow at a private school in New York, it sounded "sort of 19th century" and didn't have any elegance. "If I knew a girl named Lucy, I don't think I'd like her," she said. The designer Pauline Trigere doesn't like her name and never has, but the fact of the matter is that, despite her discontent, she can't think of any name she'd like better. "I never thought Pauline was feminine enough," she said. "But I never came up with another first name that would do." What she does like, she said, is being called "Trigere." "People very often call me that and I think it sounds fine," she said. "As for the men in my life, they seldom call me Pauline unless they're mad at me; they call me chou-chou or cherie." Stanley Tucker, the tall, solid- looking executive vice president of Geoffrey Beene Inc., said he definitely didn't see himself as a Stanley. It was, to his mind, a name that wavered among impish, little boy and professorial, none of which he associated with himself. "Stanley doesn't go with the way I look," he said. "I always visualize a Stanley as wearing small round- rimmed glasses and being very studious and professorial-looking, and' I'm definitely not a person like that." Like Trigere, Tucker prefers his surname but, he said, if he had a choice, he'd really prefer something like his mother's maiden name, which was Stewart. "It's a family name that goes back generations," he said. "To me it denotes longevity and solidity, and it has an aristocratic touch." Talk to Herbert Rickman about his name, and a look of pain crosses his face. "Herbert, it's a terrible name and Herbie is even worse," he said. "I always preferred my middle name, Peter, and for a good part of my adulthood, that's what I was called." But there were too many people who knew him as Herbert, Herb or Herbie, and when Edward I. Koch was elected mayor of New York and Rickman was named his special assistant, he went back to his original name to avoid confusion. "But I still hate Herbert," he said. Dr. Shirley Stone, a pediatrician, was brought up in the Shirley Temple' era but was quite definitely not a Shirley Temple type'. According to Dr. Stone, this was bad enough, but then a zinger came along, a book called "Marjorie Morningstar." Dr. Stone doesn't remember the details of that best seller of yesteryear, but she does remember that there was a character named Shirley in it who was, to say the least, not admirable. "All in all, between Shirley Temple and the Shirley in 'Marjorie Morningstar,' I was done in," she said. "I never liked my name and that put the finishing touches on it." There was one other small point, she said. Her name and her image of herself were poles apart. "I see myself with a crisp, short, definite little name," she said. Such as what? "Such as Sam or Chris," she said. Her husband and fellow pediatrician, Dr. Sidney Cohlan, was another of many who wasn't thrilled with the sound of his name. He also still objected to the fact he had had no voice in selecting it. A professor of pediatrics at New York University. Dr. Cohlan considered Robert or Richard would be more his speed. "They have more solidity to them, he said. "Sidney is a nebbish sort of name." When Bayla Bell Piagentini was growing up, part of a Russian Jewish family in a WASP neighborhood, she called herself Sara Hawkins because she couldn't cope with her unique name. "I lived among Janes and Sallys and the kind of personality I am, it's not good to be unique," she said. "I just hated to be different." 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