The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas on January 12, 1986 · Page 14
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The Salina Journal from Salina, Kansas · Page 14

Salina, Kansas
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Sunday, January 12, 1986
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The Salina Journal Sunday. January 12.1986 Page 24 Honest herpes victim also lonely Dear Ann Landers: I just read in your column some more "good news" for people with genital herpes. Now we can be sued if we give it to someone. Wonderful! It has been three years since I contracted the virus. I have had to adjust to the problem, manage as a single parent and make a success of my life as a career woman. I have also had to listen to a lot of crummy herpes jokes from people who don't know I have it. If one more idiot makes a crack about "the gift that keeps giving," I may throw up. Because I wanted to be honest, I told two men who loved me enough to talk about marriage that I have a manageable case of herpes. Both exited discreetly from my life with the lamest excuses you can imagine. I am now engaged to a wonderful man and you can be sure I have no intention of telling him. (Lucky for me my outbreaks are not severe, and Ann Landers NEWS AMERICA they occur only once every seven or eight months.) I've asked myself what I would do if the roles were reversed and the answer is, "I'd go on loving him." If he gave me herpes, I would not love him less than if he gave me chicken pox. I don't promise to take your advice, but would you tell him if you were in my place? —Twice Ditched in B.C. Dear D.C.: I would tell him the truth, with a physician present. He would be much less upset when a doctor explained that abstaining from sex during an outbreak allows for an almost normal life with virtually no chance for infection. If you say nothing and he finds out later that you kept it from him, he might never forgive you. Dear Ann Landers: I received a phone call from our church pastor. He was to preside at a wedding that evening and had just been notified by the bride that her organist canceled. He asked me to fill in and said he explained to the bride an honorarium would be expected. (I had never met the woman or her family.) My husband and I canceled our plans for the day. The pastor ran the music by our house and I spent an hour working on it. That evening I went early to the church. My husband stayed home to watch our small children. The church was packed. I didn't have but a few minutes to work on one number she wanted played on an electric keyboard. I went looking for the bride, and we worked out the music while she put on her veil and retouched her makeup. I didn't know a single person in the church with the exception of the pastor. If I say so myself, the music was beautiful. The problem: To date I have not received one word of thanks, much less financial compensation, for my efforts. I want to send the bride a bill. What do you think? — Mad in Delaware Dear Mad: Because the pastor assured you you would be paid for your services, he should send her a bill. Confidential to Can't Figure It Out in Conn.: Punkers who wear orange and purple Mohawks and safety pins through their noses are saying, "Look at me. I despise conventional values. I hope my looks shock you. I'm doing my own thing and if you don't like it you can lump it." Cleaning vinyl furniture with oil a mistake Dear Heloise: Do you have any hint on how to take care of vinyl furniture? I have an old vinyl couch that has to be cleaned and I've heard of so many ways, but I'm afraid of ruining it. — Camille Romito Yes, there is a way. Some people think oil is good, but it really isn't. Oil will make the vinyl hard. If this happens it is almost impossible to soften again. The proper way to clean vinyl is to sprinkle a little soda or vinegar on a damp rough cloth and wipe down the entire couch, then wash it with a mild dishwashing liquid and rinse thoroughly. Vinyl furniture must be cleaned occasionally because body oil tends to cause the vinyl to get hard and crack. —Heloise Dear Heloise: Is someone in your family extra tall, 6 feet or more? To keep from having the sheets and Heloise's hints KING FEATURES blankets all messed up on the bed every morning, here's an idea I think many people can use. I had a couple of pillowcases I never, used. I pinned them to the bottom of the sheet to make an extension. Just tuck that part under the mattress. It stays put all night and can be removed when washing. You could sew a piece of material to the bottom of the sheet, too. This can also be done with blan- kets.—C.A.T. Dear Heloise: How many times have you put something away in a "good" place, then when you needed it again, couldn't remember where that "good" place was? My mother does this constantly. What I do is write down the name of the item and the location of it on a 3x5 index card and put it in my file box in the kitchen. That way when I need it, I simply pull the file card and I know where I put it. This is particularly helpful with seasonal items, as you only'need them a few weeks or months out of the year. — Elizabeth Crenshaw Lists are so helpful. I keep a list of "loaned" books and it does come in handy.—Heloise Dear Heloise: When I lived in an apartment it didn't have a large linen closet, so washday posed a problem. I found out if I folded the pillowcases in one of the matching sheets and washcloths in the matching towels, it saved space. It saved time, too, because I knew where the cases and cloths were and didn't mess up the closet looking for them. — Lynette Lee Dear Heloise: Do forks, spoons and spatulas get caught and bend as you open and close a drawer that has a silverware tray? There's an easy solution. Lay all of them upside down in the drawer, and they won't catch as you open and close the drawer. — Elizabeth A. Kutsche Dear Heloise: When I receive all the beautiful seed catalogs I save them for the flower pictures that appear in them. I love to embroider and find these pictures very helpful when I am trying to do the different flower colors correct. — Alley Marie Ratz (Write to Heloise in care of Hints from Heloise, King Features Syndicate, 235 E. 45th Street, New York, N.Y. 10017.) Closed Tomorrow & Tuesday — Open Wednesday, Jan. 15 racks now IN THE ELMORE CENTER Hours: Wed.-Sat. 10-5, Closed Sunda\ FURTHER REDUCTIONS 60-80% Off BROWISPS 112 N. Santa Fc Downtown In West Ltd'. Cross-country skiing provides great exercise Dear Dr. Donohue: As a regular reader of your sports medicine items, I am miffed somewhat by your ignoring cross-country skiing. It is a great sport, and it lets a family do something worthwhile together. Why don't you give it some space? — Mrs. E.C.N. I agree with you that cross-country skiing is a fine activity for the reasons you mention, and more. If I were to pick the exercise that is best all-around for training, I would choose it. You get the benefits of aerobic exercise because you are using all the body's large muscles for extended periods. You also get good upper-body strengthening along with a good leg workout. You don't get all that from running or pumping iron. Finally, for each minute of cross- country skiing you get more calorie utilization than in any other exercise. From your postmark I see you can avail yourself of this sport. Not everyone is so lucky. (Here's another letter on the subject.) Dear Dr. Donohue: My dad and I cross-country ski every weekend we can out at a golf course. It's lots of fun. My dad is "coach" of our two- man team. I don't like to question coach too much, but I wonder about his idea of carrying a big thermos of Doctor Donohue NEWS AMERICA tomato soup. It's cumbersome. Is it recommended to have hot soup with you?—A.B.G. It's a good idea. A warm drink helps keep the body's inner temperature up. It's especially valuable when you drink it during a break in skiing. You lose a lot of heat skiing and when you stop suddenly there can be quite a drop in body temperature. There's another good reason for the soup, hot or cold, or any liquid. You lose a lot of fluid from sweating and panting when skiing. That slows circulation, and as a result you can get cold faster. Keep well-hydrated and this shouldn't happen. Don't knock the coach. You didn't ask me (but others have) about the following: Is alcohol a good liquid for fluid replacement? No; alcohol dilates blood vessels and that make you lose excess body heat. In fact, heat-loss increases by 20 percent in those who drink alcohol while involved in exercise. Dear Dr. Donohue: Does it matter what time of day you exercise, jog for example? I feel best about 5 p.m. and that's when I run. — S.N. Ebb and flow of body function occurs throughout the day. Around noon there is a dip in alertness. That has nothing to do with eating or not eating. It just happens, and we aren't sure why. So noon is not the best time to schedule exercise. We are at our strongest at 2 p.m. and again at 6:30 p.m., so in theory, at least, we should try to exercise at those times. But please take all this with a grain of salt. The best time for exercise is when you feel most like doing it. And if schedules will not allow you any leeway, exercise when you can. Dear Dr. Donohue: I know I probably shouldn't care, but I am laughed at for my running style. It seems I lean forward to where, looking at me, you would say I was going to topple. I can't see myself, and I really don't care unless I am told it isn't helping me. I feel the forward lean gives me momentum. Right? — P.P. Wrong, P.P. You lose momentum. Besides looking somewhat odd, leaning forward while running places a strain on the lower back. It restricts the motion of your hips, and it exerts abnormal stress on your feet. You should run with good posture. Maintain an upright stance. Work on this. Dear Dr. Donohue: I read the item on nipple chafing from a runner's top. I was surprised you didn't mention the simplest technique of all — using Band-Aids over the nipples. — I.R. I probably should have. Dear Dr. Donohue: Does calcium in the diet help lower blood pressure? My doctor, who I asked about this, said it might. He said I should be getting more calcium to protect my bones as I get older, anyway. But will it help lower my blood pressure? — Mrs.O.C.H. I can't add to your doctor's reasoning. It is true a recent study did indicate calcium supplementation lowers blood pressure in some patients in whom it was tried. But it isn't being recommended for that purpose. If you aren't getting the calcium you need in your diet you could use supplements whether or not you happened to have high blood pressure. 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