Living Today Woman ponders future with diabetic The Salina Journal Thursday, January 2,1986 Page 6 Club calendar Dear Ann Landers: Several years ago, you printed a letter from a young woman who wanted to know if she should marry a diabetic with one leg. That letter didn't mean anything to me then but it does now. Will you please try to find it and run it again? I would be eternally grateful. — Uncertain in Mobile Dear Mobile: I remember it well and knew exactly where to look. I found the letter in the Ann Landers Encyclopedia. Here it is: Dear Ann Landers: I was the eldest girl and devoted my life to helping my widowed mother raise a big family. I'm 43 now and all the others are married but me. I work as a dietician in a hospital and have fallen in love. The man has been a patient here for several months. Vince is a diabetic who had a leg amputated. He is a retired farmer, fairly well- to-do, and has grown children. His wife died two years ago. He treats me like a queen.. Vince will be dis- Ann Landers NEWS AMERICA charged in May and wants me to marry him in June. A close friend of mine says I'd be crazy to marry a diabetic with one leg — that all he is looking for is a nurse. She has been divorced three times and says she knows men a lot better than I do (which is true). I need advice. — Love Him Dear Friend: Your signature says it all. Go ahead and marry Vince. It's that three-time loser with the big mouth who doesn't have a leg to stand on. Dear Ann Landers: I'm writing you because I'm hoping you'll take this issue as seriously as I do. Most people I talk to tell me I am over- reacting. An Escondido high school girl was excused from her English class because she refused to complete a "Worst Case Final Diaster" paper. The subject of the paper was as follows: Sixteen people were in a bomb shelter that could support only 10. Survival on the outside was impossible. The student had to choose which 10 people should be allowed to remain. Six people had to be turned out to certain death. The girl refused to complete the paper because it went against her religious principles to make the choices required. The problem I have with this is that it asks the student to make a basic assumption that some lives are more valuable than others. I object to a teacher who accepts the disposal of the "useless" as the only acceptable answer. P.S. My information comes from the Times Advocate in Escondido. — Jxx Dear Jxx: The question raised by the teacher involves both morality and ethics. When you say the student was "excused" I hope you didn't mean she was kicked out. It is unrealistic to assume all human beings are equally valuable. Decisions of the kind you describe must be made every day because of the shortage of kidneys and other organs for transplantation purposes. The selection of recipients is based on age, general condition and the person's potential contribution to society. I believe it is useful for high school students to think about these things. After all, life is a constant struggle to make the right choices. Young people should learn how to make informed, intelligent choices and the question put to them by the teacher provided an excellent opportunity to exercise judgment. (Write to Ann Landers in care of News America Syndicate, 1703 Kaiser Avenue, Irvine, Calif. 92714.) Friday Parents Without Partners Inc., 6:30 p.m. let's eat out; 7 p.m. adult planning meeting; 8 p.m. family planning meeting, Western Sizzlin Steak House. Church Women United, 9 a.m. general assembly, Episcopal Parish House, 138 S. Eighth. All church women invited. Reports and installation of officers. Miriam Rebekah Lodge 8, 8 p.m. meeting, IOOF Hall, 401E. Walnut. German-American Club, 8 p.m. meeting, First National Handi-Bank, Mid State Mall. Visitors welcome. TOPS Kan., 131: 9 a.m. weigh-in; 9:30 a.m. meeting, the United Methodist Church of the Cross, 1600 Rush. New members welcome. Friday Night Duplicate Bridge Club, 7.: 15 p.m. registration, Red Coach Inn-West. New Hope Al-Anon, 8 p.m. meet- ing, Sunrise Presbyterian Church, Roach and Beloit. For more information, call 827-4433. New Adventure Al-Anon, 8 p.m. meeting, white house behind Trade Winds Motel, 1700 N. Ninth. For more information, call 8274433. New Beginnings Alcoholics, 12:05 p.m. meeting, 205 E. South. North Enders Alcoholics Anonymous, 8 p.m. meeting, 1700% N. Ninth. Chapman Alcoholics Anonymous, 8 p.m. meeting, Catholic Parish Center, East Sixth Street, Chapman. Baby named A son, Brandon James, was born Dec. 10 to Gary and Brenda Dvorak of McPherson. The father is a former Salinan. Grandparents are Dr. and Mrs. Thomas Hanshew of Hays and Mr. and Mrs. S.C. Dvorak, 510 Morrison, Salina. Fine stemware sparkles with hand-washing BOUTIQUE Dear Heloise: What is the best way to wash and care for fine glassware and crystal? I am never sure whether I should wash it by hand or put it in the dishwasher. —Elaine Adams The Soap and Detergent Association suggests you keep fine glassware its sparkling best and, to avoid breakage, treat each piece to careful washing. Most glassware, including stemware, can be washed by hand or in a dishwasher. I prefer hand- washing for fine pieces. When machine washing, you need to carefully load the pieces on the top rack only. Do not let them touch each other. Be sure they will not topple over. Your delicate, antique items or those with hand-painted decorations should always be hand-washed. When washing by hand, use a plastic dishpan or line the sink with a rubber pad or terry towel. Wash in warm sudsy water. With stemware, cup the bowl in the palm of the hand with the stem through your fingers. Rinse, then drain on soft towel placed on the counter or drainboard. Shine Heloise's hints KING FEATURES the glasses by polishing them with a soft, lint-free cloth, holding the glass by the base rather than the stem. Store glassware with rims up and on shelves that are covered with a cushioned lining. — Heloise Dear Heloise: When I could no longer climb up to oil the squeaky doors at the top of my kitchen cabinets, I padded a yardstick with a cloth and added a lubricant to the cloth. With it, I greased the upper squeaky hinges. — Mae S. Dilcher Dear Heloise: For the many who have lost or misplaced a tie tack: Borrow one of your wife's or girlfriend's pierced earrings. — Frank D. This is a good way for women to recycle earrings that have lost their mates.—Heloise Dear Heloise: While taking down our Christmas tree, I thought of a good idea to save aggravation next Christmas. Several of the Christmas lights had burned out, and I had most every type replacement bulb but the size needed. I marked my December 1986 calendar with the code numbers and a number of replacement bulbs I will need next Christmas. I will be alerted to buy the bulbs early and have them on hand when the lights are strung on the tree. — Jan Kraiosky Dear Heloise: I have a lot of liquid fabric softener which I do not care for, preferring the toss-in sheets. I have heard there is a method of soaking toweling or something comparable in the liquid and using it in the dryer. Do you have a method for this?—A Reader Put a small amount (about % ounce) of the liquid into a pint of water. Dip an old bath cloth that has been cut into squares in the solution and squeeze it out. Put the cloth in the dryer and dry, then toss it into dryer loads. It works great for towels and sheets.—Heloise Dear Heloise: The ladies of our local church have a drive each year after Christmas and collect hundreds of cards from members of the congregation. The following year, the cards are cut, appropriately shaped with a pinking shears and used to make Christmas decorations. Three scenes or motifs are chosen and glued, spaced apart, onto a Christmas ribbon about 15 inches in length. A gold ring used for curtain hanging is glued at the top of the ribbon. Attached to a window latch or doorknob, these Christmas hangings make beautiful gifts for our area shut-ins. They are delivered along with a fruit basket and are most appreciated by the seniors. — O.F. illfflli ilium Father's family a factor in breast cancer Dear Dr. Donohue: I think you may say this is silly, but I wonder about heredity on my father's side making me more likely to get breast cancer myself. I'm not talking about him, although I know men can get breast cancer. I am talking about the fact his sister and his own mother had it. My mother is healthy and none of her family had it. Mother says she never heard of heredity from the man's side. I just thought I'd ask. — Mrs. W.I.L. An inherited tendency to breast cancer development can be passed on from the father's side of the family if it has occurred in female relatives. This seems to be more significant if those relatives had breast cancer at an early age and in both breasts. Your question, you see, is not at all silly. But you should not become obsessed with this thought. Inheritance is but one of many factors leading to breast cancer. It is one of those things to mention to your doctor, especially when he is checking you for breast lumps that seem suspicious. It helps him evaluate things. And this family tendency should be further motivation for you to take all the precautions and utilize all the inspection opportunities you have and which all women should taking advantage of anyway. Doctor Donohue NEWS AMERICA Dear Dr. Donohue: I have picked up a yeast infection (vaginal). It is Candida type. My doctor says it is not necessarily caused by sexual intercourse. I don't have to tell you I am not that kind of a girl. I am 62 and remain a widow lady of high morals. How can one get yeast infection without having sexual intercourse? -Mrs.M.S.F. The fact is most such yeast infections are not venereal in origin. Candida is often found as part of the microbial population of the normal membranes. It's overgrowth of the yeast that spells trouble. Here's how overgrowth can occur: Wearing tight-fitting undergarments, especially those of synthetic fiber, can set up the environment for vaginal yeast growth. Antibodies taken over a long period of time can kill off other organisms and leave space for unhealthy yeast overgrowth. Uncontrolled high blood sugar can lead to it. I have not the slightest doubt as to your high moral standards. Dear Dr. Donohue: Please explain the ESR test and why it is done for people with rheumatoid arthritis? — O.M. The initials are for erythrocyte sedimentation rate (ERS). To perform this test the doctor needs blood taken from the patient's veins and a calibrated, fluid-filled tube. When the blood is placed in this tube, the erythrocytes (red cells) and fluid parts of the blood separate — like cream from milk, if you will. Then the red cells begin to descend. The faster that descent the greater the inflammation in the body. Inflammation is the hallmark of rheumatoid arthritis activity. It's what causes the pain. When first treating a patient for arthritis, an initial ESR level can serve as a sort of baseline for further tests. And additional readings that show a lowering of the red blood cell descent rate may indicate success in controlling the joint inflammation. The test is also valuable as an indicator of illnesses other than rheumatoid arthritis. It is an inexpensive, revealing, and much used office procedure. But we still don't know just why the red blood cells act the way they do when there is inflammation in the body. 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